AboutKindred Beisinger Expertise I am able to answer questions regarding dating, courtship, and marriage after divorce. I feel equipped to address questions and comments regarding old baggage and past mistakes. I can also answer questions pertaining to blended families and step-children. I can not answer questions that involve manipulating the partners behavior or outlook.
Experience I am a minister that teaches and counsels G-d's instruction for stable relationships. My husband and I have both been married before. I have worked with battered women and facilitated groups for men with anger issues. As a minister, I have officiated several weddings in the past decade, with only one resulting in divorce.
Expert: Kindred Beisinger Date: 6/25/2008 Subject: me and my girlfreind
Question i would like to make my relationship alot better with my girlfreind, we've been going out for 11 months and were still in highscool. whnever im on the phone wif her there are some awkard moment where its quiet,(its quiet because she said somthing that made me fustrated, sad or jealous and i dont know whut to do, how to prevent things like that from happening. i get jealous alot too i tried to not be but i just dont know how. i hope you can help me out thankkk youu
Answer Dear Dave,
If there are certain things that make you feel jealous, you need to address those. If for instance, you are jealous of old boyfriends, you need to realize you are the one she chooses to be with now. That is only one example. Jealousy is actually based upon feeling inadequate, rather than love for the other person. She chooses to be with you and that should be what you focus on. If there are certain things she says that just frustrate you, tell her you'd rather not talk about that or it makes you feel bad or whatever. If it's a relationship issue, then address whether or not the two of you are truly happy together and resolve it, then don't bring it up again. There are millions of ways to ruin relationships, but the only way I know to keep one in good standing is to treat each other with honesty, dignity, and the way you would want to be treated.
Kind Regards,
Kindred
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