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How to Strengthen Your Relationship/Questions Answered by Expert Kindred Beisinger penname K D Elizabeth Beisinger
| Subject | Date Asked |
| I cannot stregthen my relationship with my insecure boyfriend | 2/6/2012 |
| Q: I would really appreciate any help with my relationship. I have been in a relationship with my ... A: Of course, you know that I cannot tell you what to do, but I can offer a few thoughts that may help ... | |
| relationship with husband | 1/31/2012 |
| Q: I have a complicated situation. This has been ongoing for over 3 yrs. When I met my husband, he was ... A: You need to go ahead and see the counselor without him. That in itself will make a statement and ... | |
| Jealous Over Video Games | 1/13/2012 |
| Q: I am in an amazing relationship with a guy I adore. Unfortunately, we don’t share a lot of hobbies. ... A: An hour an evening isn't really all that long. I'm not sure what to suggest that you haven't ... | |
| my ex fiancee | 1/9/2012 |
| Q: my partner and myself had been dating for 2 years and were engaged to be married. At the beginning ... A: I think you should give more consideration to the text she claims her sister sent. I realize you ... | |
| I cannot tell where we are going! | 12/18/2011 |
| Q: I am a 36yr old woman who met my 26 yr old boyfriend (I'll just call him "M") after I ended an ... A: I cannot tell you where you are going, but I can give you a perspective that may help you determine ... | |
| establishing a family from @ people with each side having 3 kids | 12/16/2011 |
| Q: My fiance and I each have 3 kids from a previous relationship. His ex has abandonded the kids on him ... A: I'm all about praying for miracles, but I believe G-d does miracles when the power to change things ... | |
| Confused | 12/13/2011 |
| Q: iv been seeing a guy for almost 4 months. We told each other from the start how we'd both been hurt. ... A: I can't tell for sure here, but I think the double message he's sending may be masking the message ... | |
| Lost | 11/29/2011 |
| Q: I don't know where to start because so much plays into whats going on. I had lots of boyfriends ... A: Although there are probably many small details contributing to what you are feeling, I'd say the big ... | |
| Don't know how to fix things | 8/29/2011 |
| Q: Sorry, this is a bit long. I was married for 12 years to a man that was very abusive. He isolated ... A: This guy may very well be a nice guy, but I think he's what's called a "transition guy." He's much ... | |
| will he come back? | 8/8/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend of a year just recently decided that he needs a break. He has never really been single ... A: It could be, if he's never really been single, he needs some time alone to see who he is. Some ... | |
| Boyfriend Help | 7/4/2011 |
| Q: I've been dating my bf for about a year. Lately some things have been coming up that have been ... A: I'm sorry to be the one to say this, but you haven't been on a date with this guy! And he stood you ... | |
| What's going on? | 7/3/2011 |
| Q: Me and this girl were together for about 9 months. Then one night things went badly and she said it ... A: I understand your confusion, this is confusing. She doesn't sound like a very good friend to be ... | |
| live in relationship | 6/18/2011 |
| Q: I'm 24 years girl & in a live in relationship for past 6 months. He is 2 years elder, kind lovable & ... A: I can't tell you what you must do, but from what you have stated, this relationship is declining. ... | |
| how can I strengthen my relationship? I feel that my boyfriend and I are drifting apart after being together for almost 6 years. | 5/26/2011 |
| Q: I really need some advice and I have asked family and friends and all I get is naive responses. I've ... A: If the two of you have been together for nearly 6 years, it sounds like he's pretty much taking the ... | |
| Trust issues | 5/24/2011 |
| Q: I am having some trust issues with my relationship but it really has nothing to do with her but in ... A: I understand your insecurity. I can't really give you a strong reassuring answer. All I can say is ... | |
| Is my Relationship Over?? | 5/14/2011 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend almost seven years and in the fifth year we were engaged and that did ... A: To answer your question, in a word, "Yes." It's time for you to find someone worthy of your time ... | |
| Girlfriend can't get over her past | 5/5/2011 |
| Q: Ma'am, We have been together for more than a year now. I can swear she is the perfect girl for me ... A: I am going to give it to you straight. If it's been three years since the break-up and she's still ... | |
| need advice here...please help | 5/4/2011 |
| Q: ok so yesterday was my ex boyfriend's birthday...i havent spoken to him in 2 months but we left off ... A: I would say he was obviously glad to hear from you if he responded with a paragraph after a short ... | |
| i can feel that my girlfriend is getting boured | 4/26/2011 |
| Q: sir. Sir there is a little problem and i have come here to fix that out. actually the problem is my ... A: AS I consider this situation, I feel I must be honest with you. If your relationship is over 2.5 ... | |
| Will he ever be ready to start all over? | 4/6/2011 |
| Q: "Hi, I met this guy on the internet and we found each other compatible almost instantly. It has been ... A: I'm not comfortable with his rules. I don't know the distance that separates the two of you, but ... | |
| Constant Arguments | 3/26/2011 |
| Q: I have been with my fiance for almost three and a half years now. We are both 25, and four weeks ... A: I'm going to give it to you straight here. The only thing that might get your relationship back on ... | |
| Will I get her back? | 3/23/2011 |
| Q: I'll make this as short as possible but still try and get the point across. About two weeks ago my ... A: Tom, Even though you've signed beneath it, I think her e-mail ends with "Take Care." If that is the ... | |
| I have trust issues with my fiancé' | 3/22/2011 |
| Q: I have been with my fiance' for almost 3 years now and things have gone down hill suddenly. In our ... A: I'm going to be straight out with my answer. Five calls in seven hours is entirely too clingy and ... | |
| confused. this is a complicated situation and I feel so helpless I just want to make things better between my ex and I? he says he needs space. | 3/18/2011 |
| Q: This is the back story behind my question, its a bit long but I've tried to include all of the ... A: I can't say if this is his way of breaking up or simply taking some space. What I can tell you is ... | |
| Please Help Me | 3/16/2011 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with the guy I am dating for two and a half years and in the past 6 ... A: I think you are correct in using the term "controlling." That needs to stop. The best way to stop ... | |
| Too serious too soon | 3/16/2011 |
| Q: My relationship history is rushing into things and of course being left wondering where I went ... A: You haven't done anything wrong, except getting too involved too soon. This so called doctor that ... | |
| Will I get her back? | 3/15/2011 |
| Q: I'll make this as short as possible but still try and get the point across. About two weeks ago my ... A: You are in quite a spot. I'm guessing she will probably come back around, if this is like the other ... | |
| Confusion | 3/13/2011 |
| Q: ( I apologize for any grammical errors) I'm 20 and I've been seeing my 22 year old gentlemen for ... A: I'm sorry if you misunderstood my "theory." When the relationship stopped moving forward, it ... | |
| Advanced dating | 3/7/2011 |
| Q: how're you doing?It's Siavash.Nice to have you here! Already I have had 4 dates with this girl ,all ... A: As for great dating plans, after 4 dates. I would say the options are wide open. I'm not sure ... | |
| Confusion | 3/7/2011 |
| Q: ( I apologize for any grammical errors) I'm 20 and I've been seeing my 22 year old gentlemen for ... A: My answer will probably seem too simple for the amount of information you gave me, but here it is. ... | |
| Trust and Paranoia | 2/17/2011 |
| Q: I was wondering how I could possibly fix my trust issues. I'm currently working towards getting in a ... A: I am not saying this is going to be easy, but there is really a choice you will have to make and ... | |
| nervous | 2/11/2011 |
| Q: i am so nervous around my boyfriend and I dont know what todo to become less nervous or what to talk ... A: Do you really like this guy or is there something about him that makes you anxious? If you're ... | |
| relationship limbo | 2/7/2011 |
| Q: My question is how to move a relationship out of limbo. I’ve been dating a woman for over two years. ... A: I'm going to be honest here. I don't think your woman is telling you everything. I am willing to ... | |
| I want to love my boyfriend again. Do you think a break would help? | 2/5/2011 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. In December, he went to a bar with some ... A: I think you are looking at two different issues, but one really is not the issue. The woman in the ... | |
| Baggage | 2/4/2011 |
| Q: My boyfriend's ex aborted his child despite the fact that he wanted to keep the baby. She broke up ... A: I hope what I share will help shed some light on what you and he are going through. He is grieving ... | |
| Tired of being confused, worried and anxious | 2/2/2011 |
| Q: I'm 25 years old and currently seeing a 32 year old single father. That has proven to be a big test ... A: Are you absolutely certain this guy is single? Are you sure his divorce is final or whatever ... | |
| Dating/Marriage | 2/1/2011 |
| Q: I have been dating my boyriend almost 4yrs. I am 28 - he is 27. We met because I moved to AZ as a ... A: When I first read your question, I wasn't sure how to answer this, but I believe I've since gained ... | |
| Boyfriend's ex-wife disregards boundaries | 1/6/2011 |
| Q: I am a 47 year old woman with a grown son dating a 48 year old man with twin 9 year-old girls. I've ... A: I have really given some consideration to your question. I am not my husband's first wife and there ... | |
| Heartbroken don't know if my boyfriend is cheating or doing drugs | 1/5/2011 |
| Q: I'm in my first interracial relationship, my boyfriend is Irish and German and I am mixed and part ... A: This relationship sounds very dishonest and unhealthy. Whether your boyfriend has another woman or ... | |
| My Boyfriend & His View On Porn | 1/2/2011 |
| Q: This started a long while back with my boyfriend watching porn in the beginning of our relationship. ... A: I didn't want to just give you a standard answer that has been around for years, but in my research ... | |
| Is she falling out of love with me or am i over thinking? | 11/15/2010 |
| Q: falling out of love with me? First of all we've been together for almost 3 years now and have a 4 ... A: The two of you need a little time together. Make a date for just the two of you. If you can't ... | |
| How to proceed | 11/13/2010 |
| Q: I have a question on how I should proceed with my current situation. I guess I should start with ... A: It sounds dramatically romantic, but also high pressure. I do like what you say and how you are ... | |
| How to proceed | 11/10/2010 |
| Q: I have a question on how I should proceed with my current situation. I guess I should start with ... A: I think you basically need to send her what you've told me. I mean even sending this to me is proof ... | |
| he's angry | 11/4/2010 |
| Q: i happened to say something jokingly to my man with his friend around that mad him think im ... A: This situation is basically simple. If you know your man has issues with the impression you give ... | |
| Conflicting feelings | 11/4/2010 |
| Q: I’m writing you for advice because I feel like giving up. My girlfriend and I have drifted apart ... A: The ball is in your court means, the next move is up to you. If the two of you have been together ... | |
| Commitment level | 8/20/2010 |
| Q: I started casually dating a guy, and after 10 months we finally made it official. We have now been ... A: Diane, I am not sure how he will take this, but if you are feeling stuck and frustrated, something ... | |
| How to get the reassurance I need without seeming needy...? | 8/12/2010 |
