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| Subject | Date Asked |
| 7 years and 2 kids - trying to decide what to do... | 2/7/2012 |
| Q: I am 44. I have two boys 1.5 and 3.5. I've been with their father for 7 years. He is 36. We have ... A: I think you have pretty much answered your own question. Your SO is certainly looking for excuses to ... | |
| Insecurties And Fears | 2/4/2012 |
| Q: I'm a thirty year old female and I'm currently in a relationship with someone i love very much who ... A: Did you live through your past experiences? Yes. Are you still a loving and giving person? Yes. Can ... | |
| Over thinking things/Paranoia/Anxiety | 2/2/2012 |
| Q: So I've been with my boyfriend for a little over two months now (I know its not long) However, I ... A: The battle for truth and happiness starts in the mind. You need to talk to yourself differently. It ... | |
| Could you please help me in my confusing relationship :( | 1/30/2012 |
| Q: I'm 17 and in a long distance relationship with a wonderful girl for a year and a half. She's going ... A: Sometimes it is really hard for me to be truthful to people who write to me. It would be much easier ... | |
| Can affection be the problem? | 1/30/2012 |
| Q: I have a bit of an issue in my brand new relationship. I have been dating him for a few months now, ... A: It takes awhile for the real personality to come out and now his is coming out. you came from a very ... | |
| Jealous Over Video Games | 1/13/2012 |
| Q: I am in an amazing relationship with a guy I adore. Unfortunately, we don’t share a lot of hobbies. ... A: At first I thought you were going to tell me that your boyfriend plays for hours every day and that ... | |
| On a relationship break | 1/7/2012 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend were together for 10 months. We were very close friends for all 4 years of high ... A: Unfortunately, this happens often because people grow apart during these years when there is so much ... | |
| My relationship is failing. | 1/6/2012 |
| Q: I'm barely 17, but I have been in a serious relationship with my boyfriend for a little over a year. ... A: Happiness is a choice. The more you are mentally and emotionally healthy the more you attract the ... | |
| what is happening | 1/3/2012 |
| Q: I have been together with my boyfriend for almost 6years. The first two years were great, since we ... A: I don't know if this relationship is worth saving or not. It really depends on you. Your boyfriend ... | |
| On relationship break - should i stay or leave? | 1/2/2012 |
| Q: I have been going out with my boyfriend for 3 years now. After our 1st year of dating, i had ... A: This is what I think. I think you handle his contact with you quite well. I always think it best not ... | |
| On relationship break - should i stay or leave? | 12/24/2011 |
| Q: I have been going out with my boyfriend for 3 years now. After our 1st year of dating, i had ... A: You probably did nothing wrong but your bf new that it was getting time to either move forward ... | |
| why did he fall out of love with me? | 12/19/2011 |
| Q: I went out with a guy for two months, we were really serious pretty early on, everything just seemed ... A: Almost all relationships that starts out "perfect" is usually unrealistic. It all seems so perfect ... | |
| Guy is confused so we finally took a break, now what? | 12/19/2011 |
| Q: I met my "boyfriend" 3 years ago. we were both involved with someone at the time and was friends at ... A: Almost always, taking a break means the person either wants to break up, or, the relationship is ... | |
| What should I do when my girlfriend wants a break? | 12/16/2011 |
| Q: I am 28 years old, I have been together with my girlfriend for 3 years now. In the first year, we ... A: Unfortunately, your girlfriend is just not ready to settle down and didn't have the courage to tell ... | |
| He's frustrated with my depression. | 12/9/2011 |
| Q: I've been with my guy for just over two years. We began dating in our senior year of high school and ... A: The reason I told you to talk to him the way I suggested was that it emphasized praise of him and ... | |
| He's frustrated with my depression. | 12/9/2011 |
| Q: I've been with my guy for just over two years. We began dating in our senior year of high school and ... A: Several things. I will address the situation with your boyfriend in a bit. But first, and most is ... | |
| Fallen into Routine | 12/5/2011 |
| Q: Before I ask for advice, I feel that I should give you a short background, so that you would have a ... A: I actually think you handled it very well. You waited until he contacted you and then you were ... | |
| Fallen into Routine | 12/3/2011 |
| Q: Before I ask for advice, I feel that I should give you a short background, so that you would have a ... A: What you said to your boyfriend was logical and called for. However, it is wasted words. If you talk ... | |
| misunderstanding | 11/29/2011 |
| Q: I have a friend.I love her very much. But now she misunderstand me . She thinks that I Love her with ... A: If she doesn't read the letter, try sending her a little gift. Nothing expensive but just something ... | |
| misunderstanding | 11/29/2011 |
| Q: I have a friend.I love her very much. But now she misunderstand me . She thinks that I Love her with ... A: Life and love is always a risk. What else can you do but to tell her how you feel. How she will ... | |
| How do I be there when the girl I love is ready for a relationship? | 11/25/2011 |
| Q: Hey Sharon, Thanks for taking my question. I've been dating my girlfriend for about 3 months. ... A: I think very well she does feel responsible to take over where the mom left the situation and okay ... | |
| How do I be there when the girl I love is ready for a relationship? | 11/25/2011 |
| Q: Hey Sharon, Thanks for taking my question. I've been dating my girlfriend for about 3 months. ... A: Love relationships are open to so many things happening that they are very difficult to predict. ... | |
| Two steps forward... | 11/23/2011 |
| Q: Happy almost Thanksgiving Sharon- A special thank you for taking the time to help others and myself ... A: I am not sure what to tell you. When you did the "deed" you completely gave your power away. You ... | |
| let it go or fight for it | 11/22/2011 |
| Q: I've been in this relationship for about 5 months. My boyfriend and I met on an online website and ... A: You gave you power away when you contacted him. You see, in a relationship with a guy tension has to ... | |
| is this the end | 11/21/2011 |
| Q: A week ago my fiance and I decided to end our five year relationship. We were arguing over little ... A: Several things: Nagging doubts should be listened to. Many a woman has regretted ignoring those ... | |
| let it go or fight for it | 11/16/2011 |
| Q: I've been in this relationship for about 5 months. My boyfriend and I met on an online website and ... A: From what you say, it probably is not a matter of being too proud to admit he has problems, it seems ... | |
| let it go or fight for it | 11/14/2011 |
| Q: I've been in this relationship for about 5 months. My boyfriend and I met on an online website and ... A: When I answer questions I know there are a lot of unknowns so I like to ask questions that will make ... | |
| is this the end | 11/3/2011 |
| Q: A week ago my fiance and I decided to end our five year relationship. We were arguing over little ... A: This is the deal. There are always differences that appear after you are in a relationship for ... | |
| unknown distance between us | 10/24/2011 |
| Q: I met this girl about a year and a half ago....got to be pretty good friends after a few months and ... A: Unfortunately your only choice is to find out from her or guess and guessing doesn't work too well. ... | |
| unknown distance between us | 10/24/2011 |
| Q: I met this girl about a year and a half ago....got to be pretty good friends after a few months and ... A: It is hard to say, but her mother might have learned of your age difference and discouraged her. ... | |
| Opposites detract | 10/24/2011 |
| Q: I am 28, my boyfriend is 31. We have been dating for 3 1/2 years. Our personalities are completely ... A: Get the book, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. Then ask your boyfriend to read it with you. ... | |
| getting past the constant arguing of who is doing more in the house | 10/21/2011 |
| Q: How do you get past the point in marriage where it's a big point of contention of who is doing more ... A: This is kind of tough. Without talking to your wife so that you can learn to work together as a ... | |
| Fighting about kids | 10/18/2011 |
| Q: I have an amazing 1-year plus relationship with the guy of my dreams. He is the best person I know, ... A: This difference is not something you can work out. If you liked chinese food and he only eats ... | |
| Problem in relastionship | 10/10/2011 |
| Q: We write as a couple, and we will try to summarize our current problem, although it is not easy to ... A: Lisa and Mike, This is the deal. Lisa chose Mike because he was married and not really available so ... | |
| Rebuilding Trust | 10/10/2011 |
| Q: First, I would like to thank you for your kindness and offering your help to us on here. ITs means ... A: I get a lot of letters and so not sure of the details of your original letter. Trust has to be ... | |
| Pregnant EX | 10/8/2011 |
| Q: Here is an overview of the situation. So my ex girlfriend broke up with me cause we were having ... A: About your followup question. The first thing to realize is that when a woman is pregnant her ... | |
| Pregnant EX | 10/6/2011 |
| Q: Here is an overview of the situation. So my ex girlfriend broke up with me cause we were having ... A: Since it is impossible to read another person's mind, especially a woman's, I do not know the answer ... | |
| Which approach to use? | 10/5/2011 |
| Q: I'd like to apologize in advance for the depth and length of this e-mail. So many things I'd like to ... A: You are not only having a bad day but you are having a bad relationship. What you have is a little ... | |
| Not sure if he is right for me | 10/4/2011 |
| Q: I would say there are a lot of good things about my current relationship, however i have a few ... A: The first issue about him being laid back will probably not change. That is a basic personality ... | |
| Should I go back to my wife? | 10/3/2011 |
| Q: 14 years of marriage, I’m Swedish 42, she’s Malaysian 41 years old. She shields me off from ... A: When I say we teach people how to treat us there are ways to nip things in the bud so to speak, but ... | |
| Should I go back to my wife? | 10/2/2011 |
| Q: 14 years of marriage, I’m Swedish 42, she’s Malaysian 41 years old. She shields me off from ... A: What you have is a co-dependent relationship and what we all need is a healthy inter-dependent ... | |
| once and for all. | 9/26/2011 |
| Q: after reading your fabulous answer to my question about my friend, and also going through your ... A: A good friend told me one time, "If you don't ask you don't get." Your only choice, if you want to ... | |
| i hate the alter ego. | 9/26/2011 |
| Q: Hey Sharron! i've been best friends with the same girl since our junior year of highschool, and we ... A: Unfortunately, this girl has problems that you cannot solve. It is to your credit that she can be ... | |
| Should I fight or fly away for my relationship | 9/26/2011 |
| Q: I met this girl almost four years ago. When we both started talking, we both were just coming off ... A: I think you know that you have to leave this situation if you want a life of peace, and have a ... | |
| Is all hope lost | 9/25/2011 |
| Q: First I will give a brief overview of my situation. My ex girlfriend and I met about 6 months ago. ... A: For children, a day, a week is forever and once a month is not enough. You need to be close by. That ... | |
| Is all hope lost | 9/24/2011 |
| Q: First I will give a brief overview of my situation. My ex girlfriend and I met about 6 months ago. ... A: For whatever reasons, even though you love her, you have put your needs before hers. This has pushed ... | |
| My boyfriend has gone into a vortex | 9/23/2011 |
| Q: I'm a 23 year old woman. My boyfriend/fiancee of 2 years recently told me there was something ... A: I don't know if you are going to understand what I am going to say or what to do about it. I would ... | |
| What am I doing wrong | 9/16/2011 |
| Q: I am in a relationship with my boyfriend for a 1 year, We are not seeing eye to eye on most things, ... A: A man values a woman when he has to work hard to get her and make a commitment to her before she ... | |
| make sure about the sacrifice | 9/5/2011 |
| Q: I’m Ann, 23 years old. I met my bf at the end of 2010, then our relationship start on March’11. He’s ... A: Do not bring up the past. It will only cause problems. I know you want to be sure but in life we can ... | |
| How to handle "take a step back" | 8/19/2011 |
| Q: So I have been dating this girl now for about 4 months and right from the beginning she told me she ... A: It is not a matter of playing the game; it is a matter of setting up a relationship on principle and ... | |
| My relationship is getting boring? | 8/19/2011 |
| Q: My name is Jamie and I'm 16 years old. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a ... A: Sometimes life gets boring because everyone has an inner need to make a contribution to society in ... | |
| engagement pressure | 8/17/2011 |
| Q: my name is Stacee and I am 22 years old living in New York City. I am a senior at my last year in ... A: I do my best to teach principles/words of wisdom and then encourage people to set up their lives ... | |
| Do not know what to do. | 8/12/2011 |
| Q: I have emailed you in the past regarding my relationship with my boyfriend. Your answers have been ... A: The first thing to do is to ask your boyfriend to explain what he meant. Tell him that you can't ... | |
| Jealousy and Communication | 8/10/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I are both 21, and have been together 2.5 years. Before we became a couple we were ... A: The first thing to do is to tell K that you only go out in groups to movies out of respect for your ... | |
| I'm simply lost | 8/10/2011 |
| Q: I'm separated after 8 years of marriage; she filed on Valentines Day, and am at a real loss as to ... A: I don't know what I can add to what you are already doing but I do notice something that might help. ... | |
| help | 7/21/2011 |
| Q: I am a 48 years old man married since 1991 with a woman: 2 children: male 18. female 11, I do not ... A: Marriages often go through periods of time when there are signals that it is time to make some ... | |
| Help!! | 7/20/2011 |
| Q: I am 22 years old and am dating my current boyfriend for a year and he is 26. We have been having ... A: I teach people principles--how life works as best I can. Then they can make decisions. A lot of ... | |
| Confused... | 7/20/2011 |
| Q: First, I apologize if this is too long, but I want to be thorough in giving background because it's ... A: Good luck. My last baby was a baby where I practiced birth control. I am most happy to have her and ... | |
| Confused... | 7/20/2011 |
| Q: First, I apologize if this is too long, but I want to be thorough in giving background because it's ... A: I think the problem is that you are expecting too much too soon and putting too much demands on ... | |
| Want more out of my relationship. | 7/18/2011 |
| Q: Let me just begin by saying how wonderful your previous answers have been to people. I read some and ... A: Unfortunately, you got a glimpse of the real person. A loving and wonderful man would NEVER react ... | |
| Is he serious???? | 7/17/2011 |
| Q: My name is Diana I just turned 26 this month. I met my now boyfriend four months ago on ... A: This guy is dangerous business. It takes awhile to see the real person. The real person is not the ... | |
| Boyfriend Troubles | 7/15/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year. We get along fine and time with just ourselves ... A: He is trying to hide you. A guy who loves a woman wants to show her off, etc. He is either married ... | |
| want to get married but not financially steady | 7/13/2011 |
| Q: I’m Ann, 23 years old. I met my bf at the end of 2010, then our relationship start on March’11. He’s ... A: You are right. Financial problems often destroy marriages. This is quite a dilemma. It sounds like ... | |
| Hlp pls | 7/12/2011 |
| Q: my name is ahmad,am 19. Am datin gal a year younger than i am. We started jst abt a month ago. But ... A: I always recommend waiting until marriage. Having sex can fool you into thinking you are close and ... | |
| Distant boyfriend | 7/11/2011 |
| Q: I started dating a very good friend of mine about 2 months ago, and it is really not what I am used ... A: This is the deal. Every person has their own individual personality. We each were born with over 60 ... | |
| after the divorce | 7/9/2011 |
| Q: My ex-husband and I were married 17 years (we dated for 2 but did not live together). During our ... A: Ask yourself why you are still talking to him? What are you getting out of it? There is always some ... | |
| i don't know what to think. | 7/7/2011 |
| Q: me & my boyfriend have been having some difficulties. I'm 17 & he is 19. Well we've been dating ... A: We spend so much time trying to avoid pain and being hurt but pain will come no matter what we do in ... | |
| Lost..... | 6/23/2011 |
| Q: I am 19 and my boyfriend is 19. My situation is my boyfriend isn't good with words. He would tell ... A: The thing to ask yourself is whether this is a personality trait that makes it difficult for him to ... | |
| Stuck in the middle of relation | 6/22/2011 |
| Q: I met this guy accidently on phone & we became friends soon. later best friends and now lovers. I'm ... A: When a man loves you he would do anything for you and if you are ill he would feel bad for you and ... | |
| Im lost | 6/21/2011 |
| Q: I have been dating this guy in the military for about 6 months now.I pushed him away because I have ... A: We can't read his mind and so we do not know at this point. I suggest that you do not wait for him ... | |
| Is this a break? What does this mean? | 6/20/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for three years now. We are both nineteen soon to be twenty. We ... A: Communicate. If you are going to establish a relationship then you will need to communicate. Ask him ... | |
| Im lost | 6/20/2011 |
| Q: I have been dating this guy in the military for about 6 months now.I pushed him away because I have ... A: It means that your guy is busy doing a serious job and he does not have time for drama. If you want ... | |
| Is this a break? What does this mean? | 6/17/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for three years now. We are both nineteen soon to be twenty. We ... A: People change a lot during teenage years and early twenties. It is always unwise to get into serious ... | |
| Please I dont know what I'm doing wrong | 6/16/2011 |
| Q: I've been in a four year relationship so I know I'm in love with this new one even though its only ... A: This idea of becoming boyfriend/girlfriend and not dating others is not a good idea. Serious dating ... | |
| Confused... | 6/2/2011 |
| Q: I am 26 and have been dating my boyfriend for about a year and three months. I love him with all my ... A: It is so hard for me to understand how a person can build their whole life around another person who ... | |
| afraid to lose him for the second time | 6/2/2011 |
| Q: I was in love with a high school sweet heart for 5 years but we broke up because he was very ... A: You can't lose something you don't have in the first place. He loves to play at love but when it ... | |
| Not sure if I should stay in relationship | 5/29/2011 |
| Q: Hoping you can give me some advice please!! I've just turned 24 and have been going out with a guy 2 ... A: I think you know the answer but just need permission to do what you really need to do. While it ... | |
| very confused! help | 5/28/2011 |
| Q: ok well me and this guy have been talking since the beginning of the month. he invited me to go ... A: Men don't express feelings very well and so his opening up to you was unusual. When a guy knows that ... | |
| The love of my life... | 5/26/2011 |
| Q: We have been dating for almost a year, and I have known him longer than that about 2 years. I ... A: There are some red flags here that must be faced. Usually what people say is the problem is not ... | |
| stress and drifting apart | 5/21/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I are 20 years old. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and i'm starting to ... A: The problem here is that you have taken the role of mother, instead of sweetheart. You have set out ... | |
| Is it love or am I just being a girlfriend "doormat" | 5/14/2011 |
| Q: I am 21 years old and I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year and 3 months. We started off ... A: Doormat seems like a pretty good description. This is a relationship of convenience. Wouldn't you ... | |
| relationship advice required | 5/11/2011 |
| Q: Hey new to this so hope im doing ths right. Im 23 and so is my gf we have been together for 8 ... A: It takes awhile to really get to know a person. Your girlfriend is obviously not very expressive and ... | |
| Stay or Go | 5/4/2011 |
| Q: When we first got together everything was great and he was renting a house. I moved in with him 6 ... A: You need to sit down and assess your situation and separate the issues taking one at a time. It is ... | |
| How to fix a broken relationship | 5/4/2011 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been dating for 7 months. I have tried to be the best bf and do things for ... A: I have mixed emotions. I would like to help you get back together if you can overcome your violence ... | |
| coping with girlfriends past | 5/2/2011 |
| Q: i just recently gotten in to a relationship with a nice young women with a past. she was known for ... A: It is always a challenge to forget the past but everyone deserves a chance. It is natural for you to ... | |
| Too long without sexual contact | 5/2/2011 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 2 yrs and recently we decided to talk about our ... A: I do not believe in telling all about our past experiences. The past is past and what good does it ... | |
| A train reck Relationship | 4/26/2011 |
| Q: you gave really great relationship advise to another user, I was just surfing strengthening ... A: Well, you two are quite a pair. Both are violent and pretty much self-serving, and yet you both seem ... | |
| am i maturing? | 4/23/2011 |
| Q: In the past my relationships never went well. I'm with a new girl four four months now. We hung out ... A: Butterflies are temporary feelings based on a fantasy you have about her and your relationship. In ... | |
| boyfriend with Type A personality | 4/20/2011 |
| Q: I am a married 40 year old woman. I met a man 6 years ago with whom i have a relationship. All ... A: Nurturing people want to believe the best and hope that by loving the other person he or she will ... | |
| boyfriend with Type A personality | 4/19/2011 |
| Q: I am a married 40 year old woman. I met a man 6 years ago with whom i have a relationship. All ... A: The problem with looking at another relationship outside of marriage is that we only see the good ... | |
| trust issues | 4/16/2011 |
| Q: Okay, so I'm in a gay relationship with my partner and we've been dating for 7 months. There's a ... A: When you don't trust someone it is not really the other person you do not trust, but it is yourself ... | |
| Im confused on what to do with my relationship | 4/15/2011 |
| Q: So me and my "bf" have been together for a little over 4 years.. he is the first guy I have ever ... A: I have to disagree with your view of his leaving you. True love is wanting the best for the other ... | |
| I don't understand my husband yet?? | 4/14/2011 |
| Q: I'm 29yrs old and i have two beautiful kids.we have big joint family .there are lots of kids and ... A: It is a little to understand your question but I will do my best to answer it. The problem, ... | |
| Avoiding my bad caractere | 4/9/2011 |
| Q: I and my Friend have been together for almost a year and few months. We love each other, i ... A: God made people different than animals. You are not an animal. Animals have to act and behave the ... | |
| Relationships | 4/7/2011 |
| Q: I am feeling like my boyfriend and I are getting more and more distant apart then before. He use to ... A: You didn't give me too many details but I perhaps I can help with some general info about the ... | |
| what happened? | 4/6/2011 |
| Q: I'm a doctor and I recently met a man online who was a lawyer. He was very handsome and smart and ... A: He is obviously afraid of something or he would not avoid you. It seems he wished to remain ... | |
| me and my boyfriens | 4/6/2011 |
| Q: hi my name is maria i have been with my boyfriend over 4months now we hardly get to see eachother we ... A: What do you fight about? Is it little things or is there a difference that makes it so you truly ... | |
| Does Ex-girlfriend really want to be just friends? | 4/5/2011 |
| Q: Me and my girlfriend of roughly 2 years, broke up about 5 months ago. We broke up because i broke ... A: Since we can't read another person's mind we can only guess. I suggest that you do everything you ... | |
| boyfriend issues | 4/5/2011 |
| Q: so i have a few issues with my boyfriend, and i dont know how to make them better.... 1) he drinks ... A: Since it is impossible to change another person the only thing you can do is to tell him that you ... | |
| boyfriend issues | 4/4/2011 |
| Q: so i have a few issues with my boyfriend, and i dont know how to make them better.... 1) he drinks ... A: One of the things that causes the most unhappiness in this world is when you continue to want what ... | |
| What just happened in my relationship? | 4/3/2011 |
| Q: Forgive me for the long question, but I feel it's crucial to provide as much detail about my ... A: Even though she initiated sex, often, girls who have been abused and rejected by their fathers do ... | |
| What just happened in my relationship? | 4/3/2011 |
| Q: Forgive me for the long question, but I feel it's crucial to provide as much detail about my ... A: It sounds like you have quite a project here. There are several challenges. First of all, she is ... | |
| Trust Issues | 4/2/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for eight months, and we told each other we love each other five ... A: I do not think you are or have ruined anything but I do think that you are discovering the real ... | |
| how to over come an obsticle | 4/1/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for the last six months. Before we started our relationship he ... A: The problem with getting involved with someone who is still involved with someone else is it doesn't ... | |
| invisible wall | 3/30/2011 |
| Q: It is my first time asking questions online. I hope i will make it right:) Before, i will explain ... A: He probably likes you and enjoys being with you if there isn't much effort or commitment. He has ... | |
| I'm confused, should I be jealous? | 3/26/2011 |
| Q: kay, my boyfriend is amazing. He treats me like the world. He does everything for me and compliments ... A: The problem with living together before marriage is that most times one person sees it as a step ... | |
| Relationship Hurdle | 3/26/2011 |
| Q: I have been with my fiance for almost three and a half years now. We are both 25, and four weeks ... A: Man, I hate to say what I am going to say but in my opinion you ruined this relationship. To make ... | |
| Dying Relationship | 3/25/2011 |
| Q: I have been seeing my boyfriend for a year and a half now. Recently, our relationship has been ... A: The reality of life has set in. Bills, taxes, and both working hard to make it in this world. Sounds ... | |
| when to know if someone is ending it | 3/22/2011 |
| Q: I have been in a 5 year relationship with my partner. I am 29 and he is 31. We have lived together ... A: We tend to gravitate to the familiar because we confuse what is right and good with what is ... | |
| Personality conflict | 3/16/2011 |
| Q: I'm male Caucasian 26, she is Asian 23. We are university students in a foreign country for us in ... A: Yes, I think you have a personality conflict. I think you both have different views of what a ... | |
| Will I get her back? | 3/15/2011 |
| Q: I'll make this as short as possible but still try and get the point across. About two weeks ago my ... A: I have the stomach flu and have been very ill for a couple of days. I will not be able to answer ... | |
| alcoholic and relationship | 3/14/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 7 months now. He drinks every night. He's not a mean ... A: He is married to alcohol and that is the way that it is. As long as alcohol comes first you will ... | |
| invisible wall | 3/10/2011 |
| Q: It is my first time asking questions online. I hope i will make it right:) Before, i will explain ... A: As I have always said, long distance relationships hardly ever work out. He has told you he wants a ... | |
| Is he interested? | 3/9/2011 |
| Q: Crandall, My boyfriend and I are both 25 year's old. We have been dating for ten months now. ... A: Men often do not do well over the phone and so it is hard to tell. However, if you are the one doing ... | |
| no time to talk | 3/9/2011 |
| Q: I've been dating my boyfriend now for almost 2 years now. We just recently went long distance about ... A: A couple of things. Guys frequently do not do well long distance and they do not do well on the ... | |
| Advanced dating | 3/7/2011 |
| Q: how're you doing?It's Siavash.Nice to have you here! Already I have had 4 dates with this girl ,all ... A: Hopefully you can find some dating ideas online at various websites. Don't be afraid to try new ... | |
| Should I stay or go? | 3/7/2011 |
| Q: i was hoping you can help me. I'm in a relationship. Ive been with this guy for 1 year & 2 months. I ... A: Have you ever stopped trying to convince him and asked him outright what he really wants in this ... | |
| Controlling relationship | 3/6/2011 |
| Q: I am 23 years old and my boyfriend is the same age. I have been with my boyfriend for just over 5 ... A: I am glad you are going abroad to get away from this abusive man. While you are gone get some ... | |
| Confusion | 3/6/2011 |
| Q: ( I apologize for any grammical errors) I'm 20 and I've been seeing my 22 year old gentlemen for ... A: Dating is for the purpose to see if you are truly compatible or not. When you first date, two people ... | |
| relationship | 3/5/2011 |
| Q: My husband doesn't allow to take the phone calls from his mobile phone & to read the text messages ... A: Get the telephone while he is asleep if you can and check his messages. I hate to say this but it is ... | |
| Conflict over special needs brother or boyfriend? | 3/4/2011 |
| Q: Right now I'm struggling with depression and constantly feel confused. Confused and torn. I've been ... A: There are two possibilities here. One might be that you haven't made your fiance feel like he is ... | |
| Does Ex-girlfriend really want to be just friends? | 3/3/2011 |
| Q: Me and my girlfriend of roughly 2 years, broke up about 5 months ago. We broke up because i broke ... A: By your developing patience, it will help you now and in your future. When things get tough when you ... | |
| My dad is a druggie | 3/3/2011 |
| Q: Hey, um i'm 15 and not sure what to do. Here's my story. My mom and dad are devorced and now my dad ... A: I am proud of you for seeking help on this situation. You need to tell a responsible adult. You ... | |
| Does Ex-girlfriend really want to be just friends? | 3/1/2011 |
| Q: Me and my girlfriend of roughly 2 years, broke up about 5 months ago. We broke up because i broke ... A: The problem is that when you lie it is so hard to trust again. I think she still cares and is ... | |
| Older Lover | 2/28/2011 |
| Q: The story so far – I am dating Anthony for 15 months. With a break in between of 4 months. My ... A: Bet you a nickel he has another honey on those Saturday night sleepovers. He would love to have all ... | |
| 6 years, is it really over? | 2/27/2011 |
| Q: I'm 26 and my boyfriend is 30. We have been dating for 6 years and he says it's over. Now we live ... A: We teach people how to treat us and you have taught him well how to treat you. You have given ... | |
| did i do the right thing? | 2/26/2011 |
| Q: well i am a university student and i have a boyfriend. he does not got university with me but has a ... A: One of the things that causes the most unhappiness in life is having unrealistic expectations and ... | |
| Constant fighting and communication issues | 2/25/2011 |
| Q: My SO and I met over 2 years ago and were friends for 8 months until we became a couple. It was ... A: Make some rules such as: No more discussion about the past. Discuss only the present and the future. ... | |
| Why won't he listen and spend time with me to make me happy? | 2/25/2011 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend for almost 8 months now. We were so compatable at first, I finally found ... A: Dating is the time to get to know the real person. What often seems like a match made in heaven ... | |
| Constant fighting and communication issues | 2/24/2011 |
| Q: My SO and I met over 2 years ago and were friends for 8 months until we became a couple. It was ... A: Sit down and figure out a plan of how to build the relationship and then approach him and tell him ... | |
| strange? | 2/24/2011 |
| Q: but since december she has aquired "new friends" she went to a football match with friends and they ... A: Your girlfriend is spreading her wings and looking around. She wants her freedom. You should never ... | |
| I am losing faith in my relationship | 2/24/2011 |
| Q: I am 20 and have been in a relationship with my current boyfriend (24) for a while now, almost a ... A: What you see is what you get. If this is what you want forever then be prepared to be the leader in ... | |
| confusions... | 2/23/2011 |
| Q: i m 23 yrs and have been in a relationship for 3 yrs and a few months.my boyfriend is of the same ... A: The problem is that after three years the relationship should really be going into marriage and when ... | |
| trust factor | 2/23/2011 |
| Q: Greetings!! I am a 24 year old woman and have been in a relationship with a 29 year old man for the ... A: The problem with this situation and many other young women today, are that as soon as they think ... | |
| I'm in constant need of reassurance! | 2/23/2011 |
| Q: I’ve read and enjoyed SO many of your answers today so firstly I’d like to thank you on behalf of ... A: Because of his past it is rational for you not to trust him and also you have not developed enough ... | |
| Distancing girlfriend | 2/21/2011 |
| Q: Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a little over a year and a half now and are both ... A: I am not sure what is happening. The problem is usually different than what is expressed and so it ... | |
| I am very unsure how to handle my relationship, i dont know if i scare of losing him or scare of another stupid act of myself .... | 2/21/2011 |
| Q: Me is 42, my new boyfriend (Bf) is just 29. Many said age gap is not problem, i agreed if look at ... A: If you had a daughter who wrote you this letter/question what would you tell her? The problem is ... | |
| I feel my boyfriend doesnt want to spend time with me. | 2/17/2011 |
| Q: Sharon i'm almost 20 and my boyfriend is 18 i go to college and hes in his last year of high ... A: The problem is that you took over the relationship and came on so strong that it scared him off. You ... | |
| Unaffectionate Fiancee | 2/17/2011 |
| Q: I recently became engaged to this man that I have known since elementary school. We dated on and off ... A: You can fix differences that have to do with habits and things that are not basic personality ... | |
| How do you get over past trust issues with a new boyfriend that has pride issue with women? | 2/15/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for a lil over 3 years now. We have a wonderful relationship ... A: The problem here is the difference in how both of you view your relationship. You are thinking of it ... | |
| Confused and Frustrated | 2/14/2011 |
| Q: **I apologize if it seems jumbled and ungrammatical** My girlfriend broke up with me recently. The ... A: I will answer both questions here. What you are not getting is that if you are still trying to prove ... | |
| Confused and Frustrated | 2/14/2011 |
| Q: **I apologize if it seems jumbled and ungrammatical** My girlfriend broke up with me recently. The ... A: My goodness. This girl is really pulling strings like you are a puppet. She has made it so you can't ... | |
| relationship strengthen | 2/12/2011 |
| Q: ok me and my boyfriend have been dating for 7 months now and of course at the beginning it was so ... A: Dearie, you are in a bad situation. It is such a mistake to move in with someone before marriage. ... | |
| relationship | 2/11/2011 |
| Q: hey i have been with my girlfriend three years now but a few weeks ago we had an argument about the ... A: Four years at your age is practically a lifetime because people change a lot during these years. Use ... | |
| Conflict over special needs brother or boyfriend? | 2/10/2011 |
| Q: Right now I'm struggling with depression and constantly feel confused. Confused and torn. I've been ... A: I feel for you and your dilemma. While it is very important to keep loving, helping, and supporting ... | |
| relationship | 2/10/2011 |
| Q: hey i have been with my girlfriend three years now but a few weeks ago we had an argument about the ... A: When someone moves away from you most people make the mistake of trying to get closer and try to ... | |
