AboutLeon Scott Baxter Expertise I can answer questions about keeping love in committed relationships alive and fresh. I am
not the guy to go to if you're having marital problems or if you want to know how to meet
someone. (I've never been good at opening lines.)
I am dedicated to keeping the romance fires burning even after the embers of a new
relationship turn cold. Let me help you find ways to be excited about each other and your
relationship again.
Experience I have written two books, Out of the Doghouse , and A Labor With Love, to help keep romance alive in relationships. I give romance advice locally on radio have a regular newspaper column on relationships. I host a website, CouplesCommittedToLove.com, where I offer advice and give daily romance tips. I also have hosted the seminars, "Romance 101" and "The Valentine Prep Course".
Publications Santa Barbara Independent Magazine, MenStuff.com, SBParent.com, The Goleta Valley Voice, EducationNews.org
Education/Credentials Bachelor's Degree from the University of California, Santa Barbara, as well as a teaching credential.
Awards and Honors KLITE Community Hero and Ben & Jerry's Citizen Cool for my work with children and their focus on academic and personal improvement.
Listed in Who's Who in America. Name was placed on the National Wall of Tolerance for taking a stand against hate, injustice and intolerance.
In high school, voted "Most Likely To Host Saturday Night Live by 1999". Unfortunately, Lorne Michaels never called.
Question hey leon thanks for that answer you gave me it really helped and i told him about it. so he has made promises but i feel like i am pushing him away and i do not want to do that. cause i keep askin questions and he is starting to tell me everything but i keep pushing ans pushing how do i stop this constant pushing. i mean things have gotten better he stops by before and after i go to work and he calls 3 times a day. but i am feelin kinda needy and i do not know why. is it cause of the pregnancy??. how can i start knowin that i can trust him and that when i ask him if he is tellin me everything he truly is. i told him baby we need an open and communicative relationdhip and he said okay i can see he is kind of tryin but when he doesn't call i get very concerned as to what he is doin and then i call he i find out he really is not doing anything. how can i stop being so paranoid please help. and how can i help him to communicate with me without pushing him away. also he ex girlfriend keeps botherin him and on her myspace she keeps claimin him and all this other stuff and i know it is not true and he tells me it is not true but it just bugs me cause wen we are not talkin i feel like him and her are talkin and i hate that feeling and yesterday i we were together and his phone rang and it was he i told him to answer and he did and i said hi and he got mad why is that? also he says that he is mad at her and really doesn't want to talk to her because she told him that she wants to fight me. and i told him you really shouldn't be talking to her period and he stayed quiet. should i be concerned that something is going on. also i keep havin horrible dreams about him and the two gurls he slept with how can i get that to stop cause i really don't want to stress and i am really trying to take care of myself for the baby. and he does not want me to worry either please hel me leon you freakin rock. thanks again for listenin can;t wait to ear from you. much love gaby.
Answer Hello again, Gaby,
You sounded like you wanted this to work, at first. Now, you say you are pushing him away. Sure, could be the hormones. Even the closest of couples sometimes have the pregnant woman distancing herself from her partner. But, also, could be that your maternal instincts are kicking in and you are doing what you think is best for your baby... getting ready to put this thing to an end.
You say he's "kind of" putting in some effort now. Here's the deal; he needs to be putting out 100 percent right now. If he's half-steppin' now, he'll fall back to his old ways in a couple of weeks (months, at most). You need to call him on this or move on.
What is going on with you having a boyfriend who is talking to his ex, who happens to want to beat you up, when you are pregnant?! I'm telling you, Gaby, it's time to step away from this Jerry Springer life and rise above what's going on. You're going to be a mom. If he wants to live this lifestyle, let him. But, you move on. If he has the strength to make the change, take him with you!
You have one of the biggest decisions of your life, right now. It will affect at least three people's futures. Think it through and do what you know is right, not necessarily what is easiest.
