Past/Present clients Hundreds of people from all walks of life. Experience: 25 years in the field of Personistics (innate personality characteristics)that includes: private personality profiling, Life Guidance Coaching, Business consulting, teaching numerous classes & seminars, lectures, and participating in radio talk shows.
Question yesterday my girlfriend of a year and a half asked if we could have a break. so we can grow up and live a carefree life. we both haven't had that yet. she also said we need not be so tied down so young. she is 19 and I'm 18. we've decided to stay best friends an stay in each others live. just not have a title or be intimate. we believe that we just need to start over. get that spark back that we had when we met. if it works out we are both hoping to get back together when we are both ready. we are so deeply in love still. what do you think about this? will it work?
Answer Hi. I think it is a great idea because too, too many people feel this way after marriage and three kids and then family life is disrupted and it can be a real mess.
Will it work? I hate to say it, but you probably won't get back together. People grow and change an awful lot during these years and what you wanted, or thought you wanted, at 18 is usually not what you want at 25. That is because the ideas of life are still forming until at least age 25. People discover who they are and usually make very different choices when they get older. One ends up wanting a quiet country life and the other a busy city life, one wants a lot of kids the other doesn't, one wants a busy social life and the other wants quiet evenings at home, one wants to explore and travel the other doesn't, one wants to pursue and talk about the sciences while the other is interested in the Country Club and golf.
Don't hold back in exploring who you are and what you want and try not to feel badly about this. If you are not really a match it is best this way. If you are a true match you will get back together.
I hope you find the happiness you seek. It might be with your gf and it might not be.
