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Staying a Virgin/Questions Answered by Expert Joel Kimball
| Subject | Date Asked |
| Is it wrong to want to be a virgin for life maybe? | 11/25/2011 |
| Q: my name is Shayda, and I am a 22 year old virgin and still going strong! I am very proud of it, ... A: You, my dear, get my Virgin Goddess of the Day award! Ordinarily pride is a bad thing, but in this ... | |
| is massage with happy ending wrong? | 10/15/2011 |
| Q: im 19 this year,i am currently single. this few months i have been passing by massage poular knowing ... A: You sound like a very moral man, I am encouraged by your concern about this act. I think you should ... | |
| Im a liar | 10/10/2011 |
| Q: I am 18 and just started college! I am a virgin (never kissed anyone either) and plan to stay a ... A: First off, you are doing the right thing, staying a virgin until marriage. If you do this one thing, ... | |
| Girlfriend and her faith | 9/24/2011 |
| Q: I'm 16 and i've been seeing my girlfriend for 6 months and we're both virgins. She's the greatest, ... A: You are welcome, Bryan. "Protection", what ever that is, doesn't work 100% of the time, and any ... | |
| Girlfriend and her faith | 9/23/2011 |
| Q: I'm 16 and i've been seeing my girlfriend for 6 months and we're both virgins. She's the greatest, ... A: I'm not the expert to ask about this, my expertise is helping people KEEP their virginity until they ... | |
| Masturbation | 9/8/2011 |
| Q: I would say that right now my relationship with God is at the best it has ever been. Unfortunately, ... A: You are on the right path, Christianity is the only true way. But be warned, Christianity is having ... | |
| Kind Of Guilty... | 6/11/2011 |
| Q: My Name Is Sara, And I'm 13yrs Old, Unfortunately I've Already Lost My Virginity, Which Is Kind Of ... A: Yes, loss of your virginity is sad. Very sad. But trying to convince your friend not to have sex out ... | |
| regarding masturbation | 6/8/2011 |
| Q: is it ok if i masturbate with my hands?and is ok if i masturbate 2-3 times in a day?does it affect ... A: Anay, this is out side of my area of expertise. I'm not a doctor. How ever, I don't think ... | |
| Hymen | 5/20/2011 |
| Q: Hey, am 19 years old i never had sex or entered a tampon and i don't play sports, but today i kinda ... A: This question is out of my area of expertise. But definitely, Congratulations on making it to 19 and ... | |
| a second chance? | 5/12/2011 |
| Q: I am struggling with the fact that I am not a virgin and I'm not sure that I will find a guy that ... A: Sorry to hear about all the trouble and pain. You do sound like a nice young lady. How important ... | |
| Virginity | 5/11/2011 |
| Q: I am a 33 year-old man who is happily married.I have a psychological stalemate. I have never had an ... A: I believe you, Burak, that is exactly what most people do, just go out and get sex any way they can. ... | |
| Virginity | 5/8/2011 |
| Q: I am a 33 year-old man who is happily married.I have a psychological stalemate. I have never had an ... A: Burak, This is out of my field of expertise, but I'll try to answer it. First of all, I feel your ... | |
| virginity | 2/18/2011 |
| Q: Is there something wrong with a women who is 35 and a virgin? Why can't I find a guy who likes a ... A: I'm assuming by your comments that you are still a virgin, and if so, you get my "Virgin Goddess of ... | |
| Virginity | 2/10/2011 |
| Q: was raped and as such loss my virginity .no kissing experience nor any romantic activity of such . ... A: Jessi, So very sorry to hear about your tragedy. It is unbelievable the evil that is in this world. ... | |
| HOW TO CHECK VIRGINITY | 1/30/2011 |
| Q: I had married a few days ago.When i did sex with her 1st time her there was no bleeding and my penis ... A: Ali, So sorry about the long delay in replying, my computer broke. Congratulations on your ... | |
| HOW CAN I KNOW MY SEXUAL ABILITY | 1/21/2011 |
| Q: I AM 22 YEAR OLD GUY..AND I NEVER HAD SEX WITH PARTNER BEFOUR.. SO, HOW CAN I KNOW MY SEXUAL ... A: Hey Majed, Congratulations on making it to 22 with out having sex out side of marriage. If you ... | |
| remark | 1/18/2011 |
| Q: I am a 23 year old Nigerian lady. I will like to start by stating the fact that I am glad I stumbled ... A: Yes, I'm 100% against pre-marital sex, it is WRONG in every case. There is no excuse for it, really. ... | |
| virginity | 1/13/2011 |
| Q: I am 17 years old and a virgin. I have never masturbated. I come from a religious family, and my ... A: Happy to help. No apologies necessary about the length of your question. I don't answer personal ... | |
