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About Leon Scott Baxter
Expertise
I can answer questions about keeping love in committed relationships alive and fresh. I am
not the guy to go to if you're having marital problems or if you want to know how to meet
someone. (I've never been good at opening lines.)
I am dedicated to keeping the romance fires burning even after the embers of a new
relationship turn cold. Let me help you find ways to be excited about each other and your
relationship again.
Experience
I have written two books, Out of the Doghouse , and A Labor With Love, to help keep romance alive in relationships. I give romance advice locally on radio have a regular newspaper column on relationships. I host a website, CouplesCommittedToLove.com, where I offer advice and give daily romance tips. I also have hosted the seminars, "Romance 101" and "The Valentine Prep Course".
Publications
Santa Barbara Independent Magazine, MenStuff.com, SBParent.com, The Goleta Valley Voice, EducationNews.org
Education/Credentials
Bachelor's Degree from the University of California, Santa Barbara, as well as a teaching credential.
Awards and Honors
KLITE Community Hero and Ben & Jerry's Citizen Cool for my work with children and their focus on academic and personal improvement.
Listed in Who's Who in America. Name was placed on the National Wall of Tolerance for taking a stand against hate, injustice and intolerance.
In high school, voted "Most Likely To Host Saturday Night Live by 1999". Unfortunately, Lorne Michaels never called.
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Expert: Leon Scott Baxter - 10/26/2009
Question
Hey there I need some help. Me and my partner have been through some really rough patches recently and have broken up three times now. We got back together yesterday and I want to know how I can silence these little black thoughts in my head telling me it (the relationahip) can't work.
We were together initally for about 20 months and it was going well but recently I had been thinking that it couldn't work. I always had these niggling doubts but before recently I managed to keep them in the back of my head. My partner is funny and very very beautiful and the sex even now is still amazing. We are trying to cut down on the texting (about 200 a day at it's nadir) and to call each other a little more (so you know I am 20 and she is 18)
I want to try I want to try and see if there is still something there because I still care about her. Whether I LOVE her is a different matter but since this is my first relationship I don't know. I really want to try and make this work, please help!
Kind Regards
Byron
Answer
Hello Byron,
Why have you two broken up? And, why have you returned? What are these black thoughts you are thinking? What exactly are you afraid of? Why do you think this can't work?
Sorry for all of the questions, but they are important. Let me offer you a couple of links while you ponder my questions. The first is about what happens to relationships 6 to 18 months into them (your made it a full 20)...http://www.couplescommittedtolove.com/report_10_fades.php.
Also,you seemed to doubt if you were in love. This tells you what love is, in case you were wondering (http://www.couplescommittedtolove.com/whatlove.php).
And, finally, take it easy on the calls and texts. I usually tell couples that communication is key, but you two need to have your own lives, too. Cut the umbilical cord and save some things to tell each other when you get together face-to-face.
Leon Scott Baxter
"America's Romance Guru"
http://www.couplescommittedtolove.com
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