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| Subject | Date Asked |
| Is it me, or is it him? | 12/5/2011 |
| Q: ) I'm having a bit of an issue and i need some advice. Just to give you a little background, i am a ... A: Whether he's The One or not, you have an opportunity here to go deeper with yourself. I'd say it's ... | |
| Relationship Problems | 11/3/2011 |
| Q: my name is Shawn and I have some questions to ask you. I have been with my girlfriend for just under ... A: I can understand your frustration. The key problem here is that you need her to love you back. But ... | |
| Confused | 3/12/2011 |
| Q: Me and my girlfriend have been dating for four months. There are alot of things going on but i try ... A: I think it's time for some honesty - with yourself and with her. Step back and consider what it is ... | |
| My relationship needs help. | 2/21/2011 |
| Q: How can I make my current situation of arguing and fighting with my girlfriend better? Seemingly all ... A: First, I think you need to decide what you really want. Are you a good match? Do you genuinely love ... | |
| Help me, please | 2/1/2011 |
| Q: Hey Olga! I'm 15 yrs. old and my boyfriend is 17yrs. old. We've been dating for only five months ... A: Sorry to hear you're having a hard time in your relationship. I think the hardest thing to do in a ... | |
| last stage of our relationship. | 10/22/2010 |
| Q: I have been in a distance relationship for than 4 years.We love each other a lot and we are engaged ... A: There are two things that we all have to learn if we want to have loving, lasting relationships: 1. ... | |
| Relationship hanging by a thread and she wont talk to me to tell me why | 8/1/2010 |
| Q: My gf broke up with me about 9 months ago and i left the UK , went over the the US , met a girl , ... A: I think this calls for a good hard look at your values and at what really matters to you. Healthy, ... | |
| What is the best thing to do | 7/17/2010 |
| Q: olga i want to know what's up with woman that says no to young guys when it comes to asking them ... A: I think being honest and open is the best approach, otherwise you're going to keep guessing about ... | |
| personality clash | 6/16/2010 |
| Q: What is your opinion on the importance of shared interests in a dating relationship? My boyfriend ... A: I think what’s most important in any relationship is to be happy and fulfilled in your life ... | |
| Insecurities | 6/2/2010 |
| Q: I apologize for the length, but upon reading your description and viewing previous anwsers, I ... A: You are right: your boyfriend's issues are to do with what's going on inside him and really have ... | |
| My relationship is slowly falling apart | 2/22/2010 |
| Q: I've been dating the same guy for almost two years now except for a 3 month fall out last year. It's ... A: I would recommend getting some counselling to resolve your issues. You can't have a healthy, loving ... | |
| Valentine's Day 2010 *emergancy* | 2/5/2010 |
| Q: I'm going out with this guy Brenden, starting from last Thursday. Valentine's day is coming up. So ... A: Lauren, this is not really about strengthening your relationship since you don't really have one, ... | |
| I have made serious mistakes in the past, and now my partner is suffering from them. | 2/4/2010 |
| Q: I am in a loving relationship with a wonderful man and we are engaged. However; shortly before our ... A: First of all, your partner is CHOOSING to suffer. He doesn’t have to; he could let this go, in a ... | |
| ?Wats Next | 1/13/2010 |
| Q: Hey I have been with myboyfriend for a year and a few months n I recently broke up with him but ... A: Sorry to hear you're upset, but it sounds as if your ex-boyfriend has already moved on. If he still ... | |
| need quick help | 11/30/2009 |
| Q: I am Tarnjot 21 yrs old from India and my girlfriend 22 yrs old lives in WA USA. Today when i talked ... A: This is a challenging situation because we can never MAKE anyone love us. Love is something that ... | |
| how do i get us back on track? | 11/3/2009 |
| Q: I've been with the same guy 5 years now. In the beginning everything was great, but after the big ... A: Why are you with this guy? You tell me you don't desire him sexually; he has cheated on you, so it's ... | |
| tryin to be a family again | 8/27/2009 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost three years we have two girls together we been ... A: When we feel hurt by something our partner does, it's very hard not to blame that person for the way ... | |
| Back on Track | 8/26/2009 |
| Q: I've been in a relationship for two and a half years. It's been kind of rocky. We have quite a few ... A: I can understand your frustration. The challenge here is to figure out what the underlying issue is. ... | |