| virginity | 1/12/2011 |
| Q: I am 17 years old and a virgin. I have never masturbated. I come from a religious family, and my ... A: Hey Minty, you get my "Virgin Goddess of the Day" award! All the way to 17 with out sex, dang, ... | |
| about verginity | 1/6/2011 |
| Q: how can i check a girl that she is vergin or or not? by testing the pussy it is tight or not, ... A: First off, referring to a girls genitals as "the pussy" is completely vulgar and insulting, hardly ... | |
| Virginity: when is it time | 12/26/2010 |
| Q: For the larger part of my teenage years, i was a shut in. I didn't date or do anything because I had ... A: Hey Emma, sorry about the delay in replying, 'tis the Season and all that. First off, I don't think ... | |
| Mastuerbation | 12/11/2010 |
| Q: So, my question isn't exactly regarding "staying a virgin" but it's somewhat in the same realm, ... A: Hey Josh, you are incredible. A 19 year old American man who hasn't had sex before marriage, but ... | |
| Almost ready to give up.... | 12/2/2010 |
| Q: I'm 19 and a virgin, and I'm basically sick of it. None of my friends know I am one because all ... A: Hey Jessica, You may be sick of your virginity, but I love it! You don't want it, yeah, yeah, I ... | |
| WHY? | 12/2/2010 |
| Q: I just wanted to know why is it a good idea to keep your virginity until marriage!?! how will it ... A: Good question. There are several reasons. First of all, sex kills. Millions of people every year ... | |
| My bf isnt a virgin and i dont know how to deal with it =( | 11/27/2010 |
| Q: I'm 21yo, female from singapore - so there might be some cultural differences. My bf is 29 yo, from ... A: You know of Thanks Giving all the way over there? Well thank you, it's one of my favorite Holidays. ... | |
| My bf isnt a virgin and i dont know how to deal with it =( | 11/21/2010 |
| Q: I'm 21yo, female from singapore - so there might be some cultural differences. My bf is 29 yo, from ... A: Sorry about the delay in replying, it's a Holiday around here. Congratulations, you get my "Virgin ... | |
| virgin with pregnacy symptoms | 11/4/2010 |
| Q: I am a virgin. I never had sex before. A couple weeks ago, I had symptoms that my period was ... A: First off, congratulations on holding on to your virginity! You get my "Virgin Goddess of the Day" ... | |
| Can't find hymen | 9/24/2010 |
| Q: I am 19 going on 20 and I've been having problems knowing if I have my hymen or not. First off, I ... A: This is out of my expertise, and while I'm medically trained, I'm not a doctor. But since you asked, ... | |
| I dont know if i am still a virgin?? | 9/6/2010 |
| Q: I want to ask a question that has been bothering me for a while now. I am 23years old virgin in ... A: "Nikky", YOU said "he kinda went in a little from behind" "a few inches, maybe just the tip". So ... | |
| I dont know if i am still a virgin?? | 9/1/2010 |
| Q: I want to ask a question that has been bothering me for a while now. I am 23years old virgin in ... A: You speak amazing Amercanized English for some one from Nigeria, land of Internet scams. First of ... | |
| boundaries of being a virgin. | 8/27/2010 |
| Q: I recently, as in last night,let him touch me anywhere and he did. Of course I was dumb enough to ... A: Janessa, You are a technical virgin, if you haven't been penetrated as you mentioned. But you've ... | |
| female anatomy during sex,intercourse | 8/8/2010 |
| Q: i am 22years unmarried female,i had sex with my boyfriend,but at the first time of intercourse i ... A: Your question is in the wrong category, but I'll try to answer it any way. No, not all women bleed ... | |
| I know im young, but am i too young? | 8/4/2010 |
| Q: I don't know exactly how to ask this question but,I'm kind of embarrassed.. I'm 14 years of age and ... A: Happy to help. First off, height for girls isn't every thing, and neither are breasts. Your friends ... | |
| i m virgin | 8/4/2010 |
| Q: !! i m a female from india. m 24 years old. i had never sex with anybody. even i never did fingering ... A: Congratulations on staying a virgin until your wedding! That's fantastic! Sadly, yes, you can tear ... | |
| I know im young, but am i too young? | 8/3/2010 |
| Q: I don't know exactly how to ask this question but,I'm kind of embarrassed.. I'm 14 years of age and ... A: Hey Macie, Well, in spite of your confusion, you get my Virgin Goddess of the Day award. Glad you ... | |
| virginity | 8/2/2010 |
