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Question I dont even know where to start. I am 18 years old, and Ive just graduated high school. When I was 8 my mom passed away from cancer, and I ended up moving in with my 23 year old sister and her husband. My dad and mom both had drinking problems which cause them not be around much while I was growing up, and through most of my childhood my mom was sick which also caused her to go in and out of the hospital a lot. My sister and I have always been very close, and I see her mostly as my mother. I only see my dad once a week, and we arent very close at all. Ever since I was a young child Ive had a hard time talking with people and when my mom died it made it even worse. I am the type of person who keeps everything to herself, and I am very independent. I never really talked to anyone about my mothers death, and I never saw a couselor or anyone like that. Lately Ive noticed that I have changed a great amount, and Ive been keeping to myself more than ever. I honestly think that I am depressed and I dont know what to do. I feel so unhappy all the time. I used to want to do everything possible and I was always busy with school or work or friends. I know I have an amazing life that many people would love to live, but for some reason I am never happy. I honestly dont know what to do. Ive never thought about committing suicide but I often think about what life would be like with my mom here with me, and I just wonder if theres even a point to life anymore. I have also been diagnosed with anorexia and bullemia. I was seeing a therapist for that but I ended up just not seeing her anymore because I felt that if she didnt know anything about me, and I have THE hardest time talking to people that it was useless. I have so many reasons to be happy and I do know that, but I havent figured out why I of all people would be so unhappy. Please help asap.
Answer Dear Lindsay,
My heart goes out to you. There is so much to life and this I know. You were created to fulfill your purpose here on earth. Every person that comes into our world cannot be replaced because there are no two people alike. God made you an individual with gifts, talents, and challenges. Your personality, along with your spirit, makes you needed in this world.
We find out purpose through both the bad things that happen to us and the good things. Look at John Walsh who created American's Most Wanted after his child was murdered and all the good he has done in this world.
You are depressed because you do not know your purpose yet. One way to learn to know your purpose is for you to find your spiritual path. Do you have a church that helps you feel and know your purpose? if not, then you could start there. You might also read the New Testament every day.
There is an excellent book that I also think might help. It is by Dr. Laura Schleslinger called "Bad Childhood, Good Life."
Whatever we go through gives us the power to help others are going through similar things. There is a place for you that no one else can fill.
When the things that used to be satisfying to you are no longer satisfying that only means that there is a change for you that is important. Your emotions and body are telling you that it is time to seek something more, or a different path. You are feeling the shift.
Now is not the time to be discouraged but have courage and start seeking and searching. Say a prayer every morning and ask God what you should do that day and then follow the things that come into your mind to do. Thank God in advance for helping you find your path.
Maybe you have not been able to talk things out because you haven't found the right person who will understand and be able to guide you, or help you with the tools to be happy.
As you sit a pray or meditate, ask yourself what you would like to do to make the world a better place and start jotting down ideas that come to mind. This could very well lead you to find your purpose.
No one is completely happy all the time but you should be able to have a sense of peace and purpose. When a person feels unhappy it is because they really care a lot about something and so now with these things, maybe this will help you find what purpose you have and what would help give you that peace.
You can contact me through my website, www.personalityconsultant.com. It is being worked on but an email should come through. If you have a problem, you can contact me on My Space and ask questions, too. I am also on FaceBook. Remind me of who you are so I will know who is contacting me. OK?
I wish you the very best and I know that if you keep searching you will find that peace and purpose and then you will be able to communicate better. Holding back communication means that you are low in self confidence right now but that will change as you move forward.
Please feel free to contact me again. If you can't reach me other ways, ask another question and make it private and I will send you my private email.
