AboutKindred Beisinger penname K D Elizabeth Beisinger Expertise I am able to answer questions regarding dating, courtship, and marriage after divorce. I feel equipped to address questions and comments regarding old baggage and past mistakes. I can also answer questions pertaining to blended families and step-children. I can not answer questions that involve manipulating the partners behavior or outlook.
Experience I am a minister that teaches and counsels G-d's instruction for stable relationships. My husband and I have both been married before. I have worked with battered women and facilitated groups for men with anger issues. As a minister, I have officiated several weddings in the past decade, with only one resulting in divorce.
Question my ex and I were in a relationship for five months - now we are back to the word 'friend'. We used to love each other so much that we used to talk about our future (like our car and house in the future and so on). However, during in the relation we often had different perspective, thoughts, and concepts on many things. We usually had conflict with old same story.
She broke up with me (so surprise as we loved each other so much) because for the better as she could not fulfill my needs and she felt she was not being herself anymore (i was being to greedy, now i realize that things that she had done for me were more than enough...i have changed). Before she walked away from my life, she told me that she still love me, but her feeling (not love) is no good...need to recover! I used to do all the things (crying, told her that i love her, not enough reason to break up, text her) to get her back, but now i stopped and give her space (1 sms in 2 weeks and see her once a week as we work at same place). She told me get back to be friends, but her behaviour at present is worse than a friend...nearly a strangle.
Honestly, i'm afraid that i might lose her forever...please tell me how to get her back...please!!! i just need one more chance!!!
NOW I HAVE REALIZED HOW MUCH I WAS WRONG AND NOW I AM A NEW PERSON!
Thank for your advice in advance!
Answer Dear Pon,
If you truly are a new person, she will see that. An emotionally greedy, demanding, needy man is not easy to deal with and as a woman, I can tell you, once a woman lets go of that, it's hard to give it another try. You are simply going to have to accept her friendship for now, or as you said, "worse." The fact that you are wanting more, rather than what she has asked, makes me wonder if you really have changed. If you have, then respect her wishes and be her friend. If not, I think you'll end up losing her completely in your life. If you respect her wishes and treat her as a caring friend, she just might come back around.
I wish you well.
Kind Regards,
KD Liz
www.eingedi.us
