How to Strengthen Your Relationship/Arguing

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I have been talking to my mate for four months now and at first it was all good. Recently we agreed that a relationship is in our future but now we argue about every little thing. Sensitivity, jealously and past ex's seem to be the root of all our problems. I'm not sure how to fix it. Does this mean we aren't right for eachother or do we just need to sit down and find a solution?

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Hi Natacha!

Good for you in trying to figure this all out.  To me, it says there are some unresolved issues within each of your pasts that are coming up now.  Perhaps it revolves around communication and trust issues that one or both of you experienced either in a past relationship(s) or within your own family of origin (what you may have seen and experienced from your own parent's relationship).  Clearly, these things are important to talk about and address.  Can this happen?  Stuart

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Stuart A. Kaplowitz, MFT

Expertise

how to help relationship. How to address issues within relationship......I am pretty open here

Experience

20th year in the field. Managed and directed clinical programs. Now, I work out of my own office as well as supervise counselors

Organizations
California Association of Marriage & Family Therapists

Publications
The California Therapist

Education/Credentials
B.A. Psychology M.S. Counseling Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

Awards and Honors
Hero of the Heart - Covina Valley USD

Past/Present Clients
I work with individuals, couples, families and children

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