| Q: I am a 20 year old girl who is into the habit of fingering. I am not sure but I might have broken my ... A: Preksha, well, you are correct, your situation is a tough one. I don't ever recommend starting a ... | |
| virginity | 8/1/2010 |
| Q: I am a 20 year old girl who is into the habit of fingering. I am not sure but I might have broken my ... A: No where do you mention that you are a virgin, but I'm assuming you are one since you think you ... | |
| Problem with friends | 7/23/2010 |
| Q: Im 19, and still a virgin. I dont mind being one, in fact, I have a hard time seeing people as ... A: Sorry about the delay, gone for the week. Well, I don't care what any one else says or thinks, you ... | |
| Am I just being weird for wanting to stay a virgin until marriage? | 7/8/2010 |
| Q: I'm 16 and still a virgin - though it has never been of any value to me and I'm non - religious. ... A: Hey Sasha (see bottom for update), Well, I know you don't value your virginity, but I do, and so, ... | |
| virginity and the ignorance. | 6/28/2010 |
| Q: Convince me otherwise to stay a virgin. Why I am doing this is because A lot of my friends disagree ... A: Never a waste of time to help some one who thinks sex out side of marriage / life long commitment is ... | |
| Ways to hold off? | 6/20/2010 |
| Q: Hey it's Lee again, I appreciate your response. However I would like to point out that I am in no ... A: happy to help. Yeah, don't rush in to sex, it's a one way street - when you go down it, you can't ... | |
| 20 and still a virgin | 6/17/2010 |
| Q: Hey I’m Lee and I’m 20 years old and I am still a virgin Now I wouldn’t consider myself ... A: Hey Lee, you get my Virgin Goddess of the Day award! You may not value your virginity, but it's ... | |
| why should i? | 6/10/2010 |
| Q: Why should i (female) remain virgin until marriage? Guys sometimes don't and it is okay for them but ... A: Hey Kelsey! 16 and still a virgin? Incredible. In spite of the fact that you don't value your ... | |
| Hey. | 6/6/2010 |
| Q: I uh I'm a virgin and i seem to have lost interest in talking to girls unless it is real necessary ... A: Hey Ray, If what you're saying is completely accurate, I'd sue the little slut who falsely accused ... | |
| virginity | 5/27/2010 |
| Q: I had just turned 17 about a few days ago and i love me don't get me wrong but i am a virgin and i ... A: what a beautiful name. Well, you get my Virgin Goddess of the Day award, 17 and still a virgin? ... | |
| Why am I saving myself for marriage then ? | 5/25/2010 |
| Q: I'm 20 years old ,still a virgin until I'll get married .I've found the man that i want to spend my ... A: You get my "Virgin Goddess" award for the day. 20 and still a virgin? And in France of all places? ... | |
| new bf :) | 5/25/2010 |
| Q: ok, so today me and this guy who asked me to prom became an offcial couple...well we tease eachother ... A: Hey Steph, The answer to your question is "yes". He will continue to pressure you for sexual ... | |
| new bf :) | 5/25/2010 |
| Q: ok, so today me and this guy who asked me to prom became an offcial couple...well we tease eachother ... A: Hey Steph, The answer to your question is "yes". He will continue to pressure you for sexual ... | |
| virginity | 5/19/2010 |
| Q: Would you tell me the characteristics of virginity? & the symptoms of losing virginity? ANSWER: ... A: Virginity is a state of mental and physical purity. Things remain pure, that is, in their native ... | |
| virginity | 5/17/2010 |
| Q: Would you tell me the characteristics of virginity? & the symptoms of losing virginity? A: Virginity is a state of purity, of no corruption, of things just as God created them. Virginity is ... | |
| havent done anything yet | 5/11/2010 |
| Q: me and my girlfriend have been going out for 6 months now, and we are really close as a couple. I ... A: Sorry, but you've posted in the wrong category. This is "How to keep your virginity until marriage", ... | |
| I hate myself 4 this | 5/10/2010 |
| Q: I'm a 21yr old gal from South Africa.i've bn in a r/ship with a guy who is 25 for close to 19 months ... A: First of all, congratulations making it all the way to 21 with your virginity intact. Absolutely ... | |
| Important of being a Virgin | 5/7/2010 |
| Q: I am a girl of 19yrs still a virgin. I find it difficult to keep a male friend just because of my ... A: You have done the right thing, saving your virginity for your future husband! Very good! Your ... | |
| Should I or Shouldn't I? | 4/28/2010 |
| Q: My name is Morgan. I am 19 almost 20 and I am still a virgin. I have 2 older sisters and they keep ... A: Happy to help, Morgan, you're doing the right thing. You're a very intelligent woman, and I think ... | |
