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| Subject | Date Asked |
| Chastity always right? | 2/22/2010 |
| Q: I am 16 and a virgin, and intend to stay so at least until after my A-levels, and I view chastity as ... A: Plenty of people feel exactly the same way as you. I certainly do. I think that everyone should ... | |
| physical relation | 1/5/2010 |
| Q: my girlfriend told me that she had a boyfriend earlier.her x-boyfriend broke her hymen by inserting ... A: No your girlfriend is not a virgin. This has nothing to do with the fact that her ex-boyfriend ... | |
| What should i do? | 12/30/2009 |
| Q: am 22.am a virgin,i have been in a relationship with a very good guy for close to 18 months now.he ... A: I'm so sorry it has taken me so long to answer your question. The holidays have been very busy!! ... | |
| Is it wrong? | 12/27/2009 |
| Q: Okay I am 18 years old. I broke up with my girlfriend couple of months ago. In fact she was my first ... A: I'm really sorry to hear how hurt you have been. Some people can be really very cruel. Most people ... | |
| can you lose your virginity this way? | 11/17/2009 |
| Q: Im 17 my girlfriend is 20 and I am still a virgin, and I want it to stay that way till im ... A: No you cannot lose your virginity this way, you will still be a virgin even if you give or receive ... | |
| virgin or not virgin. | 9/16/2009 |
| Q: okay. I'm only 14 and i have a way older boyfriend who is 16 and he convinced me to try to have sex ... A: No, you are not a virgin. The loss of virginity happens when a penis enters your vagina. This ... | |
| I've been so sheltered, I have lots of questions | 8/23/2009 |
| Q: I am a virgin (girl). I have never been fingered, masturbated, or used a tampon, nobody has ever ... A: Alot of people have the same fears as you. Vaginas vary drastically in their appearance, i am sure ... | |
| virgin | 7/31/2009 |
| Q: im a boy and im 16 years old,im a virgin and I feel really bad because almost all of my friends ... A: I know that it seems like losing your virginity is very important right now but trust me when i say ... | |
| letting go | 7/29/2009 |
| Q: I'm 16 years old. me and my boyfriend has been going out for about 5 months. although it seems like ... A: Firstly, you cannot ask someone why they love you. People don't know why they love someone else. ... | |
| letting go | 7/29/2009 |
| Q: I'm 16 years old. me and my boyfriend has been going out for about 5 months. although it seems like ... A: Unfortunately, everybody has a past and some people have the kind of pasts that we have to deal with ... | |
| masterbating | 7/24/2009 |
| Q: im a 13 goin on 14 year old and i am really close to my friends so we talk about masterbating ... A: Please do not be scared! You cannot lose your virginity during masturbation. Virginity is only ... | |
| i dont know how far to go??! | 7/24/2009 |
| Q: I'm really confused about how far to go with my boyfriend..im 15 and have a loving boyfriend..we ... A: I am pleased to see your in a loving relationship and are thinking very seriously about these ... | |
| hymen and water | 7/22/2009 |
| Q: once when i was a kid i was washing myself after going to the bathroom and water was too strong ... A: No, you cannot lose your virginity to water. Virginity is only lost when a penis enters your ... | |
| don't know if i'm a virgin | 7/12/2009 |
| Q: I have had sex before but i don't know if I'm still a virgin though when i had sex, had this creamy ... A: No you are not a virgin. Not everyone bleeds on there first time. But you have had sex so no your ... | |
| Non virgin want to stay abstinent till marriage | 7/2/2009 |
| Q: im not a virgin. I'm 24 years old male. A year before i lost my virginity, with my girlfriend. Our ... A: I'm afraid the only advice i can offer you is to take to your girlfriend. If she does not agree to ... | |
| hi | 6/30/2009 |
| Q: ..me sunita.. i lose my virginity before 2 years.. now m facing a problm that my vagina get lose ... A: Having sex really does not change your vagina that much. The only thing it may have changed is that ... | |
| Cybersex? | 6/2/2009 |
| Q: Well I am 13 and a girl and I haven't had intercourse or oral or anal sex or any physical sex at all ... A: -) You have given out a bit too much personal information but luckily not enough info for him to ... | |
| Cybersex? | 6/2/2009 |
| Q: Well I am 13 and a girl and I haven't had intercourse or oral or anal sex or any physical sex at all ... A: He may seem nice but what he is doing is very wrong. You do not need to tell him anything. Just ... | |
| Cybersex? | 5/30/2009 |
| Q: Well I am 13 and a girl and I haven't had intercourse or oral or anal sex or any physical sex at all ... A: No you most certainly did not lose your virginity by having cyber sex. This act is a virtual one. ... | |
| Lonely and Confused | 5/18/2009 |
| Q: Ok..where to start!? (im 15 btw) I completely fell in love with this guy, and we were a bit ... A: I am pleased to hear that you like to protect yourself. That is not weird at all. It is a very ... | |
| virginity | 5/14/2009 |