| Q: I am in a three-year relationship with a wonderful man. We are both in our late twenties, both ... A: To be honest and blunt . . . stop worrying! You have a promising future and it sounds like a fairly ... | |
| I need help! | 5/9/2010 |
| Q: I am with someone I really love and I feel that I am to clingy for him.He say's it's fine but I am ... A: It may be difficult, but absolutely stop calling him first, all the time. People that are too ... | |
| Dating Spark | 5/8/2010 |
| Q: my name is ... well we will just say C. Know i have been dating my GF for a year know. Where still ... A: I have an idea to rekindle the spark, but it's just a basic thought. You can take it and ... | |
| Relationship is falling apart! | 5/4/2010 |
| Q: Me and my bf are both 23 turning 24 this year. We have been together 2 years. He went out west for 6 ... A: I think you really need to take some time alone and think things over. I'm not talking about the ... | |
| Dating Spark | 5/4/2010 |
| Q: my name is ... well we will just say C. Know i have been dating my GF for a year know. Where still ... A: From what you write, you really sound like you aren't ready for a serious committed relationship at ... | |
| My Relationship | 5/2/2010 |
| Q: I am a 21 year old women that has been with the same man for 7 years my husband is 30 and we have 2 ... A: You are only 21 years old. I don't know how to ask this question with a politically correct ... | |
| big mistake | 4/29/2010 |
| Q: I'm trying to salvage my relationship, we are an on and off couple for sometime now and we finally ... A: This does not sound like a healthy relationship at all. If you are off and on, and when you are ... | |
| relationship need a bit of a boost | 3/17/2010 |
| Q: Me and my Fiance have been together for 6 years now, and living together for 1 year. I've notice ... A: What you are describing, is sort of the rule of thumb for the 6th year of marriage. Since the two ... | |
| Girlfriend needs a break | 3/17/2010 |
| Q: My girlfriend and i have been together for 8 months. It has been constant bliss, and we actually ... A: I don't think you are going to like my answer, but I'm going to be honest with you. From what you ... | |
| This is probably obnoxiously long and involved. I apologise. | 2/19/2010 |
| Q: Ok. There is a question in here somewhere, but allow me to give you a history first. I'm only 17, ... A: Although I never recommend underage or uncommitted sexual relationships, I don't judge them either. ... | |
| Having huge problems | 2/11/2010 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I got together in November of 2008. Outside of a 2-month long falling out, we've ... A: As I read this I thought of two things. If neither of these topics applies, then I'm sorry, but ... | |
| help my 5 yr relationship | 1/25/2010 |
| Q: i am young and met my former bf when i was 18, i was very open and honest about my past with him and ... A: You obviously love the man, but he's not demonstrating what you need in a relationship. Many ... | |
| dating dilemma | 1/18/2010 |
| Q: So, I been dating this guy for over 8 months. We see each other about once a week. We live about an ... A: In answer to: "A week ago, when I ask him what does he want with me- he said “ I want to be with ... | |
| Disrespect, back talking and step-sibling rivalry | 1/18/2010 |
| Q: I am lost and at my witts end! I am 29 and have 2 children; 11 yo boy and 9 yo daughter. I was ... A: I am going to give you some advice and it may seem harsh. First, you need to be consistent. Even ... | |
| Marriage | 1/14/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for just over 2 months. Me and my wife are expecting our first child next month ... A: This advice is going to sound simple, but I assure you it's easier said than done. The fact that ... | |
| How to show her How much I care | 12/23/2009 |
| Q: My name is Jacob, and I really really care about my girlfriend. We met in high school, and very ... A: You sound like a wonderful young man. I'm sorry I'm so late getting back to you. This somehow must ... | |
| Is It Over? | 12/3/2009 |
| Q: About 7 months ago I met my (now) ex girlfriend on a dating site. She was the woman of my dreams in ... A: Please let me honest with you. I find this entire correspondence quite confusing, and I'm only ... | |
| I love my divorce boyfriend | 12/1/2009 |
| Q: my boyfriend will be turning 30 in 10 days. He is divorce going on 3 years and he have a 6 year old. ... A: Take your boyfriend out of it, so to speak. Just find a common interest with the child. It doesn't ... | |
| affairs | 12/1/2009 |
| Q: my life is a mess and don,t know how to fix it, i have been with my partner 4 yrs and we have a 2 yr ... A: If you read my bio, you know I'm a minister and this is what I tell everyone I counsel in the area ... | |
| I love my divorce boyfriend | 12/1/2009 |
| Q: my boyfriend will be turning 30 in 10 days. He is divorce going on 3 years and he have a 6 year old. ... A: Your feelings are normal. Divorce is different now, than it was just last generation. It used to ... | |
| My guyfriend won"t commit | 11/23/2009 |
| Q: The guy I have been talking to for 2 years. Says that he won't be able to make me his girlfriend to ... A: I don't know about such a rule. I think a relationship should be based upon both people ... | |
| Relationships | 11/21/2009 |
| Q: I had a baby with my current boyfriend. He's 23 and Im 22. We get along great except for one ... A: Stephanie, A compromise would be you both go out together when there is a sitter or you each have an ... | |
| please help me, I need your wise advise | 11/16/2009 |
| Q: please I need your wise advice: I'm in despair, I believe I deserve the worst punishment due to my ... A: I'm sorry this has taken so long to get an answer to you, but to be honest, I just did not have a ... | |
| Hey goes out alot! (Alone) | 11/14/2009 |
| Q: Hell my name is Bianca, I have a 30yr old boyfriend and we live together I've known him since i was ... A: I have considered and reconsidered your post to me. To be perfectly honest, I haven't been sure ... | |
| help me!!! | 11/9/2009 |
| Q: i was over my boyfriend house one afternoon and a female came over looking for him and he jumps up ... A: I never think someone is stupid for loving or forgiving. Naive, perhaps, but not stupid. I am ... | |
| boyfriend | 11/4/2009 |
| Q: Been with my BF for 6yrs. We’ve drifted apart and got back together thousands of time. We are two ... A: It really sounds, from your post, that the two of you don't really share a life direction. You ... | |
| Confusion and heartbroken/rejected | 11/2/2009 |
| Q: "we went to the cinema together and he was all over me(holding my waist, putting his face close to ... A: I'm sorry. I think he sounds like a player and a creep. He was all over you and the more you ... | |
| Getting Over Anger; Trusting Again | 10/28/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I have been struggling tremendously for over 2 years, and are at a critical point in our ... A: I'm sorry I didn't answer this immediately, but I've been thinking and praying about it. This isn't ... | |
| Please help | 10/27/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend recently wanted a break from our relationship. It lasted 8 months and now we've been ... A: This could be part of the problem. I never recommend pre-marital sex. It always lacks a commitment ... | |
| Please help | 10/24/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend recently wanted a break from our relationship. It lasted 8 months and now we've been ... A: The fact that your girl friend wanted a break for a lengthy period of time would understandably ... | |
| A need for help | 10/19/2009 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend have gone out for two years, we broke up twice and got back together. We have a ... A: Since you asked directly, I will answer, directly. It really sounds more like an obsession than a ... | |
| How can I get back the man I feel in love with? | 10/18/2009 |
| Q: For the past few months my boyfriend and I have been through some hard times. He's had the worse of ... A: You can't fix it all. These are some big problems that do occupy a persons thoughts. He will just ... | |
| how to win/get her back?? | 10/16/2009 |
| Q: my ex and I were in a relationship for five months - now we are back to the word 'friend'. We used ... A: If you truly are a new person, she will see that. An emotionally greedy, demanding, needy man is ... | |
| Will he ever express himself? | 9/22/2009 |
| Q: I have been with this guy for over a year. He's 22, I'm 23. He is my first love and serious ... A: Here is my advice, and believe me, I know of what I speak. You are going to have to decide if you ... | |
| Getting back together with an ex! | 9/21/2009 |
| Q: I am sending you this question because you said you can address issues regarding past dating ... A: Please go very slowly. Remember exes become exes for a reason, and often it's many reasons. From ... | |
| Relationships and their likelihood | 9/20/2009 |
| Q: Alright, I met a girl at college orientation and we had a good talk at that time. We facebook ... A: Here is the absolute right answer for your situation. Be exactly who you are, regardless of her ... | |
| taking a break | 9/19/2009 |
| Q: I am hopefully looking for some insight and advice. My girlfriend and i have been dating about 5 ... A: From what you have shared, you both sound like very caring, giving people. She simply has some ... | |
| ? | 9/17/2009 |
| Q: KERI 22 i have been with my boyfriend going on about 1 1/2 years here and we have known each other ... A: It sounds like you have completely lost yourself in this relationship. From everything you have ... | |
| trust | 9/16/2009 |
| Q: I have a problem. My past relationships/marriage have all pretty much ended with me being ... A: Well, Mike, here's my thought. Be straightforward, but not accusing. Simply put it on you, but out ... | |
| my relationship is ending and i want to save it | 9/15/2009 |
| Q: KD I MET MY BOYFRIEND 4 YEARS AGO I WAS 21 AND HE WAS 26...WE GOT PREGNANT AND HE WORKED AS A BOAT ... A: What I truly hear you saying is: He needs to fulfill your idea of a couple or you will seek that ... | |
| Distant Boyfriend After 2 months of being together | 9/15/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and i have been together about two months now and i can't tell if he's getting ... A: It sounds like "the new has worn off," so to speak. For some guys that means they get a bit cool ... | |
| trust | 9/14/2009 |
| Q: I have a problem. My past relationships/marriage have all pretty much ended with me being ... A: I can, personally, so relate to what you are saying. This is how I've managed it in my life ... | |
| taking a break | 9/12/2009 |
| Q: I am hopefully looking for some insight and advice. My girlfriend and i have been dating about 5 ... A: You sound like a great guy. Four weeks is more than "a little time" in my book. Considering the ... | |
| How to put things back on track with girlfriend? | 9/9/2009 |
| Q: Me and my girlfriend met in mexico in january this year. We both went back to our countries (USA and ... A: If she's bought a ticket for the two of you to get together, then clearly she is "invested" in the ... | |
| On the edge of the cliff | 9/7/2009 |
| Q: Me and my girlfriend have been going out for three and a half months now. We know its quite early, ... A: Stop being controlling and jealous. When you feel that coming on, just move yourself on. Think ... | |
| Boyfriend still friends with his ex of 6 years | 9/4/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for 10 months now. We are moving back to his hometown where his ex ... A: This is an interesting question and to be honest, I'm not sure what I would do in your shoes, but I ... | |
| Missing butterflies | 9/2/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been going out for just over a year. Her longest relationship prior to ... A: Not to sound too cynical, but if she had butterflies for nearly a year, they lasted longer than they ... | |
| how do i regain his trust ? | 7/1/2009 |
| Q: Ive been with my boyfriend(or ex) for about a year and a half. we got close very fast, right out of ... A: Without knowing him or what you did to hurt him, I have two schools of thought regarding your ... | |