| Should I or Shouldn't I? | 4/28/2010 |
| Q: My name is Morgan. I am 19 almost 20 and I am still a virgin. I have 2 older sisters and they keep ... A: Hey Morgan!!! You get my Virgin Goddess award for the day! 19 and you still got it? Amazing! That ... | |
| hello | 4/19/2010 |
| Q: I am 20 year old and I tried to have sex with my boy friend two months ago. He is 21 year old. We ... A: Well, you know the old saying, if you have to ask, you probably already know the answer. And the ... | |
| to decide whether to loose virginity or not. | 4/18/2010 |
| Q: Here's my details. I am 22 yr old guy from India, i ve just graduated from my med school and am plan ... A: Don't have sex with Girl X. It is wrong. In fact, don't have sex with any one you aren't married to. ... | |
| Virginity | 4/4/2010 |
| Q: hey am a 14 yr old girl from india, abt a month ago ive been talking to this friend of mine.. hes a ... A: Hey Dhitika, I missed your reply some how, sorry. You continue to impress me. I think you're going ... | |
| Virginity | 3/31/2010 |
| Q: hey am a 14 yr old girl from india, abt a month ago ive been talking to this friend of mine.. hes a ... A: Hey Dhitika, First off, age doesn't matter when it comes to love and marriage. People of all ages ... | |
| somethings 2 say and some questions | 3/28/2010 |
| Q: Ok Joel my name is Jake im 16 and im not a virgin i had sex for the first time when i was 14 and i ... A: Well, don't know what to say about the lazy speech pattern, if we all just keep going down, down, ... | |
| somethings 2 say and some questions | 3/27/2010 |
| Q: Ok Joel my name is Jake im 16 and im not a virgin i had sex for the first time when i was 14 and i ... A: I wasn't going to answer your message, considering it's out of my field of expertise. And then you ... | |
| afraid from having sex.. | 3/15/2010 |
| Q: . I am 27 years and still virgin..waiting till marriage..my problem is that i am afraid from having ... A: What? A 27 year old virgin? Madeline, you get my Virgin Goddess award! You are the best. Dang, I ... | |
| twins | 3/3/2010 |
| Q: my problem for you isnt as hard as others but for me it is... in our class there are twins sisters i ... A: This isn't exactly in my field of expertise, but don't worry, I'm going to try to help any way. ... | |
| Herpes | 2/24/2010 |
| Q: i am a virgin who has never had sex and never had sexual contact with anyone beyond french kissing ... A: well, you get my VIRGIN GODDESS of the day award! don't give that up until you have a life long ... | |
| hi | 2/23/2010 |
| Q: m age is 24.i put my finger inside the vagina deeply and stating rubbing in circular when i take out ... A: Have you had sex with a man? Then you aren't a virgin. If you have never had sex with a man, you ... | |
| Marrying a non virgin girl | 2/18/2010 |
| Q: i am a 20 year old guy. I have never been in any relationships so far as i have never wanted to till ... A: Adithya! Brother! You are the best. Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. You are so right. People think that ... | |
| sex | 2/18/2010 |
| Q: Truth is, I don't want to stay a virgin. I am 14 years old (female) , and I recently have been ... A: Truth is, you shouldn't want to stay a virgin, especially not at 14. Your body is probably ready for ... | |
| ask abt virginity | 2/17/2010 |
| Q: m not virgin,having sex wid my boyfriend 2yrs back?now m gona marry...wil my husband know at wedding ... A: This is totally out of my area of expertise, but I'll try to answer your question. If your husband ... | |
| confused. | 2/14/2010 |
| Q: my name is kayla and im sixteen. i am still a virgin and since i was old enough to know about sex i ... A: your question has sat in the general question pool for days now, so i thought i'd let you know, you ... | |
| am i still a virgin? | 2/12/2010 |
| Q: anyways sumtimes if we werent together i finger and rub my pussy hard the same way he used to do ... A: Abby. Here's the answers to your questions: 1) - yes - technically you are still a virgin. But only ... | |
| feeling like I know nothing | 2/10/2010 |
| Q: my name is jimmy and am seventeen. I feel like I have a problem with masturbate because I do it ... A: Well, congratulations on making it to 17 and still being a virgin. Don't give that up until you find ... | |
| am i still a virgin? | 2/6/2010 |
| Q: anyways sumtimes if we werent together i finger and rub my pussy hard the same way he used to do ... A: Sexual fantasies are normal, don't sweat it. Just don't act them out with some one who isn't hooked ... | |