| How to get over a betrayal | 8/19/2009 |
| Q: I recently found out my husband of 14 years had been excessively texting and calling another woman. ... A: This obviously brings up issues around trust and honest, open communication, and I'm wondering if ... | |
| Stressful Online Relationship | 8/18/2009 |
| Q: I have been in an online relationship for the past two years. We have had a lot of problems in ... A: As in all relationships, though, we discover things about ourselves by seeing what happens between ... | |
| Taking me for granted | 6/1/2009 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 8 years now.We moved in together right ... A: The problem here is that you’ve given too much in the hope of being loved in return. We do this when ... | |
| Husband spends and hides it | 5/31/2009 |
| Q: Tonight is a typical weekend; a fight with my husband and now sleeping along while he is on the ... A: You cannot help your husband and you should stop trying. Helping him is actually making things worse ... | |
| how do i change it | 5/11/2009 |
| Q: my boyfriend and i have been dating for almost a year. it is really hard to talk to him about issues ... A: I’m assuming you mean you have issues with him or your relationship, rather than issues with ... | |
| relationships | 5/2/2009 |
| Q: How do I go about trying to fix my relationship after I said some hurtful things to him A: The best approach is always heartfelt honesty. If you feel bad about some things you've said, then ... | |
| trust issue | 4/25/2009 |
| Q: I am a woman in her fifties that seems to drift back to the same boyfriends that offer no future. I ... A: I can understand why it would be difficult for you to trust this man or even respect him, and you ... | |
| My boyfriend has changd | 4/14/2009 |
| Q: to start firstly i have known my boyfriend from 9yrs although we have been dating only from 9 months ... A: We tend to be reactive when we don’t get the love we want, rather than making choices based on ... | |
| communication problems, infrequent sex | 4/6/2009 |
| Q: The status: I've been with the same woman for almost 8 and we have "severe" difficulties in ... A: I can understand your frustration and it’s amazing that you’ve remained in the relationship for so ... | |
| Frustrated and Resentful | 3/12/2009 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with a wonderful man for the past 2 1/2 yrs (we have lived together ... A: I understand your frustration. It’s normal to feel resentful and it’s not something to be brushed ... | |
| am confused. | 3/6/2009 |
| Q: I am 24 year old guy and She’s 21. We work in the same office. She’s good @ heart, very reserved and ... A: I can certainly understand your concern. Cancer is often a sign of self-rejection so it’s likely ... | |
| Is she into me | 2/26/2009 |
| Q: my girlfriend and I have been going out for almost 2 and a half years. I feel like my relationship ... A: I’m wondering what you’re doing to liven up your relationship for yourself, not to mention your ... | |
| She said relationships aren't for her. | 2/25/2009 |
| Q: I am a Senior in high school and have recently become involved in a very serious friendship with a ... A: I’m afraid there is no way to make someone like you, and this girl has made it very clear that she ... | |
| Not sure it's right... | 2/19/2009 |
| Q: I've been in this relationship with my boyfriend for close to a year. Going into it, I knew he had ... A: I think the most important thing you can do is look at this in a new way. Forget about your ... | |
| plz help me | 2/13/2009 |
| Q: there is this girl i really like but i dont think she likes me i really want to go out with her she ... A: The best approach is always honesty and open communication. If you don't know how this girl feels ... | |
| How to control my jealous and become confident in my relationship | 1/21/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend is 29 nand I am 23. He is opening a new college bar within the next month which makes ... A: I think you already asked me this question some time ago (and I replied) or else someone else has ... | |
| Is he a lost cause? | 1/19/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating the same guy for the last four years. WE are both really young, I am 19 and he is ... A: Your partner is being abusive and you’re accepting it in the name of love. This is not healthy but ... | |
| Is he losing interest or am I thinking too much? | 1/2/2009 |
| Q: Okay.. so this guy and I have been on and off for about three years. We are both 19 and officially a ... A: Lauren, I believe I just answered another question from you, so please refer to that. I receive many ... | |
