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| Subject | Date Asked |
| Sniffing My Boyfriend's Penis | 1/8/2012 |
| Q: First of all, I'm 18 years old and I don't have anything against people who have pre-marital sex but ... A: ... Whatever turns you on....is most likely the decaying odor of bacteria.... This site is not to ... | |
| Confused | 1/4/2012 |
| Q: I'm not exactly sure how to word this question and I'm a little bit embarrassed since my situation ... A: You're dealing with several issues. Whether to accept that you're a sexual being, or reject sex. ... | |
| virginity | 1/2/2012 |
| Q: i lose my virgin before marriage now i am scaring when i get marriage after if he ask my virginity ... A: I think what you're having a problem with is whether to lie to your future husband about your ... | |
| BlowJobss | 11/8/2011 |
| Q: SO, my friend Haylei just told me that she has had oral sex with her boyfriend and she doesn't know ... A: Your "friend" has already told "you." Who else does she need to tell....and why would she need to ... | |
| blowjobs | 10/20/2011 |
| Q: i'm zoey and i'm 15. me and my bf andrew have been together for 8 months and 3 weeks now. he is my ... A: I'm sorry to have to tell you that this is not a HOW TO DO IT SITE but instead a site for those who ... | |
| is she a virgin | 10/10/2011 |
| Q: am a recently married guy, my wife used to tell me that she is a virgin, on our wedding night we had ... A: From what you describe,it is likely that SHE WAS A VIRGIN WHEN YOU MARRIED HER. From your ... | |
| tightened vagina | 8/18/2011 |
| Q: So Sunday me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time. He could not get it in me for a long time ... A: Could you please give me more details that would help in being able to understand more about your ... | |
| sexual intercourse | 8/17/2011 |
| Q: i am 22 old yr male...i have a gf n she is not virgin...i have a problem that every time during sex ... A: Your question does not relate to my site as the site is intended for those people who are having ... | |
| anal sex | 8/11/2011 |
| Q: this is justin again. i asked you a question a little while ago about if my gf can get pregnant ... A: Justin, I found your graphic descriptions offensive and will not entertain such questions. Clean up ... | |
| Virgin | 8/8/2011 |
| Q: I'm a christian, 33 year old female, and still a Virgin... And while I have been taught that ... A: Religion is a "belief." Whether your beliefs have come from an organized religion of your choice, ... | |
| Question about preserving virginity | 7/29/2011 |
| Q: I live with my single mother, and am 20 yrs old. I love my mom, and we are very close. However, she ... A: Your first question was a while ago... Since you agree that the advice of your friends wasn't of ... | |
| Long Distance and First Time | 7/18/2011 |
| Q: I'm 16, and I've been talking to this guy who used to go to my primary school for about a year now, ... A: Relax and enjoy his friendship. He's probably just as nervous. If you're relaxed, he will probably ... | |
| Long Distance and First Time | 7/18/2011 |
| Q: I'm 16, and I've been talking to this guy who used to go to my primary school for about a year now, ... A: How exciting! Your friend's travelling down to see a former classmate. Wait till he sees you in ... | |
| distance to hymen | 7/18/2011 |
| Q: I wonder how many centimeters approximately from virgin mouth to the hymen location. is this ... A: While I respect your cultural tradition for women to decide to be virgins when they marry, it seems ... | |
| can i have sex with my boyfrd | 7/17/2011 |
| Q: iam 20 yrs old girl,now iam engaged but iam loving a boy of 23. we loved each other,,,,deeply for ... A: I can't make a decision for you. Only share my opinion that you are making a dishonest decision--to ... | |
| can i have sex with my boyfrd | 7/16/2011 |
| Q: iam 20 yrs old girl,now iam engaged but iam loving a boy of 23. we loved each other,,,,deeply for ... A: I very much appreciate your attempt at writing in English. However, it is really not clear to me ... | |
| Is it wrong to have a boyfriend as a Christian | 7/9/2011 |
| Q: I'm 18, a Christian and a virgin, I have a boyfriend, and I want to know if it is wrong as a ... A: With the information you have given me, that you are 18 years old, a Christian, and that you have a ... | |
