About Amy Expertise I know it can be hard to stay a virgin, especially when your boyfriend/girlfriend does want to have sex. You have to be strong, and decide for your self whats too much. I can give you emotional support, and help with any struggles you may have with staying a virgin! Remember having sex can be a risk, with getting pregnant, and catching an STD. Find the person that you're going to spend the rest of your life with, and marrying before sex is your best bet!
Experience I was tempted as a teenager to have sex starting from age 16. Sex isn't all boys want, but they do want it, it was a struggle I thought I could lose. I saw my best friend contract an uncurable STD(HIV) at age 18, and that just encouraged me not to have sex until I was ready, and married.
Education/Credentials Masters degree at Ga. Tech. Took human sexuality classes.
Past/Present Clients I have helped many teens with problems related to sex, and not having sex. I also am a expert in female masturbation.
Expert: Amy Date: 5/12/2008 Subject: concerned about doin it
Question ok so im 14 and so is my girlfriend and about 2 days ago me and my girlfriend were on the phone and she said that she wanted me to be her first and well it would be the first for both of us. At first i was pretty ecstatic about it y'know if be the first outta my friends to do it and everything, and i really love her a lot even though we've only been going out for 2 weeks. Then today i started to think about everything that could go wrong and well what if the condom breaks. i dont know what to do! As much as this may be an upside for our relationship and getting closer to one another, i dont want to have this decision turn out to be one that ruins the rest of my life and possibly hers. WHAT SHOULD I DO!!!
Answer Hi Ricky,
I know this is hard for you, especially when your gf is the one who wants to have sex with you. Yes it can be tempting, but as you said many things can go wrong!
Besides catching STD's, the possibility of her getting pregnant, and the condom breaking, ect...there is also a "emotional" side of sex. Both of you are very young, and you've only been dating for two weeks. That doesn't give you very much time to get to know her. While you may think you love her, give it some time. She probably won't still be with you by the time you graduate highschool, so do you really want to give yourself away so fast. Take some time to have fun with her, go on normal dates, and try just kissing, touching, ect. If you want to touch her (breasts, back, ect.) thats much better than going all the way! Honey, don't just do this for you, but for her. Although you may think that it's cool to be the first to have sex, what if she gets pregnant, or people call her names. Unfortunately people can be cruel!
Wait until your older (or even married) to have sex for your first time. Atleast wait until you can take responsibilities for your actions (like pregnancy).
I know you're very "horny" at this age...but theres a very safe way to get the pleasure that you need, try masturbating. It's completely normal!
You have to make the choice, but I'm just trying to help you make decisions to better your life!
