Expert: Sharon Crandall - 6/18/2006

Question
I'm having problems communicating with my boyfriend.  We go to the same school and I'm just a year above him but we don't see eachother at school or out side school as much as we used to and I'm getting fed up. I've told him twice and we fought about it but he still hasn't quite made an improvement. I feel I'm making all the effort.. I really love him, he's amazing but I'm getting sick of this process.

Answer
Dear Jenny,

Honey, if you want a guy to chase you you have to run away from him.  Stop caling himl stop being the one to make the relationship work, steop pestering him.  Beh cheerful, happy and going places.  Be a smart woman who has a life outside of your guy.  When he calls be cheerful and make no demands but be busy and let him kno wthat you will do your best to work him into your schedule, if you can.

Always be the first one to end the telephone conversation by needing to go wash your hair, or do your laundry or some other simple task. Don't try to make him jealous with another guy that usually beackfires.  But if you are busy doing every day things that will cause him to scratch his head and wonder what is happening.

We can't change human nature and the more you chase after him and take all the responsibility for the relationship the more he will run the other way.

Unless he truly has grown apart from you, which might be the case, becasue people do grow in different directions some times, then your not caring, but being happy and cheerful attitude will get him back./

Let me know what happens.  I am having trouble with my monitor and can't see what i am writing very well, so please excuse errors.

Sharon Crandall
Personality Consultant