| gay female virgin | 7/3/2011 |
| Q: Hey, so I'm a gay female 17 y/o, and I'm also a virgin, as in a TOTAL virgin (i haven't been kissed ... A: You may want to ask someone at another site if I'm unable to answer your questions, but I am very ... | |
| Question about preserving virginity | 6/18/2011 |
| Q: I live with my single mother, and am 20 yrs old. I love my mom, and we are very close. However, she ... A: I totally agree it is hard to watch or listen to much today without being reminded of sex. And, at ... | |
| am i still virgin? | 6/13/2011 |
| Q: first of all.,i would like to thank you for answering my question.. as of now,im 21 years old...when ... A: You did not say whether there was vaginal penetration--or not. Sometimes children become curious ... | |
| the need for sex | 6/9/2011 |
| Q: I am 20 almost 21. I am a Virgin and I haven't kiss anyone yet. Needless to say that I haven't been ... A: I'm sorry this has you very worried. Let's look at what you've told me....you've made your ... | |
| Am I still a Virgin? | 5/13/2011 |
| Q: When I was 14-15 I was in an online relationship where I met someone who I talked to for over a ... A: While I don't understand how someone prompted you to go as far as you did--to be on camera and ... | |
| losing my virginity | 5/11/2011 |
| Q: i am 21 years old, and have been a virgin up until recently. i recently was on vacation, and decided ... A: You may have had your hymen broken since there was bleeding involved. With intercourse there is ... | |
| Virginity | 4/28/2011 |
| Q: yesterday was my 7th day in my period .. I am a virgin girl, my boyfriend came over last night, and ... A: I received your reply with the additional information, happy you are continuing your education and ... | |
| Virginity | 4/28/2011 |
| Q: yesterday was my 7th day in my period .. I am a virgin girl, my boyfriend came over last night, and ... A: I would have to say,if what you're telling me is true, that it was still your period since there was ... | |
| am i pregnant virrgin? | 4/2/2011 |
| Q: my age is 20 and am still a virgin.my boyfriend and I had some king of relation but without having ... A: If your boyfriend ejaculated outside of your vagina you would not be pregnant. If some of the sperm ... | |
| Virginity | 3/31/2011 |
| Q: ) before hand i thank you for your help, I am an 18 year old christian girl who has never had sex ... A: Attempting to answer your next question...consider MOVING ON!and forgiving yourself for ... | |
| Virginity | 3/31/2011 |
| Q: ) before hand i thank you for your help, I am an 18 year old christian girl who has never had sex ... A: Honey, I am answering you as if I would be answering my own daughter. You know how much you would ... | |
| Virginity | 3/30/2011 |
| Q: ) before hand i thank you for your help, I am an 18 year old christian girl who has never had sex ... A: There are several issues to address here, but I'll start by answering your technical questions in ... | |
| aaaaaah hymens?! | 3/27/2011 |
| Q: I think i'd probably still count myself as a virgin, however, recently I was fingered. It didnt ... A: Could you tell me how old you are....a little more about yourself...I have no idea who I am ... | |
| Need advice,please. | 3/13/2011 |
| Q: ) I need your advice..So here's the thing.Where I live it is very importaint to be virgin before ... A: Many people try to hide a lie...however have you ever heard what the definition is of having ... | |
| Need advice,please. | 3/11/2011 |
| Q: ) I need your advice..So here's the thing.Where I live it is very importaint to be virgin before ... A: I think you will have more to worry about than just "hiding" the fact that you become sexually ... | |
| 'Against' Pre-Marital Sex | 2/17/2011 |
| Q: I'm only young (13-15 won't say my age), but I really want to know. Why are adults so against ... A: ...whoever you are... To answer your question...because we care. Because, personally, as a health ... | |
| Girlfriend not a virgin | 1/23/2011 |
| Q: I don't really know whether this is the place to ask this question, but i am really desperate and ... A: I will try to answer your question, not really knowing your girlfriend, what she is like except for ... | |
| SEX | 1/21/2011 |
