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hi,
im a 17 year old girl nd i have a boyfriend, iv known him since yr 8 we've alwyas liked eachother and finally about 8 months ago we started going out. So we've been togther for 8 months now he is saying we should have sex because we've been togther for so long and we should do it, I suggested if he wanted to he could go with another girl i wouldnt mind but he refuses and says he only wants me . like i dont know i wouldnt mind loosing it to him i really like him but i dont know if his a virgin he says he is so i hope he is
iD just like to know if like you think he just wants me for sex? like in the past iv given him handjob, headjob thats about it but i dont know if i should do it with him because if his jst with me for that so hmm hope you can help me
trhankss
hi alex, i'm joel.
don't have sex with this guy. way too much stuff going on. for starters, why do you think he's lying to you when he tells you he's a virgin?
most likely he is using you. most guys under 30 view women as sex objects. he'll most likely take your virginity, then leave. happens all the time. and the girls usually regret it. don't be the next one that falls for it. be smarter than your body.
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Joel Kimball
Expertise
I'm good at listening, even better at giving advice.
Virginity does matter! And no sex before marriage is possible, regardless of what your friends, family, or (worst of all) society tell you. It's a choice, like any thing else in life. Not an easy one, so that's why I'm here to help.
I'm happy to answer your questions:
- WHY you should stay a virgin until marriage
- HOW you can stay a virgin until marriage
- HOW to deal with boy or girl friends pushing you to engage in sex
- HOW to deal with friends who push you to engage in sex
- HOW to deal with a family who won't support you in your choice of abstinence
Experience
If you want to know about some thing, you ask an expert, right? If you're climbing a dangerous mountain, whom would you ask for help - another climber that's struggling up hill like you? Or the fella who's been to the top, and lived to tell about it?
I'd be the latter.
As to sex before marriage, "Been there, HAVEN'T done that".
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I have several years experience owning and managing two businesses - an Internet Access Provider (www.PalouseNet.com) and a Commercial Art Studio (www.KimballMedia.com). Every day I'm forced to make difficult decisions that will affect my life for years to come - just like the decision to not have sex before marriage will affect you.
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