| Will it hurt less? | 2/5/2010 |
| Q: I am 16 years old and I would like to know if it will hurt less when u have sex the first time if ... A: Hey, what's the rush? WHY do you want to have sex with this guy? Why would you need to lie about ... | |
| im really lost | 2/2/2010 |
| Q: .so heres the thing...i got my first bf last yr and he made me feel good and happy and i was enjoyin ... A: Well, I hope I'm not too late on this one. The short answer is - NO - you should not loose your ... | |
| viginity... | 2/1/2010 |
| Q: Okay so, i am a 17 year old female and i have a few things to ask and say to you. First off why is ... A: Wow. So, hi Catherine, how are you? I'm fine, thanks. How's your day been? Wow again. Yeah, your ... | |
| i need to ask a question | 1/30/2010 |
| Q: is it true that when u have sex u can feel it in your stomach and do it depends on how your hole is ... A: First off, this question is out of my expertise area, this is more a general question about sex ... | |
| i am only 13 the pressure is on | 1/26/2010 |
| Q: ok i like only 13 and well i dont what to say well me and my boyfreind have been going out for about ... A: First off, you sound very mature for a 13 year old. That's great, I think you'll avoid a lot of the ... | |
| What is the point to saving myself? | 1/24/2010 |
| Q: I am a 15 year old male who wants to save himself. I firmly believe that sex is reserved for someone ... A: Being jealous of other guys (I'm assuming you mean those that have sex out side of marriage) is ... | |
| What is the point to saving myself? | 1/23/2010 |
| Q: I am a 15 year old male who wants to save himself. I firmly believe that sex is reserved for someone ... A: Wow, I spent hours - hours - contemplating what I could truthfully say that would encourage you. You ... | |
| What is the point to saving myself? | 1/18/2010 |
| Q: I am a 15 year old male who wants to save himself. I firmly believe that sex is reserved for someone ... A: Wow, where do I begin? I guess by saying, DANG! Shahriar, you and I must be brothers separated at ... | |
| some questions about virginty | 1/7/2010 |
| Q: their is no way to put this without using vile words. Is a girl still a virgin if you finger them ? ... A: Nice to know at least some of the guys out there still have a conscience. "Fingering" is thrown ... | |
| Help | 12/29/2009 |
| Q: Two night ago, I had sexual acitivities with my boyfriend but NO penetration. We just grinded and ... A: Well, this is exactly the reason why you shouldn't mess around with sex out side of marriage / life ... | |
| help | 12/26/2009 |
| Q: I am 22 years old virgin. Last night night my bf and I went to the mountain and we got a little ... A: This is out of my expertise. But since you asked, Yes, it's possible to be pregnant having done what ... | |
| Question | 12/25/2009 |
| Q: I am a 24 year old female and a virgin (waiting till marriage), and also single. I'm currently ... A: Hey Laura! You are a GODDESS! A virgin at your age, and by choice? Waiting until marriage, ... | |
| RE: | 12/23/2009 |
| Q: subject was "He confuses me" well gettin married is not possible,coz of our culture.am still in ... A: Wondering what culture your in that physically prohibits you from marrying? Where do you live? I ... | |
| He just confuses me | 12/23/2009 |
| Q: am Anna and am 21. I have been going out with a great guy for close to 2yrs now.He is 25.Lately he ... A: Wow, congratulations on making it to 21 as a virgin! Man, we should have a party for you, that is ... | |
| verginity | 12/20/2009 |
| Q: if a girl doesnt bleed wen having sex 4 the first time wat does dis mean she has loosed her ... A: This question is out of my area of expertise. Please consult a doctor. How ever, since you asked, ... | |
| wife selection | 12/15/2009 |
| Q: I'm a young man, 28. I have never had sexual intercourse in my life. I don't want to have it before ... A: I've heard of such movements, although I can't think of any off hand. I believe most, if not all, ... | |
| wife selection | 12/11/2009 |
| Q: I'm a young man, 28. I have never had sexual intercourse in my life. I don't want to have it before ... A: Hey Tesh, Good for you, staying away from sex before marriage! You are my hero, buddy! Stick to it, ... | |
| 25 and still virgin | 12/8/2009 |
| Q: I'm 25 and still a virgin. How I have stayed like that, it's beyond me! I'm OK with this fact, ... A: Well, I'm not sure I'm going to be able to help you. Our philosophies on sex are very different. I'm ... | |