| how to let go of these negative feelings | 6/29/2009 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 years and we have a 6 month old son. He's not ... A: Although you do need to let go of the negative feelings for your own emotional health, I really ... | |
| Disappointed expectations | 6/12/2009 |
| Q: I've been dating a guy for 8 months now and when he first asked me out he stated that it was to ... A: [> What's a girl to do?? Am I living in fantasy land or is he legitimately letting me down?<] Good ... | |
| Confusing Girlfriend | 6/10/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half. For the last year of that time, we lived ... A: I agree with you, it is confusing. She seems to be saying one thing, yet acting out another. The ... | |
| what to do? | 6/9/2009 |
| Q: We met in 2006, moved in together in 2007,we are still together in 2009. Our relationship was fun, ... A: I will answer your question directly. "What can we do to make this relationship work?" You used ... | |
| Should i just let things go? | 5/24/2009 |
| Q: ok so...me and my boyfriend have known eachother for the past 14 months now and we have been ... A: You have gone from one boyfriend to the next right in front of him. He may not feel real secure ... | |
| Lookin for some insight | 5/22/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating this girl for about 10-11 months off and on, we broke up once because she wasnt ... A: If you've read my bio, you know I'm in ministry and I never recommend living together without ... | |
| marriage | 5/22/2009 |
| Q: I was just married a little over a month ago. After our honeymoon, my husband got laid off. He has ... A: This situation isn't sitting well with me, at all. It sounds like the counselor has definitely ... | |
| marriage | 5/21/2009 |
| Q: I was just married a little over a month ago. After our honeymoon, my husband got laid off. He has ... A: Wow! I think you need to address this with him, because otherwise the jealousy and rejection you ... | |
| In a relationship with my best friend whos going through a divorce. | 5/6/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend is not divorced yet. He is just legally seperated. His soon to be ex-wife (hopefully), ... A: I know this is going to be difficult and may sound outrageous, but just go back to being friends ... | |
| Please help... | 5/2/2009 |
| Q: I want to give you a bit of background on the situation as that may help you understand the whole ... A: You sound like a very nice, caring person, and to be honest, I don't think "your best friend" is ... | |
| Please help... | 4/28/2009 |
| Q: I want to give you a bit of background on the situation as that may help you understand the whole ... A: I think you should be honest with her and tell her, if she wants to break up again, that's her ... | |
| i dont no wt to do | 4/22/2009 |
| Q: Erm hi Me and my boyfriend have been together for two yrs on the 23rd april. He is in the army and ... A: Don't make the same mistake I made when my husband wanted fun and magic back in our marriage. I ... | |
| Boyfriend has baby | 4/21/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I met 5 years ago. I was 16, and he was 19. We dated for a while, but it didn't ... A: I really don't think this sounds very promising. I hear about men that want everyone to "understand ... | |
| I Really Like This Girl; But She Dont Like Me | 4/21/2009 |
| Q: i really really like this girl, ive asked her out so many times but its always been a no. Each time ... A: If someone continues to say NO, then that's what they mean. I think at this point, she is not ... | |
| Marriage | 4/18/2009 |
| Q: Well my husband and I have been together 8 years and married 4.We have gone through so much.There ... A: This really sounds bigger than the two of you. I would suggest some sort of counseling. It doesn't ... | |
| Cheating | 4/17/2009 |
| Q: I was just wondering what I can do. I have been dating my boyfriend for a year. Every once in a ... A: I think I'd say to him, pretty much what you just told me. Then ask him the same questions you ... | |
| My Relationship is falling apart | 4/1/2009 |
| Q: I am a 33 year old woman who has been in a relationship for 5 years with a younger man who is now ... A: I think if rekindling needs this much effort, the flame has gone out. I really think you do care ... | |
| i want him back | 3/30/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I been together for over a year now and we just had a babyboy. I love my boyfriend ... A: I think since you refer to your circumstances as a family, you should sit down and consider the true ... | |
| marrage problems | 3/30/2009 |
| Q: i've been married for almost 10 years .it seems that my husband no longer wants to be close to me ... A: I know exactly what you are going through. My husband and I aren't intimate nearly that often, and ... | |
| help me get her back | 3/28/2009 |
| Q: ok i had a girlfriend named rachel and my friends told me she was a slut. then 4 days later she ... A: As a rule, the people that ask me for help to strengthen their relationships are adults. I'm an old ... | |
| narcissistic bitchiness? | 3/10/2009 |
| Q: (I figured I'd address you as Liz since that's what you signed off as in past answers =) ) My ... A: As far as your relationship exceeding his former one, I think sometimes just going the distance does ... | |
| narcissistic bitchiness? | 3/5/2009 |
| Q: (I figured I'd address you as Liz since that's what you signed off as in past answers =) ) My ... A: I'll address this as succinctly as possible, because I think from what I've read here, it really ... | |
| i need help | 3/5/2009 |
| Q: ok, i am 18. and i started dating my first boyfriend in September of 2008. he was the first and only ... A: You say this is your first boyfriend, and he's the first guy you had sex with. I would say that is ... | |
| the end? | 3/5/2009 |
| Q: I am in a situation you read about every day. I too am going through a break-up. I know what I am ... A: I can't tell you what the right answer for you is, at this time, but I can tell you why you are ... | |
| dating | 3/2/2009 |
| Q: My question is a male close friend of mine, just recently I had called and he gets back tome saying ... A: If you went out once and he got off the phone when you called, and didn't call back, he's probably ... | |
| Boyfriend's relationship with ex | 3/1/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been going together for two years now and have been making plans for a ... A: I haven't heard both sides of this situation, but I can tell you, from what you've told me, I would ... | |
| Difficult Decision | 2/24/2009 |
| Q: hopefully you can help. I am married into a guy who I love & I know is sweet,nice,sincere,and wants ... A: I hear what you are saying, but I am sensing some level of manipulation on his part. It almost ... | |
| Relationship problems | 2/23/2009 |
| Q: ive been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 6 years now. I am 22 years old, and so is ... A: It sounds like your boyfriend has had it pretty easy. A nice family to live with, wheels when he ... | |
| dating,friendship | 2/17/2009 |
| Q: i have a friend named rachel me and her "were" bestfriends and we fell in love then fell out of love ... A: If you are only 14, then my suggestion is that you discuss this situation with your parents. I ... | |
| commitment phobiac? | 2/14/2009 |
| Q: I have entered a relationship with a man I met at work. We´ve been getting along very well ever ... A: Something doesn't sound right in this, and I am not sure what it is. If he's rearranging his life ... | |
| partner's attachment to his ex | 2/9/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my partner for 2.5 years. We both had baggage....him from his childhood, me from an ... A: This may not be what you want to hear, but I didn't like reading what I did. Any relationship that ... | |
| Enhancing relationship | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: I am a 25 year old woman, the eldest of 3 children in my family. I completed my tertiary education ... A: Deciding now is the time for a baby, is the choice you made, so you really need to be focused on ... | |
| Should I Stay or Go | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: The reason I am writing to you today is because I have a trust issue. Me and my boyfriend have been ... A: It sounds like you are afraid to have a relationship and afraid to be without a relationship. I ... | |
| Afraid to be Alone | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: 'm 19 years old and a sophomore in college. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half ... A: Please don't break up and just find somebody to date. I think you are already basically alone, ... | |
| Foreplay? | 1/18/2009 |
| Q: My husband of 1 month (we have been together 3 years)is driving me crazy. He is a very caring, sweet ... A: Your question brings tears to my eyes as I write it. I am several years into a lousy marriage and I ... | |
| Wife not committed | 1/15/2009 |
| Q: Been married 7 years, About 3 years ago she cheated on me. I moved out took kids with me and filed ... A: I am truly sorry for your sadness. I know you did try and G~D knows that. You are not wasting my ... | |
| How to deal with his ex and blending families | 1/9/2009 |
| Q: I have a boyfriend has two girls and an "adopted" daughter with his ex. They were together for ... A: I'm afraid my comments may not be what you want to hear, but believe me, I speak from experience. ... | |
| Rocky!!! | 1/7/2009 |
| Q: I am having issues with my boyfriend that I have been with for a little over a year now. Lately I ... A: Sammy, A relationship that feels like a one sided commitment is pretty tough to balance, much less ... | |
| Fiance Cheated on me. | 1/6/2009 |
| Q: Ok so here is the story, My Fiance and I met at work, she is no longer with this company. We ... A: I think this is a situation that will always have questions. If you love her and you really believe ... | |
| Rocky!!! | 1/6/2009 |
| Q: I am having issues with my boyfriend that I have been with for a little over a year now. Lately I ... A: I'm guessing that you are in a place, due to something besides your boyfriend. Maybe the winter's ... | |
| Argument, silly or justified? | 12/24/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. What I don't understand is why he doesn't ... A: I do think he has an issue with your smoking and it's probably not going to go away with compromise. ... | |
| mid divorce | 12/22/2008 |
| Q: I (34) have dating a divorcing man (40) for 9 months. He has two children 6 and 8. We get along very ... A: I would definitely take a break until his divorce is final. You are not being selfish at all, in ... | |
| I Need Adivce | 12/20/2008 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend were friends for 3 years and have been dating for 1 year and 2 months. From the ... A: Lying is never a good idea. Lying to a guy with trust issues is a very bad idea! I think you are ... | |
| my boyfriends daughter | 12/16/2008 |
| Q: i have been dating David for a little over two years. He has a wonderful three year old from a past ... A: I think it's fine for children to call their step-mothers, mom, but when a couple is dating, there ... | |
| Dating mom over 40 with teenagers at home | 12/2/2008 |
| Q: I have been seeing my man for 10 months. We have had a lot of fun and intimacy. We are best friends ... A: I don't ever recommend counseling, but I don't think it's crazy . . . if both people want it. I ... | |
| Marco Villegas | 12/2/2008 |
| Q: but we both love each other. we not in love b/c we both admit to it.we have 2 beautiful kids ... A: You tell me you want to strengthen your relationship, then you tell me your wife is not interested ... | |
| how to continue my relationship | 11/22/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years and he is just the most amazing guy ever. however ... A: If you are ready for an exclusive relationship, then it's time to stop the clubbing and be faithful ... | |
| Lost | 11/21/2008 |
| Q: I have been dating a great guy for a few months now. I'm 24, he's 25, divorced with 2 children. He ... A: I am sorry for what you are experiencing. There are a number of men that take the painful baggage ... | |
| Getting over your significant other's past. | 11/20/2008 |