| Q: I am married at the age of 21,i am from India.I had a little knowledge about sex.Whenever i hear ... A: I usually counsel young women who are unmarried and trying to make a decision about whether or not ... | |
| well... | 1/16/2011 |
| Q: I am a 14 year old girl and I was wondering about sex. I am a virgin and haven't hit my period yet. ... A: Maz, I really don't understand what you are asking...("I don't know what I want when it comes to ... | |
| Am i still a virgin? | 1/10/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend penetrated my vaginal and i saw blood on his penis,thou he didn't enter me fully.my ... A: Yes, the blood you saw was most likely from a torn hymen, and yes, it is usually common to feel some ... | |
| oral sex? | 1/2/2011 |
| Q: anyways some people call that sex and some people dont so i dont kow how to interpret this am i ... A: While it would help me to guide you better if I had more details, I'm not going to ask you to fill ... | |
| This is new 0.o | 12/26/2010 |
| Q: 18, female, NYC, US. In my first year of college an aspiring fashion designer. I've made the vow to ... A: Jass, It's simple. Let him know you're a virgin, you intend to stay that way until marriage and ... | |
| 18 flirty | 12/24/2010 |
| Q: Ive been dating a guy that is 19 now for 2 years. He has been begging me to have sex with him and i ... A: I think you've answered your own question. You've told him you're not ready to have sex with him ... | |
| what are the signs you look for | 12/21/2010 |
| Q: i am now exposed to the world and i did somethings that are not good during the holiday.Well my ... A: I'm sorry to have to tell you that despite the fact that he did not insert his entire penis into ... | |
| Need Advice | 12/8/2010 |
| Q: He isn't all about having sex, but for him that's a big part of a relationship. He has been pretty ... A: I don't understand. You want to please him more than yourself and what is good for you? If you are ... | |
| Need Advice | 12/8/2010 |
| Q: I'm 19 and from the US. I'm pretty sure I am still a virgin (I was sexually abused when I was ... A: Jessie, If you're not sure you want to have sex, then don't. If you sometimes feel that you're not ... | |
| Feeling | 12/7/2010 |
| Q: . I am a Christian and go to a Christian school like my bf. We have been best friends since we were ... A: Emy, You really sound like a terrific young lady and I am sure your Mom, Dad and sisters are really ... | |
| Feeling | 12/7/2010 |
| Q: . I am a Christian and go to a Christian school like my bf. We have been best friends since we were ... A: Let me begin by saying "I applaud your (and your bf's)decision about waiting until marriage to have ... | |
| Virginity | 11/17/2010 |
| Q: This is christina..i am 16 years old..once i watched a porn movie and got excited..and i inserted my ... A: I believe you are right, and should not be worried; however it is important for the safety of your ... | |
| Virginity | 11/16/2010 |
| Q: This is christina..i am 16 years old..once i watched a porn movie and got excited..and i inserted my ... A: I have no idea if you will bleed again when you have sex with your partner. If you need to know ... | |
| Sex | 11/1/2010 |
| Q: "Hey, I am 20 yrs. old and my boyfriend is 21. (We barely started going out a week ago) I have ... A: You've stated to me that remaining a virgin is an important moral value you wish to keep until ... | |
| fingering a virgin | 10/24/2010 |
| Q: ....we are 18 years old n we have a serious prb here....my gf is virgin n i allowed her to finger ... A: I will attempt to answer your questions--although this is not a "how to pleasure oneself site." The ... | |
| hi | 10/13/2010 |
| Q: •how to know real virgin A: Wow! You are a long way from the U.S. and while I cannot try to understand your culture, I ... | |
| Scared | 9/30/2010 |
| Q: Have a boyfriend we been going out for a while now. Me and him had some issues already dealing with ... A: I'm sorry you're having this problem. There's really not much you can do about proving your ... | |
| virginiy | 9/27/2010 |
| Q: do you explain about virginity and its types? i mean i want to know the the natural type of ... A: A woman who is a "virgin" is one who has not had a sexual relationship. This is the true meaning of ... | |
| Cannot locate hymen | 9/24/2010 |