| Q: im not sure if i am still a virgin.last week my boy friend wanted to have sex but i didnt want to ... A: Although you are technically still a virgin you have lost your anal virginity. I am amazed that ... | |
| virgin | 5/14/2009 |
| Q: Q.1 hello , i just want to know if a girl can get pregnant by touching my dick on her pussy not ... A: In answer to your questions..... 1) The chances of a girl getting pregnant by touching her vagina ... | |
| Virgin | 5/10/2009 |
| Q: my name is Bridgette and I am fifteen years old. I'm still a virgin but most of my other friends ... A: I used to have exactly the same problem. I was the only one of my friends to be a virgin and at ... | |
| no period but sex | 5/6/2009 |
| Q: okay. i have NOT started my period at all but if i chose to have sex, would i bleed during? A: The bleeding that sometimes occurs during your first sexual experience is nothing to do with your ... | |
| staying a virgin | 4/22/2009 |
| Q: iam a female 24yrs and i newly use to masturbate,but i donot want to loose my virginity,i use to rub ... A: Virginity is not something that you can take yourself. It is not a physical change. The basic ... | |
| all about sex | 4/18/2009 |
| Q: she said i didnt hav ney boyfrnd before me.but when we do sex first time she didnt hav ney blood ... A: Women do not always bleed when they have sex for the first time. Sometimes it may not even hurt. ... | |
| What do girls think about virgin | 4/17/2009 |
| Q: My Question I am a boy 21 years old, Christian.. I want to know what a girl thinks about a boy who ... A: Girls have different views on virgins. Some really like the idea as no one likes competition! ... | |
| Please help!!! | 4/16/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 18 year old virgin and i plan to stay so until i get married. 2 days ago, my boyfriend rubbed ... A: To be perfectly honest i am not sure that i can be of much help. firstly, I am surprised you felt ... | |
| substitute for sex | 4/13/2009 |
| Q: I'm 15, and I broke up with my boyfriend a couple months ago because he kept trying to do things ... A: I am very glad to hear that you are so certain on what you want and what you don't want. You would ... | |
| NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE | 4/2/2009 |
| Q: I have been a Christian all my life and my parents are also my 2 brothers and my sister were also ... A: Ok... by the sounds of it, you don't want to have sex before marriage but you are feeling the ... | |
| virgin | 4/1/2009 |
| Q: my boyfriend keeps on wanting to have sex with me and well i do want to but all my friends r still a ... A: For the first time it will feel a bit strange as you haven't experienced that feeling before. It ... | |
| virgin | 3/30/2009 |
| Q: my boyfriend keeps on wanting to have sex with me and well i do want to but all my friends r still a ... A: The simple answer to this is, don't worry. No one knows how to have sex for the first time and more ... | |
| love | 3/30/2009 |
| Q: A: Alot of people have this same problem. The problem is not with you but with the men you chose. ... | |
| how to have sex | 3/27/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend keeps on trying to have sex with me but i usually say im busy or i have something else ... A: Well the first thing i have to ask is do you want to have sex with your boyfriend? Because if not, ... | |
| Staying a virgin | 3/22/2009 |
| Q: Ive beeen with this lad called mikey, he is rather amaziing, my friend zoey doesnt like him tho i ... A: I have to say, (and i apologize for sounding like your mother) 13 is an extremely young age to be ... | |
| confused... | 3/20/2009 |
| Q: I am 16, i have been with my bf for about 6 months and he wants to have sex. I really do like him, ... A: As you have sent me this question it is quite obvious that you are not ready to have sex. If you ... | |
| Faith/Sex/Relationships - it's all a big mess | 3/18/2009 |
| Q: For a couple of months now I've been going off the rails spiritually. I was in favour of the ... A: Although this message is very far out of my experience (as i am not a Christian myself) i just ... | |
Kate
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Expertise
I can answer all questions relating to staying a virgin. Although I am now not one myself I was a late starter. I know how hard it is to resist temptations and peer pressure. I also know how hard it is to keep a relationship strong while still staying a virgin. I know that sometimes it feels like you’re the only person alive not having sex but you are not alone. I want to help you feel secure in your beliefs whatever they may be. Whether it be religion or your own morals.
Experience
I am only 23 but from the age of 13 I have had extreme pressure on me to lose my virginity. I have been friends with very sexual people who have been involved in some strange, strange situations. I eventually lost my virginity when I was 19, to a man that I had been with for 2 years and am still with now. It was under my terms and was a great experience.
Education/Credentials
Only life experience!
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