Expert: Leon Scott Baxter: - 6/11/2009

Question
I've known this girl D for a month and we've gotten pretty physical and stuff (I won't go into necessary detail) but she has a boyfriend whose moving to the other side of the country at the end of the month and we've been talking about starting a relationship. Last night she and I were texting but I was busy with my friends and I wasn't really paying attention to my phone and when I got home and checked my phone and she got mad that I wasn't texting her back and now she's mad that I was ignoring her and is giving me one word answers. We might be hanging out tomorrow so is there anything specific I should say to spark it back up?

Answer
Hello Kyle,

I'll be honest, Kyle. I think you should avoid getting involved with D until she is available. I know you've already started something with her, but she's cheating on her boyfriend. If you want a relationship with her, do you really think that she'll be faithful to you? You might be amazed at how often a person who cheats on her partner, will end up cheating on her new partner as well.

You owe nothing to her boyfriend, but you should be respectful, and if she's going to be unfaithful to him, don't you be the one who she's unfaithful with. If you really want to be with her, use this opportunity what with her giving you one word answers to allow some space between the two of you until he's out of the picture.

I know... not what you wanted to hear from me. Will you follow my advice? It will difficult, but I hope so. If she really wants to be with you, she'll return to you after her boyfriend leaves. I would even stipulate that she has to officially break up with him before you continue this relationship.

Just think about how you'd feel if you discovered your girlfriend was cheating on you. How would you feel about that other guy? Don't be that other guy.

Leon Scott Baxter
"America's Romance Guru"
http://www.couplescommittedtolove.com