| Worth the wait | 2/8/2011 |
| Q: I just finished reading a story similar to my own and was wondering what your advice would be for my ... A: Don't hold your breath concerning this relationship. Too many changes plus a lot of jealousy and ... | |
| When is it time to quit | 2/7/2011 |
| Q: I am a 43 year old divorced mother of three dating a 44 year old divorced father of two. We’ve been ... A: The older I get and the more I observe couples the more I realize that you can't change a person's ... | |
| chemistry importance | 2/7/2011 |
| Q: I am 46 years old and 2 years ago married a man that I had dated off and on for 4 years. I have ... A: Sometimes faking it can make it real. Our minds are very powerful and if you keep daydreaming and ... | |
| my ex | 2/4/2011 |
| Q: My Fiance recently broke up with me. I am 25 and she is 22. We ere the closest of couples and the ... A: After this I can't answer any more because I must move on to other questioners. I coach people for a ... | |
| Started Talking to my Ex Again | 2/3/2011 |
| Q: Me and My ex broke up about 4 months ago, it was a great relationship, needless to say we had one ... A: It doesn't look too good. I had hoped as it progressed like it did that she would see the value of ... | |
| girl interfaring with my relationship | 2/2/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend and i are only 18 and are really in love. We've only been together for 6 months and ... A: You have a few choices here. Either keep being miserable like you are and probably drive your guy ... | |
| distant relationship | 2/1/2011 |
| Q: I'm having some troubles with my relationship, me and my girlfriend use to laugh and have loads of ... A: I really hate to see couples move in together before marriage. It is like getting all dressed up and ... | |
| Relationship at all Time Low :( | 1/31/2011 |
| Q: I am 22-years-old I have been with my boyfriend for a year and two months. Up until this past August ... A: The following paragraph is the exact reason you are having problems in this relationship. "I don't ... | |
| When to quit? | 1/31/2011 |
| Q: I've been dating a very nice man for coming up on three years. The first year was very nice, we ... A: Your letter has just shown me one more time that moving in before marriage is a really bad idea ... | |
| Don't Know What To Do | 1/30/2011 |
| Q: So my boyfriend and I have been together for about four years now. Trouble is, I want things he ... A: If you both have different goals and really want different life styles that is pretty much a ... | |
| Started Talking to my Ex Again | 1/28/2011 |
| Q: Me and My ex broke up about 4 months ago, it was a great relationship, needless to say we had one ... A: Try not to read in anything. As long as she is talking to you, you have a chance; so just keep ... | |
| Started Talking to my Ex Again | 1/27/2011 |
| Q: Me and My ex broke up about 4 months ago, it was a great relationship, needless to say we had one ... A: Offer to go out with her and promise not to even try to get her into bed. Then offer to date awhile ... | |
| Struggling with the relationship | 1/26/2011 |
| Q: I really need some advice. Well I have been dating my Loved one for 3yrs. off and on, it has been a ... A: You need to do everything you can to develop more self-confidence. Putting up with his behavior and ... | |
| stuck in a situation (part 2) | 1/23/2011 |
| Q: conflict I make my son go to his room. Its acually sad that my son cant have a relationship with his ... A: Something happened and your question came up as two questions. So, I sent one back as already having ... | |
| ADVICE NEEDED | 1/22/2011 |
| Q: Well my story is a bit complicated but to cut is short: My boyfriend and I a year ago and fell in ... A: You need to know that men don't do well when they cannot control a situation. Some women do, also; ... | |
| Forgiven, not forgotten | 1/21/2011 |
| Q: To start, I will give you the basic demographics. I am 19 years old guy and I am dating an 18 year ... A: First of all, this guy is probably just bragging about what he wished he could have done with your ... | |
| trust issues - personality differences | 1/21/2011 |
| Q: Corey and I have been together for about a year and a half. Shortly after we became official, I got ... A: You need much more help than what I can give you in this letter but I will try to help you with what ... | |
| Lying boyfriend concerns | 1/20/2011 |
| Q: I'd like to thank you for being a part of allexperts & giving me the opportunity to ask questions. ... A: If you are trying to get help in changing him that is not possible. He has too much history in ... | |
| communication confusion | 1/18/2011 |
| Q: Hope you can maybe offer some perspective to my current situation. Ok, I've recently been back in ... A: It is very easy to flirt and have fun through the internet, etc. People tend to let their hair down, ... | |
| first contact (again) | 1/13/2011 |
| Q: first, im 21. the fact that im male is also pertinant. the individual im interested in is a woman ... A: The key is to be truly interested in her and in her life--what her dreams are, plans she has for her ... | |
| first love now a mess but i still love him | 12/27/2010 |
| Q: My ex and I have known eachother for 10 years. We met at university freshman year and things became ... A: You need to move on. Too much negative history and he already has another girlfriend, even if it is ... | |
| Exactly alike. | 12/24/2010 |
| Q: My name is Brooke Isaac and I am 16. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship and we ... A: Are either of you adopted? Who are his parents and grandparents and where did they live? Where did ... | |
| Role Reversal | 12/14/2010 |
| Q: I am a 42 y-o male involved with a much younger woman (she's 24). The issue on the surface is that ... A: Often, we choose people who have what we desire for ourselves, or think we need to have, instead of ... | |
| update | 12/9/2010 |
| Q: Do you still remember me? The woman from Malaysia who had weaker boyfriend and took a break at ... A: Malaygirl, The best way to move on from a relationship is to look at it realistically and look at ... | |
| Unsure. | 12/8/2010 |
| Q: I'm 17 and I'm in my first relationship with this boy. It's been 3 months, but it hasn't been a ... A: At 17 people and guys in particular are not ready for a committed relationship. This is the time to ... | |
| Questioning my Relationship | 12/5/2010 |
| Q: my name is Ali and I have some serious problems with my relationship right now and I need some ... A: Grownups get to make grownup decisions when they are grown up. When you live with your parents you ... | |
| relationship | 12/1/2010 |
| Q: com me and my feonce have been together for 2 years i currently became active duty military and i ... A: When the beginning excitement wears off in a relationship you either go into a deeper, more ... | |
| Girls with morals? | 12/1/2010 |
| Q: After a conversation I had with a guy that I've been 'hanging out with' I started rethinking a lot ... A: Morals do count and some guy will realize it and go for you. Right now, for whatever reason, most of ... | |
| my best friend suddenly hates me | 11/21/2010 |
| Q: ive been best friends with this guy for about 5 years, starting in high school. we're both in ... A: A couple of things. First of all, guys do not do well in girlfriend roles. Men need to solve ... | |
| Bad moods | 11/17/2010 |
| Q: Sharon Crandall, I met and have been seeing a really great guy for almost 4 months, and in this ... A: Tell him what you told me that you want to be there for him on his bad days but do not want to take ... | |
| Am i being Selfish? | 11/14/2010 |
| Q: I am 31 years old. I have been with my fiance for 1 year, everything was going great until about 1 ... A: No, you are not selfish, you are smart. She called you selfish because that is a way of manipulating ... | |
| relationship | 11/12/2010 |
| Q: I'm 35 yrs old and he's 33...we've known each other for 12yrs but dated for 5yrs...I have a 9 yr ... A: I am surprised you are trying to have a baby with someone who does not want to get married. After ... | |
| Conflicting feelings | 11/4/2010 |
| Q: I’m writing you for advice because I feel like giving up. My girlfriend and I have drifted apart ... A: What she needs is consistency over a period of time to show her that you will not lose your temper ... | |
| What should I do in this relationship? | 11/1/2010 |
| Q: I am on a break with my boyfriend. We have been dating for a year. We hang out with friends ... A: It is always best not to talk about the relationship with your guy unless you are ready to either ... | |
| Question | 10/31/2010 |
| Q: so I have been seeing this guy for almost a month now, and we sleep together too, but im not sure ... A: By sleeping with him right away you have given him a clear message that you do not value yourself ... | |
| What should I do in this relationship? | 10/30/2010 |
| Q: I am on a break with my boyfriend. We have been dating for a year. We hang out with friends ... A: The problem is that when a person still want to party a lot they are not usually ready for a truly ... | |
| How do I build a friendship with my boyfriend? | 10/29/2010 |
| Q: I'm 17, and I'm in my first relationship. I've known him for a while but I've never really gotten to ... A: The important thing about dating at your age is to date different guys so that you get what I call a ... | |
| Should I Stay With Him Or Go? | 10/28/2010 |
| Q: I'm 18 years old and have been dating my boyfriend for close to 2 years. I'm in my second month at ... A: It is very common to grow apart at your age. It is too bad that your boyfriend is hurt in the ... | |
| follow up-break with my bf - is he my soulmate/not?? | 10/27/2010 |
| Q: I still have time to think about my decision before he come back to me. Your answer make me think ... A: If he can find the strength to really be independent from his family and live on his own for at ... | |
| How do i get my relationship back to the first time? | 10/26/2010 |
| Q: Im a 22yrs old girl from Vietnam and my boyfriend is 25. We've been dating for a year. At first, he ... A: There is just something about most men that they need to be the hunters and need to be the one who ... | |
| break with my bf - is he my soulmate/not?? | 10/26/2010 |
| Q: . i'm a female from Malaysia, 22 years old and have plan to get married before 25 years old. i have ... A: It is my experience that if there is too much difference in strength the strong one ends up feel ... | |
| how to streghten a relationship | 10/25/2010 |
| Q: how to make a relationship last long A: There are several factors in keeping relationship. Often, there is too much too soon and the other ... | |
| how can i get use to my boyfriend | 10/23/2010 |
| Q: i have been seeing this guy for a month now we use to hang out a lot before that but we were not ... A: There are several things going on. One is that you are still hanging on to your former boyfriend ... | |
| Stressed Marriage | 10/23/2010 |
| Q: I really need an expert's advice. Its been almost 2 years that I am married. It was a love cum ... A: Hello. I would like to revise my answer to you. I have had you on my mind and am concerned about ... | |
| Question | 10/21/2010 |
| Q: so i just started seeing this guy like 2 weeks ago and yeah we started sleeping together like right ... A: I am amazed that you think it too soon to have a personal conversation when you are doing the most ... | |
| how can i strengthen my bond with my boyfriend | 10/16/2010 |
| Q: ive been with my boyfriend for 6months now and everything was really good in the beggining but now ... A: When the girl is ready for a much more serious and committed relationship the guy feels smothered by ... | |
| My relationship has changed. | 10/13/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I are 14 and I know we're too young to be starting a relationship but we're ... A: People change a lot during the teenage years and early adult years. It is very natural to fall in ... | |
| My relationship is dying | 10/11/2010 |
| Q: i don't understand why i act like this but i do. Normally it is hard for me to get over stuff and i ... A: T. The problem is that you have not found happiness within yourself. You are 100% responsible for ... | |
| Break time? | 10/7/2010 |
| Q: I'm 21 years old and my fiance is 25. He's been in the military and was stationed in Germany and ... A: The problem is that he is not as committed to the relationship as you are or he would make a greater ... | |
| relationship stress | 10/6/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together 9 1/2 months. It was a long distance relationship until 2 ... A: I hate to say this but maybe you have chosen another man who is abusive. Maybe not physically, but ... | |
| Need Advice on new Relationship | 9/24/2010 |
| Q: I'm starting to see this girl , who I use to work with (and befriended) about 2 years ago. She just ... A: I think you need to be open with her and tell her that you really like her and at some point would ... | |
| I need help with my relationship | 9/23/2010 |
| Q: I am 27 yrs old. and have been with my boyfriend for over 5 yrs. I love him so much and even though ... A: Hello. A couple of things. He sounds like he is doing what he thinks he can to assure you that he is ... | |
| Honeymoon period over or just not compatible | 9/23/2010 |
| Q: I'm not sure what to do in my current relationship, as I feel like I want to break up with my ... A: I am not sure about this. Some things I think you can work on and be okay but his temper/anger is a ... | |
| Alone time | 9/21/2010 |
| Q: My bf and I are currently in the military and serving overseas (in a non-combat zone). We have been ... A: Explain to him that people are born with over 60 personality traits. Some people have traits that ... | |
| seeking advice | 9/18/2010 |
| Q: Hey, So the situation I'm in right now with my girlfriend is that I'm feeling a little ... A: It is important to decide what you want and what messages you are giving her. If you are giving her ... | |
| Emotionally unstable | 9/17/2010 |
| Q: I have been in love with a man for the past three years. We dated briefly three years ago, but he ... A: Yep. You are wasting your time. Passion in the moment is not enough to hold a relationship together ... | |
| I want to trust him! | 9/14/2010 |
| Q: I am a 32 year old single mother of two boys, who have two different fathers. I have been in three ... A: It is not him you do not trust but yourself. Another problem might be that you give all and really ... | |
| Confused, Wary | 9/13/2010 |
| Q: Im 26 and in a very serious relationship, we've discussed marriage are saving for house, wedding, ... A: Him not deleting his membership on a singles site, or at least his texting someone from that is a ... | |
| relationship advice | 9/11/2010 |
| Q: i am 21 female and have been dating my high school sweet heart for three years now. our relationship ... A: Most unhappiness in relationships come from unfulfilled expectations. You built a dream and it just ... | |
| Past Trauma | 9/9/2010 |
| Q: My name is Kate, and my now ex-boyfriend and I have had some issues that I would like to get past. ... A: it is hard to let go because you are a nurturer and want to fix him. You see his potential, even ... | |
| A tough Situation , on break and away from college. | 9/7/2010 |
| Q: I am 19 years old and am quite heartbroken . Halfway through august a girl broke up with me after i ... A: So often, couples grow apart at your age and when going in different directions such as college, ... | |
| How do I get my significant other to be more affectionate | 9/6/2010 |
| Q: Iv been with my significant other for nearly a year now and have been deeply in love with him from ... A: It is hard to say what is going on but you made everything so easy for him that he hasn't had to ... | |
| Insecurity | 8/31/2010 |
| Q: I'm currently in a relationship and we've been together for over a year. A few months after we ... A: Two things. When you do not trust a situation you do not trust yourself. The way to overcome your ... | |
| I don't want to loose him | 8/30/2010 |
| Q: I need help. I'm 33 years old and having (if still) for first time in my life real relationship and ... A: Yes you are doing right. You want a partner that is equal where both of you are willing to work on ... | |
| i love my boyfriend but... | 8/29/2010 |
| Q: whenever i look online for "how to tell if he's your soul mate" or whatever there's always one that ... A: No one ever is perfect or fills all our needs. Only you know whether you would get tired of someone ... | |
| selfish ,controlling cheating spouse | 8/22/2010 |
| Q: I am a 34 years old woman with 2 small kids.I am well educated but not working. I quit working ... A: I wish I could be of more help but I am only trained in Personality Science traits, although I have ... | |
| Marriage | 8/20/2010 |
| Q: I’m been married for 9 years now, we been together for 15year with 3 kids. I have always felt ... A: forgive the misunderstanding. That puts a different light on things. I do think you have a ... | |
| How much longer I should wait? | 8/13/2010 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months now. The relationship has progressed for me but it seems ... A: This is the deal. You have different goals in the relationship than your boyfriend. You want more ... | |
| How to get the reassurance I need without seeming needy...? | 8/12/2010 |
| Q: I am in a three-year relationship with a wonderful man. We are both in our late twenties, both ... A: Moving in before marriage is always a very bad idea because of just what is happening to you but ... | |
| broken up | 8/10/2010 |
| Q: me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 years and weve known eachother for 12 years. we broken ... A: Sounds like he finally believed you after threatening him and telling him that you thought you ... | |
| What sort of relationship is this | 8/10/2010 |
| Q: I am single parent, having a daughter who is 6.5 yr old. Both of us stay together. I have been thru ... A: Your letter was addressed to Todd but I received it so I will go ahead and answer it. When you love ... | |
| what to do next | 8/2/2010 |
| Q: I am 23 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. In the beginning things were ... A: The first thing you need to do to ease some of this tension is to tell your mother that you love her ... | |
| hi | 8/1/2010 |
| Q: There is a girl i love so much though she is older than me. We've been having good rapport for ... A: My advice is still about the same. Be truly interested in her--what she thinks, what she feels, what ... | |
| shes not in love anymore | 7/31/2010 |
| Q: im 38, my wife approached after being gone for two and half weeks and said that she not in love with ... A: Bless your heart. Too many people these days think that they can fall in and out of love while love ... | |
| Why are we starting to act like friends? | 7/31/2010 |
| Q: I am 21 years old, Hi, me and my boyfriend have been dating for 9 months and a few weeks now and i ... A: You need to negotiate some relationship rules that you both live by. Tell him that is what you want ... | |
| Why are we starting to act like friends? | 7/30/2010 |
| Q: I am 21 years old, Hi, me and my boyfriend have been dating for 9 months and a few weeks now and i ... A: What you see is what you get. It takes awhile after the newness wears off in a relationship to see ... | |
| how do i strengthen my relationship? | 7/29/2010 |
| Q: I am 20 years old.My partner and i have been broken up for about 6 months now.However, in the span ... A: I think the problem here might be unrealistic expectations of a relationship. One of the ... | |
| Getting Threw To The Impossible. | 7/26/2010 |
| Q: My name's Melissa and I'm 19 years old. I've been with my man for almost a year, we're engaged and ... A: I need more detail before I can help you. How is he stubborn? Give me a couple of scenarios so that ... | |
| Healthy dating approach? | 7/24/2010 |
| Q: I'm 38, and have never been in a serious relationship at this point in my life and in deed, do not ... A: She went cold quickly because she didn't get her way, which was to develop a sexual relationship ... | |
| Busy, busy, busy. | 7/21/2010 |
| Q: I am 22 years old. I've just started a relationship after ending a two year abusive one (it's been 8 ... A: Too many young women want to get the relationship nailed down and into a full fledged relationship ... | |
| I don't know what to do... | 7/20/2010 |
| Q: Well there is this guy that I like and he likes me and he said how he was gonna ask me out when we ... A: We all have to suffer the consequences of our behavior. If when you "go back at them" you give off ... | |
| communication | 7/19/2010 |
| Q: I am a 22 year old girl who has been in this relation ship for nearly 3 years. I got to know my ... A: Try to think of fun things to do together where you just have fun and do not talk about your ... | |
| Conflict help! | 7/19/2010 |
| Q: I'm 20 years old and I'm writing because I have a situation I just can't make sense of. Last night I ... A: Well, it sounds like you are on your way to being financially independent and that is great. I can ... | |
| Conflict help! | 7/18/2010 |
| Q: I'm 20 years old and I'm writing because I have a situation I just can't make sense of. Last night I ... A: We do not know what triggered this so the thing to do is handle what happened. Sometimes guys start ... | |
| communication | 7/18/2010 |
| Q: I am a 22 year old girl who has been in this relation ship for nearly 3 years. I got to know my ... A: What you have is a one-sided love affair. Guys are usually very nice and romantic at first in order ... | |
| My Boyfriend and childs father never spends time with me | 7/18/2010 |
| Q: Sharon, I am 20 yrs old and have been with the same guy for 3 years. I am currently 6 months ... A: You chose to have sex with a guy who is not a responsible adult but a boy who wants to do what he ... | |
| Boyfriend | 7/16/2010 |
| Q: I'm 29 and BF is 33. My boyfriend and I are having issues as of late. (been together a year and a ... A: The first thing you should do is sit down with him and ask him what he really wants. You also need ... | |
| I'm loosing my best best friend | 7/6/2010 |
| Q: Good day I have a very good and best friend who is always care about me and i did my best to make ... A: Sorry things didn't work out with your friend. The answer to being alone is that if you really like ... | |
| What does he really mean? | 7/6/2010 |
| Q: I think you give out great answers and I am going to ask you another one. I been seeing this man for ... A: People are who they are and they do what they want to do. He is immature, is not the marrying kind ... | |
| How do i get my fiance not to move out | 7/4/2010 |
| Q: I have been in a serious relationship for 3 years now and finally asked my girlfriend to marry me. ... A: I will tell you that trying to persuade her will not work, making her jealous will not work and ... | |
| realtionship | 7/4/2010 |
| Q: How you doing I have a question for you. I truly love this girl we're together for our hole ... A: Jay, Send her a cute card (one week ahead of time) that say Thinking of you on it. In it tell her ... | |
| dating an older busy woman | 7/1/2010 |
| Q: I asked you a question a few months back about this older woman who is in her early 40's and I am in ... A: It is really very simple. We tend to read into things but what you see is what you get. People do ... | |
| TRUST ISSUES | 6/30/2010 |
| Q: RIGHT NOW MY HUSBAND AND I OF 19 YEARS ARE SEPARATED. I HAVE TRUST ISSUES WITH THE HIM BEAUSE OF ... A: I am not sure what can be done when one person has left and is not communicating very well. The ... | |
| Does he still deeply in love after all our problems | 6/30/2010 |
| Q: . I’m a 22 years old girl, and my boyfriend is 25, he’s a telecommunication engineer and I’m a law ... A: You can't get that spark back because it was based on a fantasy and false sense of intimacy. Having ... | |
| my boyfriend has changed | 6/28/2010 |
| Q: i have been going with my boyfriend for a year and a half but i honestly don't wanna be with anyone ... A: One of the things that causes most unhappiness in people is wanting something we can't have. Wanting ... | |
| don't know what to think about this | 6/27/2010 |
| Q: I don't know if I'm just overanalyzing this entire situation. I was away with my boyfriend last ... A: Ask him. Tell him that you were pretty drunk that night and ask him if you said something to offend ... | |
| Reasonable Expectations | 6/25/2010 |
| Q: I am not one of your younger clients (66 years of age). I divorced an abusive husband after 30 ... A: I am glad you wrote to me. Not only are you NOT being unreasonable you have let this go on way too ... | |
| dating an older busy woman | 6/25/2010 |
| Q: I asked you a question a few months back about this older woman who is in her early 40's and I am in ... A: The age thing might not be too bad, if you are willing to realize what it would be like when you are ... | |
| Should I forget about my first love??? | 6/24/2010 |
| Q: Me and my ex has been going out for 7 months, but we have been on and off and on again each month. ... A: Kids your age should be having fun and exploring life and all kinds of friendships instead of being ... | |
| my boyfriend doesnt want to spend time with me | 6/21/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for about six months and about three months ago he went to ... A: The added info helps a bit, but advice would still be the same. It is important to maintain some ... | |
| my boyfriend doesnt want to spend time with me | 6/20/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for about six months and about three months ago he went to ... A: Well, we can't change human nature and we can't change men from the way they are. Women make huge ... | |
| personality clash | 6/16/2010 |
| Q: What is your opinion on the importance of shared interests in a dating relationship? My boyfriend ... A: Sometimes opposites work well together and sometimes not. Personally, I prefer that you be more ... | |
| Depressed | 6/16/2010 |
| Q: ok so my boyfriend of six months just left to army basi training and they said right after that he ... A: I hate to disillusion you but the odds of you waiting for him are practically zero. That is because ... | |
| Engagment....already in trouble? | 6/16/2010 |
| Q: I am recently engaged but I feel like my fiance doesn't love me like she did before I "popped the ... A: I wouldn't say it is natural at all for her to behave this way. It is time to sit down and have a ... | |
| Relationships!!!! | 6/15/2010 |
| Q: I broke up with my ex boyfriend after being together for 2 yrs. We broke up in December of last ... A: It is natural to feel an attachment with someone who you have been with for a long time. Instead of ... | |
| Overnight/Work Differences | 6/15/2010 |
| Q: For starters; my boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years, we've lived together for 3 of those ... A: I don't think it is being selfish to want to spend time to build your relationship. However, if he ... | |
| Friendship/Romance | 6/14/2010 |
| Q: "I'm in America and I have a friend in the UK. We are both female. Most of our communication is done ... A: Sometimes it is easy to flirt with danger, so to speak, on the internet. Then, when it starts to ... | |
| Worth saving? | 6/13/2010 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend for over 2.5 years, living together for about two of those years. He is ... A: The economic strata difference would not be important if it were not important to you but if you go ... | |
| emotionally unavailable man | 6/11/2010 |
| Q: I'm 24 years old and I've been with my boy friend for over five years now. About 9 months ago i met ... A: He controls it because he is isolating you. He likes the sex, you feed his ego, you make him feel ... | |
| My boyfriend thinks im obsess with him andhe dont want to spend a lot of time with me. | 6/9/2010 |
| Q: . I'm Lilian and i have 17 years old and my boyfriend is 18. he is a senior so he left school ... A: Treating you nice doesn't mean he loves you. He sounds like a nice guy who is telling you the truth. ... | |
| relationship | 6/7/2010 |
| Q: I'm 21 and I have been with my boyfriend almost 3 yrs in August. He lost his son about a year ago ... A: Your boyfriend is acting and thinking like a man, which is both good and not good. My best guess is ... | |
| defensive difficult boyfriend | 6/5/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating my current boyfriend for three months and I am finding him extremely difficult to ... A: Do you have a secret desire to punish yourself? Why would you think you deserve someone who: thinks ... | |
| Summer struggle | 6/4/2010 |
| Q: I'm 17 and I have been with my current boyfriend for 7 months now. We use to see each other every ... A: It sounds like you are doing what you can to be nice to her. It is tough but you are almost 18. I ... | |
| Summer struggle | 6/4/2010 |
| Q: I'm 17 and I have been with my current boyfriend for 7 months now. We use to see each other every ... A: When a teenager is pushing for independence sometimes they do get an "attitude" so I am not sure if ... | |
| Dealing with ex-girlfriends amung other things... | 6/4/2010 |
| Q: I’m struggling… with it seems like a mountain full of issues and I’m looking for some clarity. My ... A: I do not read sexually explicit questions with bad language so I stopped reading it part way ... | |
| Half in /half not | 6/3/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating a guy for almost 2 years and feel that it is not moving forward.We have ... A: If he tells you that he has never been full into a relationship that is not a good sign and not ... | |
| Clueless | 6/3/2010 |
| Q: "Hey Sharon my name is juan i'm 22 yrs old i need more clarity in What To Do When A Woman Tells You ... A: In matter of love it is like playing a slot machine. You have to keep putting money in before you ... | |
| Confusing Girl | 6/2/2010 |
| Q: I am 18 and i have a big dilemma. I have been friends with this girl for about 3 years. Just so ... A: If she is becoming more distant, of course there has to be some reason and she is not telling you ... | |
| is this the end? | 6/1/2010 |
| Q: my boyfriend and i have been together for 6years we were both 17 when we started dating. For the ... A: It could be that he finally got it that you were serious about the problem and thought he might lose ... | |
| Communication | 6/1/2010 |
| Q: Im a 22 year old male and i just got into a relationship with a female. i want to keep our convos ... A: The main thing in communication is to ask questions that require more than a yes or no. For Example, ... | |
| my girlfriend and i | 5/31/2010 |
| Q: my girlfriend is on the line of falling in love with me. what can i do to get her to fall in love ... A: Several things. First of all, you can't make another person fall in love with you. Secondly, people ... | |
| is this the end? | 5/30/2010 |
| Q: my boyfriend and i have been together for 6years we were both 17 when we started dating. For the ... A: It is not normal for a couple to be together from such a young age and then stay together. People ... | |
| no quality time!!!! | 5/28/2010 |
| Q: I am 34yrs old and my partner is 23yrs old.we have a 3yr old son we been together for almost 7 ... A: Did I read it right that you have been with this guy since he was 16 or 17 and you are eleven years ... | |
| Is he insecure? | 5/26/2010 |
| Q: Well just like every relationship it starts off fantastic, but now that we are farther into the ... A: sounds like you chose setting boundaries and that is important and just might work, especially with ... | |
| Is he insecure? | 5/25/2010 |
| Q: Well just like every relationship it starts off fantastic, but now that we are farther into the ... A: Who we like and think we want to be with at 19 is usually very different than who we want at 23, 24, ... | |
| My boyfriend won't work on "us". | 5/20/2010 |
| Q: I'm nineteen years old, twenty in October, and I've been dating my boyfriend for almost four years. ... A: Very rarely does a "player" ever change. Many women have tried, much to their sorrow and now you are ... | |
| Saving a long term relationship | 5/20/2010 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been together for more than 13 years now , living together for more than ... A: I am sorry to say that your girlfriend sounds like she has emotionally left the relationship. Too ... | |
| Young love | 5/17/2010 |
| Q: i am 16 years old and im having problems with my boyfriend. We dated for a year and two months ... A: This is what we call a one-sided love. You care for him but he really is not into you. We can't ... | |
| how to make my boyfriend feel more interested | 5/16/2010 |
| Q: What is the deal??? I've been with my boyfriend for a little over 5 months and things are going ... A: Your problem is that you lack self-confidence and are too needy. Love must flow freely. You can't ... | |
| has an emotionally cold girlfriend | 5/15/2010 |
| Q: I'm in a long distance relationship and right now, certain events have led up to my girlfriend and I ... A: You both have unrealistic expectations from a long distance relationship. They are practically ... | |
| Confused about how she really feels about me. | 5/14/2010 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with this girl for almost 6-months now. She is really a special person ... A: Well, you could take a break but that usually doesn't work because it kind of gives a person ... | |
| Partner is looking elsewhere | 5/13/2010 |
| Q: I have been with my partner for three years and until a few weeks ago we have had a very honest ... A: I would be honest and open with him. Tell him that even in the best of relationships there are ... | |
| Taking a break | 5/12/2010 |
| Q: My partner and I have been together for 9 years. I still identify as a lesbian, but I have been ... A: Well Brooks, you are talking to the wrong person, perhaps. I believe that gender selection is pretty ... | |
| In two minds? | 5/11/2010 |
| Q: My question is this. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year and my problems are that he is ... A: You need to get rid of this guy fast. Before you break up, call the police and tell them you are ... | |
| Commitment-phobe and how to strengthen relationship | 5/8/2010 |
| Q: I would appreciate some advice about how to strengthen our relationship. We are aged 47/48. I am ... A: It is a pretty sure bet that he is not capable of committing to a relationship that would lead to ... | |
| Trust | 5/7/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I are a young couple who've been together for 5 years. He's is my first boyfriend, ... A: There are too many unanswered questions to answer this intelligently. What one person thinks is ... | |
| Fed up trying to make the relationship like it was when we met | 5/7/2010 |
| Q: Hey Sharon, My name is Rahila and i am a 22 year old female. My problem is that i dont like my ... A: Tell him that you no longer will have sex with him until you are married and then see how he treats ... | |
| 7 years..Still trying | 5/6/2010 |
| Q: Me and my ex were together for 5 years. When we first started dating we were 18 and 19. We were ... A: This is what is happening. When you meet someone you create a fantasy around that person. You think ... | |
| Just friends? | 5/5/2010 |
| Q: I am 33 and reconnected 7 months ago with Mike, who is 36. We knew each other in college though not ... A: Openness is usually good, but not pressure. If you contact him, I would tell him that the best ... | |
| Relationship is falling apart! | 5/4/2010 |
| Q: Me and my bf are both 23 turning 24 this year. We have been together 2 years. He went out west for 6 ... A: I see this pattern over and over again. The girl thinks than when the guy has sex with her that he ... | |
| Thin line between being clingy and wanting just enough attention | 5/4/2010 |
| Q: I am 23 and I have been with my boyfriend for two and a half years. We have been in a long distance ... A: One thing for sure, if you keep getting upset over the same thing you will drive him away. The ... | |
| Continuous Fighting Cycle | 5/4/2010 |
| Q: I'm 29; my boyfriend will soon be 29. We've been dating for a year and 8 months. Things, of ... A: That gives me much more info to go on. I hate to discourage you, but you have a problem, here. Yes, ... | |
| Continuous Fighting Cycle | 5/3/2010 |
| Q: I'm 29; my boyfriend will soon be 29. We've been dating for a year and 8 months. Things, of ... A: I made up my mind years ago not to get my feelings hurt. It is a huge waste of time and emotion and ... | |
| resentment and arguments.. | 4/30/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I were together two years, then split due to stressful lives that led to arguments. ... A: You are right. This is your problem, not his. This is your insecurity. Only you know why you are ... | |
| Coming to an end? | 4/29/2010 |
| Q: I am 21 years old, my 22nd birthday is fast approaching in under a month. I work full time and have ... A: It sounds like you are basically compatible but I think you have unrealistic expectations of what ... | |
| Break up with Boyfriend of 1 1/2 Years? | 4/29/2010 |
| Q: I am 24, my boyfriend is 23. We are both students, graduating in May. Have lived together for a ... A: I hate to say this but it doesn't look good for this relationship. It doesn't look like two ... | |
| boyfriend help | 4/28/2010 |
| Q: hey my name is stephanie im 16 years and i need help with my boyfriend..we been together for 1year ... A: What you say when he asks why you didn't call is that you have a life, too, and there is nothing ... | |
