Staying a Virgin/Massage Parlour
I would like to ask if going to massage parlours and getting just a handjobs as a stress reliver would make me a very bad person? I don't have any girlfriend yet and the stress i have is almost killing me, espcially when there is so many people who blame and points the finger at me for the things i have not done. All i did was going to school, do my work and help out the others. i didn't knew helping people was wrong...people would only find me when they needed my help, after helping, they will gone again.. talking behind my back, critising the things i have done. it seems like everyone is crtitsing whatever i do, i alwalys thought by helping and being nice to people would make me many friend but it seems otherwise. i came across a massage parlour in a shopping centre a few weeks back while im shopping around. the shop was disguised as a facial shop. The lady inside was wearing quite sexily and keep on waving me to come in. after i went in she kept asking me is there any service that i would like.. until i get the grasp of her meaning and she would touch my private part and show me her breast and offer me her handjob serivce at 50 dollar. at that time i totally forgot any troubles i had in my mind. I almost taken up the offer but the sense of guilt is holding me back and i have been considering whether i should do it as 1) i will be able to forget all those trouble 2)I will be able to exprience something that is different, i know it's just a handjob but i just can't help but feel the sense of guilt towards my future girlfriend if i ever going to have one.
They don't have such massage parlors in the U.S. Massage therapists must have special certications from the State in which they practice, pass vigorous testing and are licensed to uphold strict guidelines. If they dishonor their profession, they will lose their license to practice. While it could be the same in Singapore, the client as well as the masseuse performing sexual acts could both be charged with immoral and illegal actions as prostitution is illegal in our Country.
We all have a free will about how we wish to behave....but you might want to look at the consequences of such actions you are considering to take.
You have no "love" connection with this person. "How will this make you feel"?
You are paying her to perform masturbation on you. "Is this how you want to spend your money"?
You are fearing the guilt already that you are almost certain will result. "Do you really think the outcome will be any any different from how you feel now?
You are "paying for an "unloving" and "guilt-expected" experience. "You need to ask yourself why would you do that"?
I have the feeling that your anxieties over your relationships are causing your sexual frustrations which really won't be fulfilled with unloving and impersonal sexual experiences and I would suggest that you instead spend your $50. in the following ways:
Try any of these in the following order....
Take a friend to lunch....talk to them about the problems you're having holding on to friendships and ask them for their honest and candid feedback.
Talk to a religious advisor who might help guide you towards assisting those in need who would appreciate your help and friendship....or be fed.... which could go much farther than the $50. contribution you were considering.
Talk to a family member (or teacher) if you have someone with whom you trust and might be able to confide in.
Call a hospital and ask for the name of a psychologist with whom you could gain some insight as to what might be causing your interpersonal problems.
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