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About Olga Sheean
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I specialize in addressing the negative subconscious programming that causes dysfunction and disempowerment in relationships. I can answer questions on how to attract your ideal partner, how to break out of negative patterns, and how to create healthy, balanced, enlightened relationships. I can explain why things have unfolded the way they have and what you can do to create what you want. My work is about personal empowerment and there are no questions I cannot address in the context of creating healthy, loving relationships. PLEASE NOTE, HOWEVER, THAT I WILL NOT ANSWER LENGTHY QUESTIONS OF MORE THAN 2-3 SHORT PARAGRAPHS.
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I am an author, behavioural kinesiologist, visionary and coach, specializing in personal empowerment, relationships and holistic self-mastery. I teach a powerful system for overcoming dysfunction and resolving life’s challenges, based on an understanding of the power and impact of our subconscious programming. I have been in private practice for 15 years and I specialize in identifying and transforming the negative subconscious programming that runs (and often ruins) our lives, preventing us from having the love, money, success, ease and fullfilment that we want. I have developed ground-breaking techniques and processes for addressing health problems, relationship issues, financial concerns and whatever else may be preventing an individual from being fulfilled and powerful in their life. I use muscle-testing to identify and address each individual's specific issues, and I have developed a system for doing remote testing, which enables me to work with my clients all over the world. My book, Fit for Love - find your self and your perfect mate, is an illustrated workbook that takes readers on a journey of self-discovery, healing and empowerment.
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As a professional writer and editor with 25 years’ experience, I have written some 200 articles on relationships, the environment, alternative health, healing, personal growth, nutrition and popular psychology, and have been a regular feature writer and columnist for several North American magazines (such as Divorce magazine, Common Ground, Health Naturally, BC Woman, Health n Vitality and Real Woman). I was the editor of Vancouver-based Shared Vision magazine for six years and wrote a regular relationship column through 2006, in addition to contributing numerous features from 1996 to 2006. In the late 90s, I established Berkana Books, a self-publishing company that produced non-fiction, self-help titles. I have also worked as a writer, photo-journalist and editor for WWF International in Switzerland and as an editor for the United Nations in Geneva.
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Expert: Olga Sheean - 11/3/2009
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I've been with the same guy 5 years now. In the beginning everything was great, but after the big break up it all fell apart. He's the only guy I've been with intimately (I'm 19 btw) but soon after we split he had two other girls. Now I feel that what I give him is cheapened. When he cheated on me twice in this past year I thought that I could cope, but I now find that I don't desire him sexually. He can tell and its driving us even further apart now that we're together again. Why do I feel so distant and depressed? What can I do to make myself better? How can I help him understand what's going on in my head? I feel that if I resolve my issues we can make it...but I also want to know if this is really something worth salvaging. Please help, I'm so confused.
Answer
Hi M. Why are you with this guy? You tell me you don't desire him sexually; he has cheated on you, so it's obvious he's not making you #1 in his life or treating you with respect, yet you keep going back for more. Why?
The only reason we do this kind of thing is because of low self-worth. If we thought highly of ourselves, we'd tell the other person to take a hike and we'd move on to something better.
That's actually a healthy response. Saying YES to abusive or disrespectful treatment is a form of self-rejection, and this is probably why you're feeling depressed. You're getting negative messages from this person and you're also treating yourself badly by putting up with this.
So, to make yourself feel better, stand up for you. Tell the truth. This does not feel good and it's not working for you. Be honest with yourself as well as with him. Then honour that reality. Move on. Saying NO to what doesn't work for us is the most powerful and effective way to start attracting something better. (Continuing to say YES to something unfulfilling, on the other hand, is guaranteed to bring us more of what we don't want.)
Focus on understanding yourself, rather than trying to get him to understand you (or love you more). It just won't work. Only when you start saying NO to this kind of unhealthy dynamic will things improve.
Good luck!
Olga
www.olgasheean.com
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