| boyfriend help | 4/28/2010 |
| Q: hey my name is stephanie im 16 years and i need help with my boyfriend..we been together for 1year ... A: There are some things you need to know about men and women your age. The brain is not developed ... | |
| porn | 4/26/2010 |
| Q: not very good at spelling soo if you carnet understand ask me thanks. i have been with my girlfriend ... A: I can answer part of your question but do not give advice on sexual problems. As to porn, it is an ... | |
| Boyfriend/dad problems | 4/24/2010 |
| Q: I am having trouble with my boyfriend. (and I am sorry if I posted this in the wrong area). He is 23 ... A: It would be great if your boyfriend would move out and stand up to his parents. it is just that it ... | |
| Bad Cycle | 4/24/2010 |
| Q: I am 23 years old and my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 8yrs. Recently we have been ... A: The problem is that you have been together through all the years that people are out exploring life ... | |
| Boyfriend/dad problems | 4/23/2010 |
| Q: I am having trouble with my boyfriend. (and I am sorry if I posted this in the wrong area). He is 23 ... A: You have a BIG problem. At 23, he is still a little boy. Getting grounded at 23? Bless your heart, ... | |
| Confusions | 4/20/2010 |
| Q: Me and my guy have been in a relationship for a few months now, and recently he moved to UK, and i ... A: Things can never be the way they used to be. People put on their best behavior when you first meet ... | |
| How to deal with an uncomfortable situation | 4/19/2010 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months now. His previous relationship ended leaving her to think ... A: Well, what can you do about it? Not much since she is free to come and go. So, your option is to ... | |
| hw to develop communication | 4/18/2010 |
| Q: Well putting my problem direct here. I have seen a guy (age 32)shown by my parents. we are of same ... A: Since the only way you will know whether he is afraid of rejection or does not want to be found out ... | |
| interest | 4/14/2010 |
| Q: My fiance and I have been together for a year and Im truly in love. I'm in my first long ... A: Have you heard of people being a narcissist? Narcissists are people who are not capable of love. ... | |
| Relationship Help | 4/13/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years, since I was 13. So now i am 18- we recently ... A: When we don't trust someone else it is really ourselves we do not trust. When you become a ... | |
| Communication issues with GF | 4/11/2010 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I are currently on a break from our relationship and we've only been together for ... A: Okay. If your girlfriend thinks your communication is passive aggressive then you need to ask ... | |
| Love-struck | 4/9/2010 |
| Q: I've been in this long distance association for 1 long year now. We met through internet but we're ... A: Long distance relationships almost never work because they know through studies that 80% of ... | |
| jealous my fault or his? | 4/6/2010 |
| Q: ok im 21 and i have been goign out with my boyfriend for 1yr and 9 months. He has came close to ... A: When we do not trust another person it is really ourselves we do not trust. You can never trust your ... | |
| Confused Ex | 4/6/2010 |
| Q: well me (19) and my now ex (18) recently broke up. the reason behind it is really bugging me. She ... A: During these years lots of changes are happening, especially emotionally. This is the time when ... | |
| Stressed out | 4/5/2010 |
| Q: Ih I need some advice. Me and my fiacne are getting married next year, we've also been living ... A: This is a good opportunity to establish a positive pattern of working together for a common goal, ... | |
| My broyfriend wants a break! | 4/4/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. Two weeks ago, he went on a volunteer trip and ... A: You need to acknowledge your boundaries. He is keeping you dangling while he explores the ... | |
| rebuilding relationship | 4/4/2010 |
| Q: I am having many problems with my relationship at the moment. Firstly I am at present suffering from ... A: Since he has expressed that he is still trying to get over his ex wife that is a red flag for this ... | |
| at a loss | 4/4/2010 |
| Q: I have recently started seeing a woman that I have known for almost 5 years. We just recently got ... A: The best thing to do is to date her as a friend. Give her a few days and then call her with a fun ... | |
| What can i do different? | 4/1/2010 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 9 months. We see each other everyday for a good 5 hours or ... A: Too often there is too much too soon and relationships have no place to go. When you have sex soon ... | |
| How can fix a lie that is not true? | 3/31/2010 |
| Q: My Bf and I have been together for over a year now, when we met it was not the adequate time to do ... A: Any time a person feels like he can't live without another person and will do "anything" to keep ... | |
| sleeping with a broken heart | 3/30/2010 |
| Q: my boyfriend just recently broke up with me. We been togehter for 6 yrs and have a 3 yr old ... A: That is very sad that you did not give the father the chance to know about it. You might have saved ... | |
| confused and at lost...i hope you reply promptly | 3/28/2010 |
| Q: I went on d date a mth back with this guy and things was really fast moving...we're in our early ... A: When you take away something out of your life replace it as quickly as possible with doing good ... | |
| Is there a future for my relationship? | 3/28/2010 |
| Q: I've been going out with my boyfriend for over 2 and a half years. I'm 5 years older than him, I'm ... A: Unfortunately, he is at an age where he wants to be carefree and explore life and you are ready to ... | |
| confused and at lost...i hope you reply promptly | 3/28/2010 |
| Q: I went on d date a mth back with this guy and things was really fast moving...we're in our early ... A: There are things you need to know about men. First of all, they will say most anything if they think ... | |
| confused.. | 3/27/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend an I were best friends and roommates before we started dating. He had always wanted to ... A: It is hard to say what is happening but guys who come back from the overseas often have problems. I ... | |
| Does a break really help a relationship get stronger? | 3/27/2010 |
| Q: i am 21 and so is my ex. We were together for 4 years. He asked me for a break because he wanted to ... A: Annie, It is a breakup. Why, I do not know; but taking breaks almost always means the end. Often, ... | |
| My girlfriend wants to move out | 3/27/2010 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been dating almost 3,5 years and we have been living together for 3 years. ... A: No one really knows what goes on in someone's mind but she definitely needs to spread her wings a ... | |
| Should I back off? | 3/25/2010 |
| Q: I am a 49 divorced woman that has been seeing a man (50 yrs old) for 6 months. We met on the ... A: How can someone who "feels dead emotionally" still spend the weekend with you? If you are having sex ... | |
| I hope you can help. | 3/23/2010 |
| Q: I hope you can help me. Im not really in a relationship with the guy but I really like him, and even ... A: It is hard to tell what is going on. I believe that you should still remain friends but if he moves ... | |
| Interpersonal Relationships | 3/23/2010 |
| Q: I am 26, this isn't necessarily a question pertaining to marriage specifically, but I guess in human ... A: Sometimes there is no common ground between you and another person but usually if you are truly ... | |
| Oblivious Communication | 3/21/2010 |
| Q: My name is Jamal and I am 24 years old. My girlfriend is 25 years old and I have been with her for 7 ... A: You need to make sure you are not on the defensive but go on the offensive. Not in a judgmental or ... | |
| Oblivious Communication | 3/20/2010 |
| Q: My name is Jamal and I am 24 years old. My girlfriend is 25 years old and I have been with her for 7 ... A: Well, we have a problem here because your girlfriend does not understand men and she has low ... | |
| Problems with partner | 3/20/2010 |
| Q: I am 35 y old woman, I have been divorced for 3 years. For a year now, I have been in a long ... A: It is not being jealous to dislike this arrangement, it is being smart. He is not emotionally ... | |
| culture difference,long distance relationship and bf doesnt have concrete plans | 3/20/2010 |
| Q: im in a 4 yr Long distance relationship, we only live together for 7 months and the rest was long ... A: Your cultural differences are too much. He is not going to go against his family and really, what ... | |
| I love him and hate him at the same time. Please help! | 3/19/2010 |
| Q: My fiance and I have been going for almost 3 years now. In the beginning things were really great. ... A: Perhaps there is something about working with his mother that is bringing out some insecurities. ... | |
| this awesome girl i met online | 3/18/2010 |
| Q: Theirs this really cute girl who friend request me on one of these social websites(shes a friend of ... A: Any number of things could be happening here. She might not be entirely through with another ... | |
| Moving On | 3/17/2010 |
| Q: My partner and i have been together almost two years and have been living together almost the whole ... A: Hope things continue to work out for you. Just make sure that you do not allow him to hold you back ... | |
| How to make things right?? | 3/16/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and i have been dating for 3 years. I've been true a lot with my family to be with him, ... A: It takes awhile to get to know the real person. The problem that you "just want him to be the person ... | |
| get boyfriend to spend more time | 3/15/2010 |
| Q: he tells me how much he wants me to be his wifey and he wants us to grow but he never seems to have ... A: Well, this guy is keeping you on the back burner for when HE is ready to make a further commitment. ... | |
| Strengthening a relationship | 3/15/2010 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship for 4 years. Of the time we have been together, we have lived together ... A: This is yet another story of how very few people who live together actually get married. It is ... | |
| Moving On | 3/15/2010 |
| Q: My partner and i have been together almost two years and have been living together almost the whole ... A: You made the mistake of acting life a wife, who can see how being irresponsible financially, could ... | |
| help | 3/15/2010 |
| Q: I have this girl that supposedly like me just the same as i like her but i am thinking her feelings ... A: You show your neediness and self-doubt when you keep asking her if she cares. You haven't been with ... | |
| relationship with fiance | 3/13/2010 |
| Q: my fiance and I have been together for about 3 going on 4 years and two years ago we had a lil boy ... A: The issues you are talking about need professional advice. Also, have you been thoroughly check out ... | |
| a break, done for ever? | 3/11/2010 |
| Q: Hopefully you can shed some light on my problem. My girlfriend and I are both 24 years old and have ... A: Unfortunately there is not very much you do when one person wants space and backs off from the ... | |
| 5 Year Rut | 3/10/2010 |
| Q: I am 24 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years ( he is the same age as well ... A: You have several issues here. The problem with getting into serious relationships too young is ... | |
| Boyfriend | 3/9/2010 |
| Q: First of all, I never want to change the guy he is, but a few things bother me. I'm Catholic and ... A: A very important thing in life, in order to be happy, is to acknowledge God given boundaries within ... | |
| Affectionateless Relationship | 3/9/2010 |
| Q: Ok, here goes. I met him 2 years ago and we started dating about 1 1/2 years ago. Shortly after we ... A: This is what often happens in choosing partners. We have unfinished business with one of our parents ... | |
| Affectionateless Relationship | 3/8/2010 |
| Q: Ok, here goes. I met him 2 years ago and we started dating about 1 1/2 years ago. Shortly after we ... A: This is not a minor difference here that can be negotiated. This is a serious problem that must be ... | |
| Opposites Attract | 3/8/2010 |
| Q: I am soon to be 22 yrs old. My boyfriends is 6 months younger. We have been together for nearly a ... A: Learning how to understand and work with differences sometimes takes some time. Since you know he ... | |
| Help with my girlfriend | 3/8/2010 |
| Q: .I want to know how can I handle my girlfriend..our relationship is good and shes in love with me ... A: It is hard to say what this fear in your stomach represents. Sometimes it represents things that are ... | |
| My boyfriend calls me immature for wanting to see him. HELP! | 3/8/2010 |
| Q: I am 22 years old. I have been with my boyfriend for about 10 months now. My issue is that I feel we ... A: The problem is that you are already thinking that building your own life and not putting so much ... | |
| My boyfriend calls me immature for wanting to see him. HELP! | 3/7/2010 |
| Q: I am 22 years old. I have been with my boyfriend for about 10 months now. My issue is that I feel we ... A: Most relationships change into a different kind of relationship that starts out as more intense and ... | |
| Forever or Never | 3/6/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 1/2 years, we're both about to finish college and start ... A: Since the man is the main provider, he usually establishes himself where he can best fulfill that ... | |
| Forever or Never | 3/6/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 1/2 years, we're both about to finish college and start ... A: Where will your friends be in twenty years? Will they all still be right there in your home town? ... | |
| Break in a relationship | 3/4/2010 |
| Q: I'm 21 and my Boyfriend is 24, we've been dating for a year and 3 months now and a week ago he asked ... A: It is hard to say what brought it on since he is not telling you. I have been thinking what I would ... | |
| Controlling Personality | 3/1/2010 |
| Q: I am in a relationship with a man that I love for a little over 5 years. He has always been ... A: You can only make a relationship better when two people sincerely have a commitment to do so. Then ... | |
| 49, Unemployed and Depressed | 2/26/2010 |
| Q: Need your objective opinion. Below is my original question and your response: Hi Sharon, I’m a ... A: It is a good sign that he pretty much paid you back but it is not a good sign that he is into ... | |
| should i move on.. | 2/24/2010 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend have been together now for almost 9 months we are both 17 and in high school as ... A: It is always hard to give up the familiar. What would happen if you just told him you were busy when ... | |
| Can it be a relationship or not? | 2/23/2010 |
| Q: This young lady i have been knowing for about four years. We have become close friends she calls me ... A: Ric, You know, life is a risk. If you really want to live your life you must take risks and I do ... | |
| should i move on.. | 2/23/2010 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend have been together now for almost 9 months we are both 17 and in high school as ... A: It is best to move on. At your age people change really a lot and often grow apart. It also takes a ... | |
| Best Friend Problems | 2/22/2010 |
| Q: For the longest of time, my best friend and I have been having a cycle of ongoing issues with one ... A: One of the main causes of unhappiness in this world is unrealistic expectations. You are treating ... | |
| She wants to take a break... | 2/21/2010 |
| Q: I'm 22 years old and about to graduate college. My lover and I have been together for 1 yr and 10 ... A: The problem here, it seems, is that she has unrealistic expectations of what a relationship should ... | |
| How do I make things better? | 2/18/2010 |
| Q: Me and my girlfriend of a year broke up a few weeks ago because she found out that 6 months ago I ... A: The only way she will trust you again is to tell her that she can call you any time to know what you ... | |
| Long term girlfriend wants to be single again | 2/14/2010 |
| Q: I am 24 and have been with my girlfriend for five years. We met in the first year of university and ... A: Timing is everything. It sounds like two good people who are just not together at the right time in ... | |
| best friend? | 2/10/2010 |
| Q: I have been completely in love with my boyfriend of a year and a half and he feels the same exact ... A: Well, I can tell you that love/marriage without friendship usually ends up in divorce when the ... | |
| Making things better | 2/9/2010 |
| Q: I'm 23, I've been in a string of relationships over the last few years that were unbalanced and I ... A: Look at your past history. More than likely you give your heart, mind, and body away much too soon ... | |
| is it over? | 2/4/2010 |
| Q: I've been dating my boyfriend for about 2 months short of a year. He's absolutley in love with me & ... A: This is the deal. People change a LOT between 18 and 25. This is the period of time when you are ... | |
| New Relationship | 2/1/2010 |
| Q: I’m a 40-year-old woman in a brand new relationship with a 48-year-old man. (About six weeks). He ... A: Being out of work would not be a deal breaker if he were really out their hustling to get another ... | |
| Shall I Marry Him | 1/31/2010 |
| Q: i'm 22 and my boyfriend is 25 my problem is that i'm extremely confused about marring my boyfriend, ... A: It is hard to say exactly what is going on without really talking to both of you but here are some ... | |
| girlfriend | 1/26/2010 |
| Q: I am a 22 year old male going out with a 21 year old for the past 8 months. I have told her I love ... A: Well, the truth is that she doesn't care about you the same way you care about her. She loves you ... | |
| Is it time to let go? | 1/26/2010 |
| Q: I have been seeing a man for about 18 months now. When the relationship began, he told me he was ... A: Men who are players seem to know how to choose a woman like you who will serve as his comfort ... | |
| Lost love? Or hope? | 1/26/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year. I am still in love with him, but he says ... A: Taylor, The answer is that you can't go back and make things like they were. Many people make the ... | |
| i dont know if it possible | 1/25/2010 |
| Q: sharon, I am probably in one of the worst situations of my life and it is my fault for it. Ill ... A: Honesty is usually the best policy to make amends to family. If you want to repair this I would ... | |
| My boyfriend needs to change my dressing style | 1/23/2010 |
| Q: We are in love from the past 5 years... next month is our marriage. Initially he was very good... he ... A: The answer is that he won't change. Only you can become strong enough so that you do not allow him ... | |
| I don't know how to teach my boyfriend how to kiss me the way I like. | 1/22/2010 |
| Q: I recently got back with my ex-boyfriend so that we can give each another chance at love. We do have ... A: Ask him to do a kissing game with you. Ask him to think of a way to kiss, and then it will be your ... | |
| My boyfriend needs to change my dressing style | 1/21/2010 |
| Q: We are in love from the past 5 years... next month is our marriage. Initially he was very good... he ... A: Follow your gut feelings. They are probably right. He sounds like he will be the kind of husband who ... | |
| confusing boyfriend | 1/19/2010 |
| Q: Me and my boyriend have been together just under 3years. we have a 19mth old son. we first had a 3 ... A: Well, this proves my point that being together, living together, having a baby together does not ... | |
| Problems please help!! | 1/19/2010 |
| Q: well my boyfriend and we have been together for over a year. We are 100% faithful and we love ... A: In order to stop arguing you must be more mature. Mature people (at any age) do not get their ... | |
| dating dilemma | 1/18/2010 |
| Q: So, I been dating this guy for over 8 months. We see each other about once a week. We live about an ... A: This is the deal. Men will say just about anything to get sex because sex is their number one ... | |
| confusing boyfriend | 1/18/2010 |
| Q: Me and my boyriend have been together just under 3years. we have a 19mth old son. we first had a 3 ... A: The most important thing here is your child. These little innocent babies caught in the middle of ... | |
| Just don't know what to do anymoree! | 1/18/2010 |
| Q: I've known my boyfriend sense we were like 10, back in november I lost a baby for him and we broke ... A: Yes, it is a good idea for more than one reason. Sex without the commitment of marriage gets boring ... | |
| 5 Years of Lies | 1/16/2010 |
| Q: I have now been in a relationship with my boyfriend for just over 5 years. When we first got ... A: It is very common for women to enable weak men because of their nurturing nature. The problem is ... | |
| Confused about what to do | 1/16/2010 |
| Q: So I been in a relationship for almost 7 years and alot has happen through out the time we been ... A: The problem is that when women do not respect themselves enough to not have sex with someone until ... | |
| Uncertainty!!!! | 1/15/2010 |
| Q: I love my boyfriend of a couple months, but he has broken up with me once because of his issues (he ... A: The important thing to do in evaluating any relationship is to accept what is and not create in your ... | |
| My Boyfriend is Extremely Shy | 1/15/2010 |
| Q: I am a 22 year old female who has been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a little over a year ... A: I am not sure what would work. I would tell him how much you appreciate him and that there are many ... | |
| confusion | 1/14/2010 |
| Q: hey okay so now I asked a previous question but was told to leave my ex alone he's a jerk and ... A: It is never wrong to be honest about what you want in a relationship. He may not go for it, but it ... | |
| She wants to take a break | 1/12/2010 |
| Q: Recently my girlfriend of over three years decided she wanted to take a break from our relationship. ... A: Well, this is a toughie. I almost need to talk to someone in this type of situation because there ... | |
| how to keep the flame going | 1/12/2010 |
| Q: I'm 25 years old and my girlfriend and I have been together for 21 months. Funny thing is, we have ... A: Unfortunately, no one can tell you what you want to know except you. The problem with long distance ... | |
| Confused??need help!! | 1/11/2010 |
| Q: I have a boyfriend who I have been with sfor 15 months. Lately I've been having major irritation. My ... A: Unfortunately, high school girls will be high school girls. The more it bothers you and the more you ... | |
| Fear of committment | 1/11/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating this guy for about two months. We're super compatible and I love talking to him ... A: It sounds like you are expecting way too much too soon. Stop putting so much pressure on yourself ... | |
| Marriage, change in relationship...etc | 1/11/2010 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and we started talking about getting married in a ... A: The question is do you want to be with someone who could leave at any time because he has told you ... | |
| personality issue | 1/10/2010 |
| Q: I am engaged to this man who is divorced with two boys. We've been together for three years and ... A: Here are several possibilities. Read them all before you judge what I say. The question is if your ... | |
| relationship doubts | 1/10/2010 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 10 months now, everything has been great until the last couple of ... A: I would back off completely and give him an opportunity to miss you and think about it. Then, the ... | |
| relationship problems | 1/10/2010 |
| Q: Ok me & my boyfriend were friends since ii was 13 and im 17 now and he`s 20. We recently got ... A: People change a lot during the teen years and early twenties and instead of trying to get him back, ... | |
| jelous thoughts | 1/9/2010 |
| Q: Recently i have meet a girl and we have fallen in love. our families have known each other over 40 ... A: First of all, I commend you for not having sex before marriage. Wouldn't life be so different in our ... | |
| marriage issue | 1/8/2010 |
| Q: i have been dating my man for two years, we are about to get into our third year. I am 27, he is 29. ... A: Pick out two dates for this summer, then sit down and say to him, It is time for us to get married. ... | |
| How to be able to talk to my girlfriend more | 1/7/2010 |
| Q: We've known each other for two months and been going out for one month and we've been having this ... A: Your question is a good one. You are not alone in having challenges in being able to talk to a ... | |
| I really need help, fast! | 1/7/2010 |
| Q: Okay me and my boyfriend have being out for 16 months, but we have had a lot of troubles along the ... A: Nicole, Anytime you feel so strongly that you can't live without a person you have given all your ... | |
| what should i do? | 1/6/2010 |
| Q: my boyfriend and i have together for 2 years. i love him to death but lately he's been going into ... A: You have already lost him and so finding out what he is doing won't cause you to lose him. He is ... | |
| Help!! | 1/4/2010 |
| Q: I'm having a huge irritation lately. My friend at school just left and is in homeschool. She was the ... A: At your age you are really asking for trouble if you have just one boyfriend in a serious ... | |
| Constant arguing | 1/2/2010 |
| Q: I'm a 24 year-old male in a great relationship of two years. Over the last few months our ... A: If you have tried remaining calm and diffusing the situation and she continues jumping on you for ... | |
| Please help me understand | 12/31/2009 |
| Q: I am 26 years old and I have been with the most wonderful man for almost 2 years. The problem has ... A: Usually, two years is about right to know if you want marriage with someone or not, and if one party ... | |
| my relationship is falling apart | 12/31/2009 |
| Q: me and my bf are both 23 and have been together for over a year and a half. We are currently doing ... A: It keeps me from guessing. In this case, I think he has already emotionally left this relationship. ... | |
| please help | 12/31/2009 |
| Q: Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 2 months and were kind of on and off. She left me once ... A: The thing to do is to ask her out on a date and go out with her. If she whips out her phone ask her ... | |
| my relationship is falling apart | 12/30/2009 |
| Q: me and my bf are both 23 and have been together for over a year and a half. We are currently doing ... A: First of all, long distance relationships hardly ever work. When you talk long distance it seems ... | |
| argumentitive relationship | 12/30/2009 |
| Q: im seventeen years old and me and my boyfriend have been constantly fighting. I'm trying to show him ... A: First of all, he is telling you what one of the problems is and that is that when he says he loves ... | |
| love | 12/29/2009 |
| Q: hi i'am zach i'am 20 and i really need some advice on getting my ex girlfriend back i cant take it ... A: There are several problems here. First of all, people of your age change a lot. It takes until ... | |
| Lost at what to do in this Relationship | 12/28/2009 |
| Q: This is my first time asking a question here, just like this is my first relationship. I'm lost on ... A: If you have only been going together for a couple of months you are expecting way too much out of ... | |
| Constant arguing | 12/27/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 24 year-old male in a great relationship of two years. Over the last few months our ... A: I am proud of you for asking for help. That is a good sign that it is possible to make your ... | |
| Too Young | 12/23/2009 |
| Q: I recently turned nineteen and have had a hard year with my boyfriend. Actually we just broke up ... A: Well, you can't turn back the clock and have things the way they were because you both have had ... | |
| Relationship help | 12/22/2009 |
| Q: 20 years old. Dear Sharon, I was in a relationship with my girl friend for just over four months ... A: If you start talking about the relationship and things you have learned, etc., it will be pressure ... | |
| Relationship help | 12/22/2009 |
| Q: 20 years old. Dear Sharon, I was in a relationship with my girl friend for just over four months ... A: If by confronting her you mean that you will try to pin her down and get a commitment from her you ... | |
| Is he the one? | 12/21/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating my now ex boyfriend for the pass 3 years now and for the pass year it has been on ... A: The question is, does he think you are the one? Is he chasing after you consistently or does he only ... | |
| i really want space from my 8 year relationship | 12/21/2009 |
| Q: I have always liked other guys throughout middle school and high school, i have even dated them and ... A: Just break it off. You started dating way too young and never felt like you were free to be young. ... | |
| My boyfriend says something feels weird | 12/20/2009 |
| Q: I first met my boyfriend and love of my life at a school basketball game, first he blew me off, then ... A: Even though it doesn't make sense that it was your illness that made him back off, at least your ... | |
| I want to win my wife's heart... | 12/20/2009 |
| Q: i am 31. I have a very great relationship with my wife for 7 years now and we have a 3 years old ... A: I am so sorry you are having to go through this. I cannot advise you, legally, because I do not ... | |
| My boyfriend says something feels weird | 12/19/2009 |
| Q: I first met my boyfriend and love of my life at a school basketball game, first he blew me off, then ... A: The truth hurts but it must be faced. People usually have several "loves" in their lives and very ... | |
| Fiance's relationship with femail friend bothers me | 12/17/2009 |
| Q: I am 27. My fiance and I have been together for 7 1/2 years and will be married next year. When we ... A: You certainly do not want to marry someone who cares so little about your feelings that he wouldn't ... | |
| dont want to lose my boyfriend | 12/17/2009 |
| Q: Well me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months and we have the most amazing relationship ... A: People are who they are and they do what they want to do. What you give out is what you get back. ... | |
| relationship | 12/16/2009 |
| Q: I do not know what to do. I talk to my ex boyfriend finally and he said ihad really push his button ... A: The problem is that when you keep talking to him, worrying about it, and anguishing over it, it ... | |
| Moving-In With a Married Man | 12/15/2009 |
| Q: My friend Tiffany is 30 but wants to be 22. All of her boyfriends of the past 5 years: have been ... A: I wish I could save your friend but it looks like she is going to have to suffer a lot more before ... | |
| wants to convince my fiance | 12/15/2009 |
| Q: I am doing bachelor of architecture.My fiance has done 12 standards and could not complete his ... A: It is too bad that some men can't allow women to grow and be educated and use their education. They ... | |
| Rocky Relationship, stuck in rut and not sure what else to do? | 12/14/2009 |
| Q: Ok, so my boyfriend and I have been together for a year now, and everything for the first 9 months ... A: if it has been two days and he hasn't contacted you, then I really think he left this relationship ... | |
| Unaffectionate girlfriend - | 12/14/2009 |
| Q: I am a 37 y/o male facing an issue that I need some help. My g/f and I have been together for 1 ... A: You do have a challenge. The problem is that people are who they are and they do what they want to ... | |
| Fighting too much? | 12/13/2009 |
| Q: I would love to know how to go about strengthening my relationship. By all appearances I have the ... A: The problem with today's ways of sleeping with whatever boyfriend you are with is that since sex is ... | |
| Relationship Problems | 12/9/2009 |
| Q: I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 2 years now, we currently living together. We have ... A: Well, there are a lot of problems here. First of all words do hurt a person and certainly is a ... | |
| affection/romance | 12/8/2009 |
| Q: My name is Kayleka and Im 23. My significant other and I have been together for 6 years. He is 24. ... A: People have different needs emotionally and are built to be different in how they express love and ... | |
| How to get back into a relationship with Girlfriend | 12/8/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I recently got into a fight and she said she wanted to break up with me but of ... A: This is going to be hard to do but I recommend that you stop trying to get her back. What doesn't ... | |
| hello | 12/7/2009 |
| Q: allison clark A: You have the wrong boyfriend. Tell him that he isn't ten years old and he is a big boy now and knows ... | |
| In deep | 12/7/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years. We broke up (3) times for a week max. We are both ... A: the problem with counseling is that after all, even if you find out why you are this way, you still ... | |
| In deep | 12/6/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years. We broke up (3) times for a week max. We are both ... A: If you would read your own letter you would see what the problems are for you. First of all, you got ... | |
| i love a girl | 12/5/2009 |
| Q: My name is muneef and my age is 19. i love one girl too much who is 5 or 6 years older then me. I ... A: First of all, if you are only 19 and she is 5 or 6 years older than you, she will probably not take ... | |
| How To get My Ex Back? | 12/5/2009 |
| Q: Well I Was In A Relationship For About 2 Months %26 Things Were Going Great Till a Week Before Our 2 ... A: Often, the problem is women giving too much too soon and the guy gets bored. Men are hunters and you ... | |
| love letter | 12/2/2009 |
| Q: I was just curious if this letter I'm writing is even good enough to give my girlfriend. its our 3 ... A: To tell the truth, I think you are crowding her. This is too much too soon. Give her a chance to ... | |
| my boyfriend lost his zest for life | 12/2/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I are freshman in college and we’ve been dating since we started high school. We ... A: Boy! This is a tough one. I know the answers but don't know how to get him to be open to the answers ... | |
| confused | 12/2/2009 |
| Q: im 24 and i just lost my virginity to my boyfriend 2 weeks ago and it hurt so bad. i think i even ... A: You need to go to a doctor right away, in case there is some infection. If he forced you against ... | |
| confused | 12/1/2009 |
| Q: I was asked Todd, but unfortunately he couldn't answer my question and he recomended me to you. My ... A: We can never change another person. We can only look at things as they are. Either a person is ... | |
| please help! | 12/1/2009 |
| Q: Okay so I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year. I feel so good when I'm ... A: Do everything you can in your life to develop self-confidence. Develop your talents, get your ... | |
| Rocky Relationship, stuck in rut and not sure what else to do? | 11/30/2009 |
| Q: Ok, so my boyfriend and I have been together for a year now, and everything for the first 9 months ... A: The problem with relationships today are they go against the laws of nature. It is like trying to ... | |
| jealousy is driving me mad. | 11/24/2009 |
| Q: I recently got back together with an ex boyfriend, I used to be with for two years. We took a ... A: Jealousy is caused by a person not believing in himself. It isn't your boyfriend you don't trust it ... | |
| Help please! | 11/21/2009 |
| Q: Okay well sense you answered my last question and helped me alot I just had to ask another one. Well ... A: Usually it is best to ignore people like that, for the most part, but also to be friendly to them. I ... | |
| Relationships | 11/21/2009 |
| Q: Okay well me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year and we are young teens but I feel ... A: Many people feel that way at your age. The problem is that it takes until around 25 to know what you ... | |
| Boyfriend lost his job and may be moving | 11/20/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend is 45 and just lost his job of 24 years. I'm a 40 year old single mom of two teens. ... A: Well, our relationship must have not been very important to you and I would be screaming, too. The ... | |
| my boyfriend said he met someone else | 11/19/2009 |
| Q: ok me and my boyfriend just broke up again for the 5 time we have dated for 8 months he called me ... A: One thing that people get mixed up about is love. It is not love when a man doesn't treat you very ... | |
| Break Up | 11/18/2009 |
| Q: So not really sure where to begin with this but will start with what I know, I had been dating my ... A: It would be alright to write her but your need to express yourself can hold you back. I think it is ... | |
| She Wants to Take a Break... | 11/17/2009 |
| Q: ... but still be friends. My girlfriend and I have been going out for a year now, but suddenly she ... A: I thought I answered this but here goes. I advised that you not get into any relationship for awhile ... | |
| Break Up | 11/17/2009 |
| Q: So not really sure where to begin with this but will start with what I know, I had been dating my ... A: Moving in together before marriage often ruins a relationships. It becomes old hat and loses the ... | |