| Q: Well I feel as though I have a unique situation. My entire life i've been someone who has been able ... A: I realize you are still young so this possibility may be hard to imagine, but let me paint a ... | |
| separation and emotional disconnect | 11/20/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I separated in June, after 5 years of "misery" for him. He has trust issues and is ... A: I am so sorry. If he doesn't feel connected with you, and he says the last five years have been ... | |
| letting go of a past love | 11/18/2008 |
| Q: Do you have any idea why a person cannot stop communicating with an ex-wife (no children) even ... A: In response to your question, I think you answered it pretty well in your explanation. Addiction to ... | |
| marriage | 11/17/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 25 years, 4 children... My husband and I have been separated for 2 years. I ... A: Debbie, I've thought a lot about your situation. I've thought a lot about this answer I am about to ... | |
| marriage | 11/14/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 25 years, 4 children... My husband and I have been separated for 2 years. I ... A: I'm not sure I understand the time frame, here. Did you tell him about the affair years ago or just ... | |
| Relationship spark | 11/8/2008 |
| Q: I am so lost right now that I do not know where to start. I have been with my girlfriend for the ... A: I don't usually divulge my personal information, but I know exactly what you are talking about. If ... | |
| dont know what to do?iv found out im pregnant. | 11/6/2008 |
| Q: im 30,i have a 10 year old daughter,from previous relationship.i have a new partner of two years,iv ... A: Perhaps this is your partner's opportunity to make a decision he doesn't have to feel guilty about. ... | |
| how to let it go | 11/4/2008 |
| Q: I have been dating a man for about 3 months now. In the beginning things were great. We both are ... A: I think the term dating has been changed since I was dating. Keeping in touch by phone really isn't ... | |
| Can I be a stepmom to this child? | 11/3/2008 |
| Q: I am 25 years old and have never been married or have children. I am engaged to a wonderful 37 year ... A: I can't answer this question for you or make your decision, but I can share a few thoughts that may ... | |
| does she still love me | 11/1/2008 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I were introduced through a friend of mine. She was living with my friend and ... A: I don't have a good feeling about this. I don't know anything about this woman except what you have ... | |
| my ungrateful boyfriend | 11/1/2008 |
| Q: oh my god...i have never felt for a guy so quickly . we started out as being each other comforter ... A: I'm not sure this is the answer that you want, but I'm sure it's the right answer. I'll give you ... | |
| Does taking a break help the relationship? | 10/28/2008 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship for a little over a year and a half. My boyfriend and I are both in ... A: It sounds like the two of you have a lifetime of labels and issues to resolve. My thought here, ... | |
| my boyfriend | 10/27/2008 |
| Q: my name is fabiola,im 25 yrs old,nursing student.I have fall in love with a 34 yrs old guy,who lives ... A: I think you were wise in stopping the overnights. Kudos to you. As for deciding what you want, you ... | |
| Should i Stay | 10/27/2008 |
| Q: I've been seeing this guy for a year now, we're not officially dating yet. When I met him he nor I ... A: This is just advise, you have to do what you feel you can live with. I would tell him, you just ... | |
| A best friend or lover? | 10/25/2008 |
| Q: Long story Ill try to keep it short. I have a long time friend, since I was 16 Im now 25 and I live ... A: I never recommend sex outside of marriage, but I will tell you this. I married a man that I ... | |
| keeping the best for last | 10/24/2008 |
| Q: im 19 yo my "best friend" is also 19 we've been dating for a year now ,and i learned that i have no ... A: Don't change anything for now. You have already said you aren't ready for marriage yet, so just ... | |
| Boyfriend's job loss | 10/3/2008 |
| Q: We have been dating for a year. We live 100 miles away and he has a 14 year old son from a previous ... A: Deborah, I can only tell you what I would do. I would not pay his bills. PERIOD. You're getting ... | |
| Dating and counselling | 9/9/2008 |
| Q: My BF and I have been together for over 16 months, we do not live together and we are in our mid ... A: I don't recommend counseling at this point. It sounds like the two of you have a very practical ... | |
| My Paranoid Husband | 9/7/2008 |
| Q: I'm a 45 year old woman and my husband's 48 years old. Me and my husband have been married for many ... A: I realize it's after the fact, but it's best to leave the past in the past. You can go to a county ... | |
| i'm ready for marriage after 7 years | 8/23/2008 |
| Q: i have been in a relationship w/my boyfriend for 7 years & we have 3 sons. for the last 5 years i ... A: I don't think he plans to get married. If you have 3 sons together, already and he keeps postponing ... | |
| Taking a break in a relationship | 8/22/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I met our sophomore year of college and sparks flew for 3 years. Here we are now on ... A: Even if he comes back, then what? I am not a bit comfortable with his "rules." After 3 years and ... | |
| my girlfriend and i are going thur a ruff time | 8/20/2008 |
| Q: my girlfriend and i have been together for about 2 and a half years. and 2 days ago she was over my ... A: It does sound like you have an anger problem. Perhaps some anger management classes would be of ... | |
| she isn't meeting my needs | 6/25/2008 |
| Q: I have a girlfriend that I am fighting tooth and nail for to keep her and her family happy. However ... A: Now, I am only reading your side of this, but from what you tell me, you have a very one-sided ... | |
| me and my girlfreind | 6/25/2008 |
| Q: i would like to make my relationship alot better with my girlfreind, we've been going out for 11 ... A: If there are certain things that make you feel jealous, you need to address those. If for instance, ... | |
| No passion | 6/24/2008 |
| Q: Ok its kindof a weird odd story. My boyfriend and myself have been dating/living together for almost ... A: You cannot change another human being. To answer your question. What you should do is decide what ... | |
| What do I do? | 6/23/2008 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been together for a little over 20 months and have only recently been ... A: I think you need to let your girl friend see as much of this question to me, as you are comfortable ... | |
| does he really love me like I love him | 6/23/2008 |
| Q: Im 19 and I've been dating my boyfriend for about a year and a half. Im a freak clingly to him. ... A: What you have told me is just one more reason I do not believe in pre-marital sex. The relationship ... | |
| my boyfriend changed | 6/23/2008 |
| Q: We have been together for about seven months, at first he was so attentive, polite, always helping ... A: I think your boyfriend has changed his level of interest and 32 is too young for a midlife crisis. ... | |
| i dont know whether i should break up with my boyfriend | 6/22/2008 |
| Q: im stuck about what to do, ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years, lived with him for the majority ... A: If you are just now 18 and you've been living with this guy for most of the past 3 years, you have ... | |
| wanna work it out | 6/20/2008 |
| Q: my boyfriend and i had a fallout reason why because he found a letter that my ex boyfriend wrote me ... A: Send a letter. That's really all you can do. If he will read it, then maybe that will make a ... | |
| Stay or go? | 6/20/2008 |
| Q: My partner and I have been together for 3 1/2 years. We moved to London from Australia 2 1/2 years ... A: It sounds like you have already made up your mind, but you just don't know how to walk on out. My ... | |
| Relationship assistance | 6/18/2008 |
| Q: Ive been with my amazing boyfriend for almost a year now. we have talked about our future and how we ... A: I have no idea how old you and this guy are, but I will tell you two things that pretty much ... | |
| Got back together, now what? | 6/1/2008 |
| Q: Me and my bf are in our early twenties. We had been together for 7 months when we split up for more ... A: Your question to me, explained a lot of what the two of you are going through. Stop analyzing every ... | |
| New relationships | 5/28/2008 |
| Q: I have been seeing a girl now for three weeks. I have been out with her 5 times and talked with her ... A: A good relationship is honest, so I think the real question I am reading here, is how to let her ... | |
| help!!!!!!!!! | 5/27/2008 |
| Q: after 6 months of being single i began a relationship with a wonderful man. i fell in love with him ... A: He sounds like an unhappy person. Everything you have said about him indicates he's not satisfied ... | |
| Pls advise me | 5/26/2008 |
| Q: i have a problem which i hope u can help me. i am 28 years old and i've known my boyfriend for ... A: I don't know alot about internet relationships when someone has a relationship, but I wouldn't ... | |
| RE: Broken Engagement | 5/24/2008 |
| Q: I was two weeks from getting married and my fiancee cancelled our wedding. Everything was fine. He ... A: I am sorry this is happening. I think you should take just a little bit of time to sort your ... | |
| I am Falling aprt inside... | 5/22/2008 |
| Q: My fiance and I have known each other for nearly ten years. We have been together almost five full ... A: This situation sounds very confusing. Five years is a long time to suddenly have a change of heart ... | |
| help!!!!!!!!! | 5/21/2008 |
| Q: after 6 months of being single i began a relationship with a wonderful man. i fell in love with him ... A: I am sorry to hear about what you are going through. I don't really want to sound harsh or ... | |
| Am I dumped? | 5/4/2008 |
| Q: I have met this guy online. we truly like each other a lot. He had treated me like a princess. In ... A: I think there is an issue, if you don't want him to touch you in public, appropriately, that is. If ... | |
| my girlfriend | 5/2/2008 |
| Q: I've been seeing my girlfriend for about 8 months. Recently we hadn't seen each other much, once in ... A: I think you have the right to be honest in this relationship. By that, I'm not saying you are not ... | |
| Im just not important enough | 5/1/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my man friend for 3 years, 2 of which we are living together. We are not kids, ... A: There are different kinds of love in the world. I would run like crazy from any man who doesn't ... | |
| Am i dumped? | 5/1/2008 |
| Q: ive been going out with tom for 6 months now, we have had our fair share of ups and downs and he has ... A: I don't know if you are dumped or not. I do know, you crossed a serious line in the area of trust. ... | |
| My boyfriend calls his ex-girlfriends | 4/28/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years. A while ago, I discovered that he's been talking to ... A: Love and trust go hand in hand. If you can't trust him, I'm guessing life is going to get more ... | |
| change me | 4/17/2008 |
| Q: My girlfriend and i have been together for 3 years and weve have some issues lately. Just this past ... A: I know you love this woman, but it sounds like she will always have some issue. Some people are ... | |
| he fell in love with other | 4/14/2008 |
| Q: i with my bf been together for 5 yrs and 3 months. he made friend with his girl colleague and they ... A: I don't mean to sound unkind. I am very sorry for what you are going through. It really sounds ... | |
| change me | 4/14/2008 |
| Q: My girlfriend and i have been together for 3 years and weve have some issues lately. Just this past ... A: As my bio states, I am a minister and I just happen to know about what you are asking. You are ... | |
| Realtionship Hurt | 4/13/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 5 years, three years ago through a hobby of mine I met a woman with whom I ... A: I think space is what is in order. If you want to be single from the woman you are married, then ... | |
| Hmm. | 4/9/2008 |
| Q: Well to make a long story short, I'm 20 he's 21, we've been together for three years. The first two ... A: If he is going through some sort of awakening, then that's where he is. I have no idea what ... | |
