Expert: Manju Rakshit - 6/23/2009

Question
well i've been dating this guy for a year and a half and we have an awesome relationship and all but, he doesn't always call me when it's his turn, or he'll make up excuses as to why he didn't write me a letter( we write back and forth) i mean it gets tiring. he says he loves me and i love him i just want him to knock off the excuses and tell the truth...i mean there little white lies that i wouln't even care about if he just told me up front about.

Answer
This is a tricky one, Catherine!

The problem here is, either he has another girlfriend or he's plain lazy or else, he doesn't want to spend money. In fact, it's also possible that he has some family problem/ work problem and is stuck there all the time.

Any of the above are possible but since you said that you two have a great relationship, the best thing you can do is to have a good, frank talk with him.

Don't keep your tone accusatory. Be gentle and patient even if he doesn't want to come out with the problem. Tell him that you really love him and you want to know and no matter what, you are with him at all times.

I am confident this will solve your problem.

Best of luck and thanks for the question!