| Trust Complications | 11/16/2009 |
| Q: Crandall, I am 22 years old. When I was 18 I met a man who lived far away and we became ... A: What has happened to you in your life that you would want this kind of drama in your life forever? ... | |
| dating limits | 11/16/2009 |
| Q: I have had a boyfriend for 3 months and he is cool with me going out with my friends to dinner and ... A: That clarifies. Has he been with you to any of those parties so that he can see that they are ... | |
| can we be together again? | 11/16/2009 |
| Q: A year ago I was in a relationship for two years and we were very much in love. We were only in ... A: Listen to your family and really take a look at this. Does he just have a few quirks, or is their ... | |
| dating limits | 11/15/2009 |
| Q: I have had a boyfriend for 3 months and he is cool with me going out with my friends to dinner and ... A: There are parties and then their are parties. There are parties where people socialize a bit with ... | |
| Hopeful | 11/14/2009 |
| Q: I'm 26 yrs old, I've been with my boyfriend for 10 years now and of course the first years were ... A: The question is, are your feelings justified and you are trying to ignore them, or are you just ... | |
| broken engagement and separation | 11/13/2009 |
| Q: until a few months ago, I was in a 6 year relationship with a girlfriend I met in college. We had a ... A: The problem is that you are right in that two people in a committed relationship should be able to ... | |
| broken engagement and separation | 11/12/2009 |
| Q: until a few months ago, I was in a 6 year relationship with a girlfriend I met in college. We had a ... A: The down side of having committed relationships when so young is that almost always one partner ... | |
| Break Up? | 11/11/2009 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend for only 8 months now. I feel very confused because there are so many ... A: Unfortunately, many, many people do not understand what a healthy, mutually giving, and loving ... | |
| He avoids | 11/9/2009 |
| Q: I am 39 and as others say beautiful, and have had many problems in my life. My family and me stayed ... A: If we could only read someone's mind, yes? If you were from out of town he probably knew it ... | |
| How can I make My relationship back the way it was? | 10/12/2009 |
| Q: Okay. So my boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years. When we first got together, ... A: Yes, do not call and let him call you. Then suggest that you date as friends so that the pressure ... | |
| Commitment Issues | 10/11/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been exclusively dating for 9 months now. We are both 30, never been married ... A: You are smart, smart, smart for not moving in with him. Do not do it. You are right, it is like ... | |
| How to take him back in my life. | 10/10/2009 |
| Q: Im 23 and my boyfriend is 29, we have been dating for 2 years and a half now. Our relation is a ... A: The question you ask yourself is he willing and anxious to get counseling to work out his issues? ... | |
| How to take him back in my life. | 10/10/2009 |
| Q: Im 23 and my boyfriend is 29, we have been dating for 2 years and a half now. Our relation is a ... A: This is not a good relationship for you because this man is not stable. He is also willing to play ... | |
| The Grass is Always Greener | 10/9/2009 |
| Q: I am 19 and my boyfriend and I have been together for about two years. We have had several fights ... A: At your age it is very common for couples to grow apart. There is usually a difference in the level ... | |
| What to do with this situation | 10/8/2009 |
| Q: Theres a girl i met at college orientation and we talked a bit over the summer but once we met back ... A: I am not sure what it means to start a relationship. If it means having sex then I can't recommend ... | |
| Relationship in a rough patch | 10/8/2009 |
| Q: I hope you'll be able to advise me about how to handle some difficult things in my relationship. ... A: This scene is played over and over again in letters to me. I truly believe that sex messes up a ... | |
| overwhelmed? | 10/7/2009 |
| Q: Here is a short explanation of my situation and I need your help fast please! My boyfriend and I ... A: First of all, I would concentrate on having a good time without getting into too much serious ... | |
| overwhelmed? | 10/7/2009 |
| Q: Here is a short explanation of my situation and I need your help fast please! My boyfriend and I ... A: Sometimes a person has the personality where they really have a high need to be a provider and ... | |
| Help please? | 10/6/2009 |
| Q: Well i have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now, but just a few months ago i have left ... A: When relationships start to get one-sided I always recommend you switch roles. Instead of you ... | |
| relationship matters | 10/6/2009 |
| Q: I've been with my girlfriend about a Year, 3 Months, and 20 days. We met on the internet and started ... A: When you are together there are things to do such as look into her eyes and really listen to what ... | |
| relationship matters | 10/5/2009 |
| Q: I've been with my girlfriend about a Year, 3 Months, and 20 days. We met on the internet and started ... A: Long distance relationships are impossible. 80% of communication is eye contact and body language. ... | |
| My fiance left me | 10/4/2009 |
| Q: We were together for about 3 years. It was love at first sight. We rushed into sex and she became ... A: Well, we have a couple of problems here. It is common to really want something we can't have and ... | |
| My Boyfriend takes me for granted | 10/3/2009 |
| Q: Crandall, I am 23 yrs old and my boyfriend is 4 months younger to me. We have been dating since ... A: He is just using you for sex. As a woman you must set boundaries and rules to a relationship or you ... | |
| selfish ,controlling cheating spouse | 10/1/2009 |
| Q: I am a 34 years old woman with 2 small kids.I am well educated but not working. I quit working ... A: These are questions you need to ask a lawyer. Since I do know your laws but I would do all I can ... | |
| relationship break. | 10/1/2009 |
| Q: I am 19 and my girlfriend decided she wanted a break. She is 17, and is a senior. I understand she ... A: She needs time to explore life and figure out what she wants in life so just be friends with her. ... | |
| taking a break? | 9/30/2009 |
| Q: I'm 34, my boyfriend is 28. We have been together for four years now, living together for two. ... A: There are several keys to creating good relationships. The first one is self-confidence and ... | |
| selfish ,controlling cheating spouse | 9/29/2009 |
| Q: I am a 34 years old woman with 2 small kids.I am well educated but not working. I quit working ... A: This is too serious of a problem for me to handle here. You must get a lawyer. Surely your ... | |
| boyfriend of 5 years | 9/28/2009 |
| Q: I started dating my boyfriend 5 years ago. I am 43 and he is 51. We both were married before.My ... A: No. He won't change his mind. He is very clear on the subject. You should move on if you want to ... | |
| How to reconnect | 9/28/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 7 years. 4 months ago he started saying he wasn't sure what ... A: Well, I think it might be possible that you can get the spark back but he is not going to marry you; ... | |
| How to fix my relationship! | 9/27/2009 |
| Q: me and my bf have been together for about a year and a half and for the most part it has been ... A: Well, why are you pushing him away? Only you know why you are trying to push him away. Are you ... | |
| am i subconsciously trying to ruin my relationship? | 9/27/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years now. 11 months ago i got pregnant and we have a two ... A: You are probably feeling the responsibility of life and wish for times when you had more freedom. ... | |
| What's wrong with us? | 9/27/2009 |
| Q: Well my story is like these my and my gf have been together for 8 months we had so much issues they ... A: A good life has to be planned. We don't just fall in love and then live happily ever after. There ... | |
| relationship help | 9/26/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for about 10 months. We live about 40 minutes away from each ... A: If you had sat down to write a letter to push a guy away--your letter would fit that description. ... | |
| My girlfriend left last night | 9/24/2009 |
| Q: I am 27 and have been with my girlfriend for almost four years. These past four years have been the ... A: If you tell her you love her several times a day what kinds of things does she expect to show her ... | |
| backing off a bit | 9/22/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and i have been dating for 4mos, and we have been friends for almost 2 years. As ... A: A person needs at least a year alone, and often more, to really get his head together after a ... | |
| Should I break up with my boyfriend | 9/21/2009 |
| Q: I don't know where to start...I met my boyfriend when I was 18 and we dated for a few months, but ... A: You are right. You are in this relationship by yourself. A guy who loves his woman can't wait to be ... | |
| its all about making me his priority | 9/20/2009 |
| Q: how to make him care more for me and to be more passionate.like for example i call him when am out ... A: People show love in different ways and people have different needs. Some people a lot more closeness ... | |
| My Relationship Isssues. | 9/19/2009 |
| Q: my name is Brittany and I am 20 years old. I met my "ex" four years ago in 2005. We were together ... A: There are several problems here. Getting involved too young before each of you has matured and ... | |
| 5 Year Relationship - on the verge of breaking up | 9/18/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for a little over 5 years now. We started dating when we were both 18 ... A: There will not be a chance for any relationship until you become happy within. You can't trade one ... | |
| stress hard times | 9/17/2009 |
| Q: keri 22 years old my boyfriend and i have been together for a little over a year..we knew each ... A: Your challenges cannot be solved in one or two letters here but I can give you a few tips that I ... | |
| Loves me what wonders what others are like | 9/17/2009 |
| Q: I'm in my early twenties and have been dating, and am madly in love with, my guy of three and a half ... A: For goodness sakes. Millions of people have slept only with one partner their whole lives and have ... | |
| help | 9/16/2009 |
| Q: "i am pregent and i dont want a baby but i dont want to give it up. my boyfriend does not spend time ... A: You have really got yourself in a dilemma. You have invited a little baby into your body with a guy ... | |
| My boyfriend doesnt want to spent much time with me | 9/13/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my b/f 4 years now, our big problem in the relationship always has been the time ... A: Well, let's look at this for what it is. You are his weekend girlfriend. He doesn't what he wants ... | |
| Is he really into me? | 9/13/2009 |
| Q: So i been dating this guy since the beginning of may. We would normally see each other on weekends. ... A: A couple of things. Whatever you do, do not have sex with him. It is so not smart to have sex with ... | |
| help me Fix my relationship | 9/13/2009 |
| Q: I'm 24 and my girlfriends 18 we've been together for a year and all of her friends,guys and girls ... A: Did you know that you can be addicted to a person just like you can Cocaine? In that case, talking ... | |
| My boyfriend says I bore him | 9/11/2009 |
| Q: I'm 26 years old and have been in my relationship for 3 years now. Since the beginning Spending time ... A: This is the deal, he will not go back to the way he was because that was not who he really is. ... | |
| something missing | 9/11/2009 |
| Q: I'm 23 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 3 plus years now. We have lived together for ... A: It is so sad to see couple move in together before marriage. It is almost always the death toll to ... | |
| I want to feel secure and confident again! | 9/4/2009 |
| Q: I'm 22 years old and am in a serious relationship with a 25 year old marine. We both met online ... A: I recently had young female friend in your same situation. Even though they think they will marry, ... | |
| Withrawing and the ex | 9/4/2009 |
| Q: My Question is a little similar to the question posted 1/09 re co-dependency. I am 49 and am engaged ... A: Mostly, people who are just separated are not really through with their marriage. Especially is ... | |
| Missing Butterflies | 9/2/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been going out for just over a year. Her longest relationship prior to ... A: The problem here is that you both did too much too soon. This is a big problem with many ... | |
| How often can I complement my girl without smothering her? | 9/2/2009 |
| Q: I've been going out with my girlfriend for two and a half months and I like to complement her. I ... A: You are very wise in asking this question. When a person pays a lot of compliments it comes across ... | |
| help me Fix my relationship | 9/2/2009 |
| Q: I'm 24 and my girlfriends 18 we've been together for a year and all of her friends,guys and girls ... A: Back off and give it some time. Contact her maybe once a week with a friendly hi! how is is going? ... | |
| Sex, Needy-ness | 8/30/2009 |
| Q: 18, MD. I have had only had one sexual partner, my current boyfriend. How can I control my need for ... A: Sometimes sex is a substitute for a real relationship. If you are not feeling close without sex ... | |
| Advice | 8/30/2009 |
| Q: i'm a 23 year old male. 3 months ago i got with my girlfriend. We have been doing all right but i ... A: Well, it is difficult to read another person's mind but one of two things are happening here. She is ... | |
| help me Fix my relationship | 8/28/2009 |
| Q: I'm 24 and my girlfriends 18 we've been together for a year and all of her friends,guys and girls ... A: It is pretty controlling to require your girlfriend to get permission to talk to someone. Are you ... | |
| Fight-Fight-Fight | 8/27/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together now for almost 1 year, this was a FAST relationship, after 4 ... A: Well, I hear this story a lot. People who move in together before they even know each other and it ... | |
| Space and no communication | 8/27/2009 |
| Q: I have been seeing this guy for 4 months. We are just "friends" because he knows I have issues with ... A: He is not through with his marriage yet. It is never a good idea to get involved with anyone who ... | |
| Relationship Issue | 8/26/2009 |
| Q: I've been with my girlfriend the past six months and we get on really well. We always have a great ... A: This happens frequently when sexual activity begins soon in a relationship. It makes you feel like ... | |
| so lost | 8/25/2009 |
| Q: So here is my long story short. I have been in a live in relationship with my boyfriend for over a ... A: Well, the question is do you feel equally yoked? By that, do you feel there is equal give and take ... | |
| forced to give up...worst feeling! | 8/25/2009 |
| Q: Thew worst feeling in the world, I find, is when you are in love, and see yourself with the man of ... A: Well, this is rather complicated and actually requires some extensive coaching, but I will try to do ... | |
| Dating and Relationship | 8/25/2009 |
| Q: I met this girl a couple years ago at work. We got pretty close and this girl ended up liking me. ... A: It often happens that one person likes another person more and it just doesn't work out. There is ... | |
| confused | 8/24/2009 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend for a while now. I live in Missouri and he lives in Mississippi. we met ... A: The problem here is that it takes at least a year and really around a year and a half of seeing ... | |
| Dear Sharon | 8/23/2009 |
| Q: ANSWER: Dear Tim, People change a lot during these years, until around age 25. It takes time and ... A: All you can do is to try doing little things for her until she tells you not to. We can't change ... | |
| Dear Sharon | 8/22/2009 |
| Q: Hi Sharon i am 18 years old and my girlfriend is 17 getting ready to be 18 and she has a lot of ... A: People change a lot during these years, until around age 25. It takes time and learning and ... | |
| relationship advice | 8/22/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years. He's my first and I'm his first. We broke up ... A: What you need is my six month coaching program. You are talking about changing your life ... | |
| Relationship Phobic | 8/22/2009 |
| Q: I am a 27 single yr old female. Now i have a very big problem i have had for a long time that i cant ... A: The first thing you should do is get the book, "Bad Childhood, Good Life". Even if you may not have ... | |
| Help with letter please. | 8/21/2009 |
| Q: Sharon, Thanks for this site. Could you help me with the following letter? Would you send such a ... A: It is up to you as to what you want to write to her but sometimes the less said the better. The more ... | |
| Marriage | 8/20/2009 |
| Q: My fiance and i have been together for 3 years now and although we have had alot of difficulties ... A: It indeed sounds like a lack of heart to heart communication. She might be saying that she doesn't ... | |
| Girlfriend of 2 years wants a break | 8/20/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years now and for the most part things have been ... A: It is very common for couples to grow apart during the years when you are young and learning and ... | |
| I just feel lost | 8/20/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 21 year old male who has things going for him. I just graduated from the police academy in may ... A: This didn't happen overnight and it won't be solved over night. The only hope you have is to see if ... | |
| Boyfriend / Partner question | 8/19/2009 |
| Q: About five months ago I met a man my age, just months apart in age. We both have reasonable ... A: You do have a mystery. Even though he was the one pushing the togetherness he is scared in some way ... | |
| Relationshipn problems | 8/19/2009 |
| Q: How do I strengthen my relationship in a christian way? We both are christians and we both have ... A: Get back to church and find a way to serve together in something that benefits others. It will bond ... | |
| I dont want to loose him | 8/18/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and i have been together for a year and 7 months, when we got together i already had a ... A: Men need to be admired. Think about things you like about him and praise him when he is doing ... | |
| Feeling Unwanted | 8/17/2009 |
| Q: me and my boyfriend are having so many problems. His controlling ways, cheating, etc I could keep ... A: Let it ride. It takes awhile to get to know a person and any relationship can look good right at ... | |
| Should I let the love of my life go? | 8/17/2009 |
| Q: I am a 43-year-old divorced mother of two great kids, 10 and 13. I met a wonderful man three years ... A: I think you are right that he will end up regretting his decision if in his heart he does not want ... | |
| Have I lost her for good this time? | 8/16/2009 |
| Q: I am 33 years old. My wife and I have been married 15 years. We have 4 kids. I struggle with control ... A: All we can do in life is decide what we want and also what boundaries we are willing to work in. ... | |
| Betrayal has shattered me. | 8/16/2009 |
| Q: in 2007,at age 23 i started a relationship with a guy aged 27 then(my friends friend)..and i wanted ... A: It is too bad you married him but you did and so this is what you have to do. You have to accept ... | |
| 6 yr relationship | 8/15/2009 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 6 yrs and have a 2 yr old girl together. We do not ... A: It seems pretty sad to me that you have settled for so little in your life that you would think you ... | |
| I just feel lost | 8/15/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 21 year old male who has things going for him. I just graduated from the police academy in may ... A: Unfortunately, it is so easy to get in a rut in a relationship and end up just hanging out together. ... | |
| Lost in translation.. | 8/14/2009 |
| Q: Ok. I waited 2 years after a past relationship went sour where there was a child involved (not ... A: Well, this is hard to figure out. I really need one or two instances where I know who said what. I ... | |
| remarriage, blending families | 8/12/2009 |
| Q: I am in a relationship with an Aries male born April 10, 1971. I am a Sagittarius female born ... A: It is just an educated guess, based on 25 years of working with people and their personality traits. ... | |
| my ex | 8/12/2009 |
| Q: I sent a text message to my ex saying I didn't want to talk to him anymore cause I have a boyfriend. ... A: It sounds like he believed what you said when you told him that you had someone new and didn't want ... | |
| need advice quickly | 8/12/2009 |
| Q: I am 31 years old and my boyfriend of nearly two years ended our relationship one week ago. To start ... A: He has just been thrown for a big loop and to his credit, he knows that he must put his children ... | |
| How do I find a happy medium between my high sex drive and my boyfriend's low sex drive? | 8/11/2009 |
| Q: I am a 24 year old female and my boyfriend is 24 as well. We have been together for just over 1 ... A: There are two reasons why this might be happening. Either there is a personality trait difference ... | |
| remarriage, blending families | 8/11/2009 |
| Q: I am in a relationship with an Aries male born April 10, 1971. I am a Sagittarius female born ... A: Moving in is a really bad idea. Most couples never marry that move in together for numerous ... | |
| relationships | 8/11/2009 |
| Q: i resently read one of your q/a's about if your significant other is becoming distant and detached ... A: In order to help you I need a little more information. What is there so attractive about her that ... | |
| She wants to step back | 8/10/2009 |
| Q: I met this girl on an online dating site and we were seeing each other for almost 2 months. I now ... A: It is a little hard to determine what is really happening here. She could have decided that you ... | |
| communication issues | 8/9/2009 |
| Q: my boyfriend and i have been together for over 2 years now and we are as close as close can be. we ... A: It would help to know if you live together, etc. This is not so much a communicating problem. I ... | |
| My wife and the internet | 8/9/2009 |
| Q: How do I know if my wife is falling for someone on the internet? Here is my situation. About 5 years ... A: I am so sorry you are having to go through this. The problem is that we teach others how to treat ... | |
| lplease help! | 8/9/2009 |
| Q: first I would like to thank you in advance for your time. I am typing this email on a new phone and ... A: This is beyond what can be handled in a letter or two because it has to do with a deeper problem ... | |
| growing up ? | 8/8/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have known each other since 2001, and have been dating almost a year now. We are ... A: I am sorry to say that your story could be put in a copy machine and we could make enough copies of ... | |
| I want to save my relationship with my dream girl. | 8/7/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my girlfreind for a year and six months or more. Everything was perfect the first ... A: You are not going to like what I say but your girlfriend needs to leave you. You are controlling, ... | |
| I want to save my relationship with my dream girl. | 8/7/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my girlfreind for a year and six months or more. Everything was perfect the first ... A: The first thing to do is truly communicate with her. Ask for a time when you can get together and ... | |
| I don't understand my ex girlfriend | 8/6/2009 |
| Q: I met her at church a year ago, and what a year its been, we have been back and forth the whole time ... A: Your hormones are raging, which is natural, but you are playing with fire. First of all, the person ... | |
| Boyfriend lost his job and may be moving | 8/6/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend is 45 and just lost his job of 24 years. I'm a 40 year old single mom of two teens. ... A: Michele, I have mixed feelings about this. I worry about him turning to drink, lying to you, and ... | |
| trust | 8/6/2009 |
| Q: I am in a lesbian relationship...not that that really matters what kind of relationship someone is ... A: I am quite unfamiliar with the dynamics of this kind of relationship but in general, we can't change ... | |
| no title | 7/31/2009 |
| Q: My girl and I have been together for about 10 months. We were doing really well, spending time ... A: Well dearie, She wants her cake and eat it, too and if you put up with that kind of stuff then you ... | |
| worth saving??? | 7/30/2009 |
| Q: I've been in a relationship for two and a half years. It's been kindof rocky. We have quite a few ... A: The problem here is that you have a relationship based on sex. This is why I recommend sex after ... | |
| my boyfriend | 7/30/2009 |
| Q: my name is cheryl and i want 2 know why dont my boyfriend spend anytime with me anymore we have a 4, ... A: The problem is that you have given him everything and required nothing of him so he is taking your ... | |
| Pushing me away | 7/21/2009 |
| Q: I am 19 years old. My girlfriend and I have been together almost 2 years now and our son is 8 months ... A: Without knowing your girlfriend I am no sure what to recommend. I know you are serious about this ... | |
| Need help ASAP | 7/21/2009 |
| Q: and i am 17 years old, and i need ur help wit something all the other experts are not helping me ... A: First of all, go to the library and read things that are interesting that you can talk about. Be ... | |
| Does he just like me as a friend? | 7/21/2009 |
| Q: We havent known him for a long time but and he used to take classes with me but we never talked. I ... A: I think he is just trying to be friends and that is why he calls you sister. Maybe by calling you ... | |
| why is he trying to walk out | 7/20/2009 |
| Q: i am a 33 yr mother of three children, my boyfreind of 4 yrs we have twin babies together and we ... A: I think you need a whole new life. A man who lies and cheats will probably always lie and cheat. It ... | |
| Aggravated and Disappointed | 7/19/2009 |
| Q: My Boyfriend of 7 years and I had met when we were just about 13. We had our daughter at a very ... A: There are several things going on here. What seemed glamorous and wonderful turned into reality ... | |
| vulnerable | 7/18/2009 |
| Q: I am fed up with being punished and ignored by my husband when we have a problem between us he is ... A: I am so happy you have the courage to stand up for yourself and express to me how you feel. That is ... | |
| vulnerable | 7/17/2009 |
| Q: I am fed up with being punished and ignored by my husband when we have a problem between us he is ... A: He doesn't respect you because you keep putting up with it. The question is--do you provoke him? ... | |
| Am I not seeing the signs? | 7/17/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for close to 10 months. He seems so distant lately and he ... A: It is hard to say what is happening here but I do know that if a guy really cares a lot he wants to ... | |
| show me a way | 7/15/2009 |
| Q: "Hello I have a relationship for 9 months. Also i know her like since 2002. She was my very best of ... A: There is something in us that wants to have a relationship where we are the only one and there has ... | |
| feeling taken for granted | 7/12/2009 |
| Q: Please help me with my relationship troubles. I'm 25, dating my boyfriend whose 26 for almost a year ... A: Giving him an ultimatum was okay but I think it was a waste of time. A guy is either really into ... | |
| At a lost after nine years | 7/11/2009 |
| Q: Well to begin I am a forty year old woman who has been in a relationship with my "fiancee'". It has ... A: If he cheated on you once he will cheat on you again. When a guy starts causing trouble such as ... | |
| continue or end? | 7/10/2009 |
| Q: I am so confused. I have been dating a man for 2 1/2 years. We've have had some rocky roads but ... A: It is always uncanny to me how abusive and self-serving men can attract such nice women. I am just ... | |
| How to save a broken relationship? | 6/25/2009 |
| Q: my name is Hima,i am 24 years old...i have been into a relationsnhip with my boyfriend past a ... A: I can help people when they have differences when both want to work it out but in this case, he has ... | |
| girlfriend smokes to hurt me? | 6/25/2009 |
| Q: currently my girlfriend for nearly 5 years is smoking just to hurt me. About a year or two back, we ... A: Buy her a carton of cigarettes and tell her that if she wants to kill herself go right ahead. This ... | |
| Communication | 6/25/2009 |
| Q: I dont even know where to start. I am 18 years old, and Ive just graduated high school. When I was 8 ... A: My heart goes out to you. There is so much to life and this I know. You were created to fulfill ... | |
| don't know what to do with my relationship | 6/24/2009 |
| Q: I met my girlfriend last summer at a summer internship and we have continued dating for the last ... A: I think it is a good idea that you stopped having sex because when the focus is sex you do not get a ... | |
| fiance issue | 6/24/2009 |
| Q: My FI have been together for 1 1/2 yrs, engaged 9 months, due to wed next mo, now called off. I have ... A: It is usually not a good idea to marry when already have a child unless you are absolutely sure that ... | |
| relationships | 6/23/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for 8 months now. He cheated on me early on in our relationship. It ... A: I believe you shouldn't just jump right into it full force. I think that you need to tell him that ... | |
| NO TRUST! | 6/23/2009 |
| Q: okay me and my boyfriend have been together for about 2 years, the first time we met we started ... A: I hate to say this but your boyfriend is a very self-serving boyfriend and is irrational in his ... | |
| Boyfriend Problems | 6/22/2009 |
| Q: I am 24 years old, and my boyfriend is 25, we have been together for a 1 year and a half. We are ... A: Love is never enough. That is why the divorce rate is so high. A good marriage must be based on ... | |
| Need to believe I am very important now. | 6/21/2009 |
| Q: I am 49. Over the past almost 3 years I have had a relationship with a man who had just separated ... A: There are a couple of things that could be happening. You could have the trait of Idealism which ... | |
| Taken For Granted | 6/17/2009 |
| Q: I am twenty seven years old and my boyfriend is thirty one, and we have been with my boyfriend for ... A: What you see is what you get. Your bf is happy with this relationship the way it is. He likes his ... | |
| Help! Is this a sign of the end? | 6/17/2009 |
| Q: My partner is currently out of work and is on antidepressants as he has suffered from depression ... A: From what you say, your bf has some serious problems he is dealing with right now and truly needs ... | |
| breaks in a relationship | 6/16/2009 |
| Q: yesterday my girlfriend of a year and a half asked if we could have a break. so we can grow up and ... A: I think it is a great idea because too, too many people feel this way after marriage and three kids ... | |
| Relationship Issue | 6/13/2009 |
| Q: Age 20: Hello Sharon. A little background for you; my boyfriend and I have been dating for about a ... A: It really helps to know if you are sexually active with him or not. If he only sees you when he ... | |
| work relationships? | 6/12/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating a guy for about 3 years we have some issues.. I am in my mid twentys him a few ... A: Men have a blind spot when it comes to girls coming on to them. They do not see it. They think ... | |
| relationship break? | 6/9/2009 |
| Q: i am 21 and so is my ex.we have been dating sense we were 16 but have know eachother sinse we were ... A: This happens when couples get together into a serious relationship when too young. One or the other ... | |
| My Boyfriend-What's Going On In His Mind? | 5/25/2009 |
| Q: Ok I want to try to describe my relationship first... I am 17 and my boyfriend is 18. We have been ... A: Women make mistakes by taking the lead in relationships. No matter what is accepted at this time, ... | |
| Flirting | 5/20/2009 |
| Q: A guy I've been seeing for 4 months just openly admitted that he flirts with other girls and I'm ... A: First of all four months is really not long enough to even know if you want any kind of a permanent ... | |
| Should I end things with my boyfriend? | 5/20/2009 |
| Q: So I am 19 and I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. I still live at home but he has ... A: Your guy might be a comfortable boyfriend but he is not a good catch. Goodness, what if you got ... | |
| break when buying a house? | 5/19/2009 |
| Q: in that 8 years we have travelled the world she has been to uni in the states for a year what im ... A: I have some tough things to say. Usually, the thing people do is the opposite of what is best. ... | |
| To break up or not to break up... | 5/19/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for three years and living together for the last year. I meant ... A: He is the typical abuser. He abuses and then feels all badly and does some things to make up for it ... | |
| break when buying a house? | 5/19/2009 |
| Q: in that 8 years we have travelled the world she has been to uni in the states for a year what im ... A: There are too many unknowns for me to be as effective in helping you as I would like. Has marriage ... | |
| Boyfriend | 5/18/2009 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend get along fantastically. But sometimes I can't help but have a blank mind when I ... A: I didn't think you were looking for sex from him but sometimes girls do not understand how they can ... | |
| Boyfriend | 5/18/2009 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend get along fantastically. But sometimes I can't help but have a blank mind when I ... A: Your boyfriend is being very smart. All great relationships have a natural progression that is very ... | |
| Boyfriend | 5/18/2009 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend get along fantastically. But sometimes I can't help but have a blank mind when I ... A: You do not have to talk all the time when you are together, and not having something to talk about ... | |
| Girlfriend is not over Ex | 5/17/2009 |
| Q: It's be six months since my girlfriend broke up with her ex. The relationship of her and I has ... A: You have two choices, one is to accept it and just forget it as best you can and start being a ... | |
| Confused | 5/17/2009 |
| Q: I am a senior accounting major in college about to start my masters work and plan to become a CPA ... A: This is the deal. It is tough but it sounds like you are fortunate to find out now what she is ... | |
| Break up | 5/15/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I of one year broke up this past Monday. I was the one that did it. I am just ... A: There is nothing wrong with you. There is an order of progression in any relationship that needs to ... | |
| my boyfriend and his ex pictures on facebook | 5/15/2009 |
| Q: My now boyfriend, Scott, and his ex girlfriend, Ali, broke up a little over 2 years ago. When they ... A: It really helps. Now, often what we think are insecurities are actually gut feelings trying to warn ... | |
| my boyfriend and his ex pictures on facebook | 5/15/2009 |
| Q: My now boyfriend, Scott, and his ex girlfriend, Ali, broke up a little over 2 years ago. When they ... A: It is very natural when people are young and growing to not really know what they want. They think ... | |
| he needs a break | 5/15/2009 |
| Q: I was dating a wonderful man for about 8 months and everything was absolutely perfect. We would do ... A: Well, it wouldn't be too bad to go if you could absolutely not show any affection. No hand holding. ... | |
| he needs a break | 5/14/2009 |
| Q: I was dating a wonderful man for about 8 months and everything was absolutely perfect. We would do ... A: Hi. Life is tough sometimes, isn't it? However, it is all good if we learn and grow from our ... | |
| My ex | 5/14/2009 |
| Q: I contacted you not long ago about my ex contacting me 5 months after our break up. I am having ... A: A couple of things. First of all, you do not even have a relationship where you can give him an ... | |
| My ex | 5/14/2009 |
| Q: I contacted you not long ago about my ex contacting me 5 months after our break up. I am having ... A: Don't hold onto the fantasy any longer. He keeps talking to you because he feels guilty but that is ... | |
| My boyfriend has become a jerk. | 5/13/2009 |
| Q: Me and my bf have been together for over 2 years, its a long-distance relationship. We both are 18 ... A: I hate to tell you this but you were in love with a fantasy and he was participating in the fantasy. ... | |
| Relationship ups & downs | 5/13/2009 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend on and off for the past 4 years. He is divorced and had past issues with ... A: Love is not enough. If love were enough there would be few divorces. Love must be nurtured and fed. ... | |
| My partner and I fought. I need your advice. | 5/12/2009 |
| Q: I've seen a girl for a little over a month now. We liked each other very much. Intense passion. She ... A: There is a country song called "Lookin' for love in all the wrong places." There are plenty of ... | |