| Q: I am 19 going on 20 and I've been having problems knowing if I have my hymen or not. First off, I ... A: It appears as though you have done a lot of research on the "hymen," and all of your information is ... | |
| pregnancy | 8/19/2010 |
| Q: I had sex with my Girl and a day after na she feels pain in her abdomen,vomit sensation,nausea etc.I ... A: I would suspect that your girlfriend might have a virus, the flu, or an emotional reaction to her ... | |
| saving myself for marriage | 8/14/2010 |
| Q: sorry to bother you. i was looking for some advice. well im 18 years old. male. still a virgin. just ... A: I appreciate your sharing of your thoughts about women and your aspirations to treat them with ... | |
| Virginity | 8/3/2010 |
| Q: I am stuck up in a very strange situation. I don't know how you will react after reading this. But I ... A: I found your letter very sad. First of all, you need to believe that one day you will meet a man ... | |
| virginity | 8/2/2010 |
| Q: I was browsing through the answers given by you when I came across this question asked by Taylor. ... A: As you may have read in some of my previous answers, the hymen may be broken accidentally by a ... | |
| Virgin/non-virgin, Christian/non-Christian relationship | 7/29/2010 |
| Q: I truly appreciate it. My mother is a registered nurse as well, with a specialty in pre-natal care, ... A: Ariana, It was extremely nice of you to respond and I am very happy that my words were encouraging. ... | |
| Virgin/non-virgin, Christian/non-Christian relationship | 7/26/2010 |
| Q: I truly appreciate it. My mother is a registered nurse as well, with a specialty in pre-natal care, ... A: Ariana, It is your unique-ness that attracts him. Young people today need to have a high amount of ... | |
| Help | 7/18/2010 |
| Q: Hey, I'm 14 (Nearly 15) and I know I'm ready for sex. Only thing is I want to know, Can you still ... A: I would like very much to answer the only question you really want to know--about bleeding when you ... | |
| Help! | 7/11/2010 |
| Q: Okay so my question is this. One of my very close friends is a lot younger than I am. I am 20 and ... A: While you've done your part, if I were you I would not want to be the collaborator responsible for ... | |
| me and my boyfriend | 6/29/2010 |
| Q: im 15 turning 16 in a few months and i always loved to be around older people. when it comes to my ... A: Stay strong, don't allow yourself to be in a prolonged situation of necking as you already know that ... | |
| I bet almost everysingle subject has this in it: Virginity | 6/28/2010 |
| Q: Convince me otherwise to stay a virgin. Why I am doing this is because A lot of my friends disagree ... A: I like your research project....but the time of your written question was listed at 4:00 a.m. I ... | |
| Making it easier | 6/25/2010 |
| Q: I'm 16 (almost 17) and I have been going out with my boyfriend for a year and a half now and we are ... A: Ally, Avoiding situations of long and intense periods of necking and caressing will definitely ... | |
| losing my virginity | 6/24/2010 |
| Q: my bf and i have been together a while and recently we had talked about having sex im 16 ill be 17 ... A: Your note has a few clues to me which you may not recognize but I'd like to point them out to you. ... | |
| Did she kill the friendship or it is just because she was a virgin ? | 4/29/2010 |
| Q: This is about a friend and me. Well the friend happens to be a girl. So maybe it is not that much ... A: I cannot tell by your name which gender you are. However, it probably doesn't matter since the ... | |
| Could I be pregnant? | 4/15/2010 |
| Q: I'm a virgin and I am planning on staying a virgin till marriage. The thing is I've been ... A: I think it is EXTREMELY doubtful that you are pregnant under the conditions as described. Stress, ... | |
| bf | 3/22/2010 |
| Q: my name is sara. (i think my parents wanted my name to be the same as your but misspelled it.lol) ... A: I'm sorry I didn't have an answer that would satisfy you...and I wish I knew the kind of help you ... | |
| I don't want to loose my virginity. | 3/20/2010 |
| Q: I'm almost 13, and I don't ever want to loose my virginity. I'm confused to whether or not I should ... A: These are very big concerns you are having for a young pre-teen. I really question whether your ... | |
| did i lose my virginity? | 3/18/2010 |