| Need another chance to prove myself | 4/8/2008 |
| Q: I have been living with my girlfriend for more than 3 years now. She has an 11 year old son. We both ... A: Many people play with relationships until the other one is finally finished, then the one playing is ... | |
| Dated a college friend, what went wrong? | 4/5/2008 |
| Q: I am writing you today for some of your advice. I have never done this online before but I am really ... A: I think the two of you are simply not a match made in heaven. Many friendships are wonderful as ... | |
| 5 Year relationship thats in peril | 4/3/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 years. We are polar opposites. We have managed to do ... A: It sounds like you are two people in severe pain, trying to build a life on commiseration. I think ... | |
| Kindred Please Help! THANK U!!!! | 4/1/2008 |
| Q: First of all thank you so much for taking in my question. I am under a lot of duress, and issues. My ... A: Your relationship truly sounds like a walk across egg shells. You need to tell Bryan, you are not ... | |
| Not Ready For Relationship | 4/1/2008 |
| Q: Okay. So. Were in high school. Im a Junior. Shes a freshman. Things seemed okay in my new ... A: From the sounds of what you describe, I think there is more to the story that this young lady simply ... | |
| how to strengthen my relationship | 3/23/2008 |
| Q: I am in a situation where my boyfriend is not in love with me anymore, but still loves and cares ... A: Has he said he is no longer "in love" or is that your term for where you think he is? Males and ... | |
| marriage falling apart | 3/22/2008 |
| Q: i am 29 year old and my husband is 27. we have been together for 6 years and married for 4 years. ... A: It sounds like you both have hurt each other and I think that's what you should address between the ... | |
| Taking a break from our relationship | 2/28/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been living together for 3 1/2 years. We came into the relationship with ... A: I agree with you. It's time for a break. You were independent when he found you! And these guys ... | |
| Wow... | 2/23/2008 |
| Q: I am in the bad situation: My boyfriend now views family, marriage, sex, and relationships as bad. ... A: I'm sorry for all that you are going through. The last paragraph you shared, sheds a great deal of ... | |
| relationship issues... | 2/15/2008 |
| Q: how do i gain my ex boyfriends trust back again... meaning to show him that i have changed and i ... A: A relationship is not about just one person's needs. You do need to tell him you love him and you ... | |
| relationship issues... | 2/12/2008 |
| Q: how do i gain my ex boyfriends trust back again... meaning to show him that i have changed and i ... A: I know once you are over your anger, you do not want to be the person you have been when you were ... | |
| I'm not a stepmother I have no stepdaughter | 2/8/2008 |
| Q: She's 28 and I think she hates me. We stopped communicating. We had a great relationship from the ... A: If you've done what you can all these years and it only took one misunderstanding for her to stop ... | |
| Life has become routine | 2/6/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for 9 years, and our love life has become so routine. We both ... A: Often times monogamy seems to equate with monotony, but it can just be a phase. I have a couple of ... | |
| I can't let her walk out of my life | 1/31/2008 |
| Q: I've been dating my girlfriend for 2 months now. I first noticed her at school and she is hands down ... A: This is one of those situations in which I wish I had just the right thing to do, but I don't. I ... | |
| Is there a time limit to meeting your boyfriends family? | 1/31/2008 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with this guy for two years. I'm currently pregnant with his child. I ... A: Let me help you sort this out. He has been dating you for two years. You are currently pregnant ... | |
| my boyfriend | 1/31/2008 |
| Q: I have a boyfriend named Princeton.We've been going out for almost 9 months and I love him to death! ... A: Men are as different as women are. If you feel that you are fat, you are going to reflect that in ... | |
| 3 year relationship down the tubes. | 1/20/2008 |
| Q: I've been with my girlfriend for a little over 3 years now. Things were great for the first 2 1/2 ... A: I really don't think my answer will seem much different, but I'm going to elaborate a bit. These ... | |
| 3 year relationship down the tubes. | 1/20/2008 |
| Q: I've been with my girlfriend for a little over 3 years now. Things were great for the first 2 1/2 ... A: I'm not taking sides here, and my answer is not set in stone, but . . . If you were planning to ... | |
| Making it work. | 1/18/2008 |
| Q: My 'girlfriend' and I have been together for a year and a half now. We've had problems on both ... A: Your post sounds pretty indepth, insightful, and communicated quite well, I might add. Here is my ... | |
| He's not sure he wants to be with me... | 1/18/2008 |
| Q: Some background: I'm 25 and he's 32. We've been together for 1.5 years and have been living together ... A: This is probably going to sound old fashioned, but please, read this on out . . . I think moving in ... | |
| Dealing with Fiance's Ex and Baby's Mom | 1/17/2008 |
| Q: I am in a relationship of 2 years now and am 6 months recently engaged. I guess you could say I ... A: All of your concerns and questions are real, important and should be considered. You are not crazy. ... | |
| Relationship Question | 1/16/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend of 2 years and I have had a rocky road. I am 28 and he is 27. I am a lawyer and my ... A: I am hesitant to answer this, as I get the feeling you have a predetermined answer in mind, but I ... | |
| breakup | 1/14/2008 |
| Q: " i dated my girlfriend for almost 6 months. there never seemed to be any serious issues. then out ... A: Yes, I do believe she saw this trip coming prior to the break up. I can't really comment on your ... | |
| Breakup | 1/12/2008 |
| Q: I've been very lonely and depressed for a very long time. My ex girl-friend and I had dated for four ... A: You made mention of the Bible. If you know and G~D knows you didn't cheat, then that is the ... | |
| breakup | 1/11/2008 |
| Q: " i dated my girlfriend for almost 6 months. there never seemed to be any serious issues. then out ... A: I will begin this with addressing your last point first. A mismatch just doesn't work, and I got ... | |
| breakup | 1/10/2008 |
| Q: " i dated my girlfriend for almost 6 months. there never seemed to be any serious issues. then out ... A: I am sorry this has caused you so much pain. I read through all your numbered reasons and questions ... | |
| Is it worth saving? | 1/8/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I split up just under a year ago after losing our son. We'd been together 3 years. ... A: I can tell you that marriage and divorce statistics indicate most married couples that experience ... | |
| learning | 12/27/2007 |
| Q: I am trying to understand something. What does it mean when a partner cries during love making. ... A: I do not fully understand this question as it relates to "strengthening a relationship," as it ... | |
| Relationship confusion | 11/21/2007 |
| Q: I'm so confused about my relationship with my boyfriend. I have been dating him for several months ... A: Don't let his mother change the relationship. If you like this guy and you enjoy his company, then ... | |
| Rebuilding trust | 11/15/2007 |
| Q: I have been in a long distance relationship for 2 years.However by the time i met my fiance he had ... A: You have several variables in this trust issue, and all of them are substantial. First, the fact ... | |
| relationships | 11/14/2007 |
| Q: I been with my boyfriend for two years on & off.He was in a common law marrige for seven years,that ... A: I am not an attorney, but I do know some states recognize common law marriage as binding, so make ... | |
| Mason | 11/10/2007 |
| Q: Hi, my name is Caroline and I'm in 6th grade. Me and this guy I have had a crush on for a while ... A: I am a grandma, so I'm not really sure what "going out (a lot)" means in regard to sixth graders. ... | |
| Rebuilding trust | 11/8/2007 |
| Q: What is the best book which covers the topic of rebuilding trust in relationship in depth? A: I recommend the Bible for all of life's answers. There are tons of books written about ... | |
| just about everything. | 11/8/2007 |
| Q: iv been with my parner for 14 months and we dont talk anymore. there is long uncomftable ... A: I am going to say this as gently as possible. He sounds like a classic example of "misery loves ... | |
| Lost Trust. Mend a Relationship | 11/7/2007 |
| Q: I have lost the most amazing woman in the world. We lived together for a year and a half. The ... A: I read that you call yourself "an open book" and "open and honest," but that isn't what your ... | |
| 2 brake up or not 2 brake up | 11/7/2007 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend for six months and in the begining everything was fine. We spend almost ... A: Perhaps you need to ask yourself some questions. If he tells you that he has priorities ahead of ... | |
| Important question | 11/5/2007 |
| Q: I am 21 years old have been seeing this guy who is 25 years old, from my son's barbershop for about ... A: I have thought about your question at great length, because I just wasn't sure what to say. I am ... | |
| Married man | 11/5/2007 |
| Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for about 8 months now and everything is going well. We recently ... A: You are 100% correct in your feelings. If she is pregnant, then she has a boyfriend, also? or is ... | |
| Relationship with Ex | 11/2/2007 |
| Q: I have been dating this guy for about six months who has in my opinion the strangest relationship ... A: I am just going to respond to this as honestly as I can. I don't get a good feeling about this ... | |
| dating. | 11/2/2007 |
| Q: om A: If you would like private correspondence, you can reach me from my website which I will give beneath ... | |
| Taking a break | 11/1/2007 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and we have lived together for just over a year. We have ... A: If he's been hinting at a committed relationship, then he's really got some things to sort out. I ... | |
| two year relationship | 10/30/2007 |
| Q: I'v'e been in a relationship for 2 years and my boyfriend recently spoke to me about not being ... A: Although I can't tell you exactly what the problem is and when it began, I can tell you if you try ... | |
| Regrets | 10/29/2007 |
| Q: okay, a site for problems. my life has been hectic and im reaching out for help. i have been with ... A: If you do not want to give up on Sarah, then why is there a Val in your life? Your term "troubling ... | |
| G/F | 10/28/2007 |
| Q: Hey whats up. Look my G/F has a lot of freinds and thinks it's okay to hang out with them with out ... A: I am frequently puzzled by young people's usage of the terms boyfriend or girlfriend. It's like a ... | |
| did he really cheat | 10/26/2007 |
| Q: i read that the #1 way to kno if my man is cheating is if he says he is one place and really ... A: It sounds like the two of you have a number of trust issues. If you are married, sit down and talk ... | |
| helping her with my previous marriage | 10/26/2007 |
| Q: I'm 26 years old and I'm divorced. I got married when I was 22 and I wasn't ready and I wasn't with ... A: You have a real dilemma on your hands. I hope the two of you can actually make the transition, ... | |
| Help! | 10/25/2007 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship for over 4 yrs. Recently we broke up. Things started to get rocky btwn ... A: I can't tell from your post if you've not heard from him since he spent the night or two weeks after ... | |
| what's happening? | 10/22/2007 |
| Q: Ok, I'm really in love with this guy, his name is Jarrett, we've been dating on and off, and broke ... A: I don't know how old you are, but from your reference of school, I am going to answer this question ... | |
| Difficult conversation | 10/22/2007 |
