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Expert: Kindred Beisinger penname K D Elizabeth Beisinger - 11/2/2009
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"we went to the cinema together and he was all over me(holding my waist, putting his face close to mine) and after i told him i love him. he said he didnt feel the same way and hopes i dont hate him for that and that he wants to be friends. and later on that night i asked him to explain why he said that, firstly he said he didnt feel any spark(and how do i make him feel that spark) and then i asked him why did you lead me on then? and he said its because he's used to casually holding girl's hands and hands on the waist,like without feelings and just basically messing about with them and he also said if a girl "gives" herself to him.(leans on him,like i did)..he doesnt push them away.because he knows and they know they're just messing about. but i have feelings for him. but i only found out about this after i texted him i love him. and now i want to make him feel that spark to like me? i am crazy about him, cant stop thinking of him and its really affecting me-my diet(no appetite),cant sleep,cant concreate.
please help"
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Dear Kate,
I'm sorry. I think he sounds like a player and a creep. He was all over you and the more you responded the more he accepted and "continued." Then you verbalized your feelings and he wants to be friends, but I don't really think that's what he wants. I think he wants you to be willing to do and give anything, for him to have that spark. Alot of guys operate this way. If he can get you to keep trying to win him, he wins! I'd say, move on, quickly. He's just not worth it.
I know this isn't the answer you want, but I just think if you continue to try to make him feel more for you, there will be further heartbreak and rejection down the road . . .
Kind Regards,
KD Liz
www.eingedi.us
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