How to Strengthen Your Relationship/A New Interest


I recently started talking to a new girl and she's perfect. She's my type and everything. However, her past is bothering me and I'm afraid it'll cause problems. She flat out, laughingly told me she lost her virginity because she was "sorta raped" (her words). When talking about a relationship, she acted like they weren't worth it. Because of my work schedule, I won't see her till the end of the month but she's excited about it. I like her a lot but she distrusts guys. I know her being raped was not her fault and I would never tell her that. I want her to know that she can trust me and I would never hurt her like her past relationships did.

Hello Quinn,

The problem is that you do not really know her well enough to know if she is perfect for you or not. That is what dating is for, to see if you are compatible and to see how they treat you and others. People usually put on a good show at first, when they date and then later on the real person comes out.

The key here is don't borrow trouble until it shows up. Just go ahead and date her and get to know her without making a judgment at this time. Time will tell if her past brings problems, or if other things come up that causes problems. Without saying anything to her, she will soon know if she can trust you or not.  Just enjoy her company until issues, if any, come up- and then deal with one thing at a time.  

Be polite and respectful of her, and then pretty soon you will know if you two will really make a good team.

I wish you the best.

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Sharon Crandall


Certified Personality Manager. Trained in Personality Science, which is reading over 60 genetic traits from physical features. From any years of experience, Sharon can recognize traits, not only from looking at physical features, but from description of behavior. She has helped people in choosing a mate, marriage, parenting, self development, and it businesses. Over 30 years of teaching classes, business and personal workshops, and conducting private Personality Management sessions--helping design individual's lives. She also trains people to become Personality Consultants and Personality Managers.

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