| Case of the EX | 5/12/2009 |
| Q: I've been dating my boyfriends for almost 9 months,6 months into the relationship we slept ... A: How do I tell someone that they need time to grow up and be mature and build a life for themselves ... | |
| My partner and I fought. I need your advice. | 5/11/2009 |
| Q: I've seen a girl for a little over a month now. We liked each other very much. Intense passion. She ... A: Your doing something wrong doesn't change who she is. Why would you want to get to the way things ... | |
| Love Confusion | 5/10/2009 |
| Q: I love a gal very much.But unable to talk to her because she works in a software company & earns a ... A: You do have a problem. I would ask her if she knows of any job openings and that you are diligently ... | |
| relationship | 5/9/2009 |
| Q: ive been with my boyfriend for 6 years ive lived with him just about a year my question is why ... A: I think this is the second question from you and so my answer to the first question applies here. ... | |
| alcohol problem | 5/9/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years lived with him under year. I pay him 350.00 a month and ... A: Is this the man you want to spend the rest of your life with? Are you educated or trained so that ... | |
| A relationship without a title- Help?! | 5/8/2009 |
| Q: I've been dating my boyfriend now for almost 2 years. About 3 months ago, we had a falling out and ... A: Don't be so easy for him. By just accepting this you are making it easy for him to take you for ... | |
| relationship issues. | 5/7/2009 |
| Q: I am 23 years old and have been dating this guy for about two and a half years. We have had problems ... A: It is clear he is taking you for granted. If you have been nagging and complaining, however, that ... | |
| trust issues in a relationship | 5/7/2009 |
| Q: I feel like my husband is hiding some dark secret and I do not trust his behavior. He has a ... A: It is only paranoia when your thinking is irrational. With his history there really could be ... | |
| Intimate relationship | 5/5/2009 |
| Q: I am writing this letter as a last chance to see what else I can do to help my wife. We have been ... A: I am so sorry of your troubles. I wish I had great news for you but people do not change unless ... | |
| so in love then ... confused | 5/5/2009 |
| Q: ..in the beg of the realtionship he was sooo caring and gave me so much attention he still is but ... A: At this point there isn't too much you can do to fix this because your boyfriend does not want you ... | |
| Distance problems | 5/4/2009 |
| Q: my name is James. I'm currently enlisted in the military and that has put serious strain between ... A: I am not sure what you mean about not being honest about your personal life and marriage. Does this ... | |
| Confused by relationship status | 5/3/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend of 3 years recently told me we need to take a break. He said he's been under a lot of ... A: If he loves you and cares about you then he would want to be with you. He is having some ... | |
| relationships | 5/2/2009 |
| Q: How do I fix my relationship after i have said some hurtful things to my mate A: Whenever someone says something hurtful to another person it is because there is a problem that is ... | |
| I think i love my BF....... | 4/30/2009 |
| Q: My question is that me and my BF have been together for about four months now. We live apart from ... A: No, do not tell him you love him or tell him you might move to CA. I see too many women jump right ... | |
| Long Distance Relationship turning into no Relationship | 4/29/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been dating for two years. For the past six months we have had a long ... A: I do think there is some codependency going on here. You are quite needy in this relationship and ... | |
| I need advice Please | 4/27/2009 |
| Q: Im 27 years old and have been with my fiance now for 6 years we would have gotten married along ... A: I wish I could talk to you, personally, and do a telephone coaching session with you. When little ... | |
| Devastated and confused | 4/26/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I are 25 years old. We have been together for almost 5 years. While we have had ups ... A: I think you know the answer to your questions but just need a boost in courage. It takes 1 1/2 to 2 ... | |
| does a break mean it over? | 4/25/2009 |
| Q: Here’s the situation, I am a gay male and 18 years old, I have been dating a guy who is 21(we are ... A: Almost always a break means it is the end. People change a lot and often grow different directions. ... | |
| Relationship or engagement | 4/24/2009 |
| Q: I am needing to strengthen my relationship, We use to be so close and our past is pulling us apart. ... A: There are so many possibilities here that I really need more information to help you very much. I ... | |
| my relationship | 4/24/2009 |
| Q: Im 19 and my boyfriend is 19. We met August 18th through the internet. I lived in Texas and he lived ... A: The first thing to realize is that when you meet over the internet you really do not get to know the ... | |
| friendship | 4/23/2009 |
| Q: I have a question, I go to the same place where they have music and dancing almost every weekend, ... A: What you see is what is. He didn't hold your hand and he hasn't asked you to go out with him again. ... | |
| friendship | 4/23/2009 |
| Q: I have a question, I go to the same place where they have music and dancing almost every weekend, ... A: Once again, if a guy really likes you romantically he can't wait to see you and be with you, ... | |
| friendship | 4/22/2009 |
| Q: I have a question, I go to the same place where they have music and dancing almost every weekend, ... A: Joann, In your mind you have developed a fantasy that he likes you more than just a dance partner ... | |
| want him to be dere..... | 4/21/2009 |
| Q: hey dere...i have a boyfriend and we hav been together for past 2 and a half years...the problem i ... A: I think you are in love with him but he is not in love with you. Man in love can't wait to be with ... | |
| Is it time to break up? | 4/21/2009 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend for coming up a year now, and I keep wondering if it's time for me to ... A: I think you know the answer--that you are not compatible. Think about this. A true loving ... | |
| girlfriend pulls away | 4/20/2009 |
| Q: I am 44 years old and my girlfriend is 49. We have been dating for 9 months now. Our relationship ... A: This relationship seems to one-sided to me for it to be a good relationship. This can happen ... | |
| My wife's internet | 4/18/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for almost 8 years now. For the last few months, she has been ... A: Of course, she has to be the one to break this off but you are also not obligated to trust her ... | |
| Confused???? | 4/18/2009 |
| Q: Age: 27 My "common law" husband and I have been together for 9 years, we have three children ... A: It would help to have more about your relationship but it would seem that if you are doing all you ... | |
| marriage support/problems | 4/18/2009 |
| Q: I will start by saying that I am not a trusting person, nor a very emotionally invested one under ... A: I would really like to help you but I am so limited here. If at all possible I would see a ... | |
| Confused???? | 4/18/2009 |
| Q: Age: 27 My "common law" husband and I have been together for 9 years, we have three children ... A: Without more information it is hard to say what would help but I will say that if you treat him like ... | |
| Frustrated and Tired | 4/17/2009 |
| Q: I have been going out with my boyfriend for about 8 months. It has really been a rocky relationship. ... A: I need some more information. Could you send me an example or two of what questions you ask him ... | |
| My wife's internet "friendship" with another man | 4/16/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for almost 8 years now. For the last few months, she has been ... A: I believe that if she really wanted to restore your relationship she would cut off the other ... | |
| Long Distance Relationship turning into no Relationship | 4/15/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been dating for two years. For the past six months we have had a long ... A: Unfortunately, if she is seeing someone else then she has already left the relationship on an ... | |
| I dnt knw y he has changed | 4/14/2009 |
| Q: We have been in this relation for the past 9 months although I know him from last 9 years and he ... A: Here are some lessons on love that might help you. #1--having sex without the commitment of ... | |
| What does my ex want? | 4/14/2009 |
| Q: 5 months ago, my partner of 10 years left. I was devastated. He didn't seem to want to talk at the ... A: Follow your gut feelings. Think about this. If you think you want to talk to him, ask him why he ... | |
| I dont want to push my boyfriend away. | 4/13/2009 |
| Q: So I have been dating my boyfriend for about four months. I was actually really good friends with ... A: Your question is very interesting because both the question and the solution is already right there ... | |
| jealousy | 4/13/2009 |
| Q: my name is Amanda and I am hoping you can help me I have been with my boyfriend two years now and ... A: Well dear. He is a cheater and a liar so how can you ever trust him? Of course you do not trust ... | |
| my boyfriend has never been in love | 4/13/2009 |
| Q: I'm 31. My boyfriend is 38. We've been dating 2 months. I asked if he's ever been in love and he ... A: Sit by his side and take his hand and hold his hand. Then let yourself feel what you feel. do not ... | |
| I found a good man but he's boring and proud of it | 4/12/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating someone for 2 months. I'm 31 and he's 38. We are both busy people, who isn't. ... A: Dating is to see if you are compatible with someone and you are not. You are outgoing and hate TV ... | |
| i dont know what to do | 4/12/2009 |
| Q: im 17 me and my boyfriend have been together for more than two years now through our whole ... A: It is very hard to admit when you have made a mistake but you have clearly made a mistake in ... | |
| Should I break up with my boyfriend | 4/12/2009 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. I love him dearly but I feel like I can't go ... A: If he was otherwise a good guy there are things you might do to help him be not jealous but since he ... | |
| trust problems from past relationships are affecting my current relationship | 4/11/2009 |
| Q: im 18 years old now, i was with a guy for two years we never did anything but kiss till we was ... A: It would be okay to get some counseling, but even if you are all healthy and over the past you ... | |
| trust problems from past relationships are affecting my current relationship | 4/11/2009 |
| Q: im 18 years old now, i was with a guy for two years we never did anything but kiss till we was ... A: If you have read many of my answers you know that I believe in waiting until marriage to have sex. ... | |
| strong woman, stepkid | 4/10/2009 |
| Q: I've been with her for 3 alomst 4 years now. It has been great for the most part. I love her, I ... A: This is the deal. It never works for a step parent/figure to take any kind of parenting role unless ... | |
| should i give it another try? | 4/10/2009 |
| Q: she has 2 kids and i have one of my own. we have grown to be a great little family. i love her kids ... A: I am proud of you for seeking advice. It shows that you care and are open to changing your life for ... | |
| spending time together | 4/9/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 1 year 2 months, he is 32 and I am 25. We didn't jump into ... A: No, you are not crazy and not out of line at all. So, what is this partnership all about? You ... | |
| Keep it or let it go | 4/9/2009 |
| Q: My fiancé and I have been together for 3 years. He proposed when we had been together about 8 ... A: You are so asking for trouble if you married him. While religious difference isn't much of a ... | |
| A break | 4/8/2009 |
| Q: I am 22 years old. I have been dating "K" for a year and a half. He just turned 25 years old. Right ... A: There are problems bigger than your little fights. It takes two people to make a relationship and ... | |
| breakup or stay together? | 4/6/2009 |
| Q: I am 23 years old. I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 years now. He is a great guy. We get long, ... A: I would not consider marrying him until he finds out about himself. If he doesn't love anyone, ... | |
| Closeness | 4/6/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend loves me very much and I am the first guy in her life but the problem with my ... A: If she is afraid you will try to have sex with her then for her, she has placed these boundaries ... | |
| what do i do? | 4/6/2009 |
| Q: I was dating to beautiful girl for 8 months. At the beginning of our relationship she ask me have I ... A: Your girlfriend has high standards and she is hoping for someone who also has high standards. Men ... | |
| advise | 4/6/2009 |
| Q: What can i do to change the monotony of my relationship? ANSWER: Hi Krystal, What is the goal of ... A: Living together without marriage almost never works. It is like playing at marriage but without the ... | |
| i have a communication problem with my partner | 4/6/2009 |
| Q: my partner is 14 years older than me we've been together for a year now and it is a far distance ... A: What is the point of a relationship if you are never together? It is more like two strangers ... | |
| advise | 4/5/2009 |
| Q: What can i do to change the monotony of my relationship? A: What is the goal of your relationship? Is it marriage? Is it just to date and have fun? Does this ... | |
| Im desperate!!! | 4/5/2009 |
| Q: So this whole thing starts like this. I had a boyfriend we where together for three years after ... A: Boy! You have got yourself into hot water for sure. Having sex with an ex while with someone ... | |
| Troubled relationship | 4/4/2009 |
| Q: I am currently in a relationship which a great guy however we don't communicate like we used too. He ... A: This is the answer. You are being unrealistic in your views of what this relationship should be. ... | |
| Troubled relationship | 4/4/2009 |
| Q: I am currently in a relationship which a great guy however we don't communicate like we used too. He ... A: It depends on what you mean by non communication. Often women expect men to be like women in their ... | |
| Confused | 4/4/2009 |
| Q: I am 24 years old I have been in a realtionship with my girlfriend for about a year and a half and ... A: Suggest counseling with her. Dreams usually represent the fears we have because of our own feelings ... | |
| Should I give it more time or break it off? | 4/3/2009 |
| Q: I'm 25 years old and boyfriend is 28. We've been "officially" together for 8 months now. He is one ... A: Dating is to get to know people to see if you are compatible. It is too bad that so many girls look ... | |
| saving a relationship and keeping the feelings alive | 4/3/2009 |
| Q: I have recently turned 17, and am in high school, I understand that I am young, but surely you could ... A: Yes, I do remember. At the time it seemed important but after that time I realized how much people ... | |
| What 2 do!! | 4/2/2009 |
| Q: ..ok to start with im 24-years. I met this guy at work. He is also 24. Our relation or dnt know what ... A: If a guy really cares for you he can't wait to be with you and if you are a little hard to get that ... | |
| is it good enough? | 4/1/2009 |
| Q: I am 34yo. Moved in with my boyfriend of 2 years just last month. i love him and want him to be ... A: You are setting up a textbook case for a co-dependent relationship and that is not healthy. If you ... | |
| What 2 do!! | 4/1/2009 |
| Q: ..ok to start with im 24-years. I met this guy at work. He is also 24. Our relation or dnt know what ... A: Yes you are wasting your time. A guy that likes you would take you out. He is only calling you ... | |
| relationships | 3/31/2009 |
| Q: I have a question for you that im hoping you can give me some direction with. me and my boyfriend ... A: Who we want and what we want in life can change an awful lot. In working with quite a few women ... | |
| Charge card | 3/31/2009 |
| Q: I have a Bi-Polar husband who is controling, I was going to leave him a few weeks back if he did ... A: I do not know what you can do. The only thing you can do is to tell him that he is so controlling ... | |
| relationships | 3/31/2009 |
| Q: I have a question for you that im hoping you can give me some direction with. me and my boyfriend ... A: This is definitely a deal breaker; however he is young and might change his mind about it. People ... | |
| i want my boyfrend back | 3/30/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I been together for over a year now and we just had a babyboy. I love my boyfriend ... A: Well, I really need to be talking to your boyfriend because love is a choice and it is natural that ... | |
| How to mend a broken relationship | 3/29/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating my fiance now for a year and we have always had some issues even in the ... A: I know you would like me to help you fix this relationship but since I care about people and you, ... | |
| Long distance girlfriend unsure about taking a break | 3/29/2009 |
| Q: I'm 20, my long distance girl of 3 months is 19 and is not sure if she wants to take a break from ... A: I wouldn't bother. Anyone who has to take a nap instead of talking to his supposed love interest, ... | |
| he chooses his friend over me | 3/28/2009 |
| Q: We have been together almost two years and have an 8 month old son together. Recently he started ... A: No, I don't think you are wrong but I don't think an ultimatum is the answer. I would tell him that ... | |
| help! | 3/28/2009 |
| Q: i have been with my now fiance for 5 yrs weve been engaged for 6 months now we have two children ... A: I don't have enough information to help you like I could but I do have a recommendation. Read Dr. ... | |
| need help with failing relationship | 3/28/2009 |
| Q: Sharon - First, let me thank you for taking time out to help me with my relationship problems. I ... A: It isn't that your feelings don't count. It is that men are different than women and they can't ... | |
| my relationship | 3/28/2009 |
| Q: ive been with my girlfriend for almost 6 yearsand i think its goin down the drain, we have been ... A: I don't get dating for 6 years without getting married because relationships go through all sorts of ... | |
| Relationship is fizziling out.... | 3/27/2009 |
| Q: I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 22. We have been together for 6 months. It has been a bit of a rocky ... A: Sometimes it is just a matter of nature taking its course. The problem is that when you start ... | |
| relationship on the rocks due to depression | 3/26/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months. I am 25 he is 26. We met at university. Prior to a ... A: There is no way to fix another person. He needs to go to counseling and make changes in his life. ... | |
| Girlfriend pullling away | 3/25/2009 |
| Q: , I am 25 and my girlfriend is 28. We have been together for almost 5 months now. We live 2 hours ... A: This problem happens a lot. A couple gets together and starts having sex before they truly know ... | |
| relationship problems | 3/24/2009 |
| Q: Me and my girlfriend broke up and she had sex with another man. The person she had sex with was her ... A: Well, if you both cheated then what can you do or say? All you both did was take a big risk by ... | |
| How to give more space and freedom if you dont know how | 3/22/2009 |
| Q: Ok Im 20 yrs old.Me and my fiance Michael have been together for 1yr and 4 months and living ... A: It makes me so sad to see people get themselves into such problems at so young an age. What is why ... | |
| Nearly 3 Years & Issues Are Getting Bigger | 3/20/2009 |
| Q: I am 27 years old, going to be 28 in a few days and have been dating my boyfriend for nearly 3 ... A: In a healthy, loving and giving relationship when one person expresses how he feels and how he is ... | |
| Nearly 3 Years & Issues Are Getting Bigger | 3/20/2009 |
| Q: I am 27 years old, going to be 28 in a few days and have been dating my boyfriend for nearly 3 ... A: Talking never, never, never, never works--as you have proven once again to me as a coach. When you ... | |
| marriage on the rocks | 3/20/2009 |
| Q: I am 30 yrs old.I think my husband is talking about me behind my back,crazy right? His whole family ... A: If he is working hard to save money so you can move out and is considerate of you most of the time ... | |
| marriage on the rocks | 3/20/2009 |
| Q: I am 30 yrs old.I think my husband is talking about me behind my back,crazy right? His whole family ... A: You knew what he was when you married him so I am not sure what is the best thing to do here. You ... | |
| Manchild | 3/20/2009 |
| Q: I have dated my husband for 6yrs before we married last year. Since we have been married, he ... A: Just out of curiosity, what clues did you overlook before you were married? Well, water under the ... | |
| even steven | 3/18/2009 |
| Q: I recently started dating a guy...I am 21, he's 22...we've been together for about 2 months now and ... A: Is the problem that you feel you are too much the center of attention or are you feeling that maybe ... | |
| Long Distance | 3/17/2009 |
| Q: I am 23 and my boyfriend in 28. We have been dating for a year and a half now. We have an ... A: Red flag. Red flag. When you are assessing a situation you look for red flags of warning. The way ... | |
| Nearing the end? | 3/17/2009 |
| Q: I am 22 years old, my boyfriend is couple of years older. We have been together for a year. Few ... A: This is not a good relationship. This man is not good enough for you. First of all, you cannot ... | |
| my ex and i | 3/16/2009 |
| Q: .. she wants to "take it slow" im not really sure how to do this i usually rush into everything... i ... A: I think it is very wise to just be friends and for goodness sakes do not have sex with her. If she ... | |
| I WANT MY EX BACK + BABY ON BOARD! | 3/16/2009 |
| Q: Recently me and my boyfriend of 7 months broke things off after his father's passing. It was about 3 ... A: At this point, with a baby in the picture I am not sure what you can do. It is so difficult to me ... | |
| My Relationship, break, counseling, or what else? | 3/16/2009 |
| Q: so i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years i was 18, he was 19. my mom moved him into our house ... A: You know. People that live good and happy lives plan their lives and do not settle for just anyone ... | |
| 3 month mark of LDR relationship - fearing break up | 3/16/2009 |
| Q: I'm 20, she's 19. I'm in South Korea, She's in North Carolina, Chapel Hill. On 03/27/09, it will be ... A: I think you already have it figured out. She has cooled off. Long distant relationships often do ... | |
| my ex and i | 3/15/2009 |
| Q: .. she wants to "take it slow" im not really sure how to do this i usually rush into everything... i ... A: Dustin, Men are hunters by nature and tend to go right after what they want. So, this is the deal. ... | |
| Is Taking a Break the Answer? | 3/15/2009 |
| Q: Sorry, this is pretty long. My fiance (26) and I (24) have been together for 16.5 months, engaged ... A: There are two ways to handle this. The first one is how most people handle a situation like this. ... | |
| dating | 3/14/2009 |
| Q: I have a question, didn't ask this before...I have a male friend and we are suppose to go out on ... A: That is a tough one. Often, we know by our gut feelings what to do, if we can set aside our fears ... | |
| Trust, compatability, infedelity problems in my relationship | 3/14/2009 |
| Q: I'm 22 years old, My girlfriend is 20 and we've been together for 2 years next month (not counting ... A: Your gut feelings are probably right and there is something going on. The problem is that people ... | |
| dating | 3/14/2009 |
| Q: I have a question, didn't ask this before...I have a male friend and we are suppose to go out on ... A: Gosh, I don't know without asking him. Since you initiated the whole thing perhaps he either ... | |
| 2 years... and now college | 3/13/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and i have been together almost 2 and a half years.. we started dating when i was a ... A: Don't take it personally. This is very common that people, when they start dating seriously before ... | |
| He thinks I'm perfect! | 3/12/2009 |
| Q: I know this might not sound like a big relationship problem at first, but bear with me. I've been ... A: . Interesting dilemma. What is happening is you are feeling that it is a weakness on his part, a ... | |
| On a break. | 3/12/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been dating for 7 years and got engaged a year and an half. We plan our ... A: When people get into serious relationships too soon and then they go on for so long, it is very ... | |
| Should I break up? | 3/12/2009 |
| Q: Im 17 years old, and I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year a half. Before he went to ... A: You are very attached to him but you are not in love with him. Love is not getting tired of a ... | |
| Marriage rute with in the first year | 3/11/2009 |
| Q: This April my husband and I will be married a full year, and as how excited I am that we made it I ... A: Oh, boy! You have a real problem and I am not sure that it can be fixed. It sounds like your ... | |
| does she really like me | 3/9/2009 |
| Q: I'm 23 and me and my girlfriend have been dating for a month and a half now. Some times i feel like ... A: It would help to know what she is saying to you so I could read this situation better so I can only ... | |
| living without feeling desired | 3/9/2009 |
| Q: i am in a difficult situation. I recently split up with my boyfriend of two years whom I'm in love ... A: The battle for living a good life is in the brain. You know that you are too needy when it comes to ... | |
| narcissistic bitchiness? | 3/8/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for about 14 months. We're both about 23. I'm not even sure ... A: Usually when someone needs a lot of attention it carries from their childhood but there could also ... | |
| he's more into his friends | 3/6/2009 |
| Q: I am 21 in July and my boyfriend is 22 in June we have been together for 5 1/2 years. We have the ... A: My oh my! You are sure right when you say he is in control. You have trained him well to ... | |
| the end? | 3/6/2009 |
| Q: I am in a situation you read about every day. I too am going through a break-up. I know what I am ... A: That helps. I can help with some things that could help you in this or any other relationship. ... | |
| falling apart | 3/5/2009 |
| Q: I've been in a relationship for 3yrs now and my partner has been my best friend for around 6yrs. For ... A: This might sound strange but sometimes a person doesn't stay with a recovering addict of any kind ... | |
| narcissistic bitchiness? | 3/5/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for about 14 months. We're both about 23. I'm not even sure ... A: I am so sorry but this question and information is way too long. I tried to get the gist of it so ... | |
| the end? | 3/5/2009 |
| Q: I am in a situation you read about every day. I too am going through a break-up. I know what I am ... A: I am at a loss a bit because it is not clear why you are breaking up. If you have judged that you ... | |
| negative changes in our relationship! | 3/3/2009 |
| Q: I have been together with my boyfriend for over 2 years now.. We met thru friends and had to have a ... A: You really answered your own question. You know that you want to return to your old self and ... | |
| relationship break | 3/3/2009 |
| Q: I am 23(in a couple of weeks) my partner is 25. I met peter at a family party. we started talking ... A: Sounds like you are thinking quite well. The problem with trust is that people change a lot, ... | |
| relationship break | 3/2/2009 |
| Q: I am 23(in a couple of weeks) my partner is 25. I met peter at a family party. we started talking ... A: It sounds like the typical too much too soon relationship that happens so often now that women have ... | |
| relationship question | 3/2/2009 |
| Q: Shortened question. My boyfriend is afraid to move in with me because of past issues with trust ... A: You are going about this all wrong. First of all, if you have high fears of abandonment you will ... | |
| dating | 3/1/2009 |
| Q: I am going out with this guy like not all the time and I recently went over to his place after we ... A: Sorry. I usually only allow two questions so can't help you any longer. I wish you well. There are ... | |
| dating | 2/27/2009 |
| Q: I am going out with this guy like not all the time and I recently went over to his place after we ... A: I have already answered the question. He has let you know how he feels. He didn't want to talk to ... | |
| dating | 2/26/2009 |
| Q: I am going out with this guy like not all the time and I recently went over to his place after we ... A: Do not make the mistake of many women and think that if they have sex with a guy it means the guy ... | |
| dating | 2/26/2009 |
| Q: I am going out with this guy like not all the time and I recently went over to his place after we ... A: Basically just ask him if he considers you just friends and that you are okay with that. If he ... | |
| I don't know what to do. | 2/26/2009 |
| Q: I'm 19, and i have a boyfriend that is 4 years older than me. We met a years ago, and we fell in ... A: You are too young to be in a serious relationship let alone a live in relationship. He picked you ... | |
| dating | 2/25/2009 |
| Q: I am going out with this guy like not all the time and I recently went over to his place after we ... A: It always amazes me that women latch onto a guy as though because he takes them out a few times that ... | |
| How so I get him to want to be with me | 2/23/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now and we only spend one night a week ... A: Well, dear, it is time to wake up and see things for what they are. Whenever a guy doesn't ... | |
| Strengthening relationship | 2/22/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my girlfriend for over 8 months. She is four years younger than me and she just ... A: She is younger than you and probably feels that being in an exclusive relationship is stopping her ... | |
| Nearing the Breaking Point | 2/19/2009 |
| Q: To start off, I'm twenty three and my boyfriend is thirty. We've been together a year and a half and ... A: Your boyfriend is a controller and controllers choose people who are easily controlled. We get into ... | |
| I don't know if he truly loves me. | 2/18/2009 |
| Q: I'm 29 and have been with my fiance for just over 7 years now. Throughout the relationship I've ... A: No, you are not silly. I think you are exactly right as to why he is sticking around. Also, ... | |
| not connecting? | 2/17/2009 |
| Q: I am 19 years old, i really hope you can give me some good advice about this. here is the situation. ... A: What is happening is very common for long distant relationships where you meet on the internet. It ... | |
| personality differences with wife | 2/15/2009 |
| Q: First off, I am a huge fan of personality theories and psychology. I always like to try to learn ... A: I wish I could work with both of you so she could understand her personality traits that are causing ... | |
| relationship, whether a break is the right choice | 2/11/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriends father recently died. My boyfriend is reacting to the death with anger, which has ... A: It is pretty natural to be angry and also want to withdraw from others when there is a death of a ... | |
| affection | 2/11/2009 |
| Q: I'm 19 and having some issues where affection is concerned with my boyfriend. He's 25 and sometimes ... A: I am so glad you wrote to me. I get a little frustrated at women these days because no one has ... | |
| My boyfriend & I | 2/9/2009 |
| Q: Today when my boyfriend (he is 19) was with me we were talking and we've been fighting lately and ... A: In my experience and way of thinking young people get serious way too soon and get involved sexually ... | |
| well..... | 2/6/2009 |
| Q: i dont know why he got mad about the nickname..i always tell him what i feel but he doesnt get ... A: This is the last time I can answer on all experts so that I can answer others. I usually only take ... | |
| how can i be sure if my fiance cares about me or likes me or not? | 2/6/2009 |
| Q: we knew each other for a short period of time(10 days) and then we got engaged with the engagement ... A: I am not sure what to think except he sounds like he is very controlling and would not be good to ... | |
| Is taking a break healthy | 2/6/2009 |
| Q: Well I've been with my girlfriend for 4.5 years,we currently live with each other and have for ... A: I think I would try something. I think you should ask your girlfriend if she would be willing to ... | |
| relationships and the past. | 2/4/2009 |
| Q: Recently i have been having a lot of trouble with my relationship. I have been with my boyfriend for ... A: Tell your boyfriend that your past is your past and doesn't have anything to do with right now. Go ... | |
| how can i be sure if my fiance cares about me or likes me or not? | 2/4/2009 |
| Q: we knew each other for a short period of time(10 days) and then we got engaged with the engagement ... A: Well, what you have been doing hasn't been working. You could try different things but you really ... | |
| The Shoe on The Other Foot | 2/4/2009 |
| Q: I just read an interesting question from a woman seeking advice in her relationship. The ... A: I hardly know what to say. I do not see how you can respect her for being so irresponsible with her ... | |
| how can i be sure if my fiance cares about me or likes me or not? | 2/3/2009 |
| Q: we knew each other for a short period of time(10 days) and then we got engaged with the engagement ... A: You are right. He doesn't care very much. Telling him to change will not work. If he loved you he ... | |
| relationship break | 2/3/2009 |
| Q: Me and my girlfriend have been dating for nealy a year.Recently she has said she has not being ... A: At 19, when a couple gets into a serious and exclusive relationship one or the other almost always ... | |
| almost broke-up but got back together... | 2/2/2009 |
| Q: my boyfriend and i have been dating for a year and month now. our first two weeks in the ... A: It helps a lot to have more details. In this case, it sounds like he just isn't quite ready which is ... | |
| almost broke-up but got back together... | 2/2/2009 |
| Q: my boyfriend and i have been dating for a year and month now. our first two weeks in the ... A: When people say should they fight for a relationship I am not sure what that means. It is important ... | |
| In the verge of breaking up | 1/31/2009 |
| Q: I'm 25 years old. I have been with my girlfriend for 8 months. Our relationship have been going ... A: The purpose of dating is to get to know someone to see if they are compatible. In her mind, at ... | |
| Relationship Confusion | 1/30/2009 |
| Q: Hi I'm 23 years old & have been with my girlfriend for about 5 years and the majority of the ... A: What is happening here is that when you get serious too young one or more feels like life has passed ... | |
| she always breaks up | 1/30/2009 |
| Q: Im 43, shes 39.... we met online and it was love at first site. We dated long distance 6mos then I ... A: Well, it sounds like you need to be stronger and set some boundaries. If she is quite controlling ... | |
| my best friend | 1/28/2009 |
| Q: me and my best friend are in this big fight and i want to be her friend but yesterday when she asked ... A: Apologize. Tell her that you said things that you didn't mean and then offer to really listen to ... | |
| How can I make this work because I really want to | 1/28/2009 |
| Q: I am 17 and my boyfriend is 18. I know it's young love and it's hard for people to accept the fact ... A: Of course you can be in love at any age. The problem is in maturity in handling situations, which ... | |
| relationship problems | 1/28/2009 |
| Q: i sit here and wonder sometimes about where the relationship i am in is going or how long its going ... A: Things don't usually work out when you move in with someone before marriage. It is like giving all ... | |
| help! | 1/28/2009 |
| Q: Alright, so me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year, our anniversary is on the 19th ... A: Well dear. You say you love him and yet you are doing all you can to drive him away. So, this is ... | |
| Is She Crazy?? | 1/27/2009 |
| Q: ! I have a friend who I believe is legitimately, certifiably psychologically crazy. I love her ... A: I have had experience with this. There are two possible causes. It could be a legitimate disorder ... | |
| Having Doubts | 1/27/2009 |
| Q: I am 22 yrs old, and still in college about an hour away from my home. My boyfriend lives near my ... A: You know, I don't know if I can help you or not. I will just be honest. Without being able to work ... | |
| Teenage dating | 1/26/2009 |
| Q: Is it Normal that if ive been dating/talking to this one boy for seven months now & he still hasn't ... A: I do not know how old you are. Some parents do not let their children date until a certain age. ... | |
| Girl wonr be with me because of past relationship | 1/26/2009 |
| Q: There is this girl i have talking to for about 5 months now. I started out as her friend. I began to ... A: This is the deal. It usually takes one to two years to get over a serious relationship and really ... | |
