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Question hi, my name is Hima,i am 24 years old...i have been into a relationsnhip with my boyfriend past a year.he lives in different country and i live in different country, he used to come down specially to meet me.we both work in the same company but different branch. Couple of weeks back he came to know about my past relationships (particularly physical relationships) which i had not tell him before due to the fear of loosing him, he loved me alot, he was damn serious about our relationship, i too love him the same way he does to me, but now as he has come to know about my past, he just cant take it as i had hidden from him and had told him a lie, but now i have admitted my mistake and i am feeling really guilty about what i did. i have realized my mistake. i asked him to forgive me once and to give me a chance to prove myself, he says he doesnt want to keep any relationship with me, as he doesnt trust me anymore and he hates me now for what i did to him, i told him all the truth n promised him il never repeat my mistake again in my life, but he doesnt believe in anything whatever i say him... i tried my best to get him back to me, but he doesnt listen anything, he doesnt even answer my fone...i tried my best to explain him and make him understnd, but he only thinks that im lying to him...i cant go to hes place and meet him cuz of my parents will not allow me to travel... i really love him and i know that he loves me too, i want to save my relationship anyhow, we both had also decided to marry but i guess he will not marry me now, hes very upset and angry as i have hurted him alot, and i am really sorry about what i did to him....Please help me in saving my relationship...
Answer Hello HIma,
I can help people when they have differences when both want to work it out but in this case, he has lost your trust. I guess this is a good reason not to have sex until marriage as the next guy that comes along feels cheated.
The question is, has he had past relationships, too? If so, then you could write him and tell him that if you can forget his past he should be able to forget your past, too.
Otherwise, I do not know what you can do. You have apologized and done what you can. Perhaps if you just stop trying to contact him, he will miss you and later on call when he has time to think about it.
I hope that he can forgive you in a little while so that you can be together. But it won't work out if he keeps bringing up the past. Think about that, too.
That is all I can suggest. Wish I could be more help.