| Is he still interested in me? | 1/1/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I are both 19. We have been together for 2 months and have been on and off for ... A: I think your boyfriend is feeling your neediness and it’s pushing him away. You must take care of ... | |
| Moving in together | 12/9/2008 |
| Q: I've got a slight problem- which might not even be a problem, but thats why I've decided to ask you ... A: I understand your dilemma and I think there are two things to consider here. Firstly, there is ... | |
| Regarding my marriage | 11/26/2008 |
| Q: its been 3 years of my marriage. My husband loves me a lot. But he doesnt care for me. it hurts me ... A: You say he loves you but doesn’t care for you, and I’m wondering what the difference is. What counts ... | |
| Relationship going downhill | 11/25/2008 |
| Q: I have been dating this girl for almost 2 years now and I love her and all of that but she is ... A: How would you define your relationship? Would you say you are close, honest with each other, ... | |
| keeping it together | 11/15/2008 |
| Q: My girlfriend tells me that I always defend myself in a disagreement. She tells me that I should ... A: The issue here is acceptance. When we fail to receive the acceptance (i.e. love) that we need as ... | |
| love advice | 10/29/2008 |
| Q: My bf actually broke up with me last tuesday. It hurts. He says he feels that he is not in love ... A: I think it’s time to break free, and to understand the message that this situation holds for you. ... | |
| Should I Stay | 10/27/2008 |
| Q: I've been seeing this guy for a year now, we're not officially dating yet. When I met him he nor I ... A: What are you doing with this man? Why would you keep chasing after someone who obviously does not ... | |
| lost and confused | 10/25/2008 |
| Q: I've been with this guy for a while now, and I've also known for a while now that in July he is ... A: First of all, how DO you feel about this man and about your relationship? Do you want to be with ... | |
| Can people really fall out of love? | 10/24/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for just over a year now. It feels like the most emotional ... A: I understand your dilemma and I can tell you that this is a classic case of negative subconscious ... | |
| make it work | 10/23/2008 |
| Q: well me and my girl have been together for 3 years now we have a baby girl 7 months of age... we ... A: Having a baby is a wonderful thing, but it takes a lot of time and energy, as well as taking the ... | |
| unresolved issue | 9/25/2008 |
| Q: I am 49 and have been dating a 53 year old man about 8 months. We get along great, enjoy alot of ... A: I understand your frustration and the challenges you’re facing but my approach to resolving this ... | |
| my gf isnt talking to me bout much | 9/24/2008 |
| Q: i have a girlfriend and she and i are only 15years of age, we are so connected, but i feel she ... A: Just be there for her, with no demands. Let her come to you if she wants to talk about something. ... | |
| my gf isnt talking to me bout much | 9/23/2008 |
| Q: i have a girlfriend and she and i are only 15years of age, we are so connected, but i feel she ... A: Talking about your feelings can be difficult for some people, especially if they haven’t been ... | |
| What do I do? | 9/11/2008 |
| Q: I am 23 years old. I have been in my current realtionship for a year and seven months. We were ... A: Jeff, what this means is that you work on improving yourself as a person, which benefits you and ... | |
| heyy. | 8/22/2008 |
| Q: I have been with bryan for almost 9 months now. When we first got together he had cheated on me, i ... A: There is obviously an issue of trust here that you need to address. It is almost impossible to have ... | |
| Love and relationships | 8/13/2008 |
| Q: Background info: I am 32 years old and my partner Carol is also 32. We have been together for ... A: I feel there is a lot to be gained from this relationship, but maybe not in the way that you’d ... | |
| kids and relationships | 8/11/2008 |
| Q: I am 32m successful Hispanic and I have been in a relationship with a Asian female 24 who still ... A: You’ve been honest and up front with your girlfriend and you’ve obviously got your head screwed on ... | |
| am i recreating the problems I witnessed with my parents? | 8/9/2008 |
| Q: I was friends with my Boyfriend for 4 years and we are now in a 6month, long-distance relationship. ... A: I can understand your frustration. You seem very dedicated to getting things right yet you’re aware ... | |
| jealousy ruining a good thing | 8/7/2008 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend for three years now. I get so jealous in social situations, esp. When ... A: You are right: jealousy is the result of low self-worth and it is really just another way of saying ... | |
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