AboutLeon Scott Baxter Expertise I can answer questions about keeping love in committed relationships alive and fresh. I am
not the guy to go to if you're having marital problems or if you want to know how to meet
someone. (I've never been good at opening lines.)
I am dedicated to keeping the romance fires burning even after the embers of a new
relationship turn cold. Let me help you find ways to be excited about each other and your
relationship again.
Experience I have written two books, Out of the Doghouse , and A Labor With Love, to help keep romance alive in relationships. I give romance advice locally on radio have a regular newspaper column on relationships. I host a website, CouplesCommittedToLove.com, where I offer advice and give daily romance tips. I also have hosted the seminars, "Romance 101" and "The Valentine Prep Course".
Publications Santa Barbara Independent Magazine, MenStuff.com, SBParent.com, The Goleta Valley Voice, EducationNews.org
Education/Credentials Bachelor's Degree from the University of California, Santa Barbara, as well as a teaching credential.
Awards and Honors KLITE Community Hero and Ben & Jerry's Citizen Cool for my work with children and their focus on academic and personal improvement.
Listed in Who's Who in America. Name was placed on the National Wall of Tolerance for taking a stand against hate, injustice and intolerance.
In high school, voted "Most Likely To Host Saturday Night Live by 1999". Unfortunately, Lorne Michaels never called.
Question my boyfriend and i love eachother very much, though as much as we do we never seem to go on without arguing. i know that i can be very sensitive and defensive sometimes but he never seem to understand and aware of his tones when he is talking. sometimes his tones can really scare me and without him knowing it. then this whole misunderstanding scene starts up. i hate to always arguing and walking away. i admit that i can be a trouble at times and we both never give up with our thoughts. i stand for mine he stands for his and this whole mess begin. sometimes i would walk out and waiting for him to call but he never did. at night i get scared walking outside alone but still wants him to call. when he did not call for a long time i go back to him. this time i am going to wait till he call. if not then i will be out here alone. please give me some advice to make this relationship go right and not down hill. i am afraid that if this keeps continuing then one of us may walk away for ever.
Answer Hello flukie,
How long have you dated? Has he ever hurt you? Has anyone else? I ask because you say he scares you. You both sound pretty stubborn. To make a relationship work, there must be compromise. If he refuses, maybe you can offer compromise first and see if he will follow suit next time. But, if you always find yourself giving in, maybe you two should seek therapy together, if the relationship is so precious.