| Q: Kindred, I’ve been divorced for almost two years. I met someone over the internet about 8 months ... A: I think the man does care about you, but I do think he has some issues that may be from his diabetes ... | |
| she wants to leave | 10/22/2007 |
| Q: nine months before moving to a new state and accepting a new job opportunity. I met the love of my ... A: You have discovered the painful truth that many modern couples experience. Your heart is fully in ... | |
| relationship problem | 10/19/2007 |
| Q: I am having serious relationship problems with my partner of 4 yrs, we have 2 young children ... A: Addiction is a tough issue in a relationship, because it involves trust, and because the addiction ... | |
| Getting my ex back | 10/18/2007 |
| Q: My girlfriend broke up with me like a week in a half ago because I wasn't being express in my ... A: I'm sorry to have to be the one to tell you this, but if you have opened up to communicate and she ... | |
| help my boyfriend is not affectioned | 10/18/2007 |
| Q: I am desperate and nowhere to turn anymore. I recently did a search on the Internet on how to get ... A: If he is giving you more attention by you backing off of the pressure, then give it some more time. ... | |
| How do I get my self esteem back from being brought down so low? | 10/18/2007 |
| Q: ) I believe I have a unique situation. I am 27 and recently ended a year and two month ... A: I'm sorry this guy has you doubting yourself so much. What you refer to as intimacy is simply sex. ... | |
| Question about taking a break with Girlfriend | 10/18/2007 |
| Q: I am 19 and my girlfriend is 19. We were dating for two years up until a month ago in which she ... A: Since the break up was not mutual, and her statements only make you feel more worse about the ... | |
| self respect | 10/16/2007 |
| Q: An old saying states, " Respect your wife without sacrificing your self respect ". The one who wrote ... A: I also have a saying "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." Trying to define terms in ... | |
| me and my gf are taking a break | 10/16/2007 |
| Q: Me and my gf at age 15 her and 17 me have been going out for over 2 years we are 100% in love with ... A: I am not comfortable with this for many reasons, but it is not my life, nor my decision, so . . . I ... | |
| Question about taking a break with Girlfriend | 10/15/2007 |
| Q: I am 19 and my girlfriend is 19. We were dating for two years up until a month ago in which she ... A: Please don't give anyone that much control in your life, that you would consider suicide. It sounds ... | |
| Getting my ex back | 10/9/2007 |
| Q: My girlfriend broke up with me like a week in a half ago because I wasn't being express in my ... A: If the reason she broke up with you is your failure to communicate, then communicate. Tell her how ... | |
| 9 months.. | 10/9/2007 |
| Q: I am 24 my boyfriend of now 9 months (which we have lived together for almost a year) is 32. He is a ... A: Sometimes it is difficult to tell whether a man is bored, disinterested, or just comfortable. I ... | |
| Should I breakup??? | 9/19/2007 |
| Q: I am 24, female from India. I am in love with a dovorcee guy since last year, and we both are from ... A: I don't have a good feeling about this guy at all. If you are wondering if you should break up, if ... | |
| marriage | 9/18/2007 |
| Q: Being 26 years old male, I have got married with my first maternal cousin who is 8 months elder than ... A: I'm sorry that you feel that your wife is being disrespectful. If you tell her this is a problem ... | |
| PLEASE HELP!!!! THANK U MUCH!!! | 9/17/2007 |
| Q: I was going out with this guy named Ricky for seven or eight months. When we met for the first time ... A: Everything that we love is not necessarily good for us. He sounds like trouble. He's playing two ... | |
| I let too much out the bag how do I fix this situation? | 9/13/2007 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend have been dating a little over a year, I'm 24 and he's 26. What happens is that ... A: Things have already changed drastically between the two of you. You stated that you have gone from ... | |
| question | 9/12/2007 |
| Q: He has now changed and matured so within a month we have become engaged. He is not possessive, ... A: I can't really address the dynamics of your relationship, but I can tell you this. If I am ... | |
| love | 9/4/2007 |
| Q: i have relationship of 6 years with my girl friend. but past 1 month i have become bit possessive ... A: Why did you suddenly get possessive? Perhaps you were sensing something. Rather than emotionally ... | |
| talking | 9/4/2007 |
| Q: A little background. I met my boyfriend online around Christmas last year. We lived in different ... A: You explained that you have already discussed marriage, etc. prior to your relocation. Perhaps he ... | |
| why doesn't my boyfriend want to spend time with me | 9/1/2007 |
| Q: I been with this guy for a while and said he want to spend as much time as passable with me. But he ... A: It sounds like you have much more invested in this relationship than he does. His days are spent as ... | |
| Dating a divorced man | 8/23/2007 |
| Q: I am having a problem that I have been trying to find some help for but it is starting to feel like ... A: I don't think you are alone in your feelings, I just think most other situations don't pinpoint the ... | |
| my love | 8/22/2007 |
| Q: my boyfriend n i have been going on for abt 3 yrs plus together n we r happy together... theres many ... A: It's time to be honest with him. Tell him you feel that he is taking things out on you that are not ... | |
| Ideas | 8/19/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend leaves for basic military training in 16 days! It lasts 4 months. I was wondering if ... A: Everyone has a different definition of exciting, but I would suggest the things the two of you ... | |
| Dating/Communication | 8/15/2007 |
| Q: I never would have, in a million years, thought I'd be writing to you today but my feelings for ... A: Men are frequently not as "talkative" as women. My advice is simple. Simply tell her exactly what ... | |
| please help. | 8/14/2007 |
| Q: i need help. im so far gone... i dont think i even WANT to come back.. this is my last hope. the ... A: I'm sorry to give you an answer you probably don't want, but there is absolutely nothing healthy ... | |
| what can i do? | 7/27/2007 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend for about a year now and we just started having problems around January. ... A: Guard your heart. I'm not saying that your boyfriend is a cheat, but there is an old cliche that ... | |
| parents | 7/26/2007 |
| Q: I'm 18 years old (female)and i'm having a lot of issues with my parents. i stayed with my friend at ... A: Two years is a long time to prove yourself and for them to calm down. Technically you are making ... | |
| Getting over the love of my life | 7/25/2007 |
| Q: I have a very unique situation to share with you. I met someone roughly 10 years ago (I was 18) he ... A: Until you get over this now "married man," your life will not move on. If he was the love of your ... | |
| being cheated on | 7/24/2007 |
| Q: Five months ago I was cheated on and left for the other woman. I am very sad. How do I get over ... A: As I mentioned, he may have had a change of heart, or the new relationship may be rocky. I truly ... | |
| being cheated on | 7/22/2007 |
| Q: Five months ago I was cheated on and left for the other woman. I am very sad. How do I get over ... A: Please be careful. Keep your heart protected. Right now, you don't know, if he's had a change of ... | |
| being cheated on | 7/19/2007 |
| Q: Five months ago I was cheated on and left for the other woman. I am very sad. How do I get over ... A: I am sorry for this disillusioning situation. The wound is still pretty fresh. Give yourself some ... | |
| my relationship | 7/17/2007 |
| Q: my boyfriend and I have been going out for five months. We were really happy for the first couple ... A: If the two of you are still friends, then the relationship has not ended. Your description of ... | |
| I messed up... | 7/16/2007 |
| Q: My relationship with my boyfriend, or now ex is very odd. We started dating when I was 15, and broke ... A: The only thing you can do is to tell him that he has no reason to trust you, right now, but . . . ... | |
| Did we start off on the wrong foot? | 7/11/2007 |
| Q: I am 24 and my boyfriend is 33. We met in a neutral setting which progressed due to an intense ... A: I would say if you feel that 24 and 33 is a major age difference, then perhaps it is. I'm sure he ... | |
| relationship in need of help and hurry | 7/9/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend and i have been together for just over a year,we met at probly the worst and best time ... A: If the two of you are not married, then living together is going to be difficult at best, and even ... | |
| Ugh | 6/22/2007 |
| Q: I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 20. We've been together over two years. Lately, he's not been saying "I ... A: I'm sorry for what you are going through. I would say his family may be pressuring him and he just ... | |
| How To Strengthen Your Relationship | 6/21/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend an I have been dating going on 3 years now. And for the past year or so, I havent been ... A: Until you are ready to be married, you should be living alone. Perhaps you aren't happy because the ... | |
| Dating someone who can't get over my children | 6/19/2007 |
| Q: Here goes... I am recently divorced with two under three yrs old children. I left my marriage for ... A: If he knew you when you were still with your ex, then there is always going to be some reminder for ... | |
| Obsessive and Controlling | 6/19/2007 |
| Q: I suppose you hear many questions about “my partner is obsessive and controlling” But this is ... A: I will be happy to offer any assistance I can as you move through this time toward a healthy ... | |
| guys.....they suck | 5/18/2007 |
| Q: okay, well i have this boyfriend named andrew, and hes SO unattentive to me! I love him with all my ... A: At the risk of giving a response that you may not like, I'm going to say this. Your question sounds ... | |
| Cancelled Wedding | 5/14/2007 |
| Q: I know that there is usually more history then what you get in an email or meeting for the first ... A: You and he purchased this home together and you have a child. It's time to sit down, and put your ... | |
| dating troubles | 5/9/2007 |
| Q: I have known a man since I was 20. We're now 35 and 36. he is divorced (approx. 3 years). Since ... A: I think you should just relax and trust him a bit. He's made a point of the fact that you are his ... | |
| I think I want to leave | 5/8/2007 |
| Q: I would like to have insight on my situation. I am dating someone who is 20yrs older than I, we have ... A: If you aren't married, you are free to leave whenever you like. His kids don't like you and he ... | |
| Blended families and dating | 5/8/2007 |
| Q: I have fallen in love with a wonderful man. We have known each other for over a year but seriously ... A: I totally admire your decision and applaud the stand you have taken. If he is in denial now, just ... | |
| I just don't know what to do anymore. | 5/3/2007 |
| Q: My boydriend and I have been together for 7 years this month. We built a house together after being ... A: I already told you why I think these things happen. People build a lot without the foundation of ... | |
| I just don't know what to do anymore. | 5/3/2007 |
| Q: My boydriend and I have been together for 7 years this month. We built a house together after being ... A: If you would like to continue corresponding about this, that would be fine. In the mean time, I can ... | |
| Dealing With His Ex-Wife - HELP :( | 5/2/2007 |
| Q: I met my Fiancé in college about seven months ago. When I met him he was separated of his soon to be ... A: I agree with your idea. She is not his ex-wife, yet; regardless of how much he wants that. Perhaps ... | |
| lazy | 4/29/2007 |
| Q: I have a minor problem, my boyfriend/roommate, ( more or less my roommate),,is living with me for ... A: I probably am not going to give you the answer you want to hear, but here goes. You say you need to ... | |
| dont know where to go from here | 4/27/2007 |