| Help | 1/26/2009 |
| Q: I met a women who is 44 Ii am 39 . She was married at 28 to him and now he is 70 in a hospital with ... A: There still is a problem and that is she is married and not free. You sound like a very good person ... | |
| Afraid to be Alone | 1/25/2009 |
| Q: 'm 19 years old and a sophomore in college. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half ... A: I am so proud of you. Now, many women have been faced with the same dilemma. They have tried to ... | |
| will she ever change for me? | 1/23/2009 |
| Q: i was my girlfriend for 10 months and we had a pretty rocky reltionship, but i fell so in love with ... A: Brian, There is an old saying, "When you're not with the one you love, you love the one you're ... | |
| Help | 1/23/2009 |
| Q: I met a women who is 44 Ii am 39 . She was married at 28 to him and now he is 70 in a hospital with ... A: What kind of a life do you want and what kind of a woman do you want? It is too bad that her ... | |
| A best friend or lover? | 1/23/2009 |
| Q: Im 25, living in Newport Beach....my good friend Nick, 24 has been in and out of my life since I ... A: I think it is a really bad idea to move in together. First of all, that is not the setting to make ... | |
| relationships | 1/23/2009 |
| Q: i was hoping to seek advice since everyone else i've talked to doesn't fully understand me since ... A: I would tell him that you have been feeling restless in the relationship and that you read somewhere ... | |
| relationships | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: i was hoping to seek advice since everyone else i've talked to doesn't fully understand me since ... A: This is a tough situation. It sounds like you really love him and that he is a pretty good guy. ... | |
| Compatible? | 1/20/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating this guy for almost a month now and I am having trouble figuring out if we are ... A: I think that if you stop having sex you will be able to see if there is anything really there. ... | |
| Is our relationship coming to an end? | 1/17/2009 |
| Q: Cut a long story short, been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now. Met on a night out, started ... A: There are some basic personality differences that will not change. That you can believe. He is a ... | |
| Is our relationship coming to an end? | 1/16/2009 |
| Q: Cut a long story short, been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now. Met on a night out, started ... A: This is difficult. It really depends on what you want. Obviously this relationship is in a rut. ... | |
| What does this actually mean? | 1/15/2009 |
| Q: I love my husband but now I am wondering if I married him to feel like I was married to the lead ... A: This is how it works. Love is a choice. You can choose to either love him or not. You can choose ... | |
| help | 1/14/2009 |
| Q: alright, heres the situation. i started dating the girl im with now about a month ago. we have been ... A: Steve, there are some things we do out of self-respect. If we do not do it then we lose ... | |
| relationship moving backwards | 1/10/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating a girl for a few months now. We got into a relationship really early and started ... A: Yes, it might have a chance if she is sincere and just not trying to break it off by letting you ... | |
| What Can I Do To Get My Bestfriend Back | 1/10/2009 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend for 11 years, we have two children together, 8 and 1; after the birth of ... A: I am sorry you are having problems with your boyfriend, especially since you have children together. ... | |
| Boyfriend in Law School | 1/8/2009 |
| Q: I am 27 and my boyfriend is 29 and in his second year of law school. We used to work together ... A: I assume you are having sex with him if you spent four days with him, etc. The problem is that when ... | |
| Relationship In Distress | 1/8/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 21 year old college student. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. He lives in ... A: He likes you and wants to be with you when he can but his son comes first and always will. Period. ... | |
| work relationship | 1/7/2009 |
| Q: I am writing to ask for your advice regarding the guy that is in my work place. I would like to ... A: I suggest you email him with this question. "Hi. How is it going? I enjoyed our time working ... | |
| hello | 1/6/2009 |
| Q: I have another question..I went to my male friend's house on my own actually he met me somewhere and ... A: Depends on what you want in life. Some people want to wait until marriage for sex (which I ... | |
| hello | 1/6/2009 |
| Q: I have another question..I went to my male friend's house on my own actually he met me somewhere and ... A: That helps a bit. It sounds like it is a fairly casual relationship and so is never a good idea to ... | |
| Need some advice | 1/6/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 24 year old guy who has been dating my girlfriend for the past 4 years. Things are great 95% ... A: How much is your commitment to your girlfriend? Man I hate live in situations. There is almost ... | |
| dating | 1/5/2009 |
| Q: I have a close male friend and we went out a few days before christmas, I didn't get a gift from him ... A: Never tell a guy that you want more than casual. If they really like you they will let you know. ... | |
| What to do now? | 1/5/2009 |
| Q: when we met at a friends house that night started talking. She confessed that she was very sensitive ... A: You are not the only one confused. She is very confused and so the only thing you can do is wait it ... | |
| dating | 1/5/2009 |
| Q: I have a close male friend and we went out a few days before christmas, I didn't get a gift from him ... A: Stop calling him. When women chase men they usually back off. If he wants to go out with you he ... | |
| Should i walk away or fight for her? | 1/4/2009 |
| Q: sorry this is a long one but i am in real need of help. I met my partner over 3 years ago, i was ... A: Don't you find it odd that T doesn't kick up a fuss with her other boy-friends? I think you should ... | |
| marital relationship | 1/4/2009 |
| Q: I and my husband have keep having arguments often, the reason could be anything at all..example, we ... A: Ok. I am going to have to guess a lot but I do know some secrets of keeping a man interested. Act ... | |
| Questioning my relationship | 1/3/2009 |
| Q: I am 29 years old and left my long term ex-boyfriend approximately a year and a half ago. The ... A: Ok. This is the deal. A mother gives advice, makes sure you are wearing your hat and gloves, ... | |
| Questioning my relationship | 1/2/2009 |
| Q: I am 29 years old and left my long term ex-boyfriend approximately a year and a half ago. The ... A: Often when a person keeps repeating the pattern of choosing relationships that are not good for ... | |
| Moved in.... Grew apart. | 1/2/2009 |
| Q: My gf(20) and I (27) have been living together for a little over a year now and I am finding us ... A: Playing at marriage just doesn't work. One or the other usually expects a lot more out of living ... | |
| Is he still interested in me? | 1/1/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I are both 19. We have been together for 2 months and have been on and off for ... A: Yes, he is losing interest. It blows my mind that a woman would risk having sex with someone before ... | |
| lost and confused | 1/1/2009 |
| Q: I'm 30 & divorced now for about 3 years and have two little girls 9 & 4. I live with my ... A: My answer may surprise you. I wouldn't have either of them. Your ex wants you badly because he is ... | |
| Timing/Getting back together | 12/31/2008 |
| Q: I'm 31. We broke up a few weeks ago. I've had some time to think about my behavior and what was ... A: Did you push him away or was he looking for an excuse to get out? without more info I am not sure. ... | |
| What to do now? | 12/27/2008 |
| Q: when we met at a friends house that night started talking. She confessed that she was very sensitive ... A: The only way this will work is for you to stop being so intense about it and up tight. Keep your ... | |
| trust issues | 12/25/2008 |
| Q: I am currently in a relationship of a year and a half. And I am finding myself more paranoid than ... A: OK I think I have it figured it out. When you have self-confidence then you realize which is your ... | |
| trust issues | 12/24/2008 |
| Q: I am currently in a relationship of a year and a half. And I am finding myself more paranoid than ... A: I think that your whole problem is that you need to have more confidence and self-respect. When you ... | |
| What to do now? | 12/24/2008 |
| Q: when we met at a friends house that night started talking. She confessed that she was very sensitive ... A: Well, I am not sure what is going on but I can tell you strongly, do not move in together. There ... | |
| trust issues | 12/22/2008 |
| Q: I am currently in a relationship of a year and a half. And I am finding myself more paranoid than ... A: The problem is that you do not trust yourself. It is not your boyfriend that you do not trust. You ... | |
| relationship | 12/22/2008 |
| Q: Can you have a relationship without kissing or meeting each other? A: You can have a relationship without kissing but you can't have a relationship without relating to ... | |
| Financial issues with live-in boyfriend | 12/13/2008 |
| Q: I have been dating a guy (34) for 2 1/2 years and we live together. I'm 42 and have 2 young children ... A: Get out before he completely ruins your credit, too. He is irresponsible. If he doesn't understand ... | |
| communication issues | 12/13/2008 |
| Q: .. my name is shaniece i am 19 yrs old my boyfriend is 22 we've been together for 11months and i ... A: Yes, you really do need someone to talk to. I raised three girls and one daughter is not married ... | |
| difficult situation with GF | 12/11/2008 |
| Q: my gf and me planned to get married in mar09. all plans on way. now she is not picking up calls, nor ... A: You are not ready for a mature and mutually loving and giving relationship. When you feel like you ... | |
| Marriage questions | 12/8/2008 |
| Q: Enjoyed reading your great answers and helps lots of people. I am from India and living in the US ... A: In that case, It is pretty natural for there to be some competition between a wife and her ... | |
| She doesn't know if she wants a relationship | 12/7/2008 |
| Q: Sharon, I'm a 24 year old Asian man seeing a 20 year old German woman. We've been seeing each other ... A: More than likely there were other signs that made you appear needy to her. One incident would not ... | |
| Marriage questions | 12/6/2008 |
| Q: Enjoyed reading your great answers and helps lots of people. I am from India and living in the US ... A: Hello. It is nice that you are trying to work thing through your marriage to make it better. ... | |
| keep my husband interested in ME | 12/5/2008 |
| Q: my husband and i have been together for 3 years, married 2. we have always had a wonderful ... A: I recommend Dr. Laura's book, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. The key is to be his ... | |
| What to do? | 12/5/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. it is been a very rough last couple of months ... A: I am sorry you are going through so much all at once. Now, what you have been doing is not working ... | |
| talking with ex | 12/4/2008 |
| Q: Why chill with an ex just to smoke while your man is at work? A: Maybe because she needs someone to talk to? From the length of your question perhaps your lady ... | |
| boyfriend | 12/4/2008 |
| Q: I have being going out with my boyfriend for nearly three years we lived in different countries for ... A: If you don't have or want a commitment then he is free to call others and while it might show he ... | |
| boyfriend | 12/4/2008 |
| Q: I have being going out with my boyfriend for nearly three years we lived in different countries for ... A: If he is doing things like calling old girlfriends and other women when he is drinking then he has a ... | |
| will you help me | 12/4/2008 |
| Q: So my boyfriend and i have been dating for alittle over 2yrs now, and like everyones beginning of ... A: When you wrap your whole live around another person and give up friends and doing things with other ... | |
| The problem that won't go away | 12/3/2008 |
| Q: I am 20 years old, and I've been dating my girlfriend for almost a year. She has self-confidence ... A: Call any mental health clinic and ask them who to call for low income counseling and they should be ... | |
| boyfriend | 12/3/2008 |
| Q: I have being going out with my boyfriend for nearly three years we lived in different countries for ... A: I am concerned more about his getting drunk and losing control than who he calls. If this is a ... | |
| The problem that won't go away | 12/3/2008 |
| Q: I am 20 years old, and I've been dating my girlfriend for almost a year. She has self-confidence ... A: This problem is not anything you can solve. She needs professional help. She is trying to prove ... | |
| Girlfriend troubles | 12/3/2008 |
| Q: I am 20 years old and I've been dating my girlfriend for almost a year. When things are good, ... A: It takes two to fight. The next time you are talking about something and she starts to get upset, ... | |
| Where is this going, what does she want? | 12/3/2008 |
| Q: I am 31 yrs old. I have recently had a breakup and i am very confused about the signals i am ... A: Your lady is not stable. What you see is what you get unless she gets counseling and works through ... | |
| Please help | 12/2/2008 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for nearly two years now. I have always had a very ... A: You asked for honest and so here it is. I believe you are addicted to sex in a very physical way. ... | |
| It's hard to cope with his success...Why? | 11/30/2008 |
| Q: I am writing because I have an issue in my two year relationship to my boyfriend - or it may well be ... A: Just the fact that you are concerned tells me that you are growing into your full self and that is ... | |
| This is a marriage question. | 11/30/2008 |
| Q: I love my husband but now I am wondering if I married him to feel like I was married to the lead ... A: The answer would be the same. Enjoy what you have now and stop worrying about tomorrow. Accept ... | |
| This is a marriage question. | 11/29/2008 |
| Q: I love my husband but now I am wondering if I married him to feel like I was married to the lead ... A: I tried to put it as gentle as can be. We all have problems sometimes that need counseling. There ... | |
| This is a marriage question. | 11/29/2008 |
| Q: I love my husband but now I am wondering if I married him to feel like I was married to the lead ... A: I wish I could help you but I can't. You really, really, really, really need professional ... | |
| relationship going different ways | 11/28/2008 |
| Q: I'm very concerned and heartbroken. I've been in a relationship about two years. I am deeply in love ... A: One of the challenges of relationship is communication. Too much is assumed and not enough ... | |
| Fiancee's family | 11/27/2008 |
| Q: I have dated and been engaged to my fiancee for five years and from what she has told me and have ... A: Much unhappiness comes from wanting what we can't have instead of accepting what is. This is her ... | |
| Depressed about my boyfriend | 11/26/2008 |
| Q: I am 22-year old, recent college graduate, taking a year off from school before applying to graduate ... A: The instincts for a woman to need someone on whom she can rely if she were pregnant, vulnerable with ... | |
| young widow is sabotaging new love | 11/26/2008 |
| Q: 2 yrs ago, I became a widow from a sudden/tragic death w/the love of my life. 6 mos ago, I met a man ... A: First of all, there will always be some pain, which I think will subside somewhat over time, ... | |
| Girlfriend woes | 11/25/2008 |
| Q: recently my girlfriend(20) and I(22) have been having a few problems. We've been together for 2.2 ... A: There should be organizations of like-minded people in school where you can develop friendships. I ... | |
| relationship breaks | 11/25/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and he recently informed me that he is concerned ... A: If he was so compatible with his ex, why aren't they still together or did she pass away? The ... | |
| Girlfriend woes | 11/25/2008 |
| Q: recently my girlfriend(20) and I(22) have been having a few problems. We've been together for 2.2 ... A: I always recommend that people do not get into exclusive relationships until they are ready to marry ... | |
| Not sure what to do | 11/24/2008 |
| Q: I am in a situation where I really need advice. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. When we ... A: Any guy that would sit around and let a woman pay for most of his living is not the kind of man you ... | |
| Men... | 11/23/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a couple months, on and off. In the beginning his ... A: Much unhappiness comes from wanting things we can't have. You want things to be the way they used ... | |
| My bestfriend says I pushed her away and she wants nothing to do with me | 11/23/2008 |
| Q: My names Jon I am 21 years old. I'm actually writing this e-mail because I guess you could say I'm ... A: OK. I am going to be brutal with you because I want you to be happier in your life. You do not ... | |
| My bestfriend says I pushed her away and she wants nothing to do with me | 11/20/2008 |
| Q: My names Jon I am 21 years old. I'm actually writing this e-mail because I guess you could say I'm ... A: Wow! I will bet you are off the chart on the trait of Serious Mindedness. Also, you are an ... | |
| my boyfriend | 11/20/2008 |
| Q: im in love with my 6month boyfriend, we got into this relationship knowingthat theirs alot of issues ... A: People don't change much and so either this is just his personality or he is dating you because you ... | |
| Will he want a divorce? | 11/19/2008 |
| Q: My husband asked Do I want to be with him for the rest of our lives.This was my answer.- Do I want ... A: What happens in the future can be affected by what happens now. If you want to make sure you have a ... | |
| Will he want a divorce? | 11/19/2008 |
| Q: My husband asked Do I want to be with him for the rest of our lives.This was my answer.- Do I want ... A: I highly recommend you get counseling. The things you are asking me are more than I can help you ... | |
| Will he want a divorce? | 11/18/2008 |
| Q: My husband asked Do I want to be with him for the rest of our lives.This was my answer.- Do I want ... A: When you said that you tend to doubt yourself you were not kidding! My goodness girl. Believe in ... | |
| Confused | 11/18/2008 |
| Q: age 39. I have been seeing this woman for a little more than two months. The first month was great. ... A: Well, it is hard to say without asking her and maybe you should just ask her outright if she feels ... | |
| I don't know what to do with my relationship | 11/17/2008 |
| Q: I am in a situation that I don't know what to do, my 9 months boyfriend always gave me mixed ... A: People are very different from each other, according to their personality traits. It could be that ... | |
| Can time apart work? | 11/15/2008 |
| Q: My girlfriend recently told me that she is feeling very confused and that we should take a break. ... A: Women and men have different needs. I would read Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars to help ... | |
| I really need help! I get a mad at my girlfriend for things I don't think I should. | 11/12/2008 |
| Q: first of all I would just like to say thank you for reading this. My girlfriend and I have been ... A: A couple of things. I do not think it wise to date someone so exclusively until you are ready to be ... | |
| how to be happy & love the man that is breaking my heart? | 11/11/2008 |
| Q: I have been in a six year relationship with my boyfriend, & we have a 4 yr old son. This past spring ... A: First of all, I do not know why you feel guilty about hitting and yelling at him. I think he is ... | |
| Keeping my relationship from failing | 11/11/2008 |
| Q: I am madly in love with my partner. He is great but he says he needs his own space his own time... ... A: What you have is what you get. I get a lot of letters where one person is very committed and the ... | |
| she seems to be getting more and more distant | 11/11/2008 |
| Q: ok well me and my girlfriend have benn going out for 6 months and were doing really good but lately ... A: I will do my best. Be creative with your dates. Be sure and call her ahead of time and do things ... | |
| reuniting | 11/10/2008 |
| Q: I wonder whether you can give me some insight here. The mother of my 6yo child and I have been ... A: This question is very important because a little boy is at stake here, as well as two other lives. ... | |
| Marital Concerns | 11/9/2008 |
| Q: We have been married for the past 17 years and have two children, aged 13 and 7. I am 47 years old ... A: I recommend you read Dr. Laura's book, Bad childhood good life. This will help you to forget the ... | |
| How can I improve my relationship? | 11/7/2008 |
| Q: I'm 24. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half. He was a friend of my family ... A: Theresa, You made a huge mistake to have sex with someone without being sure he would make a good ... | |
| no trust and hurt | 11/6/2008 |
| Q: ok so my name is eric the girl i love is megan so it stated by one night i drink a little to much ... A: Drinking one drink is still drinking so she has a right to not trust what you say. It is important ... | |
| how to let it go? | 11/4/2008 |
| Q: I have been dating a man for about 3 months now. In the beginning things were great. We both are ... A: All our experiences are for us to learn things. I think it is important for you to speak to him ... | |
| Lack of confidence | 11/3/2008 |
| Q: Crandall, Hi there! I REALLY hope you can help me…. I am a 29 year old female that has a serious ... A: First of all, read Bad Childhood, Good Life by Dr. Laura. Even if your childhood was ok this book ... | |
| Support my boyfriend, or take care of myself? | 11/3/2008 |
| Q: I met my boyfriend about two years ago. I thought he was funny, smart. He is known for his loyalty ... A: Boy, have you taken on all the emotional responsibility in this relationship! You have felt his ... | |
| day-to-day communication | 11/2/2008 |
| Q: I am 17 and a junior in high school. My boyfriend and I have been dating for approximately 20 ... A: Without actually talking to you both I can only use what info I have, of course. My assessment is ... | |
| day-to-day communication | 11/2/2008 |
| Q: I am 17 and a junior in high school. My boyfriend and I have been dating for approximately 20 ... A: The purpose of dating is to see if you are compatible, not to establish a permanent lifetime ... | |
| boredom in relationship? | 10/13/2008 |
| Q: Iam a 31 yr old lady married to a 34 yr old man for 9 yrs now. We have a daughter of 6 yrs. Well, by ... A: It is not doing your duty all the time that works. It is doing little things to make him feel ... | |
| She wanted a break | 10/13/2008 |
| Q: Im 22, and my girl is 21. We have been together for 7 months, and We have had an amazing ... A: Unfortunately, we can't control another person. We can either continue to act the way we have ... | |
| Confussed | 10/13/2008 |
| Q: I have been dating my bf for ten months now and things seem to be slipping a bit. I understand that ... A: I do hope you realize now that bringing a man into your children's life should only happen when you ... | |
| boredom in relationship? | 10/12/2008 |
| Q: Iam a 31 yr old lady married to a 34 yr old man for 9 yrs now. We have a daughter of 6 yrs. Well, by ... A: Read Dr. Laura's book, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. Your whining and complaining will ... | |
| how can i get him to understand hes a of a family? | 10/11/2008 |
| Q: im 23 years old my spouse and i have two children our past has been terrible he cheated on me after ... A: I do not know how to make a guy grow up and be responsible, but I can tell you that what you have ... | |
| Inattentiveness/ADD -- processing problems? | 10/10/2008 |
| Q: Our 9yr son (4th gr) struggles with what appears to be inattentive ADD. Following is a quick ... A: The problem with the professionals is that they promote the false idea that all children should be ... | |
| Giving an ex a second chance after a really bad mistake | 10/8/2008 |
| Q: I am 29 I was in a relationship with this amazing girl (27) for 2 and half years, we have been ... A: The problem with this girl is she doesn't know her own mind and is too swayed by others opinions. ... | |
| Confussed | 10/8/2008 |
| Q: I have been dating my bf for ten months now and things seem to be slipping a bit. I understand that ... A: Your boyfriend might be worried about "losing it" with your children and if he can really handle ... | |
| dealing with the past in a complicated relationship | 10/7/2008 |
| Q: I was with the father of my children for 7 years. Our relationship fell apart when I got a new job ... A: Take him by the hand and tell him how much you love him and that you are sorry that there were so ... | |
| Still together after breaking up | 10/7/2008 |
| Q: I'm 27, my bf is 28, we've been seriously together for 4 years. In my view, we fit perfectly ... A: When you beg, whine, pin them down, talk, talk, talk, you have already lost your power. You put ... | |
| Distrust | 10/6/2008 |
| Q: I am 21, he is 22, we've been together 3 and half years, and living together for a year and a half. ... A: Your guy has a severe sexual and mental problem and I wouldn't touch it with a ten foot pole. I ... | |
| Not Happy with my relationship anymore | 10/6/2008 |
| Q: I have been with this great guy for 2 in a half years and we both say we love each other and i know ... A: You ask how you can make him see that this relationship is really important to you and believe me, ... | |
| reply to "staying together email" | 10/5/2008 |
| Q: I just had a quick question in regards to your reply to my relationship concerns. I would really ... A: What I was trying to say is that it is important to have clear understandings of what you want in a ... | |
| Money and responsibility/finance | 9/30/2008 |
| Q: My partner has recently decided not to drink alcohol for a year as he was drinking very heavily, ... A: I would write to him and say something like: "When I tell you how scared I am about our future and ... | |
| Distance | 9/29/2008 |
| Q: I am 23 years old, and my boyfriend is 22. We have been dating for almost 3 years now, and living ... A: This happens a lot with couples that move in before marriage. There is no real commitment, even ... | |
| Money and responsibility/finance | 9/28/2008 |
| Q: My partner has recently decided not to drink alcohol for a year as he was drinking very heavily, ... A: You called him partner in one sentence and husband in another so If you are not married don't marry ... | |
| I don't know how to act in this relationship anymore | 9/28/2008 |
| Q: I am in a relationship with a guy now for nearly 3 years now. He is my first major boyfriend. I ... A: CJ, This relationship is not right and you are trying to force it to be ok. That is not possible. ... | |
| She wants a break | 9/28/2008 |
| Q: Im 22 years old, and my girlfriend is 21 My girlfriend and i have been together for almost 7 months ... A: Your girlfriend is obviously pulling away from you but for what reason, neither of us do not know ... | |
| Being the 3rd party | 9/26/2008 |
| Q: I have to start by providing you with a background on my relationship with my boyfriend. I met him 5 ... A: Oh my gosh, you are not serious about wanting him. He is a liar and a cheat. Lose him? You never ... | |
| Letting my boyfriend help with kids and around the house | 9/23/2008 |
| Q: I've been dating my boyfriend for 7 months, I have 3 children (20, 17, & 7) he has 2 (12 & 10). We ... A: For heavens sakes, let him help you. Most women complain their man won't lift a finger to help. ... | |
| husband issue | 9/23/2008 |
| Q: I have some points to tell as well. See according to me , there can be no smoke without fire. What I ... A: If you are stuck in the marriage and can't do anything about it then I am not sure what you can do, ... | |
| husband issue | 9/22/2008 |
| Q: I am 26 yr old gal married since past 9 months. Ours is an arranged marriage (as we being Indian). ... A: Do every thing you can do to develop more self-confidence. Can you take classes so that you can ... | |
| myboyfriend in irag gets mad at me easily | 9/22/2008 |
| Q: am 19 and my army boyfriend is 24 av been going out with him for 3 months and he was so ... A: Three months is not long enough to know someone or to be in love. As to wanting toothpaste, etc. I ... | |
| relationship | 9/12/2008 |
| Q: I'm 19 years old and my boyfriend is 21 years old. We've known each other for 4 years, living ... A: Well, you are in a bad situation. Think of what it would be like if women waited to marry and have ... | |
| Relationship help | 9/10/2008 |
| Q: I have been on and off with my guy for about 3 years. He has committment issues about us getting ... A: Ask your guy, "May I ask you a question?" (Never say you want to talk to a guy he will withdraw ... | |
| Sooo confused... | 9/9/2008 |
| Q: MY BF and I have been together for over 16 months, we do not live together and we are in our 30's. ... A: The way to find happiness is to learn what we can have and what we can't have and then what we ... | |
| DIVORCE OR GIVE IT TIME?? | 9/9/2008 |
| Q: WEVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 5 MONTHS NOW AND ITS SEEM LIKE WE JUST CANT SEEM TO GET ALONG ANYMORE LIKE ... A: The problem is that both of you are looking to the other person to fill your own needs instead of ... | |
| She left me. | 9/6/2008 |
| Q: I have been living with her for 4 years, and things were always great, we never fought and loved ... A: I am glad to see some anger. Yes, you did way too much without requiring enough from the other ... | |
| boyfriend/girlfriend relationship advise | 9/4/2008 |
| Q: I don't know if I should break up with my current girlfriend Tina? i want to be single again at ... A: You should do one of two things. Either give in to your ethical side that wants a stable home and ... | |
| Our relationship is on a break | 9/3/2008 |
| Q: I am 23 years old, me and my boyfriend are going to be 6 years together now in October. We have ... A: Usually when someone takes a break it means the end of a relationship. It is a way of easing out. ... | |
| My ex-girlfriend | 9/3/2008 |
| Q: Hey I'm 18 and Me and my girlfriend broke up about a week ago. I was so happy with her and it was ... A: It seems like she has already told you how she feels but you might joke around a little with her and ... | |
| Boyfriend | 9/2/2008 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 3 years and we have a daughter. We have grown far ... A: It is too bad you were not married first, before you had children. Unfortunately, you really have ... | |
| My ex-girlfriend | 9/2/2008 |
| Q: Hey I'm 18 and Me and my girlfriend broke up about a week ago. I was so happy with her and it was ... A: Everyone is looking for happiness and that is good and important because it motivates us to do ... | |
| The girl that wont decide to date me | 8/29/2008 |
| Q: Sharon, I have a problem. I am 25 years old and last spring I met a girl who is 21 and a senior at ... A: Sounds like you are a thinking man. Good for you. As to maturity, etc. They know now that it ... | |
| The girl that wont decide to date me | 8/28/2008 |
| Q: Sharon, I have a problem. I am 25 years old and last spring I met a girl who is 21 and a senior at ... A: This girl is clearly not ready to settle down to one guy and she really shouldn't at her age. ... | |
| Relationship issues. | 8/28/2008 |
| Q: I'm not too sure where to begin. My boyfriend and I have been together since April of last year, and ... A: That is very helpful. So, this is the deal. Men are hunters and they need a challenge in order to ... | |
| Relationship issues. | 8/27/2008 |
| Q: I'm not too sure where to begin. My boyfriend and I have been together since April of last year, and ... A: Unfortunately you chose to get yourself into this situation when you had sex and got pregnant with a ... | |
| stay or go??? | 8/27/2008 |
| Q: ive been with my boyfriend for almost a yr now..left college friends and all my family to move w ... A: It is time for you to have a serious talk with your boyfriend and tell him that you do not regret ... | |
| my relationship | 8/26/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend is a really great guy and has honorable qualities about himself. The only problem is ... A: Do not feel guilty about this. It is natural, and even necessary to spend time when young in ... | |
| No connection, have I fallen out of love? | 8/23/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my BF for 16 months, he is 37 and I am 35, neither of us has been married but both ... A: If you can get my book it will enlighten you a whole lot on your differences. My daughter has ... | |
| No connection, have I fallen out of love? | 8/23/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my BF for 16 months, he is 37 and I am 35, neither of us has been married but both ... A: Ok. One thing at a time. You have known him long enough to know his personality. He doesn't show ... | |
| Relationship problems | 8/23/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for around six months now. We knew each other for about seven ... A: Why are you so worried about losing him when he really does not put you first in his life. It ... | |
| How can I save my long distance relationship with my girlfriend of almost a year? | 8/22/2008 |
| Q: I am 38, Dear Sharon, I have been in a long distance relationship with this wonderful woman ... A: Long distant relationships are almost impossible because you really do not know another person ... | |
| Break up or stick it out? | 8/20/2008 |
| Q: I'm an 18 year old female freshmen in college. My boyfriend Austin is a senior in high school, he ... A: There is a lot going on here. First of all, the purpose of dating is to get to know different ... | |
| personality clash | 8/19/2008 |
| Q: I am 36 and feeling confused in my relationship with my 47 year old boyfriend. I have been on and ... A: You keep saying you want him to be the one as though this relationship is something you can change ... | |
| Six years and still not met his family | 8/18/2008 |
| Q: .I'm a separated mother of four children..22, 16, 10 & 9. I met someone, separated father of one, ... A: He likes the relationship just the way it is and is not about to rock the boat. Otherwise by this ... | |
| Break or Break up? | 8/15/2008 |
| Q: I've been dating this guy for over a year now and about a month and a half before our year mark, I ... A: Think logically, not emotionally about what you just said to me. You said that he told you he does ... | |
| Taking a break | 8/14/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been toghether for two years. We are usually very good at working through ... A: I not only think a break would be good but I think you need to have confidence and belief in ... | |
| Break or Break up? | 8/14/2008 |
| Q: I've been dating this guy for over a year now and about a month and a half before our year mark, I ... A: Well, in order to teach you a little about men it is usually a bad idea to pin a guy down, other ... | |
| the feeling of insecurity? what to do? | 8/9/2008 |
| Q: okay...ill go straight to the point. here it is! am in a relationship with a guy for like five ... A: Your problem is that you have not developed maturity and self-confidence and so you are very afraid ... | |
| To date or not to date... | 8/8/2008 |
| Q: You gave me great advice 10 months ago when my 3 year relationship broke down so i was hoping you ... A: The question is, how much do you value yourself? How much do you believe in yourself? You are ... | |
| Want to make my relationship work | 8/5/2008 |
| Q: I love my boyfriend dearly but it seems like he doesnt have interest in me anymore.He barely ... A: First of all, men do not talk about things. They only will talk about something that they can ... | |
| 5 year relationship dwindling | 8/4/2008 |
| Q: It has finally come to the point that I need to ask an outsider's opinion. I know that you will only ... A: What happens is in making decisions lots of things keep swimming around in our minds and one thought ... | |
| I DONT KNOW!! | 8/4/2008 |
| Q: I dont know what braught me to talk about this online. But I guess I am truly out of options? I ... A: The problem is in how you show you care. Apparently, you have been "wearing the pants" and it is ... | |
| confused | 8/4/2008 |
| Q: my boyfriend of 10 years is in prison and he wants to marry one day, i am scared of being with him ... A: How long is he going to be in prison? Would you want your daughter to marry someone like him? How ... | |
| I DONT KNOW!! | 8/4/2008 |
| Q: I dont know what braught me to talk about this online. But I guess I am truly out of options? I ... A: I don't know either because I can't read minds yet! However, here are some possibilities. Perhaps ... | |
| confused... | 8/3/2008 |
| Q: Me and my bf have been together a year. We love and care about each other very much but I have ... A: It is not easy to help someone as you because it is important to know what causes your depression. ... | |
| Unsure about what just happened with my relationship | 8/1/2008 |