| Q: i had sex this morning and i was on top and my bf put alittle of his tip in but i started bleeding ... A: While you have a question about "virginity," perhaps you should be more concerned about the issue of ... | |
| bf | 3/15/2010 |
| Q: my name is sara. (i think my parents wanted my name to be the same as your but misspelled it.lol) ... A: I don't know what you mean by wanting a "clean slate" when you get married. From what you tell me, ... | |
| looking over the past | 3/9/2010 |
| Q: Well i am a guy who always thought that i should wait till marriage to have sex and i also thought ... A: I don't think you can "forget" her past. All you can do is decide at this time whether you want to ... | |
| Is she Virgin??? | 3/6/2010 |
| Q: I am 30 Year old guy. I got married just few months ago and we are in true love with each other. I ... A: It's very possible that your wife is a virgin and that she secretes a good amount of her body's ... | |
| Dating a non virgin | 3/4/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating this girl for a while now and I just learned she wasn't a virgin a few days ago. ... A: It would really help if I knew your age. Are you 14, 20, 30? These ages might produce different ... | |
| STDs | 2/24/2010 |
| Q: i am a virgin who has never had sex and never had sexual contact with anyone beyond french kissing ... A: Lauren, If you have not engaged in sexual activity, you have nothing to hide from discussing your ... | |
| Marrying a non virgin girl | 2/18/2010 |
| Q: i am a 20 year old guy. I have never been in any relationships so far as i have never wanted to till ... A: Here's my opinion. I believe you are a sensitive and moral person who takes his values and beliefs ... | |
| Language | 2/12/2010 |
| Q: Okay, well first off I'm 15 years old, and plan on staying pure until marriage. However, my friends ... A: You know what? I think you should be really proud of yourselves. You're taking the "high road." ... | |
| is my girlfriend a virgin? | 2/5/2010 |
| Q: she told me that she has had a guy finger and do oral to her and that she had her hymn broken by his ... A: I would have no other way of knowing except for what you have told me, and according to what you ... | |
| virginity and low self esteem | 1/18/2010 |
| Q: Because of my low self esteem, I believe that I will never find someone who truly loves me and wants ... A: Yasheika, You already know the answer. That you SHOULDN'T!! Knock that invisible vulture off your ... | |
| sex | 1/11/2010 |
| Q: why is sex so important A: David, Have you previously written me? You say nothing about yourself, your age, your ... | |
| get her to have sex with me without being... | 1/11/2010 |
| Q: well, if my girlfriend says she is a virgin and she says she wants to stay that way because her ... A: Think about what you're telling me. You think (?)both you and your girlfriend are both safe from ... | |
| Loosing virginity | 1/7/2010 |
| Q: I wont mention my age, since you’ll probably laugh your lungs out considering the question. I grew ... A: Most of the people on my site are teens, but if I were to take a guess about your age, it would ... | |
| am confused | 1/4/2010 |
| Q: I'm 21,i have been dating my boyfriend for 2yrs now.he is 26.i have never had sex and honestly i ... A: Don't do anything that you don't feel in your "gut" to be the right thing for you. And don't submit ... | |
| about sex | 1/3/2010 |
| Q: i am a boy and my age is 20 years . i twice or thrice a day and i even smoke more and i am very ... A: It is not at all unusual to be 20 years old and still a virgin. It is normal for your hormones to ... | |
| story of my life | 12/29/2009 |
| Q: Im 19 and the only virgin I now. I guess for this reason I'm sort of proud to be one. I find it easy ... A: It's refreshing to meet you--you have so many "attributes" that are missing with a large population ... | |
| wife selection | 12/11/2009 |
| Q: I'm a young man, 28. I have never had sexual intercourse in my life. I don't want to have it before ... A: You sound like a sincere and thoughtful man--someone who recognizes the value of being discriminate ... | |
| pain/ bleeding of virginity loss | 12/11/2009 |
| Q: me and my girlfriend are 18 yrs old and about two weeks ago we decided that we were going to have ... A: I am happy that you are taking full responsibility so your girlfriend does not get pregnant. Keep ... | |