| im scared | 12/7/2009 |
| Q: kay so im only 14 rite now and not planning to lose my virginity until im 19 ! but still im scared ... A: Why wait until your 19? What makes that the magic number? Yeah, it will hurt, probably a lot, at ... | |
| Should I...? | 11/22/2009 |
| Q: OK, I know this is going to sound bad... I'm a thirteen year old girl, my boyfriend is fourteen. We ... A: Yeah, you're right, it sounds bad. You're headed for the cliff, and once you go over, there's no ... | |
| nvr had sex | 11/22/2009 |
| Q: I noticed this morning that I was spoting and the problem is that its 2 week after my period. I ... A: Man, congratulations on holding on to your virginity! You are a rock! And my hero. It's not ... | |
| 19 year female VIRGIN! | 11/18/2009 |
| Q: I'm a lonely 19 year female virgin. I feel I need to lose it fast, because resently I feel incedible ... A: Congratulations on making it to 19 with your v card intact! Being obsessed with sex is perfectly ... | |
| virgin | 11/17/2009 |
| Q: When some one doesn't want others to know they are a virgin, are they ashamed? A: You question is missing some thing, doesn't quite make sense. Did you mean "Why are they ashamed"? ... | |
| i need help | 11/12/2009 |
| Q: I'm 16 and my boyfriend is always bugging me about having sex and i just don't want to do can U plz ... A: You are soooo good for not putting it out for him. That says a HUGE amount about your self respect. ... | |
| What do I do now? | 11/11/2009 |
| Q: I've met the first guy I've ever felt anything for. I'm 19 and he's 21. I was a virgin until last ... A: You posted in the wrong place, I'm here to help people hold on to their virginity until they get a ... | |
| question | 11/9/2009 |
| Q: And she still keeps on doing it with her ex's but now she has a boyfriend and they do it all the ... A: Your cousin is evil, stay away from her. She cares nothing about any one but her self. That said, ... | |
| Resisting Temptation | 11/5/2009 |
| Q: My name is Katie and I am 17 years old and a virgin. I have a boyfriend and we really care about ... A: Well, you certainly sound more mature than the average 17 year old. And I have the deepest respect ... | |
| Marriage vs. Sex at 19 | 11/5/2009 |
| Q: Hey, I'm a nineteen year old girl and I've been dating my current boyfriend for almost a year. I've ... A: Hey Stephanie, Congratulations on keeping your virginity until 19! You are one incredible woman. ... | |
| Kids? | 11/3/2009 |
| Q: Well what if I marry someone who doesn't want to have kids either? ANSWER: That's fine, but is this ... A: I don't know any married couples who don't have sex, but plenty who don't have kids, because they ... | |
| Resisting Temptation | 11/3/2009 |
| Q: My name is Katie and I am 17 years old and a virgin. I have a boyfriend and we really care about ... A: Congratulations on keeping your virginity. It isn't about being Catholic, it's just the right thing ... | |
| Question | 11/3/2009 |
| Q: Have women any kind of desire for sex...? If yes then is it more than in males....?? In which age a ... A: This is out side of my expertise, which is to help people stay virgins until marriage. How ever, ... | |
| I just need some advice | 10/25/2009 |
| Q: im a 17 year old girl nd i have a boyfriend, iv known him since yr 8 we've alwyas liked eachother ... A: i'm joel. don't have sex with this guy. way too much stuff going on. for starters, why do you think ... | |
| Should i lose my virginity? | 10/25/2009 |
| Q: I'm dating this guy,and he is so wonderful.i've never met anyone like him.i think i maybe falling ... A: Your situation sounds wonderful. Yes, you should wait. You should always wait to have sex until ... | |
| What to do? | 10/24/2009 |
| Q: I am merely 13 years old, but have been masturbating since age twelve. Lately, I have had ... A: Is it Wil or Randall? Either way, don't worry about it, buddy. Your feelings and urges are ... | |
| what should i do???? | 10/19/2009 |
| Q: Ok here is the deal, I was going out with this boy and he was not a virgin, but it was ok to me ... A: You're welcome, Shameka. I understand your feelings, but the truth is, you already have been ... | |
| what should i do???? | 10/18/2009 |
| Q: Ok here is the deal, I was going out with this boy and he was not a virgin, but it was ok to me ... A: I guess my question to you is, why do you want to have sex with your new boy friend, but not marry ... | |
