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Hi(:
I'm dating this guy,and he is so wonderful.i've never met anyone like him.i think i maybe falling for him.well me and have been talking about life.and he asked me if i was a virgin and i said yes.he said he wasn't and that he lost his virginity at a young age.whenever sex comes up he always says that he'll wait till I'm ready.i think am but yet i don't think i am.should i lose my virginity or should i wait?
Hi Stephanie,
Your situation sounds wonderful.
Yes, you should wait. You should always wait to have sex until you are in a life long committed relationship (marriage). My question is to you - why would you have sex with a boy friend? What are your intentions? Are you ready to get pregnant with no husband? Are you ready to catch a Sexually Transmitted Disease? Are you ready to deal with the emotional roller coaster of "Will he still love me tomorrow morning? Does he really love me or is he just using me for sex?" etc, etc.
You need to think about this very seriously. This will affect the rest of your life. The VAST majority of girls who lost their virginity to a "boy friend" whom they really thought they loved - just like you - later regretted what they did. In other words, they really wanted to have sex before, but then wished they hadn't after. Don't be the next one of those girls.
Hey, if he's so great, why not marry him?
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Joel Kimball
Expertise
I'm good at listening, even better at giving advice.
Virginity does matter! And no sex before marriage is possible, regardless of what your friends, family, or (worst of all) society tell you. It's a choice, like any thing else in life. Not an easy one, so that's why I'm here to help.
I'm happy to answer your questions:
- WHY you should stay a virgin until marriage
- HOW you can stay a virgin until marriage
- HOW to deal with boy or girl friends pushing you to engage in sex
- HOW to deal with friends who push you to engage in sex
- HOW to deal with a family who won't support you in your choice of abstinence
Experience
If you want to know about some thing, you ask an expert, right? If you're climbing a dangerous mountain, whom would you ask for help - another climber that's struggling up hill like you? Or the fella who's been to the top, and lived to tell about it?
I'd be the latter.
As to sex before marriage, "Been there, HAVEN'T done that".
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I have several years experience owning and managing two businesses - an Internet Access Provider (www.PalouseNet.com) and a Commercial Art Studio (www.KimballMedia.com). Every day I'm forced to make difficult decisions that will affect my life for years to come - just like the decision to not have sex before marriage will affect you.
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