| Q: So my girlfriend & I have been together for about 2 1/2 years and generally we've been very happy ... A: A couple of things. First, the age difference is significant. She is still spreading her wings. ... | |
| Im pushing her away | 6/11/2008 |
| Q: Hey, Ok so recently I've been spending alot of time with this girl and she knows i love her alot but ... A: To tell you the truth. It really sounds like it is just time that will tell. You can't make ... | |
| Im pushing her away | 6/11/2008 |
| Q: Hey, Ok so recently I've been spending alot of time with this girl and she knows i love her alot but ... A: I don't know. You can't force love and so sometimes people just don't click. There is no way to ... | |
| dating | 6/10/2008 |
| Q: I have a question that I hope you can help me with. I am 40 years old and going to be 41 soon. I ... A: I am so happy to hear from you again with a little more info. If a guy really likes you he can't ... | |
| How to get my boyfriend to follow through. | 6/9/2008 |
| Q: I am 58, divorced 10 years. My boyfriend, Michael, is 59, divorced 3 years. We have been dating for ... A: The question is; do you want to be a shack up partner or do you want to get married? It is proven ... | |
| He needs space. I need answers. | 6/7/2008 |
| Q: Sharon, I have read some of your advice on other questions and I was immediately itching to ask my ... A: Ok. This is the deal. Too much, too young and too soon. Then it leaves nothing to look forward ... | |
| love vs compatibility. | 6/5/2008 |
| Q: I know there are a lot of ways to answer this question but you may be able to help me. I am ... A: No, love is not enough or there would be almost no divorces. The answer is that the new excitement ... | |
| schedule problem | 6/5/2008 |
| Q: Crandall, I have a problem with my 'boyfriend'now. In fact, I am not sure whether I count him as my ... A: Why do so many women expect a guy to immediately wrap their whole lives around them? Dating is not ... | |
| i dont know what to do | 6/4/2008 |
| Q: I am 19 years old and my ex girlfriend is turning 18 in two months. We broke up just a week ago. ... A: The only reason you might be too young is that people change a whole lot during the teenage years up ... | |
| Taking a break... | 6/4/2008 |
| Q: I'm 32 turning 33 in November. She is 23 turning 24 in July. We met 1year 8months ago in a group ... A: When the army is pursuing you and your only choice is to swim across the river that is full of huge ... | |
| Should I let him go even though I know he loves me? | 6/4/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I started dating when we had 2 months of knowing each other, we fell in love and by ... A: The problem is that the real person is who he is now. When you first meet someone they are on their ... | |
| Please, I need advice! | 6/4/2008 |
| Q: I'm 22 years old I have been with my boyfriend (24) for almost 2 years, and just recently found out ... A: What you see is what you get. He will not change. He has to have these girls to feed his ego and ... | |
| Got back together, now what? | 6/3/2008 |
| Q: We are in our early twenties. We had been together for 7 months when we split up for more than a ... A: The problem is that most of the questions you asked me are questions only can answer. It takes time ... | |
| Taking a break... | 6/3/2008 |
| Q: I'm 32 turning 33 in November. She is 23 turning 24 in July. We met 1year 8months ago in a group ... A: First of all when someone breaks up with you it is never rejection. There are always reasons; and ... | |
| how do i stop ruining a good relationship? | 6/3/2008 |
| Q: I was wondering if you can please help me. Ive been in many relationships over the years, a lot ... A: When you are afraid to trust it is you that you do not trust. It is important to develop confidence ... | |
| What is wrong with me?! | 6/2/2008 |
| Q: I'm in a great relationship, my partner couldn't be better for me, he treats me great he's not over ... A: You probably need some counseling in order to get at the bottom of this but here are a few things ... | |
| Embarrassment | 6/2/2008 |
| Q: I am thirty and I am living with my boyfriend. I have over the past year had problems on and off. ... A: I am glad your boyfriend sticks up for you. Here is a tip. Whenever you feel embarrassed or like ... | |
| how to begin | 6/2/2008 |
| Q: I am 38. How do I get my lover to stop controlling everything in our relationship? My lover has a ... A: This is the deal. You teach people how to treat you. You know what does not work. You tell her ... | |
| Embarrassment | 6/2/2008 |
| Q: I am thirty and I am living with my boyfriend. I have over the past year had problems on and off. ... A: I doubt if there is anything you can do to make his friends think differently of you, perhaps even ... | |
| Husband behavior | 5/31/2008 |
| Q: I'm 35 married to a 38 year old man for 14 years now , we have 4 children . we had lots of problems ... A: Well, this marriage is clearly not working very well. Secondly, it is time to put the smack down, ... | |
| my relationship | 5/29/2008 |
| Q: my age is 19 1 year and 2 months ago i met the man of my dreams. he is everything i ever ... A: It is very common at your age to grow apart from someone that you think was the one and only. He is ... | |
| lost.. | 5/27/2008 |
| Q: my boyfriend and i have been together for a little over a year and things have been rocky for a long ... A: The purpose of dating is to see if you are compatible. It is obvious that you are not compatible ... | |
| Pls advise me | 5/26/2008 |
| Q: i have a problem which i hope u can help me. i am 28 years old and i've known my boyfriend for ... A: There is nothing wrong with you but a great deal wrong with the relationship. Now, this may sound ... | |
| not helping | 5/25/2008 |
| Q: when the man you're dating helps everybody but you, what does that mean? A: That is a good question. He has the trait of considerateness and feels responsible to make others ... | |
| dating | 5/25/2008 |
| Q: I am a 26 year old woman. I like a guy who is 39 years old and he seems to like me a lot. We are ... A: Yes, you will be changing his diapers (from being old) when you are still wanting to travel and do ... | |
| long distance | 5/24/2008 |
| Q: I have been in a long distance relationship with my 'b/f' since August 2007- thus 9 months. I am in ... A: The problem with long distant relationships is that you really never get to know the person because ... | |
| Is this something I should be upset about? | 5/22/2008 |
| Q: I have been in an on and off long distance relationship. We have just been back together since five ... A: You situation is quite complicated but I will try. The main thing to know is that it is important ... | |
| How do I make my ralationship better? | 5/22/2008 |
| Q: Hey, My name is Denise, I am 16 years old. I know that may come to a suprise for you, but I just ... A: Most of us have gone through several "loves" before we found the one that we married and yes it is ... | |
| How do I make my ralationship better? | 5/21/2008 |
| Q: Hey, My name is Denise, I am 16 years old. I know that may come to a suprise for you, but I just ... A: I am sorry to tell you but it sounds like your guy has fallen out of love and that is very natural ... | |
| My boyfriend is "getting his feet wet" | 5/21/2008 |
| Q: I'm 20 years old and have recently started dating a guy in my circle of friends. We get a long ... A: It is a serious mistake to demand too much too soon and that is what you are doing. It makes you ... | |
| Help, dunno what else to say... | 5/16/2008 |
| Q: .I'm turning 32 in July this year, never been married and I have no kids. I've been in several long ... A: You are a typical woman that is just too needy and men take advantage of you. I suggest that you ... | |
| save my relationship | 5/14/2008 |
| Q: am 22 and my girl friend is 19 we have been talking for almost two years she is my first lover and ... A: This is the deal. It is natural for a woman to want a man who she thinks can support her and the ... | |
| Very Much In Love | 5/14/2008 |
| Q: I have been dating my girlfriend for 4 1/2 years now. We have had our problems in the past, but ... A: Since I am not sure what bothers you to make you criticize her, then I am not sure how to help you. ... | |
| Start Over | 5/13/2008 |
| Q: First off my husband and I have been together since 1993 (high school). His senior year, 1995, he ... A: Since the other relationship was only a fantasy because you never lived with each other in order to ... | |
| Start Over | 5/13/2008 |
| Q: First off my husband and I have been together since 1993 (high school). His senior year, 1995, he ... A: You can't tell if he is sincere or not unless you check on him a lot! But don't tell him what you ... | |
| Start Over | 5/12/2008 |
| Q: First off my husband and I have been together since 1993 (high school). His senior year, 1995, he ... A: We need to teach all women that when a man lies and cheats he usually does not change. How can you ... | |
| family | 5/10/2008 |
| Q: how important is it women to meet their boyfriends family. my gf and i dated for 5 months. we both ... A: Once again, I don't think it was what you did or did not do. I really think there was too much ... | |
| family | 5/9/2008 |
| Q: how important is it women to meet their boyfriends family. my gf and i dated for 5 months. we both ... A: what you want in life, what kind of life you want, whether you have about the same need for outward ... | |
| family | 5/9/2008 |
| Q: how important is it women to meet their boyfriends family. my gf and i dated for 5 months. we both ... A: It sounds like a lot more than just not taking her to meet your family. I would have no way of ... | |
| I really screwed up | 5/8/2008 |
| Q: Crandall, I really hope you can help me on this one. First some backround. Back in 2004 I was ... A: He is afraid you will have a problem the next time you are pmsing. Although I do not believe it is ... | |
| Take a break or not? | 5/7/2008 |
| Q: I've been in a committed monogamous relationship for over 2 years and now I'm wondering if I should ... A: ' It is very common to grow apart during these years and it sounds like that is what happened. I ... | |
| Ref: | 5/5/2008 |
| Q: Good day, Lets say that you are looking for a job but happen to have a middle eastern look and is ... A: That is a problem. It really is out of my area of expertise. I would think that having a good ... | |
| boyfriend of 2 months | 5/2/2008 |
| Q: my problem is that i met my boyfriend about 2 months ago, and we hit it off really fast. he told me ... A: I will be unable to get emails for a couple of days and I have to leave now for an appointment. I ... | |
| She wants a break | 4/30/2008 |
| Q: I have been best friends with a girl for over 12 years. When we first met we started dating, and we ... A: Love cannot be forced and she is really not through with her old relationship. It is time to back ... | |
| My relationship is on the rocks | 4/29/2008 |
| Q: I wrote to you about my girlfriend and i having trouble a few months ago. well last week Candace ... A: It is difficult to tell if she is feeling a little down and is moving back to her comfort zone or ... | |
| My relationship is failing HELP!! | 4/29/2008 |
| Q: Hey I really hope I can get some help here because I have no where else to turn. I am 21 years old ... A: Listen carefully because your life and happiness is at stake here. This is not love it is an ... | |
| He moved back home... | 4/28/2008 |
| Q: I’m 34 and my boyfriend recently moved back home about 3.5 hours from me. He took the initial step ... A: There are several things to look for to know if a man loves you or not. They can't wait to talk to ... | |
| Break (up) to get back together? | 4/26/2008 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend just broke up but we want some time to think and meet up again in some time (1 ... A: It is just like any loss. You will feel empty for awhile but as you fill your life with good things ... | |
| Break (up) to get back together? | 4/23/2008 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend just broke up but we want some time to think and meet up again in some time (1 ... A: This is the deal. You both are wise in your assessment of this and you do need to shift into a ... | |
| Girl of my dreams | 4/22/2008 |
| Q: I am a senior in High School. I recently started getting to know a girl who I have had a thing for ... A: This is the deal. You have only dated two weeks. That is not the time to pressure someone to be ... | |
| time & space. when to initiate contact again | 4/22/2008 |
| Q: Ma'am, i was inquiring about my current situation. my girlfriend and i have only been apart since ... A: Your track record is not that great. Your girlfriend is still only 21 and may not be ready for all ... | |
| im confused | 4/19/2008 |
| Q: I've been through a couple hard and difficult realtionships. I found someone that Im pretty sure is ... A: You are not compatible. The differences you describe are not just difference of opinion on things ... | |
| Rocky roads | 4/18/2008 |
| Q: My fiance and I have been together for four years. I have a daughter from another man and we have a ... A: The question is are you jealous over nothing or is there something to be jealous about? If you are ... | |
| How do I make it better? | 4/17/2008 |
| Q: It's not that I have high expectations for him..... my anger stems from childhood issues I want to ... A: The question is what goes through your mind since you are not with your father and this is an ... | |
| How do I make It better? | 4/16/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have a good relationship. We have arguments as many couples do, but we usually ... A: Let's start with trust. If your boyfriend hasn't done anything to you that you should mistrust him ... | |
| dont kno whay to do | 4/16/2008 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend will be together for two years in sept. we were truly happy for a month but ... A: I think that somewhere inside you know this relationship is bad for you. It is also not good for ... | |
| dont kno whay to do | 4/15/2008 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend will be together for two years in sept. we were truly happy for a month but ... A: Your life sounds like a nightmare. I would like to help you but I need to know how old you and your ... | |
| Hurting Relationship | 4/13/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 5 years, three years ago through a hobby of mine I met a woman with whom I ... A: If you can't keep a marriage vow and commitment in one marriage and end up lying and cheating on one ... | |
| passionate | 4/11/2008 |
| Q: I'm interested in this man. But he has had like a million girls because he used to be a pro athlete ... A: I believe that each of us has a conscience and that our conscience tells us that we should wait ... | |
| passionate | 4/10/2008 |
| Q: I'm interested in this man. But he has had like a million girls because he used to be a pro athlete ... A: Yes, I do think he is thinking about sex. If he has had a million girls then why on earth would ... | |
| Where did it all go???? | 4/10/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my girlfriend for around 18 months. She and I met off of a mutual blog site after ... A: The problem is that she is really not through with this relationship. It takes a good year or two ... | |
| Go on a break/ Break up???? | 4/10/2008 |
| Q: I am living with my partner of 3 1/2 years. I am 22 and he is approaching 30. I have never before ... A: What is happening to you is very common. People change so much before they reach 25 or so and you ... | |
| love | 4/10/2008 |
| Q: is saying 'ive fallen for you' the same as saying 'i love you'? do most people interpret it the ... A: He may never be the type to say I love you very much. Men tend to show love by their actions, ... | |
| love | 4/10/2008 |
| Q: is saying 'ive fallen for you' the same as saying 'i love you'? do most people interpret it the ... A: No, they are not the same and I would hold off saying you love him. Guys like to be the ones who ... | |
| insecure of my relationship | 4/9/2008 |
| Q: Well, I'm 19 years of age, and well I'm in a relationship with a very sweet girl who is of the same ... A: Four months is way too soon to know if you are compatible to make a life time commitment. The first ... | |
| Hmm. | 4/9/2008 |
| Q: Well to make a long story short, I'm 20 he's 21, we've been together for three years. The first two ... A: I see some red flags here. First of all, very few people stay together who start dating at such a ... | |
| Need another chance to prove myself | 4/8/2008 |
| Q: I have been living with my girlfriend for more than 3 years now. She has an 11 year old son. We both ... A: Rajiv, The problem is that you really haven't changed if you have repeated behavior as little as ... | |
| Is it Love? | 4/8/2008 |
| Q: I've been dating a guy for approx 6 months now and I really love spending time with him, we talk ... A: Well, that puts another light on this subject. I can tell you what I would do. I would say, dear, ... | |
| Stopping my girlfriend getting bored in a relationship | 4/8/2008 |
| Q: Hey, Me and my girlfriend are having some issues at the moment, and one thing she is having ... A: Usually a break is the end of a relationship but you might try it. Since I do not know the details ... | |
| Stopping my girlfriend getting bored in a relationship | 4/7/2008 |
| Q: Hey, Me and my girlfriend are having some issues at the moment, and one thing she is having ... A: The best thing you can do with someone like that is to make it difficult for her to have you. The ... | |
| How to support boyfriend of 4 months with job loss? | 4/5/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend of 4 months just got laid off this past week and I am concerned about how to support ... A: Ok. The first thing to realize is if you are expecting him to communicate feelings, hopes, dreams, ... | |
| Downward spiral...college | 4/4/2008 |
| Q: I am writing you today for some of your advice. I have never done this online before but I am really ... A: One of the signs that a relationship is not doing well is if someone keeps it private. She really ... | |
| relationship problems | 4/4/2008 |
| Q: I am 25 years old. My ex is 29. We have been together for just about 3 years. We have had many ... A: It depends on what you want in life. When a man loves a woman wild horses couldn't keep him from ... | |
| I'm confused on my girlfriends behavior now | 4/3/2008 |
| Q: Well im 18 and in my senior year in high school. Me and my girlfriend have been together for a year ... A: Personally, I think it is a bad idea to try and keep a committed relationship during college because ... | |
| life on pause/confusing | 4/3/2008 |
| Q: ive been going out with my girlfriend for over 22 months now. The first year has been the greatest ... A: I think I answered this question. Perhaps you have more information to offer. The thing to ... | |
| A little help... | 4/2/2008 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been together for about 10 months and it seems like we aren't talking as ... A: In a good relationship you can be comfortable just being together and not talking, if you think ... | |
| Sharon Please Help! THANK U!!! | 4/1/2008 |
| Q: First of all thank you so much for taking in my question. I am under a lot of duress, and issues. My ... A: Bless your heart. You have a lot of challenges right now and I can understand why you are upset. ... | |
| friend with benifits | 4/1/2008 |
| Q: i think my ex wants to go back out with her she reminds me we don't go together every other day but ... A: Unless you are ready to marry her and be a father I certainly would not go back into this ... | |
| What is the most effective way to check if you love someone? | 3/30/2008 |
| Q: 1. What is the most effective way to check if you love someone? 2. How effective is the kiss test? ... A: If you don't feel anything when you kiss then I would say you were not in love with her. Now, with ... | |
| Communication & Strengthening Problems? | 3/26/2008 |
| Q: I've been with a guy for six months. After reading a few previous posts, I've realized that we ... A: A couple of things. In a good relationship you shouldn't have to be talking all the time. However, ... | |
| Graduation | 3/25/2008 |
| Q: Well I'm 14 and my girlfriend(who is 15) and me are serious in our relationship. I love her and hope ... A: The first thing to realize is that you can never force love. It has to come freely. So, this means ... | |
| how to win my girlfriends heart back? | 3/24/2008 |
| Q: I was looking to see if you could help me out,I'm 26, my gf 20 this is our 1st relationship with the ... A: I. The problem is that you can't force matters of the heart. People are either attracted or they ... | |
| Is a break good for a relationship? | 3/20/2008 |
| Q: I am 23 years old. I am having problems with my relationship. I have been dating this guy for a ... A: I think I answered this question before. I think you need to work on your own life and become more ... | |
| should i stay with my boyfriend | 3/19/2008 |
| Q: I'm unsure if i should stay with my boyfriend. He's the nicest guy and all my friends say he's ... A: Every chance I get I discourage teenagers to be involved in exclusive relationships because almost ... | |
| relationship problems | 3/18/2008 |
| Q: Well I've been w/ my boyfriend for almost 5 years now but it seems everything is falling apart... ... A: Long distant relationships hardly ever work. You really can't get to know someone when you don't ... | |
| confused | 3/16/2008 |
| Q: i am 25 year old female. my problem is that i have been really good friends with my ex - boyfriend ... A: Sorry to hear about your problem. Often best friends turn out to be the best partners ever. This ... | |
| got drama from past | 3/15/2008 |
| Q: I'm having a problem with an ex keeping budding into my new relationship. He doesn't understand were ... A: Stick to your guns and simply do not speak to him except in front of the judge and then be as brief ... | |
| Should I break up with my boyfriend? | 3/15/2008 |
| Q: Okay so Im a 21 yrs old and ive been dating this guy for almost 2 yrs on and off, we sometimes also ... A: The answer is yes, you should leave him. You want a different life than he does. Also, I would ... | |
| Boyfriend troubles | 3/15/2008 |
| Q: I'm 24, and have been with my boyfriend who's 25 for 6 months. At first, he was very happy to be in ... A: Your boyfriend is on an ego trip. Whatever feels good in the moment. He is not scared of ... | |
| I'm not sure if my boyfriend is the one for me | 3/14/2008 |
| Q: I've been going out with my boyfriend for 6 months. Most of our times together have been good, but ... A: Your instincts are right and you have been choosing out of an inner need to rescue, rather than ... | |
| got drama from past | 3/14/2008 |
| Q: I'm having a problem with an ex keeping budding into my new relationship. He doesn't understand were ... A: Explain to me how he contacts you and why you have not called the police if you have a protection ... | |
| I'm not sure if my boyfriend is the one for me | 3/14/2008 |
| Q: I've been going out with my boyfriend for 6 months. Most of our times together have been good, but ... A: There is way too much commitment too soon in relationships today and it is very harmful. Dating ... | |
| Am I selfish, or not giving myself enough credit? | 3/12/2008 |
| Q: I'm 22, I've been living with my boyfriend and his daughter for 2 years. I moved from family, ... A: Man, I hate it when couples move in together without the marriage commitment. It is like living in ... | |
| How do I save my relationship with my girlfriend I have been with for 2 years | 3/12/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my girlfriend now for over 2 years. We have been through some difficult times ... A: Without talking to your girlfriend I can only guess. She says she feels suffocated and so maybe you ... | |
| My relationship is on the rocks | 3/12/2008 |
| Q: I started seeing my girlfriend Candace back in Nov. of last year. This is our second time being ... A: There could be several things going on and who knows? I would text her and ask her to be really ... | |
| family issues | 3/11/2008 |
| Q: my girlfriend and i dated for around 5 months. my family lives in another state, while hers lives ... A: Moving in with someone is not a commitment. It is a way of playing at a relationship and is a ... | |
| family issues | 3/11/2008 |
| Q: my girlfriend and i dated for around 5 months. my family lives in another state, while hers lives ... A: Yes, it could be, because a person marries a family, not just a person. If by the time you were ... | |
| can this work | 3/11/2008 |
| Q: Ive been wit my luver since 15 and im now 19. last august i lost my virginity 2 a guy who turned out ... A: I am not sure what is best here. Ordinarily I would recommend that you just stay in there and keep ... | |
| relationships | 3/11/2008 |
| Q: Well i understand what you're saying but i mean it's like he's so some-timey..like he'll want to be ... A: People can change if they want to. You can change if you want to. IT is just that we can't change ... | |
| What should i do? | 3/10/2008 |
| Q: I and my bf have been dating almost 1 year and we got along pretty well until his mum made up some ... A: Most of us get hurt a number of times in this dating game. You know, it is really up to you. You ... | |
| What should i do? | 3/10/2008 |
| Q: I and my bf have been dating almost 1 year and we got along pretty well until his mum made up some ... A: This the deal. If he doesn't stand up for you now he won't after marriage and this is what you will ... | |
| relationships | 3/9/2008 |
| Q: Well i understand what you're saying but i mean it's like he's so some-timey..like he'll want to be ... A: There is nothing confusing about this. He is really not ready for a steady relationship. He just ... | |
| I dont have the slightest clue what to do | 3/8/2008 |
| Q: I need some major advice. Well it seems major to me at least. I'm 21 years old. Ok here is the ... A: The problem is that with the role you are playing now you can't respect yourself and she really will ... | |
| relationships | 3/7/2008 |
| Q: Well I've moved on to another relationship with this guy who i met sept.07 and we hooked up dec.07 ... A: The past can only hurt you if you let it. All we have is today. We can't change the past and if he ... | |
| relationships | 3/6/2008 |
| Q: Well I've moved on to another relationship with this guy who i met sept.07 and we hooked up dec.07 ... A: Ok. That is helpful. This is the deal. The girls who are hard to get, usually get the guys. The ... | |
| girl friend problems | 3/6/2008 |
| Q: I am 22. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 6 months and she has been on and off in the ... A: I would like to help you fix this but I think your girlfriend has already left the relationship ... | |
| emotion & physical | 3/4/2008 |
| Q: I'm 22 years old I have been dating my girlfriend for 1 and half years. I love with that I've got ... A: Dump her. Get someone that loves every inch of you. Unless you want to live with someone the rest ... | |
| dating | 3/3/2008 |
| Q: I am 30...recently divorced with a 1 1/2 year old. I have always had a poor choice in men but when a ... A: I am glad you are not living together. That is always a bad idea before marriage. Too much too ... | |
| ex girlfriend | 3/3/2008 |
| Q: my girlfriend of 6 months ended up cheating on me. everything seemed to be going fine. i was ... A: Ben, I think you are another person who has asked me similar questions and you keep trying to get ... | |
| ex girlfriend | 3/1/2008 |
| Q: my girlfriend of 6 months ended up cheating on me. everything seemed to be going fine. i was ... A: First of all, 6 months is not even enough time to get to know another person and too often ... | |
| Rebuilding Trust | 3/1/2008 |
| Q: I am at a loss. I don't know how to rebuild trust in my SO of over 3 years. In the last year, we ... A: It is very hard on a guy to not be the one to be the provider financially and so is probably seeking ... | |
| ex | 3/1/2008 |
| Q: my girlfriend broke up with me 2 months ago. i keep trying to get a reason from her, but she ... A: I am pretty good at picking up on things but I can't read your ex girlfriend's mind so I have no ... | |
| ex | 3/1/2008 |
| Q: my girlfriend broke up with me 2 months ago. i keep trying to get a reason from her, but she ... A: It really sounds like it wasn't you, particularly, or she would have said something if she was open ... | |
| Rebuilding Trust | 2/29/2008 |
| Q: I am at a loss. I don't know how to rebuild trust in my SO of over 3 years. In the last year, we ... A: This doesn't look good. The problem is that when a guy makes excuses for his behavior and even ... | |
| sex issue | 2/28/2008 |
| Q: so my girlfriend and i dated for 5.5 months. we first had sex about 3 weeks into the relationship. ... A: It is always surprising to me that someone woould be having the most intimate of things in life, ... | |
| 2 yrs 2 months and now its almost over | 2/28/2008 |
| Q: I have been dating my girlfriend for over two years. She and I were forced to move in with one ... A: When someone wants space that means they have emotionally left the relationship already and there ... | |
| Is it worth the move? | 2/27/2008 |
| Q: my name is Kelsey and I am 21. When I was away at college I met my current boyfriend through a ... A: If you have to ask you are not ready for that kind of commitment. There must be something that is ... | |
| I ruined the best thing that ever happened to me... | 2/27/2008 |
| Q: Sharon, I'm almost 21 and i have just ruined the best thing in my life. I started dating David when ... A: When you lie to someone they really never can trust you again. You showed that you were young, ... | |
| Marriage/Children/MONEY?? | 2/23/2008 |
| Q: Where do I start?? I am dating a guy that I met a little over two years ago online. He is very ... A: I think it very sad about your parents. I would write to them and thank them for all they did for ... | |
| Wow... | 2/23/2008 |
| Q: I am in the bad situation: My boyfriend now views family, marriage, sex, and relationships as bad. ... A: Oh my, you do have a problem. How fast can you get out of this relationship? He just moved a ... | |
| My boyfriend is emotionally closed to me. | 2/22/2008 |
| Q: Well heres the situation... I had a little girl with my boyfriend...she's 4 now. But a year and a ... A: I have mixed feelings about this because of your little girl. It is really hard on children to go ... | |
| He's uncertain about his love for me | 2/22/2008 |
| Q: I’ve been dating this man 9 yrs my senior (he’s 34, I’m 25) for the past 6 months. He lives in NY ... A: What you said last to him was the right thing to say and now it is really up to him but it doesn't ... | |
| Broken engagement/relationship | 2/22/2008 |
| Q: I am 20 year old female. My ex-fiancee had been together close to 2 years, we had been engaged for ... A: I think it best to wait for him to contact you, at least for awhile. Then, if you feel like you ... | |
| In a dilemma | 2/21/2008 |
| Q: I'm 21 years old and have been going out with my girlfriend for just over 3 years. We are both ... A: Well, let's see what we can do. First of all, it is always a big mistake to move in with someone ... | |
| Taken for granted on a "platonic" platform. | 2/20/2008 |
| Q: Sharon.....I'm a "young" 32 yrs old, and many who know me would describe me as being a nice ... A: This is a very good question and very thoughtful. It is difficult for me, without asking you some ... | |
| On a Break | 2/16/2008 |
| Q: I am 20, and I've been with my boyfriend (he's 25) for over a year now, and I love him so much. But ... A: There are several things here I would like you to think about. First of all 5 years difference can ... | |
| With Mr. Wrong, met Mr. Right | 2/14/2008 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship for nearly 8 years and I have 2 young daughters with this man. For the ... A: What are you thinking? This is not about you. This is about two little girls who you are thinking ... | |
| I don't want to screw up my second chance | 2/13/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend of 13 months had broken up with me because he fell out of love with me. We are both 21 ... A: No, communication is not the key. Communication is the key when two people are in love and ... | |
| I don't want to screw up my second chance | 2/13/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend of 13 months had broken up with me because he fell out of love with me. We are both 21 ... A: When men want to break up they never do it openly because they really don't want to hurt the woman. ... | |
| My Heart Aches | 2/11/2008 |
| Q: I am 37 and have been in a relationship with my 29 year old girlfriend for about 8 months. Recently ... A: Whatever happened, your girlfriend is pretty much through with this relationship. When someone wants ... | |
| Life has become routine | 2/6/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for 9 years, and our love life has become so routine. We both ... A: Wow. This is a challenge for me. I am going on a small amount of information so if I hit on ... | |
| My Girlfriend | 1/30/2008 |
| Q: Ok the story is!I am 19 and she is 17! I have been with this girl for about 5 months, and everything ... A: Get a different girlfriend. She is 17 and is very immature for her age. Dating is to find out what ... | |
| Ex-boyfriend | 1/30/2008 |
| Q: At this moment I am having one of the hardest times in my life. My ex-boyfriend and I broke up a ... A: I don't know that you ever forget someone. That is natural to think about him once in awhile. It ... | |
| Having things good again with my guy | 1/29/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend thinks I violated his trust which I didn't but I want to know how to REGAIN his trust. ... A: Sometimes the best way to handle something like this is to call someone's bluff. Right now he is ... | |
| not sure | 1/29/2008 |
| Q: Hi, I'm sixteen and my boyfriend is eighteen. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a ... A: Smart girl. You are starting to pay attention to who you really are. Do not feel badly. Very, ... | |
| too dependent | 1/27/2008 |
| Q: I have been dating this girl for almost 2 years. We started off really amazing, we were best friends ... A: The difference between humans and animals is they do have to act the way they are programmed. You ... | |
| help me | 1/27/2008 |
| Q: We hold hands and hug, but what should we do to strengthen are relationship? we hang out alot and ... A: If you are under the age where you are able and ready to marry you would be smart to not kiss but ... | |
| Should I break up with my boyfriend? | 1/26/2008 |
| Q: I'm 23 years-old, I'm a girl, and I’m in my last year at college. My boyfriend is also 23 and in his ... A: Well, dear, you are not confused. You already know what you need to do. Don't prolong it any more. ... | |
| another girl | 1/25/2008 |
| Q: I have a girlfriend that lives 61 miles away from me. I love her more than anything, but there's ... A: You didn't say how old you are but it takes until around age 25 to know yourself and what you want ... | |
| Working on the basics | 1/25/2008 |
| Q: Very recently, my girlfriend and I of 8 years decided to take a “break.” Actually, it’s not that ... A: I need to know a couple of things. Why have you been together for 8 years without getting ... | |
| Fear of Ruining Relationship | 1/23/2008 |
| Q: I'm 20 years old and been in a relationship for 4 months now. Before this time, I was content on ... A: Read what I said before very carefully about 10 times. I am serious. The reason he can control you ... | |
| Fear of Ruining Relationship | 1/23/2008 |
| Q: I'm 20 years old and been in a relationship for 4 months now. Before this time, I was content on ... A: The reason he says you are the perfect girlfriend is that he is a controller and you are so easily ... | |
| Breaking up with a boyfriend I live with.... | 1/23/2008 |
| Q: We started dating last year after we met each other in one of our classes. He was the one who asked ... A: Follow your gut feelings. You two are not compatible. As you can see, it doesn't work very well to ... | |
| Sister and Wife | 1/22/2008 |
| Q: I come from a easter culture however I believe all the problems are similar when it comes to family ... A: You are not supposed to be neutral between your wife and your sister. You are to protect your wife ... | |
| Im Clingy and it ruined my relationship | 1/22/2008 |
| Q: Hey My Names Sarah and I'm 14 I went out with this guy for about a year and 3 months and I'm truly ... A: I have an answer for you, but you may not want to hear it. Yes you are too clingy and he has a ... | |
| Whether I should stay with my boyfriend? | 1/22/2008 |
| Q: I'm 24 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years going on 6. We have had our issues ... A: While you are desparate and feel willing to do anything to save the relationship--he isn't. If you ... | |
| Whether I should stay with my boyfriend? | 1/21/2008 |
| Q: I'm 24 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years going on 6. We have had our issues ... A: You have been in love with a fantasy and now that the reality is here it doesn't look too good but ... | |
| I need some insight, I am not sure what to do anymore | 1/18/2008 |
| Q: So here's my story. Me and my girlfriend have been together for about 9 months now. I am the first ... A: Well, we can't change another person to be what we want them to be, but we can acknowledge our ... | |
| Relationship problems. | 1/18/2008 |