| Virgin? | 10/18/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend put the head of his penis in the opening of my vagina. No other part of him went in. I ... A: You've got to be kidding. You know, I took a huge bite of a hamburger at McDonalds the other day, ... | |
| desperate | 10/12/2009 |
| Q: I am a 15 year old girl. I have a very high sex drive compared to other girls. (I started ... A: Hey Amanda, Well, first thing you need to do is have a best friend that's a girl, not a guy. ... | |
| desperate | 10/11/2009 |
| Q: I am a 15 year old girl. I have a very high sex drive compared to other girls. (I started ... A: You sure sound mature for 15! You're grammar and sentence structure correspond more closely to a ... | |
| Remaining a virgin | 10/3/2009 |
| Q: I was raised in a christian home. My mother waited until marriage but my father we're not sure ... A: Hey Brett, Well that's fantastic, you sound like you have a lot going for you already. You're tall ... | |
| Sex: What is its Meaning and Significance? | 9/30/2009 |
| Q: I guess I'm just lost right now and don't really know where else to turn to. I am a virgin, but I ... A: Well, you don't sound lost to me, quite the opposite, you're on the right path, actually, which is ... | |
| Help | 9/28/2009 |
| Q: i am a 16 yr old girl, and i am christian. i remain a virgin but sometimes i really question myself ... A: Hey Ally, Congratulations on still holding on to your virginity until 16! These days, that's a real ... | |
| Do I have to say I lost my virginity? | 9/27/2009 |
| Q: I am 18 and a freshman in college. I constantly get looks of surprise when I tell boys that I am a ... A: Well, Brittany, this is a tough one. What makes it so sad is you made it all the way to college ... | |
| Virgin or not? | 9/25/2009 |
| Q: I am facing what I consider a serious problem. When I was younger and didn't know much [read: ... A: Congratulations on your up coming marriage. I wish you all the happiness in the world, and many ... | |
| Incest | 9/21/2009 |
| Q: my brother forced me to have incest when we was younger, he was 13 and i was 10, he was definitely a ... A: Oh James, I am so very sorry to hear about what happened with your brother. Stuff like that can ... | |
| need advice | 9/9/2009 |
| Q: So here's the deal: I'm 19 years old, a virgin, and strictly planning on staying so until marriage. ... A: Hey Nini! Very, very impressive, 19 and still a virgin? Absolutely incredible. You are doing the ... | |
| About virginity | 9/5/2009 |
| Q: How i know this vagina is fucked by someone ? Because my girlfriend can't bleed when i fucked her ... A: You'll need to stop using the words "fuck" and "fucked" when you speak to me, or I will no longer ... | |
| staying a virgin and being HIV negative | 9/3/2009 |
| Q: am a 23 year old guy. I have never had sex. I however have a girlfriend and its only getting harder. ... A: OK Antony, glad to be of service to you, my friend. Sadly, the world can be pretty harsh. I wish I ... | |
| am still a virgin and i don't wanna lose it | 9/3/2009 |
| Q: well,, i am a 19 years old virgin,, but i'v tried all sorts of sex activities with my boyfriend,, he ... A: Well Susan, I don't get it, you're only a technical virgin by the barest of margins now, one tiny ... | |
| staying a virgin and being HIV negative | 9/2/2009 |
| Q: am a 23 year old guy. I have never had sex. I however have a girlfriend and its only getting harder. ... A: Congratulations on making it to 23 and never having sex, you are my hero! I know exactly how you ... | |
| helpp | 8/31/2009 |
| Q: Hey Joel it's sarah. Well yeah he actually just turned 17 and i myself am 17 turning 18. Im not ... A: Forget about age when it comes to marriage. It's all about maturity. Who decides what age is "too ... | |
| help | 8/29/2009 |
| Q: hey melissa i got a quick question. Can you loose your virginity if you were to get fingered? ... A: Hey Sarah, I am only too happy to help. I'm here for you. We'll figure this thing out together, ... | |
| its tough | 8/28/2009 |
| Q: I am 19 years old and I have decided to save myself for marriage. It is kind of because of my ... A: Well, after I picked myself up off the floor from the shock... 19 and still a virgin? Never been ... | |
| Is she virgin ? | 8/25/2009 |
| Q: I'm 24 yrs male from India. I'm very week in english. So i know i'll make many mistakes in ... A: Don't worry, your English is good, I understand you perfectly. But your question is in the wrong ... | |
| About virginity | 8/25/2009 |
| Q: How i know this vagina is fucked by someone ? Because my girlfriend can't bleed when i fucked her ... A: I hope I can help you. Your English is good, but man to man, just wanted to let you know that "fuck" ... | |
