AboutTodd Expertise I can answer most questions regarding love, relationships, intimacy issues, making love last, communication skills, developing trust, and enjoying time with your sweetie.
Experience I think you would find my answers different than most as I see a relationship as a spiritual path. I enjoy what a relationship can bring to my life and how time with my partner has changed the way I look at the world. I've been a counselor and personal coach for for over 23 years and have had the opportunity to help various people with their relationship(s).
Question my girlfriend and i have dated for around 5 months. i was out of town for 2 of those months, right in the middle of the relationship. were both 25
lately, she has become sarcastic and passive agressive with me. im not sure what is wrong. i give her a lot of attention, spend a lot of time together.
sometimes, when she seems down or sad, i ask her whats wrong, and she says that nothing is wrong. but when shes sarcastic with me, i just osrt of laugh it off, and pretends like it doesnt bother me.
if there was something REALLY wrong, would she come out and tell me about it? can you see a reason for her sarcasm/passive agressiveness?
Answer Hello to you,
Thanks for being willing to ask this question - it let's me know you'd like to move past where you are.
From reading your response I sense you've already answered your question. It seems from what you wrote girlfriend is distant. When I hear people behave like you've described with your GF, I sense that what you're see is anger, regardless if it's indirect or not.
I appreciate that you don't want to make a big deal of the problem, however, I have a sense that it bothers you,,,,you wouldn't be writing to me otherwise.
I think you're on to something in that there's something amiss and she won't tell you. Perhaps she wants out of the relationship, perhaps she is angry about something in her personal life,,,whatever it is, you know it's something....we need to remember that sarcasm is an indirect form of anger.
I think you have a right to ask her what's going on....I'd come out and tell her that her sarcasm hurts your feelings, and that you have a very strong sense that she's bothered and something is amiss....do whatever you need to do to make it safe for her to tell you.
I wish there were more people like you in the world..you seem like a caring guy - the world needs more of that.
You are always welcome to write back and let me know how it works out.
