Expert: Leon Scott Baxter: - 10/13/2009

Question
my boyfriend and i love eachother very much, though as much as we do we never seem to go on without arguing. i know that i can be very sensitive and defensive sometimes but he never seem to understand and aware of his tones when he is talking. sometimes his tones can really scare me and without him knowing it. then this whole misunderstanding  scene starts up. i hate to always arguing and walking away. i admit that i can be a trouble at times and we both never give up with our thoughts. i stand for mine he stands for his and this whole mess begin. sometimes i would walk out and waiting for him to call but he never did. at night i get scared walking outside alone but still wants him to call. when he did not call for a long time i go back to him. this time i am going to wait till he call. if not then i will be out here alone. please give me some advice to make this relationship go right and not down hill. i am afraid that if this keeps continuing then one of us may walk away for ever.

Answer
Hello flukie,

How long have you dated? Has he ever hurt you? Has anyone else? I ask because you say he scares you. You both sound pretty stubborn. To make a relationship work, there must be compromise. If he refuses, maybe you can offer compromise first and see if he will follow suit next time. But, if you always find yourself giving in, maybe you two should seek therapy together, if the relationship is so precious.

Looking forward to your reply.


Leon Scott Baxter
"America's Romance Guru"
http://www.couplescommittedtolove.com