| Staying a virgin | 8/24/2009 |
| Q: He is the nicest guy I've met I was his first serious relationship and his first kiss. So it was ... A: So how old is this guy? His age will make a HUGE difference as to what happens to you two. Is he ... | |
| still a virgin or not? | 8/23/2009 |
| Q: Is she(now 22years old) still a virgin or not? Been raped at the age of five. A: So sorry to hear about your friend being raped, and at such a tender age. What an ugly world this ... | |
| virginity | 8/23/2009 |
| Q: is it necessary for every virgin to bleed after having sex for the first time? A: No, not every virgin bleeds after her first time. It depends largely upon her age. If she's younger ... | |
| how to have sex for virgin guy | 8/21/2009 |
| Q: is it good to have sex medicine? if yes than what type of medicine? waiting for answer thanks manoj A: Congratulations on hanging in there until marriage. Good choice. Forget the worries, you have ... | |
| Touching my boyfriend | 8/21/2009 |
| Q: I'm 15. My boyfriend is coming over tomorrow and i want to touch his penis through his pant but I ... A: Hard being 15 and having all those sexual urges and feelings, huh? Just here to tell you it's ... | |
| help me | 8/21/2009 |
| Q: helo sir! im haseeb and im 16 years old teenager.sir i hav a lit bit problem with me.actualy sir ... A: Your English is very good! Don't worry, I understand you very well. I cannot call you, but if you ... | |
| help | 8/11/2009 |
| Q: hey melissa i got a quick question. Can you loose your virginity if you were to get fingered? ... A: Yes, you lose your virginity if you get "fingered". The whole point of virginity is that you've ... | |
| she says she is ready | 8/11/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend and i have never met, though spoken on webcam before. I asked her once if that when we ... A: The majority of girls don't want to give up their virginity at 14. When usually depends on the ... | |
| virginity of a girl | 8/7/2009 |
| Q: Iam a boy,I have a g.f n I asked her whether u r virgin or not? she replied me no.but i dnt believe ... A: My friend, this is a question pondered for centuries by millions of men. Sadly, there is no way to ... | |
| want women wants | 8/4/2009 |
| Q: i hv a girlfriend . but she is not intrested in me. when me told her her plz leave me if you dont ... A: Remember to let her know that your feelings in no way change the relationship between you two. If ... | |
| want women wants | 8/3/2009 |
| Q: i hv a girlfriend . but she is not intrested in me. when me told her her plz leave me if you dont ... A: You should tell her about your true feelings, but let her know that doesn't change any thing between ... | |
| want women wants | 8/1/2009 |
| Q: i hv a girlfriend . but she is not intrested in me. when me told her her plz leave me if you dont ... A: It appears you are blessed with a friend who is honest, and doesn't want to use you or hurt your ... | |
Joel Kimball
Top Expert on this page
Expertise
I'm good at listening, even better at giving advice.
Virginity does matter! And no sex before marriage is possible, regardless of what your friends, family, or (worst of all) society tell you. It's a choice, like any thing else in life. Not an easy one, so that's why I'm here to help.
I'm happy to answer your questions:
- WHY you should stay a virgin until marriage
- HOW you can stay a virgin until marriage
- HOW to deal with boy or girl friends pushing you to engage in sex
- HOW to deal with friends who push you to engage in sex
- HOW to deal with a family who won't support you in your choice of abstinence
Experience
If you want to know about some thing, you ask an expert, right? If you're climbing a dangerous mountain, whom would you ask for help - another climber that's struggling up hill like you? Or the fella who's been to the top, and lived to tell about it?
I'd be the latter.
As to sex before marriage, "Been there, HAVEN'T done that".
Organizations
Eagle Scout - Boy Scouts of America
Fire Fighter - Whitman County Fire District 1 - Washington State
Education/Credentials
I have several years experience owning and managing two businesses - an Internet Access Provider (www.PalouseNet.com) and a Commercial Art Studio (www.KimballMedia.com). Every day I'm forced to make difficult decisions that will affect my life for years to come - just like the decision to not have sex before marriage will affect you.
Past/Present Clients
See my web sites.
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