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About Leon Scott Baxter
Expertise
I can answer questions about keeping love in committed relationships alive and fresh. I am
not the guy to go to if you're having marital problems or if you want to know how to meet
someone. (I've never been good at opening lines.)
I am dedicated to keeping the romance fires burning even after the embers of a new
relationship turn cold. Let me help you find ways to be excited about each other and your
relationship again.
Experience
I have written two books, Out of the Doghouse , and A Labor With Love, to help keep romance alive in relationships. I give romance advice locally on radio have a regular newspaper column on relationships. I host a website, CouplesCommittedToLove.com, where I offer advice and give daily romance tips. I also have hosted the seminars, "Romance 101" and "The Valentine Prep Course".
Publications
Santa Barbara Independent Magazine, MenStuff.com, SBParent.com, The Goleta Valley Voice, EducationNews.org
Education/Credentials
Bachelor's Degree from the University of California, Santa Barbara, as well as a teaching credential.
Awards and Honors
KLITE Community Hero and Ben & Jerry's Citizen Cool for my work with children and their focus on academic and personal improvement.
Listed in Who's Who in America. Name was placed on the National Wall of Tolerance for taking a stand against hate, injustice and intolerance.
In high school, voted "Most Likely To Host Saturday Night Live by 1999". Unfortunately, Lorne Michaels never called.
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Expert: Leon Scott Baxter - 11/1/2009
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QUESTION: Hello again. In reference to why I may be sabotaging the relationship, I'm not sure why. I guess I have a habit in life of stopping something half way through and starting afresh in everything, work, games etc. I guess I am just scared of making the commitment necessary to make it work, when I think about it 40, 50, 60 years is a long time and I guess I'm scared of it.
Kind Regards
Byron
ANSWER: Hello again, Byron,
What I wonder, though, is why. Can you pinpoint a reason for this fear? It's not always, but very often it stems from something familial. What happened in your family growing up that may have contributed to this fear and the sabotaging?
Leon Scott Baxter
"America's Romance Guru"
http://www.couplescommittedtolove.com
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QUESTION: I'm not sure. My parents have been happily married for 22 years so I can't think of any particular reason, whats more my parents are near enough soul mates in everything. My mum has real fears of being a grandmother and has fears about her age but thats about it really.
Kind Regards
Byron
ANSWER: Hello again, Byron,
I wonder if you have any concerns that you won't live up to what your parents have achieved.
Leon Scott Baxter
"America's Romance Guru"
http://www.couplescommittedtolove.com
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QUESTION: That could we be it. I am scared that I won't achieve what my parents have and all I really want is to find someone. I may be looking at my uncle who is now on his fifth marriage in 12 years and maybe thinking that I am destined to follow in his unfortunate footsteps so to speak.
Kind Regards
Byron
Answer
Hello again, Byron,
That could be it. If that's the case, you need to stop worrying about reaching your parents' standard, or befalling the same fate as your uncle. Instead you need to discover what your relationship goals are, and then work like mad to meet them. And, be warned, that along the way, we often try and fail, until we have had ample experience. Then the Universe will finally put before us the person that is our soul-mate... usually only after we are ready.
Leon Scott Baxter
"America's Romance Guru"
http://www.couplescommittedtolove.com
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