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QUESTION: Well what if I marry someone who doesn't want to have kids either?
ANSWER: That's fine, but is this going to be a sexless marriage? If not, then we're back to the old birth control question.
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QUESTION: Well if I didn't have sex with him then he would either cheat on me or want a divorce unless I married someone who didn't want sex either.But as I said,I was talking to my mmom yesterday and she also told me that any kind of birth control or condom is a sin.She also said that inside of a marriage,sex is a beautiful thing but for some reason when I just think of sex,I don't get the feeling of love or think that it's the most beautiful thing in the world.But on top of that,it's my reputation too,even inside of marriage,if I had sex,I would feel kind of,please excuse my language,whorish.Are there people who are married and don't have sex or kids?
I don't know any married couples who don't have sex, but plenty who don't have kids, because they use birth control. Not to say there isn't any, but I just can't see too many people getting married just for companionship and nothing else. Hence my suggestion you look in to polygamy, there is your best chance to get married and hold off on the sex.
Why would you feel whorish having sex? What is it that makes it so for you?
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Joel Kimball
Expertise
I'm good at listening, even better at giving advice.
Virginity does matter! And no sex before marriage is possible, regardless of what your friends, family, or (worst of all) society tell you. It's a choice, like any thing else in life. Not an easy one, so that's why I'm here to help.
I'm happy to answer your questions:
- WHY you should stay a virgin until marriage
- HOW you can stay a virgin until marriage
- HOW to deal with boy or girl friends pushing you to engage in sex
- HOW to deal with friends who push you to engage in sex
- HOW to deal with a family who won't support you in your choice of abstinence
Experience
If you want to know about some thing, you ask an expert, right? If you're climbing a dangerous mountain, whom would you ask for help - another climber that's struggling up hill like you? Or the fella who's been to the top, and lived to tell about it?
I'd be the latter.
As to sex before marriage, "Been there, HAVEN'T done that".
Organizations
Eagle Scout - Boy Scouts of America
Fire Fighter - Whitman County Fire District 1 - Washington State
Education/Credentials
I have several years experience owning and managing two businesses - an Internet Access Provider (www.PalouseNet.com) and a Commercial Art Studio (www.KimballMedia.com). Every day I'm forced to make difficult decisions that will affect my life for years to come - just like the decision to not have sex before marriage will affect you.
Past/Present Clients
See my web sites.
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