Staying a Virgin/early sex

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hi i`m latonya and i feel like i`m ready for sex. i really love this boy in my class and he loves me too and i know you might not say i know what love is but i do i feel it anyways i wanna give it up to him i know it will hurt and all but i want him to have it i`m 14 years old :) please give me some advice thank you very much

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Hi Latonya!
You are going so fast!! There are many things to consider when you want to have sex besides you're "loving him."
What's the rush?
How old is Your boyfriend?
Have you talked to him, and he to you, about protection?  
Is this "his" first time having intercourse?
Have you connected the fact that having sex can result in your becoming pregnant if not taking protection and how you might handle that at 14?
Do you know whether your partner has ever been sexually active with anyone else and whether he might have contracted
a sexually transmitted diease, perhaps unknowingly?   Is he able to provide you kwith any proof from a dept of health that he has no sexually transmitted disease?  You have a lot more to think about my dear, instead of merely your emotions, and it might be wise for you to consider delaying this very big decision until you understand the consequences and the responsibilities that might follow which might very well be too much for a 14 year old is capable of handling on her own, and all alone.
Feel free to ask any further questions or email me again to let me know your decision.  Thank you..
Best regulars,
Sarah

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I have raised three teenage daughters and have been there for them, through peer pressure, helping them on self esteem issues, sharing feelings, communicating with their partners and making personal decisions. I am very proud of them today and feel fortunate to have had the education to guide them in becoming the confident and professional women they are today as well as valued wives and mothers. In my career as a registered nurse, I've been a childbirth educator for pregnant teens and at the delivering bedside of teens as young as 12. I've taught health education to students from grades K-12, especially helping them to explore the values that can work well in their lives, helped them to clarify which values might be most meaningful to them, and have always shared the concepts of caring (for themselves and others), having respect (for themselves and others) and taking responsibility (expecially for their own actions). I can be a listening ear, supportive when needed, an educator, (I have a master's degree as a nurse-specialist in child and adolescent health), and a resource for information.

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As a mother, Health Educator K-12, Parent-Teen Workshop Facilitator, Teacher Trainor Registered Nurse (Labor & Delivery) Childbirth Educator for Pregnant Teens Counselor of Pregnant Teens Child Care Educator for Teen Parents; Adoptive Parents Maternity Professor--student nurses

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Registered Nurse/AAS degree, County College of Morris, Randolph Childbirth Educator, ASPO Lamaze BA degree - (Education), University of Massachusetts/Amherst MS degree - (Clinical Nurse Specialist, Child & Adolescent Health), University of Massachusetts/Amherst

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