AboutLeon Scott Baxter Expertise I can answer questions about keeping love in committed relationships alive and fresh. I am
not the guy to go to if you're having marital problems or if you want to know how to meet
someone. (I've never been good at opening lines.)
I am dedicated to keeping the romance fires burning even after the embers of a new
relationship turn cold. Let me help you find ways to be excited about each other and your
relationship again.
Experience I have written two books, Out of the Doghouse , and A Labor With Love, to help keep romance alive in relationships. I give romance advice locally on radio have a regular newspaper column on relationships. I host a website, CouplesCommittedToLove.com, where I offer advice and give daily romance tips. I also have hosted the seminars, "Romance 101" and "The Valentine Prep Course".
Publications Santa Barbara Independent Magazine, MenStuff.com, SBParent.com, The Goleta Valley Voice, EducationNews.org
Education/Credentials Bachelor's Degree from the University of California, Santa Barbara, as well as a teaching credential.
Awards and Honors KLITE Community Hero and Ben & Jerry's Citizen Cool for my work with children and their focus on academic and personal improvement.
Listed in Who's Who in America. Name was placed on the National Wall of Tolerance for taking a stand against hate, injustice and intolerance.
In high school, voted "Most Likely To Host Saturday Night Live by 1999". Unfortunately, Lorne Michaels never called.
Question I've known this girl D for a month and we've gotten pretty physical and stuff (I won't go into necessary detail) but she has a boyfriend whose moving to the other side of the country at the end of the month and we've been talking about starting a relationship. Last night she and I were texting but I was busy with my friends and I wasn't really paying attention to my phone and when I got home and checked my phone and she got mad that I wasn't texting her back and now she's mad that I was ignoring her and is giving me one word answers. We might be hanging out tomorrow so is there anything specific I should say to spark it back up?
Answer Hello Kyle,
I'll be honest, Kyle. I think you should avoid getting involved with D until she is available. I know you've already started something with her, but she's cheating on her boyfriend. If you want a relationship with her, do you really think that she'll be faithful to you? You might be amazed at how often a person who cheats on her partner, will end up cheating on her new partner as well.
You owe nothing to her boyfriend, but you should be respectful, and if she's going to be unfaithful to him, don't you be the one who she's unfaithful with. If you really want to be with her, use this opportunity what with her giving you one word answers to allow some space between the two of you until he's out of the picture.
I know... not what you wanted to hear from me. Will you follow my advice? It will difficult, but I hope so. If she really wants to be with you, she'll return to you after her boyfriend leaves. I would even stipulate that she has to officially break up with him before you continue this relationship.
Just think about how you'd feel if you discovered your girlfriend was cheating on you. How would you feel about that other guy? Don't be that other guy.
