AboutLeon Scott Baxter Expertise I can answer questions about keeping love in committed relationships alive and fresh. I am
not the guy to go to if you're having marital problems or if you want to know how to meet
someone. (I've never been good at opening lines.)
I am dedicated to keeping the romance fires burning even after the embers of a new
relationship turn cold. Let me help you find ways to be excited about each other and your
relationship again.
Experience I have written two books, Out of the Doghouse , and A Labor With Love, to help keep romance alive in relationships. I give romance advice locally on radio have a regular newspaper column on relationships. I host a website, CouplesCommittedToLove.com, where I offer advice and give daily romance tips. I also have hosted the seminars, "Romance 101" and "The Valentine Prep Course".
Publications Santa Barbara Independent Magazine, MenStuff.com, SBParent.com, The Goleta Valley Voice, EducationNews.org
Education/Credentials Bachelor's Degree from the University of California, Santa Barbara, as well as a teaching credential.
Awards and Honors KLITE Community Hero and Ben & Jerry's Citizen Cool for my work with children and their focus on academic and personal improvement.
Listed in Who's Who in America. Name was placed on the National Wall of Tolerance for taking a stand against hate, injustice and intolerance.
In high school, voted "Most Likely To Host Saturday Night Live by 1999". Unfortunately, Lorne Michaels never called.
Expert: Leon Scott Baxter Date: 6/12/2008 Subject: army relationship
Question me and my boyfriend have been together two years..we love each other very much...he is going to Iraq this sunday and i wont see him until god know when..what can i do to make the time go by faster, or to help him?
Answer Hello Morgan,
To make the time go faster, you're going to have to fill your time up with activities. You ever heard the phrase, "Time flies when you're having fun"? Well, try to get out and do a lot of things.
I'm not sure what kind of person you are, but get yourself started on projects" a remodel at home, fixing the car, writing a book, training for a triathlon, learning magic... I don't know, but something that has an end to it. Something you can say, "Wow, I did it."
Now, I'm not asking you to forget about him, but I am asking you not to sit around and focus on him and feel sorry for yourself.
Also, try and get involved with groups and be social: join a softball team, go to church, have a weekly girls night out, take a class.
As far as how to help him, stay in touch with him as best as you can. It really depends on his deployment and what they allow. But, if you can, text, call, and email. Write to him a lot, and send him care packages. When he is allowed his leave, clear your schedule and be there for him.
It will be hard for both of you, and twice as hard for him, because he not only will be missing you and the States, but he'll also be in a very precarious situation. You might want to read this report on long-distance relationships for more help (http://www.couplescommittedtolove.com/report_9_away.php).
