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Expert: Todd
Date: 8/27/2008
Subject: Girls
Question
Hey Todd i was wondering i am 13 and i am slightley overwieght i think i have no chance of asking this girl out that i really like but think i have no chance as shes skinny she always is laughing with me and we are really good mates am i ruining it by asking her out thanks for your help
Answer
Hi Charlie,
Thanks so much for this question. I like to get questions like this as I sense you are sincere.
Wayne Gretzky says that you always miss 100% of the shots you never take. I assume that you like this girl,,,but I am curious...what would hurt worse...the rejection when you ask, or NEVER knowing? For me it's never knowing what happened if I don't ask, or do what I want, or follow-through.. I don't want to be 80 years old sitting in a rocking chair wishing I did this, pining for that..living with should have, I could have, etc.
If you focus on how you feel overweight than you surely have no chance...people will pick up on that. I guess the question to ask yourself is this: if she says no, will how you feel damage the relationship. If you can live with no, then by all means....ask her.....however,,,,,if you never know what will happen because you don't ask????? How will you feel?
My sense is that there are many people in the world we can love. Perhaps spending time with a great girl will compel you to get in a healthier space...
I believe in you...and I invite you to do what your heart tells you....
You are always welcome to write back and let me know how it works out.
Todd
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