| how do i? | 12/10/2009 |
| Q: ok.. so yesterday at school.. well im just gonna say it.. we were this close to losing our ... A: Michele, I am so "proud" of you. You sought advice and you are listening. Believe me, you will be ... | |
| how do i? | 12/9/2009 |
| Q: ok.. so yesterday at school.. well im just gonna say it.. we were this close to losing our ... A: I don't want to sound like your Mom, but how's she gonna feel when you have to come to her and say ... | |
| what should i do | 12/2/2009 |
| Q: I'm 16 and my girlfriend is also 16. I don't get too see her very often because she goes to a ... A: Sean, It's called "self-control." Perhaps it needs to be you who sets the stage to be abstinant, ... | |
| what should i do | 12/1/2009 |
| Q: I'm 16 and my girlfriend is also 16. I don't get too see her very often because she goes to a ... A: It's not easy being 16. On one hand, it feels really nice to have someone special in your life, but ... | |
| I don't want to be a virgin | 11/24/2009 |
| Q: first sorry for having to make this question private. I am really ashamed that I have to post it ... A: I'm happy if I've reassured you that a man in your life is usually destiny. To "make it happen" ... | |
| virgin | 11/17/2009 |
| Q: When some one doesn't want others to know they are a virgin, are they ashamed? A: I would imagine that this would be the case...that perhaps they are wishing that they had remained ... | |
| virginity | 11/7/2009 |
| Q: hey Sarah, I'm just a little bit confused about virginty, my question is can fingering results in ... A: Here are the answers to your four questions: 1. Yes 2. No 3. You can't tell...only a doctor can ... | |
| what am i | 10/24/2009 |
| Q: !!! I am 18...I had sex with my boyfriend for about 2 min and I made him stop because it was hurting ... A: You have asked me two questions--what are you?, and do I think you are still a virgin? To answer the ... | |
| penis enters the vagina Virginity is lost, HOW CAN DEVELOP VAGINA VIRGINITY AFTER ONCE LOST !!! | 10/19/2009 |
| Q: Q : penis enters the vagina Virginity is lost, HOW CAN DEVELOP VAGINA VIRGINITY AFTER ONCE LOST !!! A: "Anatomically, or what happens inside when the vagina is penetrated with a penis" is that a thin ... | |
| Sex: What is its Meaning and Significance? | 9/30/2009 |
| Q: I guess I'm just lost right now and don't really know where else to turn to. I am a virgin, but I ... A: I wish you had told me your age; also your gender. I'm impressed with the fact that you are giving ... | |
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Expertise
I have raised three teenage daughters and have been there for them, through peer pressure, helping them on self esteem issues, sharing feelings, communicating with their partners and making personal decisions. I am very proud of them today and feel fortunate to have had the education to guide them in becoming the confident and professional women they are today as well as valued wives and mothers. In my career as a registered nurse, I've been a childbirth educator for pregnant teens and at the delivering bedside of teens as young as 12. I've taught health education to students from grades K-12, especially helping them to explore the values that can work well in their lives, helped them to clarify which values might be most meaningful to them, and have always shared the concepts of caring (for themselves and others), having respect (for themselves and others) and taking responsibility (expecially for their own actions). I can be a listening ear, supportive when needed, an educator, (I have a master's degree as a nurse-specialist in child and adolescent health), and a resource for information.
Experience
As a mother,
Health Educator K-12,
Parent-Teen Workshop Facilitator, Teacher Trainor
Registered Nurse (Labor & Delivery)
Childbirth Educator for Pregnant Teens
Counselor of Pregnant Teens
Child Care Educator for Teen Parents; Adoptive Parents
Maternity Professor--student nurses
Education/Credentials
Registered Nurse/AAS degree, County College of Morris, Randolph
Childbirth Educator, ASPO Lamaze
BA degree - (Education), University of Massachusetts/Amherst
MS degree - (Clinical Nurse Specialist, Child & Adolescent Health), University of
Massachusetts/Amherst
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