AboutLeon Scott Baxter Expertise I can answer questions about keeping love in committed relationships alive and fresh. I am
not the guy to go to if you're having marital problems or if you want to know how to meet
someone. (I've never been good at opening lines.)
I am dedicated to keeping the romance fires burning even after the embers of a new
relationship turn cold. Let me help you find ways to be excited about each other and your
relationship again.
Experience I have written two books, Out of the Doghouse , and A Labor With Love, to help keep romance alive in relationships. I give romance advice locally on radio have a regular newspaper column on relationships. I host a website, CouplesCommittedToLove.com, where I offer advice and give daily romance tips. I also have hosted the seminars, "Romance 101" and "The Valentine Prep Course".
Publications Santa Barbara Independent Magazine, MenStuff.com, SBParent.com, The Goleta Valley Voice, EducationNews.org
Education/Credentials Bachelor's Degree from the University of California, Santa Barbara, as well as a teaching credential.
Awards and Honors KLITE Community Hero and Ben & Jerry's Citizen Cool for my work with children and their focus on academic and personal improvement.
Listed in Who's Who in America. Name was placed on the National Wall of Tolerance for taking a stand against hate, injustice and intolerance.
In high school, voted "Most Likely To Host Saturday Night Live by 1999". Unfortunately, Lorne Michaels never called.
Question I have been dating a guy for about 3 years we have some issues.. I am in my mid twentys him a few years older.. We do not currently have the "strongest" relationship we have been through some hard times recently he always results to breaking up which gives me some insecuritys. He recently just got a new job and works with this 23 year old girl 8 hours a day.. I dont feel comfortable I have only meet her once when I dropped off lunch for him one day and she kept looking back at him when we were talking and not me so it just was a bit uncomfortable.. She knows we are together but she also some how knows we do not live together and he lives with roommates (is that weird they are talking about stuff like that) Anyway they have only been working together 2 maybe 3 weeks and she asked him to help her move, shes obviously moving soon. He just told me this today that oh by the way ---- needs some help moving and asked me if me and my roommates could help her. He was talking about how she has to move back in with her mom to help her out b/c her mom lost her job and he feels bad for her and she does not have anyone else and so on and so on.. I just feel like ok there is no one else this girl knows that can help her move shes asking a guy she just meet.. He told me well I figured you would come with us and help her move.. The thing is I work and go to school working on my Bach. so I have either work or school 7 days a week so chances are I prob. will not be able to go.. I told him this makes me feel alittle uncomfortable since I do not really know this girl and it just seems kindof weird but he didnt really care and just got mad at me that I felt that way and said well im going either way.. Am I reading too much into this or is this weird this girl he works w/ only 2 weeks is asking him to help her move??
Answer Hello Kim,
I'm not sure if you are reading too much into this or not. I need to know why after three years you are so suspicious. Has something occurred in the past? has he ever been unfaithful to you/ Has another bf cheated on you? What about your parents? have they always been faithful? What about you? Have you cheated on this or any other boyfriend?
If there is no history of cheating anywhere in your past, I would venture to say that you MIGHT be overreacting. Who knows? Maybe she is trying to make a move on him. But, if you two have always been faithful, don't you trust that he'd make the right choice after three years?
I'm just getting a feeling that there's a trust issue somewhere here that you haven't yet mentioned. Let me know.