| Q: My question is how can I open up and get more comfortable? Let me start off by saying this is a new ... A: A couple of things. First of all, you do not know this man and do not know if he is all you would ... | |
| broken engagement | 1/17/2008 |
| Q: I'm 41 with 4 kids (17, 15, 13, 11) and I've been dating a 51 year old with 2 kids (one married and ... A: Ok. Four years is long enough. The question is, can you be strong enough to do what might work, ... | |
| Differences | 1/17/2008 |
| Q: I am 24 my boyfriend is 20. He is also a Division 1 basketball player in college. I am having a ... A: I thought I answered this already. I recommend that you keep busy and start some new things in your ... | |
| Should I break up with my boyfriend? | 1/16/2008 |
| Q: I am 19. I have a boyfriend that is 20, we have been dating for 9 months and lived together for 5 ... A: Move on. How can you mend someone who is abusive? They don't mend. Abusive-types never change ... | |
| contemplating divorce after 19 years | 1/15/2008 |
| Q: Crandall, I have been married for 19 years and have three wonderful children ages 12, 11, and 8. I ... A: No, an email is not the way to go. I have been thinking about your situation and I think you should ... | |
| contemplating divorce after 19 years | 1/15/2008 |
| Q: Crandall, I have been married for 19 years and have three wonderful children ages 12, 11, and 8. I ... A: Bless your heart. I have had fibromyalgia for 15 years and I realize how difficult it is for ... | |
| He can't open up | 1/15/2008 |
| Q: I'm 20 and I've been dating this guy for a year and a half and we've had some trusting issues and on ... A: Sometimes in order to understand the closer picture we need to understand the bigger picture. One ... | |
| I feel helpless | 1/14/2008 |
| Q: i been with my bf for ova a yr. he has depression and always come to me for support n such. Well it ... A: I tried to email you at this address and it was rejected. Add personalityconsultant1@yahoo.com to ... | |
| break up | 1/14/2008 |
| Q: i recently broke up with my girlfriend of 6 months. when we first started dated, she was all about ... A: You keep asking me questions because you need to figure it out logically and there is no way to ... | |
| Is he interested or not? | 1/13/2008 |
| Q: Im 16 years old. Ive known this guy since the 9th grade but we didnt see each other until last ... A: The best thing to do is to back off and leave him alone. If he is interested he will call you. He ... | |
| break up | 1/13/2008 |
| Q: i recently broke up with my girlfriend of 6 months. when we first started dated, she was all about ... A: 1. Yes, if she really thought it would work she would probably have overlooked the dog issue. 2. I ... | |
| break up | 1/12/2008 |
| Q: i recently broke up with my girlfriend of 6 months. when we first started dated, she was all about ... A: Well, this is the first time I have had a letter about dogs coming in between a relationship but I ... | |
| Should I finally give up? | 1/11/2008 |
| Q: I've been dating this guy named Mike for a little over 6 months. I live with him and we're ... A: MY dear girl. You need to change your whole way of life. I don't know if you guy is what he should ... | |
| I feel helpless | 1/11/2008 |
| Q: i been with my bf for ova a yr. he has depression and always come to me for support n such. Well it ... A: Well dearie, you do have a problem and it is important that you face it head on. First of all, it ... | |
| what does defending mean | 1/9/2008 |
| Q: How are you doing? Thank you for the great work on the forum and great help. My name is Mohan and I ... A: It sounds like you have the traits that makes you want to make everyone happy and feel responsible ... | |
| what does defending mean | 1/8/2008 |
| Q: How are you doing? Thank you for the great work on the forum and great help. My name is Mohan and I ... A: One thing to remember is that after you talk to her about it, then do not try to teach her or change ... | |
| what does defending mean | 1/8/2008 |
| Q: How are you doing? Thank you for the great work on the forum and great help. My name is Mohan and I ... A: I wish I could work with your wife so she wouldn't be so sensitive. Since she is over-the-top ... | |
| i'm not sure where the relationship is headed. | 1/8/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my partner for nearly two years and we live together. In the first few months ... A: At first, it seems so exciting to be with someone who is mare "mature" but then the age difference ... | |
| i have a problem | 1/7/2008 |
| Q: i suck at comming up with topics to talk about with my gf. she always expects me to have something ... A: It is not a sin to be a quiet person, but you could develop some conversational skill. One way to ... | |
| Girlfriend needs more affection and wants to move out | 1/7/2008 |
| Q: My girlfriend and i have been dating for about 4 years. We have lived together for the last 2 and ... A: Sometimes what people say is the problem really isn't the problem. Sit down and take her by the ... | |
| Time to move on? | 1/6/2008 |
| Q: I am 22 and was with a girl for two years. We went on a break in Oct. but never really made it very ... A: Two things. People change a lot during those years, in face until around age 25 or so and so it is ... | |
| does she still want me? | 1/3/2008 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have recently got back together after 7 months of breaking up the first time ... A: It usually takes around age 25 to really know oneself and what you want out of life and I suspect ... | |
| Dont know what to do! | 1/3/2008 |
| Q: Hey Sharon. First, Happy New Year! I hope this year is filled with joy, happiness and many blessing ... A: IT is difficult to say what is going on in your girlfriend's mind, but #1, obviously she is mixed ... | |
| how to heal broken trust | 1/2/2008 |
| Q: Recently my boyfriend and I went away together. We went to Hawaii where we stayed with his ... A: z3nfire, Hello. It sounds like you already know the problem and the solution, to some extent. ... | |
| troubles in relationship | 12/31/2007 |
| Q: My life at the moment is, well I'm lost. Back in December last year 2006 i took a barmaid working ... A: For the life of me, I don't know why someone would expect others to trust them when they have been ... | |
| need advice | 12/30/2007 |
| Q: Well i have been in a love hate relationship for 10 years and everytime she always says shes moving ... A: Well, there are two ways to go. one is what I already suggested. If you do that then I would put ... | |
| need advice | 12/30/2007 |
| Q: Well i have been in a love hate relationship for 10 years and everytime she always says shes moving ... A: Long distance rarely works but probably the only way you can do this is to tell her that if you ... | |
| Help | 12/29/2007 |
| Q: How how to deal with my ex (wanna be boyfriend) stubborness? ANSWER: Dear Mercedes, I will be glad ... A: Since you are long distance I suggest that you both keep in touch but do not try to keep your ... | |
| Change and getting the SPark back | 12/29/2007 |
| Q: Basically.... My girlfriend and I have been together for 4.5 years. Our relationship is really ... A: It is difficult to know how this is going to turn out for several reasons. First, you sound quite ... | |
| Help | 12/29/2007 |
| Q: How how to deal with my ex (wanna be boyfriend) stubborness? ANSWER: Dear Mercedes, I will be glad ... A: It is almost impossible for a guy to stay in a long distance relationship. They rarely do. So, you ... | |
| Help | 12/28/2007 |
| Q: How how to deal with my ex (wanna be boyfriend) stubborness? A: I will be glad to help but I need more information. Are you trying to get him back? Who broke up ... | |
| learning | 12/27/2007 |
| Q: I am trying to understand something. What does it mean when a partner cries during love making. ... A: Each person is an individual but it is not uncommon for women to cry at that point. Others will ... | |
| learning | 12/27/2007 |
| Q: I am trying to understand something. What does it mean when a partner cries during love making. ... A: It is perfectly natural for this to happen. They are not tears of sadness but of release of deep ... | |
| Woman testing you | 12/27/2007 |
| Q: How do I know if a woman is testing you? How do I handle a situation when she is testing you? Is ... A: Only certain kinds of girls like "bad" boys. Those kind usually are players. So, what are you ... | |
| Woman testing you | 12/26/2007 |
| Q: How do I know if a woman is testing you? How do I handle a situation when she is testing you? Is ... A: There is no way to maintain attraction as such unless you can actually go out with her. But, there ... | |
| Woman testing you | 12/25/2007 |
| Q: How do I know if a woman is testing you? How do I handle a situation when she is testing you? Is ... A: Unless she has a darn good valid excuse it measns she got a better offer or is not really in to you ... | |
| does she still want me? | 12/23/2007 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have recently got back together after 7 months of breaking up the first time ... A: Well, one thing you know for sure. She is not ready for a committed relationship so now what do you ... | |
| Boyfriend loves the bar more than me? | 12/22/2007 |
| Q: my boyfriend goes to the bar every Friday evening hes 21 I'm 19 i cant go along i work until 8 or 9 ... A: Well, here you are at 19 just like an old married lady whose husband goes out every Friday night, ... | |
| my love | 12/17/2007 |
| Q: iam 18 years old ok so me and tina the one i love broke up about 9 months ago we had alot of trouble ... A: Take it easy. People change a lot during these years. People don't really have their personalities ... | |
| His sister is more important that me | 12/12/2007 |
| Q: I’m 24 years old, and my boyfriend is 28 years old. We’ve been dating for two years. He has an older ... A: Good for you in being able to talk calmly about this. That is the only way you can really ... | |
| scared | 12/11/2007 |
| Q: I'm 18 and have just decided to take a break with my boyfriend of 9 months. Neither of us had a ... A: I am so sorry you are going through this but in this stage of life this happens a lot and is part of ... | |
| Asking about a fib..... | 12/11/2007 |
| Q: I'm 33. I have a friend who is very dear to me and recently when I asked her about something she ... A: Dear Todd, Let it go. Because of what it is about, it is better left forgotten. Tell your friend ... | |
| His sister is more important that me | 12/11/2007 |
| Q: I’m 24 years old, and my boyfriend is 28 years old. We’ve been dating for two years. He has an older ... A: NO, I do not think this will work out. A man who won't stand up for his woman will not stand up for ... | |
| Affectionless Marriage | 12/10/2007 |
| Q: Ever since the birth of our little girl, our marriage has gone down hill. My husband is a ... A: Unfortunately you can't change another person but you can acknowledge and speak your boundaries. ... | |
| What the hell is wrong with me. | 12/9/2007 |
| Q: I have an amazing boyfriend he's a total and complete sweet heart and would go to the end of the ... A: This is a bit difficult for me since all seven of my children were not allowed to date until they ... | |
| Telling your girlfriend something about her that bothers you. | 12/6/2007 |
| Q: I am 26 years old and have been dating my girlfriend for like 1 1/2 years now. Things are mostly ... A: I don't know quite what to say here. If she turns you off then she turns you off. The only thing ... | |
| I'm so confused | 12/6/2007 |
| Q: I'm 21 years old. I've been dating this guy for 3 yrs now. He is 27. He's the first person that I've ... A: I know you are serious but have you really looked at what you just wrote to me? He is 27 and you ... | |
| me and my boyfriend | 12/6/2007 |
| Q: I am 16 years old and I am a junior in high school and my boyfriend is 17 and a senior in high ... A: The sign of maturity is to choose the best thing for you over and above feelings of love. That is ... | |
| me and my boyfriend | 12/4/2007 |
| Q: I am 16 years old and I am a junior in high school and my boyfriend is 17 and a senior in high ... A: There are problems with dating exclusively at your age. That is why none of my children even dated ... | |
| my relationship is in turmoil | 12/3/2007 |
| Q: My name is alicia and i'm 21 years old. i left my home in long island to move in with my boyfriend ... A: There are a couple of things going on here. What happens when you move in when not married is that ... | |
| availability hurting your attactiveness..... | 12/1/2007 |
| Q: I'm 33. More than once I have read and heard about how if you seem "desperate" it somehow causes ... A: Being nice, thoughtful and kind to someone is not a turnoff. I am glad you are not a "jerk" ... | |
| I am about to move in with him... | 11/30/2007 |
| Q: My name is Erin and I am 21 years old. I met the man I want to spend the rest of my life with and ... A: Setting aside religious reasons there are plenty of reasons not to do it. One is that men are ... | |
| There is no comunication | 11/28/2007 |
| Q: I wrote to you a month ago. You helped me then a lot. But there is no progress with my girlfriend. I ... A: I think you are wasting your time. This girl does not communicate and probably won't. When a person ... | |
| I am Confused | 11/26/2007 |
| Q: This isnt really a question, I am just a 25 y.o. male with a complaint, and seeking advice. My 19 ... A: Of course the mom is sick and the daughter is sick. Now it sounds like the whole family is sick--no ... | |
| Feeling Like I Lost A Best Freind( its very long, sorry) | 11/26/2007 |
| Q: my boyfriend and i have been dating for a year and 2 months, he means the most to me in the world. ... A: You are not confused. You know what to do. What would you say to your daughter if she was going ... | |
| Feeling Like I Lost A Best Freind( its very long, sorry) | 11/26/2007 |
| Q: my boyfriend and i have been dating for a year and 2 months, he means the most to me in the world. ... A: When things happen that are hurtful and really hard to go through--those are the times when we have ... | |
| I am Confused | 11/26/2007 |
| Q: This isnt really a question, I am just a 25 y.o. male with a complaint, and seeking advice. My 19 ... A: We can all wish until we are blue in the face, but that doesn't change the reality of the situation, ... | |
| I am Confused | 11/25/2007 |
| Q: This isnt really a question, I am just a 25 y.o. male with a complaint, and seeking advice. My 19 ... A: Your girlfriend is a child and you are a man. A couple of things to consider. Why are you choosing ... | |
| Trust Issue | 11/16/2007 |
| Q: I have been going with this guy about 8 months now. We’ve been together almost constantly since ... A: How can you trust someone who lies? If a guy lies once, he will lie twice and more, unless he ... | |
| . Confused . | 11/14/2007 |
| Q: We are engaged to marry and have a one year old together he has an eight year old from a previous ... A: The problem is that you chose someone who already had a child and then you went ahead and had a ... | |
| Why do I feel this way, and I'm wrong? | 11/13/2007 |
| Q: I'm 24 years old. Married for 3 years. and I have 3 children. John 2 yrs. James 1 yr. and Jayden 4 ... A: I want you to stand in front of the mirror and look at the woman who should receive a medal for ... | |
| Wife and problems | 11/9/2007 |
| Q: Been married for 11 months to my wife now and things are slowly getting better. Initially she use to ... A: If the things your wife says are abusive or if they are just kind of hurtful makes a difference. I ... | |
| Rebuilding trust | 11/8/2007 |
| Q: What is the best book which covers the topic of rebuilding trust in relationship in depth? A: I am not aware of any books that cover this specifically. I can only give general rules. Call in ... | |
| my boyfriend changed | 11/8/2007 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend about 2 years. At first he would do anything for me, he always showed ... A: I need a little more information. When you say you have been together what does that mean? Are you ... | |
| Wife and problems | 11/8/2007 |
| Q: Been married for 11 months to my wife now and things are slowly getting better. Initially she use to ... A: There are several things to consider here. First of all, it is important that you learn to work as ... | |
| She isn't happy.. | 11/8/2007 |
| Q: Sharon- My girlfriend and I have been seeing each other for some time now, and I am deeply in ... A: There is a problem with relationships these days. First of all, when the initial excitement wears ... | |
| What do you think ? | 11/6/2007 |
| Q: I am a 25 year old woman in a relationship that just passed the two year mark last June. We have ... A: I am willing to bet that the way he was raised was that his mother stayed home and didn't work 60 ... | |
| i wanna spice up my relationship | 11/5/2007 |
| Q: I'm a 27 yr old male and my girlfriend 23 yr old, we been dating for almost 9 months now and are ... A: Ansony, Perhaps it is time to go into a more realistic relationship. There is no way to keep going ... | |
| Choosing to break up | 11/5/2007 |
| Q: Two years ago I met a wonderful girl. We hit it off great, started spending more and more time ... A: You have to be honest with her and "move on" as you say, but do not leave her alone to fend for ... | |
| How to make my boyfriend open up to me | 11/5/2007 |
| Q: I have a boyfriend of about 2years together, we stay together, lot of things happen in our ... A: There are several problems here. What has happened to you is why I recommend that couples do not ... | |
| Important question | 11/5/2007 |
| Q: I need you help. I am 21 years old have been seeing this guy who is 25 years old, from my son's ... A: I don't know how to even begin this without upsetting you. How can he respect you when you have ... | |
| My boyfriend gives me a hard time | 11/3/2007 |
| Q: I am 35 years old and my boyfriend constantly gives me a hard time and after 3 years of it, I wave ... A: You are correct, it is not loving to treat you like an opponent in a courtroom. Now, with that ... | |
| need help | 11/3/2007 |
| Q: We will be married for almost 5 years in may. We have had alot of struggling times in our lives ... A: I am so sorry you are having these serious problems. It is clear that your husband has withdrawn ... | |
| can we make it work? | 11/2/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years, and we are only 20 years old. We recently ... A: Don't marry a project; get into social work if you want to help someone. The problem with dating ... | |
| Boyfriend in depression, what to do??!! | 11/2/2007 |
| Q: im 30 YO gay guy, i have met a guy 3 months ago, he is 32yo, and our relationship went perfectly and ... A: I have not worked much with Gay relationships and I think the dynamics are a bit different than ... | |
| bitch girlfriend | 11/2/2007 |
| Q: I NEED YOUR HELP so i used everything ive learned from your ebook and advance dating techiques ... A: Women sometimes will respond to emotion. Tell her you want her to be proud of you and that it makes ... | |
| Expense-sharing question | 10/31/2007 |
| Q: Should my boyfriend pay rent and if so, how much? My boyfriend basically moved in with me six ... A: I don't think you want to hear this but if you have to ask this guy to pay his share then he is not ... | |
| bitch girlfriend | 10/31/2007 |
| Q: I NEED YOUR HELP so i used everything ive learned from your ebook and advance dating techiques ... A: I think you have me mixed up with another person as I don't have an assessment where you use numbers ... | |
| Commitment | 10/12/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend of almost 4 years has just come home (his place which i pay rent on), and said that he ... A: It is not enough to just get along so well if that is not what you really want. He has made it ... | |
| VERY confused guy in a confusing relashionship | 10/11/2007 |
| Q: my name is Adam, and i am 19 years old. i need your help! alright, me and my girlfriend have been ... A: If two people are not compatible there is no way to "fix" it. You see, what happens at your age is ... | |
| 9 months.. | 10/10/2007 |
| Q: I am 24 my boyfriend of now 9 months (which we have lived together for almost a year) is 32. He is a ... A: Well, now you know he is a liar. Perhaps that sounds harsh but it is the truth. Can you ever trust ... | |
| Long Distance Relationships - how to keep it. | 10/9/2007 |
| Q: I have been seeing my boyfriend now for 4 months. We have been in a long distance relationship for ... A: Well, the truth is that long distant relationships don't work very well, usually. Especially men do ... | |
| 9 months.. | 10/9/2007 |
| Q: I am 24 my boyfriend of now 9 months (which we have lived together for almost a year) is 32. He is a ... A: Well, I do think you are insecure, but I also think there is problem with porn there that influences ... | |
| How to get back my GF ??? | 10/8/2007 |
| Q: Am in deep trouble and I really don't know how to handle the situation. Let me relate you my whole ... A: If you are serious about changing I think she will notice as you become more thoughtful, really ... | |
| Communicating with my significant other | 10/7/2007 |
| Q: Sharon, Hello! I am having what you would call "crazed emotions". I've been dating my partner for ... A: Stop and look in the mirror. Talk to yourself. You are a survivor. You made it through past ... | |
| He's 'free' and I'm not, but is that what's wrong? | 10/7/2007 |
| Q: I am a 28-year-old single mother, and live with my parents (there is no other way). I began seeing ... A: Unfortunately, he is free to come and go as he pleases and that is just what he is doing. Let me ... | |
| How do I deal with our relationship breaK? | 10/7/2007 |
| Q: I am 33 and my partner is 50. We have been going out with each other for 3 years and currently ... A: Bless your heart. It is so important for you to be honest with yourself. Yes, it is very difficult ... | |
| How do I deal with our relationship breaK? | 10/7/2007 |
| Q: I am 33 and my partner is 50. We have been going out with each other for 3 years and currently ... A: In my Life is 4 Living classes I teach people that in order to be happy one must live by two rules. ... | |
| How to get back my GF ??? | 10/5/2007 |
| Q: Am in deep trouble and I really don't know how to handle the situation. Let me relate you my whole ... A: I hate to say this but you sound more like a taker than a giver and when she loved you, you really ... | |
| I like a girl but it isn't mutual | 10/5/2007 |
| Q: Well, there's a girl i've liked since freshman year, and only in junior year did we become friends. ... A: You never can predict what will happen. I have seen friendships turn to love and then I have seen ... | |
| When should I break up? | 10/4/2007 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year and a half now and put simply, the person I met ... A: Break up with him now! You can't trust a liar and a would-be freeloader. Sure it will be awkward ... | |
| Missing my love | 10/4/2007 |
| Q: I went out with my true love for five years and we have a three year old. she left me for an older ... A: Marry her, which is what you should have done in the first place, and take marriage and parenting ... | |
| I need some advice please! | 10/4/2007 |
| Q: My name is Kelly, and I am 17 years old. I have a boyfriend and he is also 17 years old. We have ... A: I know you want me to help you get this guy back in your life but I care about you too much. It ... | |
| wHEN SHE SAYS THAT THINGS MOVED TO FAST | 10/2/2007 |
| Q: i AM 51 AND THE WOMAN i AM DATING IS 47. OUR BEGINNING WAS ON AN EVENING BEACH OUTING WITH FIRE AND ... A: Now, it is not being negative to be busy and not run to her at the drop of a hat. Even though she ... | |
| he's too busy | 10/2/2007 |
| Q: I'm in trouble these days.my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 3 years now. The problem ... A: It sounds like your jealousy is ruining the intimacy in your relationship. The first thing that ... | |
| wHEN SHE SAYS THAT THINGS MOVED TO FAST | 10/1/2007 |
| Q: i AM 51 AND THE WOMAN i AM DATING IS 47. OUR BEGINNING WAS ON AN EVENING BEACH OUTING WITH FIRE AND ... A: She is either interested in someone else or she is not ready for much of a commitment more than ... | |
| fear of trusting again | 9/26/2007 |
| Q: I have been having problems with my boyfriend. At first our relationship wasn't too serious as ... A: Of course you cannot trust him again. He is not stable and he has no business in another ... | |
| marriage | 9/19/2007 |
| Q: Being 26 years old male, I have got married with my first maternal cousin who is 8 months elder than ... A: It helps. I am not sure what is in her heart. Only she knows that. You are right in that she ... | |
| marriage | 9/18/2007 |
| Q: Being 26 years old male, I have got married with my first maternal cousin who is 8 months elder than ... A: This is your problem, not hers. She just wants to be normal and talk to people, both men and women. ... | |
| Boyfriend is moving 30 minutes away | 9/18/2007 |
| Q: hope you can give me some unbiased advice. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 1 year (2 weeks ... A: What choice do you have but to be supportive since he didn't discuss it as a decision you make ... | |
| PLEASE HELP!!! THANK U MUCH!!!! | 9/17/2007 |
| Q: I was going out with this guy named Ricky for seven or eight months. When we met for the first time ... A: I do not know why you are confused. The guy is a player and a user. He goes with whatever feelings ... | |
| how to avoid arguments??? | 9/17/2007 |
| Q: I am 24, female form India. I am in love with a guy in my office since last 8 months and know him ... A: Well, you do have a problem. Apparently he lied to you about quitting his other girlfriends. Now, ... | |
| I let too much out the bag how do I fix this situation? | 9/13/2007 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend have been dating a little over a year, I'm 24 and he's 26. What happens is that ... A: Tell your guy that you are sorry he read the letter because you wrote it on a bad day when your ... | |
| My new relatinship is going sour | 9/12/2007 |
| Q: I am a 37 yr old single woman, my son is grown and in college and I have my own home. Let me start ... A: The problem still is that you are afraid of talking to him about something that is very important. ... | |
| Should I break up with my boyfriend that I am living with... | 9/11/2007 |
| Q: Ok...since the very beginning of my relationship with my boyfriend has been a little bit edgy. I ... A: Oh my gosh, he might as well hang out the flag that he is not interested in a monogamous ... | |
| Pillowtalk | 9/7/2007 |
| Q: I met a cute lady called Anna two weeks ago.She says she will call me next on Monday night.I would ... A: I do hope you don't mean pillow talk where you have sex on the first date. If you mean how to ... | |
| talking | 9/4/2007 |
| Q: A little background. I met my boyfriend online around Christmas last year. We lived in different ... A: That helps. Unfortunately, long distant relationships do not bring out the real person. Now that ... | |
| jealous | 8/31/2007 |
| Q: My husband to be has loads of celebrity images on his computer not all sexual he told me he used to ... A: You are upset and rightly so. Your conscious is telling you, when you feel ugly, is that your ... | |
| sex | 8/30/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for a year. He's 29 and was raised by his mother. He prides ... A: What worries me about your husband is more than his lack of sex. It is having that much control ... | |
| Just way too confused | 8/27/2007 |
| Q: My name is Josef and I'm 23 years old. It all started about a year and half ago when I first met my ... A: I am so sorry you are going through this but I think that one of two things might be happening. One ... | |
| sad story | 8/26/2007 |
| Q: I was dating a man I was very much in love with. Him and I had a lot in common, same music, movies, ... A: He probably will feel sorry at some time in his life, but maybe not. He seems to lack the ability to ... | |
| sad story | 8/25/2007 |
| Q: I was dating a man I was very much in love with. Him and I had a lot in common, same music, movies, ... A: Sometimes what is too good to be true is too good to be true. It takes awhile dating someone before ... | |
| My Girlfriend said she wanted to be friends for now! | 8/24/2007 |
| Q: My Girlfriend, changed all the sudden, we have been dating for 2 years, and 8 months. This started ... A: The key is to do the unexpected. You showed a little spunk and that was good. Now, it is easy for ... | |
| Intimacy | 8/23/2007 |
| Q: I'm happily married for 2 and half years now. We have a beautiful 9 months baby. My husband is a ... A: Men need visual examples in order to get it. What is important to your husband--is it his car? ... | |
| My Girlfriend said she wanted to be friends for now! | 8/23/2007 |
| Q: My Girlfriend, changed all the sudden, we have been dating for 2 years, and 8 months. This started ... A: You and I could guess all day and not know the answer as to why she is backing off. Usually, what ... | |
| Dating a divorced man | 8/23/2007 |
| Q: I am having a problem that I have been trying to find some help for but it is starting to feel like ... A: One of the most difficult things to do in life is to live and enjoy the now. There are no ... | |
| happy married but want sex with other people | 7/21/2007 |
| Q: me and my wife have been married for a year and ahalf now and we have been talking about this and i ... A: Everyone has a conscience that is built in. The reason why you have to ask me is because your ... | |
| being cheated on | 7/19/2007 |
| Q: Five months ago I was cheated on and left for the other woman. I am very sad. How do I get over ... A: Deaqr Ana, Good for you. Yes, I think he will regret it. My goodness--he wanted you and also to ... | |
| being cheated on | 7/19/2007 |
| Q: Five months ago I was cheated on and left for the other woman. I am very sad. How do I get over ... A: It is always difficult to get over what you thought was a wonderful relationship. When someone ... | |
| can we ever make this work? | 7/15/2007 |
| Q: im 22 and karl is 30. me an karl had a two and a half year relationship, it was always very ... A: If you are smart you will not get back together with him. He has a violent temper and you could end ... | |
| my communication | 7/15/2007 |
| Q: My wife told me she was having a tuff spell. she was doing alot of thinking and didnt know if she ... A: I think you answered your own question. Men tend to fix when women only want sympathy and a hug to ... | |
| am i being too needy when i ask for affection? | 7/13/2007 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for the past nine months. I am a single parent of a ... A: Relationships that bring children together from other marriages seldom work for that reason. He is ... | |
| Help | 7/12/2007 |
| Q: I'm 15 and my girlfriend is also 15. We have been going out for 5 months and i don't know what i ... A: If she says you suck up to her too much then listen to her. Even if it doesn't seem like it to you, ... | |
| magic words? | 7/11/2007 |
| Q: Joe (my current boyfriend) and I met in a fairly odd way, I was dating one of his best friends from ... A: So far so good but if you continue to crowd him you will lose him. Moving in together is a very bad ... | |
| New love | 7/9/2007 |
| Q: I recently I met a girl online from a popular dating site(eharm.) When I was matched up with her i ... A: This is a difficult question for me because when people get their dating way out of sequential order ... | |
| dating | 7/7/2007 |
| Q: I HAVE BEEN DATING THIS GUY FOR FEW MONTHS NOW AND REALLY CARE ALOT ABOUT HIM HE ABOUT 10 YEARS ... A: Smart girl. The purpose of dating is to see if the person is who you could live with for life. I ... | |
| Newly married and insecured wife | 7/6/2007 |
| Q: First of all thanks for the great work I am newly married and less than a year. I married after ... A: Yes, it is normal. Some people get very deep in thought and you should have an occupation where you ... | |
| how to compromise | 7/6/2007 |
| Q: I have a quick question. I am newly wed actually 7 months and seem to be going through adjustment ... A: Sit down with your wife and tell her that you have a personality difference in that she is more of a ... | |
| Newly married and insecured wife | 7/6/2007 |
| Q: First of all thanks for the great work I am newly married and less than a year. I married after ... A: It looks like there is also another question from you but I will address each one separately for the ... | |
| girlfriend | 7/6/2007 |
| Q: ok, my girlfriend told me she thought we needed a brek, to figure out what we really want to do, ... A: When someone says that it is all them and not you, they are letting you down easy as possible. ... | |
| breaking up with live-in boyfriend | 7/4/2007 |
| Q: I am 26 years and I have been dating my boyfriend for 7 years. Our relationship started off really ... A: If I could I would be tempted to make it a law never to move in with someone unless you are married. ... | |
| ...i don't know what else to do | 7/3/2007 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been together exactly 10 months today, but we have known each other and ... A: Well, actions usually speak the truth. What a person says is one thing but if the actions don't ... | |
| were's the romance | 7/2/2007 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years and it seems like all of the romance has ... A: This is the deal. People change a LOT during the teenage years on up to age 25. No one I know, ... | |
| conversation and connection | 7/1/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 6 months, but lately we have been so caught up ... A: It helps me a lot to know how old you are but I will do my best. Let me start with marriage. I ... | |
| Newly married and insecured wife | 6/29/2007 |
| Q: First of all thanks for the great work I am newly married and less than a year. I married after ... A: It is very important that you stop any kind of violence. If this doesn't help you please seek ... | |
| Still like them, but get bored. | 6/24/2007 |
| Q: I am 15 and easily become bored with relationships, even if i like the guy, which is never a ... A: Yes, I do have suggestions. First of all, why date at all? My kids (I have 7) didn't even date ... | |
| marriage on the rocks | 6/24/2007 |
| Q: I am 35 yrs of age, Father of 2 boys. Me and my wife have been married for 4 , together for 7 years. ... A: I am so sorry you are having such a hard time in your marriage. I do have some suggestions, but at ... | |
| Ugh | 6/22/2007 |
| Q: I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 20. We've been together over two years. Lately, he's not been saying "I ... A: What is happening is that he is still young and changing a lot. People change a lot between 18 and ... | |
| We need help | 6/16/2007 |
| Q: I am 22 years old, and I have been in a relationship for the past 3 years with a man that I love. We ... A: This is called verbal abuse. You have a choice, either go along with it or stand up against it. ... | |
| How to stop the insanity | 6/13/2007 |
| Q: I'm currently in a relationship with a wonderful man going on 3 years now. We have a set of ... A: First of all sit down and examine your feelings about this whole thing. What is your true gut ... | |
| Trust | 6/12/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for six months now and everything is wonderful. We seem to be ... A: You have moved in with this man way too soon. It takes at least a year to really even start to get ... | |
| army relationship | 6/12/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend of three years is going into the Army Reserve and is about to leave in July for six ... A: Long distant relationships are very difficult but all I know to do is to send pictures of what you ... | |
| i dont know what to do. | 6/11/2007 |
| Q: in the begining of my boyfriend and my relationship we were the cutest couple, now we have been ... A: Stop getting mad about little things. If you can't control your behavior in those things how can ... | |
| Introverted and Alone With No Experience. | 6/8/2007 |
| Q: My name is John and I am a 22-year old single male. My problem seems to have many complicated veins ... A: Being a virgin is certainly no drawback. To some women that would be a wonderful asset as there are ... | |
| How to survive take a break in relationship | 6/5/2007 |
| Q: My name is Jo and i am 32 years old. I found my first love when i was 30. And I met this wonderful ... A: Sometimes it is my sad duty to tell the truth as I see it. This means that it may not be what you ... | |
| why does he contact me now | 6/3/2007 |
| Q: In graduate school I dated a man for about two months, fell very much in love with him but never ... A: I think he just wants to be friends. Friends say I love you. If he loved you in the boyfriend ... | |
| Alot of relationship problems.. | 6/1/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating more almost a year now. The beginning of may he told me he ... A: First of all, if people are committed to staying virgins they shouldn't be feeling boobs or letting ... | |
| need advice on giving a gift to my GF. | 5/30/2007 |
| Q: I have been seeing a woman for about 18 months now. She is 43 never married and I am 39 separated ... A: If she has to ask, then she will not be sure that it is what you really want. She already has told ... | |
| when to give up | 5/30/2007 |
| Q: I'm 18 and i have a 7 month old. The relationship between her father and i have been a roller ... A: Start reading and learning how to create a happy relationship. Read books on marriage, etc. Read ... | |
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