| Q: I feel like my fiance says "I love you", but his actions say the opposite. I'm in vet school & have ... A: I am sorry for your situation. Your boyfriend is certainly not the first young man to return from ... | |
| my jealousy | 4/25/2007 |
| Q: i am a 34 yr old woman who has been involved in a loving and committed relationship for nearly a ... A: Your situation caused me to really put my thinking cap on. This is a somewhat unique situation. ... | |
| losing the love of my life | 4/24/2007 |
| Q: Dr. Nath, I am a 25 y.o malayalee female, raised with good morals both religious and familial. So ... A: You keep referring to this man as your husband, but that is not the case. Your family is looking ... | |
| don't know what to do anymore. | 4/23/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend and i just had a little girl in march of this year,I have a 9yr old daughter and a 7yr ... A: I am sorry that you are getting to know each other after so many facts and without commitment. ... | |
| Obvious yet confusing | 4/23/2007 |
| Q: She's 26 and I'm 24. Our relationship has been 2 years old and a few struggling months. We started ... A: You sound like a wonderful young man with a promising future, and very responsible and sensitive. ... | |
| FIANCE IS NOT WILLING TO MAKE THINGS WORK | 4/14/2007 |
| Q: I really don't know what to exactly to do her. My Fiance and I just seperated about three days ago. ... A: It sounds like she has an issue that has taken the "break up" to get your attention. To be honest, ... | |
| personality | 4/11/2007 |
| Q: I have sent this question to a few other experts but they seemed to be maxed out unfortuantely. I ... A: Contact him in writing, keep it short and make it plain, but pleasant. Tell him you miss him and ... | |
| Strengthening a Relationship | 2/28/2007 |
| Q: I was just wondering if you knew how my girlfriend and I would be able to share our souls with each ... A: Moving on in a relationship is exciting, but renders you vulnerable so, go slowly. First, don't ... | |
| Confused but determined! | 2/26/2007 |
| Q: ok, my cousin asked if her friend could stay with me for 4 weeks while on a holiday visiting the ... A: You sound like a very kind and thoughtful gentleman. I think you should be honest, but not ... | |
| strengthening relationship | 2/10/2007 |
| Q: I want to know is it ok to hide our relationship from people surround us that causes much ... A: I do not know your age, so I will answer your question from both perspectives. If you are under age ... | |
| getting over the past | 2/9/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend of two years and I have been through a lot. When we first met, it was completely like ... A: Only you can decide if this is a case of true and enduring love or "misery loves company." If you ... | |
| boyfriend issues | 2/8/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend of two years has recently chosen a religion that has convined him that sex is nothing ... A: Religion plays a huge role in establishing how someone feels about their sexuality. If he has ... | |
| New relationship | 11/20/2006 |
| Q: I have been dating a man for about 4 months now. He has children from a previous marriage, in which ... A: Please hang on to your heart. This sounds a bit touchy. I never recommend dating married men, even ... | |
| End of my rope! | 11/17/2006 |
| Q: Again, I do thank you for your time and consideration. I wanted to say that your response makes ... A: concerning your revelation. Continue to seek your One True Father and He will reveal His plan for ... | |
| End of my rope! | 11/16/2006 |
| Q: I will apologize in advance for being so long winded it is just my nature. My problem lies within my ... A: I am going to be very honest with you. I hear you crying out for something, but you are not sure ... | |
| love | 11/9/2006 |
| Q: tbank you for that. He used to live by himself, but he lost his job and moved to his parents ... A: I think his "maybe" response is just one more negative contribution to the relationship. I would ... | |
| is this because of divorce? | 11/6/2006 |
| Q: Okay-well I'll start with last year was my first year of high school and my Dad had an affair. Then ... A: Please forgive my delayed response, and I truly hope you have focused and attempted to analyze my ... | |
| I want my boyfriend to want me. | 11/4/2006 |
| Q: My boyfriend and i have been together for 8 months. We have a great relationship and we have great ... A: Usually when men are comfortable, they do get quiet and perhaps seem preoccupied with other things. ... | |
| I backed away but now so has he...what do I do now? | 11/3/2006 |
| Q: I think you might be right, but I did give him space and he accused me of neglecting him and not ... A: I didn't give you advice to manipulate him into a reaction. My advice was to actually get back to ... | |
| Help! | 11/3/2006 |
| Q: I have extreme insecurity issues with my boyfriend for no reason. I deep down always believe that he ... A: You are right, this will destroy your relationship. If you can't trust him, you must have a reason, ... | |
| Can I back away without compromising the relationship? | 10/31/2006 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for a little over 2 months, and every thing was going great. We were ... A: Too much close has already compromised the relationship. I have to disagree with your last ... | |
| Save my life | 9/12/2006 |
| Q: I am an Iranian male,age 28 and I am a pharmacist.My ex-wife Rose is 26 and a housewife.We got ... A: Your second post sounds very different from your first. Are you sure you want a reconciliation, and ... | |
| Relationship help | 9/12/2006 |
| Q: Kindred, Thank you for writing back. I sense your frustration. I know my situation is complex. But ... A: I am sorry you read frustration into my answer. In reality, I have no reason to get frustrated with ... | |
| Save my life | 9/11/2006 |
| Q: I am an Iranian male,age 28 and I am a pharmacist.My ex-wife Rose is 26 and a housewife.We got ... A: All I can do is share what I know. If I understand you properly, there is a practicality to the two ... | |
| Relationship help | 9/11/2006 |
| Q: I'm not sure I was clear in my first message, but I made the mistake of letting S move back into my ... A: Yes, you told me that S had moved in. To be very honest, it seems that I am missing something here. ... | |
| Relationship help | 9/10/2006 |
| Q: I was wondering if anyone could help me? I was married for twelve years to a man (S) that left me ... A: I hope S doesn't intercept your e-mail, but I am going to be very honest, here, and I hope you ... | |
| fiance and soon to be step son. | 9/3/2006 |
| Q: my fiance and I have been together for 2 years our children( his son 12, my daughter 4, and our ... A: You have a real problem that will not be easily resolved. Your fiance, obviously isn't really ... | |
| Relationship | 8/30/2006 |
| Q: I am 27 years old and have been dating a twenty four year old male for about 5 months...He has a one ... A: It sounds like he has another priority right now. I don't know if it is temporary or permanent. ... | |
| Communication | 7/31/2006 |
| Q: I am a 36 year old male that has been dating a 39 year old widow for two years. I love this woman ... A: Women are usually more "chatty" and communicative than men, it's just the way we are all made. I ... | |
| Unique relationship issue | 7/26/2006 |
| Q: I don't even know where to start. My ex-fiance and I were scheduled to get married 8/19 and as of ... A: Your relationship issue is far from unique. Your relationship issue is precisely and commonly known ... | |
| Arguing, verbally abusive, no trust | 7/25/2006 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 5 yrs. and our relationship was nice for the first couple of ... A: If I read this correctly, you have had about 2 years out of 5 that were nice and the rest has been a ... | |
| Talking Subjects | 7/22/2006 |
| Q: Rite well me and this girl really like each other and we are pretty much boyfriend & girlfriend. Its ... A: Perhaps I'm a bit confused. If you don't have much in common and you don't really communicate well ... | |
| married 4 yrs blended family not working need to get out | 7/19/2006 |
| Q: I know my marriage is the major contributor to my issues. cognitive, financial, emotional, mental. ... A: It sounds as though you and your wife are simply "not on the same page." By the sound of your ... | |
| I'm 20 and she's 17. | 7/12/2006 |
| Q: I'm going to make this short and quick. I have been working with this girl who is 17 and I'm really ... A: You sound like a very nice young man and I think 3 years is not too much of an age difference, but! ... | |
| iso my wife | 7/8/2006 |
| Q: I've been married for 16 very good years. The last 6 months have been a little shakey. we stopped ... A: I don't know what to say. You tell me you have had 16 very good years of marriage, but nothing you ... | |
| Where did I go wrong | 7/7/2006 |
| Q: I am in a bind. A girl I dated about 5 years ago just moved back to my city about two weeks ago and ... A: Your subject line "Where did I go wrong?" My answer: spending the night with her. What you ... | |
| she needs a break | 7/6/2006 |
| Q: b/c the love of my life thinks she needs a break. We talked about it and her reasoning is b/c she ... A: I'm not into "games" and I don't suggestion them for others. If you met only two weeks after a ... | |
| Relationship roadblock | 7/6/2006 |
| Q: This question is dealing with how to strengthen a relationship and a little bit about cheating. I'm ... A: It sounds as though you are drawn to women that you perhaps cannot trust fully. If you are dating a ... | |
| My girlfriend keeps thinking about her ex and thinks we should | 6/14/2006 |
| Q: okay. well i was seeing this girl for about three months right after i met her. We bonded like no ... A: I will do the best I can to help you understand how a woman's mind works in this, but my husband ... | |
| a little scared | 5/24/2006 |
| Q: I have had feelings for a female friend for years. Our story is much like a movie and feels like it ... A: The two of you sound almost like "star-crossed" lovers. It seems when one is ready, the ... | |
| Ive been with my boyfriend... | 5/16/2006 |
| Q: Ive been with my boyfriend for 1yr 4mnths i do love him and he says he loves me but i recently ... A: I would say this is really out of my realm, as I do not know how the internet and intimacy works. ... | |
| girlfriend | 5/4/2006 |
| Q: this is not any easy question but maybe you can help.i have been with a russian girl for 2 years. we ... A: So she's the girl for you if she can sort her head out . . . then I guess all you need to do is ... | |
| Please help! | 5/4/2006 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together over two years, and are talking about getting married. We ... A: Before we go any farther, I must address your statement before "I need a solution." >I know that if ... | |
| Friends | 4/17/2006 |
| Q: Last year i met this girl at work. After a couple of mounths of talking i relized I really liked ... A: Your inquiry has truly touched my heart. I want to help you and perhaps this may sound trite, so ... | |
| Want to have sex with my lover | 3/19/2006 |
| Q: I am 25 year old batchelor, working as supervisor in a firm. I am in love with the wife (aged 30) of ... A: This really isn't my area of expertise, as my area pertains to relationships. This is headed for ... | |
| Winning Back Her Heart | 3/10/2006 |
| Q: My wife and I have been together for 5 years. During that time she has put up with a lot of crap ... A: As I read of your situation, it is one that is all too frequent in relationships, today. Few people ... | |
| Possessiveness | 2/17/2006 |
| Q: I'm an 18 year old female who's dating an 18 guy since November '05. I think I have a huge problem. ... A: Your relationship sounds very unstable almost to the point of frightening. I do not think his ... | |
| Need to win her heart | 1/31/2006 |
| Q: Hey. Currently, I am dating a girl. She is the woman of my dreams, and I would do almost anything ... A: My advice on the sex question is: If you are not married, don't have it! Now as far as display of ... | |
| Hi | 1/14/2006 |
| Q: I know I keep bugging you and it's because your short reply to my initial question was very ... A: I am sorry you had a bad day. I am going to give you some very direct "advice." That is something ... | |
| seperation | 1/13/2006 |
