AboutLeon Scott Baxter Expertise I can answer questions about keeping love in committed relationships alive and fresh. I am
not the guy to go to if you're having marital problems or if you want to know how to meet
someone. (I've never been good at opening lines.)
I am dedicated to keeping the romance fires burning even after the embers of a new
relationship turn cold. Let me help you find ways to be excited about each other and your
relationship again.
Experience I have written two books, Out of the Doghouse , and A Labor With Love, to help keep romance alive in relationships. I give romance advice locally on radio have a regular newspaper column on relationships. I host a website, CouplesCommittedToLove.com, where I offer advice and give daily romance tips. I also have hosted the seminars, "Romance 101" and "The Valentine Prep Course".
Publications Santa Barbara Independent Magazine, MenStuff.com, SBParent.com, The Goleta Valley Voice, EducationNews.org
Education/Credentials Bachelor's Degree from the University of California, Santa Barbara, as well as a teaching credential.
Awards and Honors KLITE Community Hero and Ben & Jerry's Citizen Cool for my work with children and their focus on academic and personal improvement.
Listed in Who's Who in America. Name was placed on the National Wall of Tolerance for taking a stand against hate, injustice and intolerance.
In high school, voted "Most Likely To Host Saturday Night Live by 1999". Unfortunately, Lorne Michaels never called.
Question "My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 and a half months now.....At first, our friends we're cheering for us and encouraging us so I felt brave. At the first few weeks, we would meet(my bf and i) with our friends and hang out and sometimes, he'd ask to hold my hand:) after a while...it seemed different. Girls(his exes) started hanging out with my group and they keep spending time with him....like flirting with him. After that, one of my friend keeps telling us to break up cuz he should date the other girl. I'm starting to doubt if he really likes me cuz he treats me so different. I don't know what to talk to im about cuz he never talks about anything. We just had our grad and we danced all the slow songs together. but now its summer and im scared tat we are going to drift apart. i dont know what to do and how to ask or make him spend time with me. im a really shy person and not really talkative. how do i make our relationship better in where we really are affectionate with each other.
Answer Hello Sheila,
Can you tell me how old you and your boyfriend are? Have either of you had relationships before this one? If so, how long were they and how did they end?
So, what is it that you like about this young man? What draws you to him? I want to know because it sound s like your friends may have helped steer you two together, and now they are trying to break you up.
He doesn't talk that much, so what is it that you find attractive? And, do you think that this relationship is more choice or your friends'?
I think it would be healthy for your relationship if the two of you spent some alone time together. that will allow you two to be together without the influences of your friends, and it would hopefully get you communicating and help him to open up, and let you two connect.
Why not ask him to go miniature golfing or to the beach or going bowling or something fun, just the two of you, so you can open up and connect. And, the more you connect, the easier it will be to be more affectionate.
