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Expert: Sharon Crandall Date: 6/11/2008 Subject: Im pushing her away
Question QUESTION: Hey, Ok so recently I've been spending alot of time with this girl and she knows i love her alot but she rejected me when i asked her out but promised it wouldn't ruin are friendship and were still best friends. Now even though she broke my heart she says that she loves me alot and i don't seem to believe her cause if she loved me then why did she hurt me but i understand cause she only rejected me because she loves someone more then me. Now shes saying cause of the stuff thats happened lately that I'm pushing her away and i don't want that but how do i get her back.
ANSWER: Dear Melissa,
I don't know. You can't force love and so sometimes people just don't click. There is no way to avoid hurt when it comes to relationships and we just have to go on with our lives and keep looking until we find that person with whom we click. She probably loves you a lot in her way. Your only choice is to keep being friendly and nice to her and see what happens. There is not magic way to make another person like or love us.
Sharon Crandall
Life is 4 Living Coach/Consultant
www.myspace.com/personalityconsultant
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QUESTION: Oh... Well we do click in alot of different ways. Its just that my dad has his problems with me and stuff and alot of stuff happens between us and she thinks that lately I've gotten a bit mean and cold, so shes told me. But i don't think that its partly my fault and she agrees. When i asked her why shes pushing me away she said that I've got it all wrong and its the other way around. I didn't understand what she meant at first until i realized maybe i wasn't the same as i was before. I know she loves me alot and i love her but she always asks me to say it and i just cant. I think thats the problem, cause i don't know how to tell her i love her.
Answer Dear Melissa,
To tell you the truth. It really sounds like it is just time that will tell. You can't make yourself say I love you and so time will tell whether this will work out or not. i wish I could be more help but you either will get closer or further apart and all we can do is to keep being nice and caring as possible and then see where it goes.