| Q: I have asked so many for help and loved what you wrote- my instincts are saying 'this lady can help ... A: I have already responded to your "last question" which was first in my inbox. I realize you sound ... | |
| my girl in texas | 12/2/2005 |
| Q: Me and my girl have a long distance relationship(me in ny, her in texas) i have trusted her, she ... A: I understand your concern and frankly, I have a problem with her behavior and style. As far as the ... | |
| Emotional Security in a dating relationship | 11/7/2005 |
| Q: I'm a senior in magazine journalism at Drake University in Des Moines, Iowa. I'm writing an article ... A: I will share what I can with you. I am a Messianic missionary. I, live as literally according to ... | |
| cheating | 11/5/2005 |
| Q: before i go into it i should ask if i have the right category for my question i suppose... are you ... A: I never advise anyone to have sex outside of marriage, but I will be happy to discuss how you might ... | |
| My "friend" | 10/29/2005 |
| Q: You may remember me but about a month ago I emailed you regarding my friend, Wesley. And I told you ... A: Guys like things to stay the same! So many times when people start sharing their emotions, feelings ... | |
| Strengthening lost love | 10/9/2005 |
| Q: I really need your help, I have no one else to turn, I am really sad. I just want to start from the ... A: Your attire through your years in high school sounds very much like so many others. Do you really ... | |
| When the Old Flame Becomes the New Problem | 10/7/2005 |
| Q: Let me start by saying that I have been in a long-distance, lesbian relationship for over a year. I ... A: I really don't have a frame of reference for your question in my personal beliefs. I just don't ... | |
| Hello my name is Melissa.... | 9/13/2005 |
| Q: Me and my fiance have been back together for about a year and a half. We were seperated for about ... A: I understand what you are saying about the responsibility you had with your child, while he got the ... | |
| Wesley | 9/4/2005 |
| Q: Hey! Thank you so much for your time... I am very confused about one of my friends. This ... A: Shelby, I have already answered your birthday question in another response, but I will address this ... | |
| His birthday | 9/4/2005 |
| Q: Okay I have liked this guy for a long time, i have never told him i like him but he knows...anyway ... A: Shelby, I'm sorry I don't have a clue what to recommend for a gift, but a cake would be a nice ... | |
| dating someone who is divorced with children | 8/28/2005 |
| Q: I am 33 and my boyfriend is 37. We have been dated for a few months and have really grown to like ... A: Give him the amount of time and space that you are comfortable with. He says he cares about you, ... | |
| girl | 8/9/2005 |
| Q: I like this girl who I see in youth group but does not know how to approach her. HOw shall I ask her ... A: First!!! Don't try to impress her, just keep doing what you have been doing, but "approach" her. I ... | |
| How do I help him? | 7/15/2005 |
| Q: ..I told him to take a few days away from me so he could think but 2 hrs later he came back crying ... A: It sounds as though your boyfriend has some things he needs to think through. He may be finding ... | |
| in difficult times | 7/12/2005 |
| Q: I have started seeing a gentlemen recently that I really like and I know the feeling is mutual ... A: What two selfless people the two of you sound to be. I really pray your relationship strengthens. ... | |
| Marriage | 5/25/2005 |
| Q: How would a couple come together to strenghten their marriage, if only one person wants to try? A: If only one person wants to try, then that one person will have to choose how much they are willing ... | |
| saving my relationship | 5/24/2005 |
| Q: been with my g/f for about a little over a year. The most she's been with someone before that was a ... A: If you have a car and can come up with the money and time for a spectacular event with a girl ... | |
| Trust issues | 5/18/2005 |
| Q: I'm hoping you can offer me some solid advice. I've been in two bad marriages. Both husbands were ... A: I would advise that you not date until the divorce is final. Any time in a relationship that there ... | |
| What should I do? | 5/4/2005 |
| Q: I would really appreciate if you could help me/ give me your opinion. I'm a 20 year old girl. I met ... A: This sounds like a wonderful love story or at least a pure romantic adventure. Since you have ... | |
| Commitment | 3/31/2005 |
| Q: My name is Bryan and I really need you to help me as soon as possible! I have been dating this ... A: You must make the commitment decision. You are the one that decided to "shop around." That feeling ... | |
| hey. i want to keep it... | 3/17/2005 |
| Q: hey. i want to keep it simple... i love a gal. its been more than 1 year. i love her so much ... A: I would like to help you, but you have already told me you cannot accept my best advice, so I am not ... | |
| Me and this guy were dating... | 3/3/2005 |
| Q: Me and this guy were dating for 4 years on and off and I have been moving in between florida and ... A: Absolutely, move on! He is with another woman and obviously not faithful to her. That passionate ... | |
| conversation | 2/13/2005 |
| Q: My boyfriend and i dont go to the same school but we see eachother atleastt once a week and usually ... A: Shelby, I wouldn't force it, as you both may begin to feel bored or boring. Maybe the conversations ... | |
| blended family | 2/1/2005 |
| Q: my name is Cindy I am 36 years old and have two children a 14 year old daughter and 9 year old son.I ... A: I think you are setting Jack and your son up to have a real problem later. My advice is this: You ... | |
| marriage problems | 1/30/2005 |
| Q: -She is not a houswife. She is unemployed and can not find work in her field. And will not accept ... A: Well John, If you married her unemployed, then you did not get surprised. If this has come about ... | |
| marriage problems | 1/29/2005 |
| Q: I have been married for 7 months. I am having marriage problems already. The first problem is ... A: Let me see what I can do to encourage you . . . I married a man that had been single for 20+ years ... | |
| i know this is log, but i really need your help!!! | 1/27/2005 |
| Q: My bf and I started dating when I was 15, he was 17. This lasted for about a year in a half, During ... A: Fae, It is time for honesty and bluntness. You did a very stupid thing.(period) And that's really ... | |
| Important Question | 1/27/2005 |
| Q: I am a 21 year old black female, I work at an hospital and wanted to do something part-time to ... A: Nikia, I never did read a question, much less an "important question." From what you have posted ... | |
| help!!! | 12/25/2004 |
| Q: Well I have a few questions about this girl name Kenza that I dated for a few month 2 years ago. The ... A: You have been friends for a long time and both have matured since you attempted dating before. ... | |
| Understanding a friend's intentions | 11/24/2004 |
| Q: A little history. 3 years ago I dated this fellow for three months. He is now 39 and never been ... A: If he is 39 and uneasy about commitment, then he's probably not looking for it any time soon. I ... | |
| my marraige-always arguing | 11/18/2004 |
| Q: I've been married for almost 13 yrs. We have fought over some of the dumbest things in the past and ... A: I have read your question and prayed about this matter. I want to give you the best information ... | |
| please help me .. | 9/29/2004 |
| Q: okay I have another question about my boyfriend jonathan...he was engaged before and I dont know if ... A: Heather, Relax, please! If Jonathan is losing interest, and I am not saying he is, but ... | |
| need help | 9/16/2004 |
| Q: I have been divorced for 3 years I am 36 and have two children a 14 year old daughter who lives with ... A: I don't want to sound like a wet blanket here, but I can relate to several of the "shoes" you are ... | |
| step son | 8/30/2004 |
| Q: However i feel you misunderstand me. 1 Yes the boy knows me as his dad. 2 yes i pay stiffly for ... A: I would still say, it is hard to avoid the topic of children while "getting to know each other." I ... | |
| step son | 8/30/2004 |
| Q: I have a sweet lovely lady i hope to get married to soon and every thing is moving smoothly between ... A: I do adhere to the thought that children should not be involved in parents' relationship unless they ... | |
| Hi there. I just need your... | 8/19/2004 |
| Q: I just need your opinion and insight into my relationship. I have been with my boyfriend going on ... A: I am pretty adamant on this topic. If you are living together, but not married, you are suffering ... | |
| Hey Kindred, i have a problem... | 8/13/2004 |
| Q: Hey Kindred, i have a problem that i just wish i could solve overnight. I've had a great boyfriend ... A: Katelyn, I wanted to apologize for the delay in my answer. I thought I had registered myself to be ... | |
| Having Different Agendas | 7/6/2004 |
| Q: Many thanks for your recent reply and kind thoughts. My fiancee and I are now engaged, and will soon ... A: Tell her exactly the reasons the way you told me. Job, expenses, and that you would like to, but ... | |
| Proposing | 6/19/2004 |
| Q: You have helped me decide to move out on my own and to buy an engagement ring for my long-time love. ... A: Let me offer this. To "keep the horse in front of the cart," consider; if you will. Just try the ... | |
| charlaine | 6/18/2004 |
| Q: I have a long question for you, I met this guy in england he was in the airforce and as soon as we ... A: In five years, you have discovered that his name is not really what he told you. He was too busy to ... | |
| Showing commitment | 6/10/2004 |
| Q: Because she is upset that I haven't yet proposed to her, my girlfriend of 8 years is refusing to see ... A: It is very rare, that I cannot see the man's point of view, but . . . If she has been waiting for 8 ... | |
| help im in love | 5/12/2004 |
| Q: My name is era. Im a college student and female 18. I try not to fall in love because i never get ... A: Don't worry about falling in love. And don't worry about trying to make this relationship go ... | |
| courtship | 5/7/2004 |
| Q: am having a relationship with a lady(with one issue).i loved her but she is not coming out of her ... A: You cannot "make" someone see what they refuse to to look at. And no one has a right to judge a ... | |
| My Best Friend Hates Me!! | 4/16/2004 |
| Q: I used to work with this girl and she developed a crush on me. I didn't act on it or anything and ... A: I will be honest with you. You call her your best friend and yet say you used her. I have a ... | |
| how to deal with a friendship going bad | 2/27/2004 |
| Q: I am in love with my friend. She only loves me as a friend. So I already know that I can't make her ... A: If it is a genuine friendship, then find something you both like to do and just do it together. I ... | |
| PLEASE HELP | 2/21/2004 |
| Q: I am just so confused. Yesterday she went out to do some things and was gone for over 6 hours. I ... A: Now that you have written back, you have shared two more pieces of information. You said first that ... | |
| PLEASE HELP | 2/17/2004 |
| Q: I know this is long and I am sorry, but I need advice, THANK YOU! I am 26 years old, never been ... A: I would like to talk back and forth with you, but I will share this. You can respond again, if you ... | |
How to Strengthen Your Relationship
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Kindred Beisinger penname K D Elizabeth Beisinger
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Expertise
I am able to answer questions regarding dating, courtship, and marriage after divorce. I feel equipped to address questions and comments regarding old baggage and past mistakes. I can also answer questions pertaining to blended families and step-children. I can not answer questions that involve manipulating the partners behavior or outlook.
Experience
I am a minister that teaches and counsels G-d's instruction for stable relationships. My husband and I have both been married before. I have worked with battered women and facilitated groups for men with anger issues. As a minister, I have officiated several weddings in the past decade, with only one resulting in divorce.
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