AboutReed (John Rieger) Expertise I do not follow traditional methods of therapy that treat the outer symptoms or give the illusion of a cure with a bandage approach in order to make one "feel good" by denying the real issues, the inner causes. I have eleven intensive years of personal experience in many "NEW AGE" areas that have lead me to discover new ways and methods of REAL emotional healing and in turn also healing our mental and physical bodies. I work with healing ALL emotions, the mental blocks holding them in place and the physical manifestations they represent. I use the knowledge and insights I have gained through either personal experience or my experience in working with others on their healing journey. I also use my intuition and other abilities to assist others to touch and begin to heal their real issues. If you have intent to HEAL your emotions and to take responsibility for your personal well being then I may be able to assist you. If you are looking for a quick fix, don`t even ask me. Reed
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In Nov. 2008 I published my first book "Journeys from the Heart Centre" - Meditation as a tool for healing and self-empowerment.... You can either read the E-book on line, or download it at http://shenreed.com/ebook1.html
Question Well I came to allexperts with the intent of asking a question about how to manage all the stress in my life lately. I started reading your information which pointed me to your sight and I really got to thinking, but let me go back to the stress issue. Based on the little I did read, I'm understanding that stress is caused by not letting ourselves feel a certain emotion, by denying something? Anyhow let me explain a little about me and my situation. I'm Brianna, 26 years old, mother of 2 boys, 3 and nearly 2 years old. Recently left a 5 year relationship I would have left much sooner, but I felt the need to "stick it out", "give it my best shot" do it for the kids, etc. I decided to go back to school the beginning of this year and I've been doing well, it hasn't been easy being a mom and full time student but I've made it work. Well I just started going through the breakup (a little over a month ago) moved not quite 2 weeks ago, I'm taking 15 credits at school (condensed courses as well) and I've been working in the lab at school to boot. My life is in turmoil, I feel like I'm being pulled in a million different directions and I can't do everything, it's a juggling act and I'm struggling, at some point I feel like all the balls will just fall and I will collapse from exhaustion. It's hard to judge when that point might be but, I feel the effects of stress, on my body and mind, not to mention emotionally. I also feel a sense of freedom, freedom from the relationship, freedom to be me, to go out and have fun without compunction. There are so many dynamics working here, but I try to form this solidified "core" which is impervious to outside influence, at the same time I'm trying to be free, how do I use both of these traits or are they they wrong approach to what I need? Perhaps I'm looking at this the wrong way? I'm not sure and I'm hoping that's where you come in :-)
Brianna
Answer Hi Briasnna,
"Based on the little I did read, I'm understanding that
stress is caused by not letting ourselves feel a certain emotion, by denying something?"
Yes, the above is true, but there is more, a lot more. It's simply not just about expressing your emotions and ending your denial, you also have to be aware of why you are expressing the emotions you are. If you are being activated, the first emotions that you will be expressing are actually false emotions as you are not dealing with the cause of the issue that activated the emotions. Instead, these false emotions are a RE-ACTION, a re-enactment of the original experience that was denied emotional and physical expression.
I'll share a personal experience to show you what I mean about false emotions. You can read it at the following link
<a href="http://www.freewebs.com/theheartcentre/alevelofhealing.htm">My Manuscript- A level of Healing</a>
Your statement, "I try to form this solidified "core" which is impervious to outside influence, at the same time I'm trying to be free," While there is truth to your desire, there is more to it. It may seem paradoxical, but the KEY lies in how you go about getting this inner core so that you will be free and yet at the same time, you also need to be free, in order to get that inner core.
When you are truly free, you will automati9cally become impervious to outside influences, you don't have to struggle to try, because you are. To put this into perspective I'm going to go back to what you said earlier, "I would have left much sooner, but I felt the need to "stick it out", "give it my best shot" do it for the kids, etc. The moment you intuitively felt that your relationship was over, was the exact moment to express your intuition, and your true feelings and emotions. By giving them FREEDOM to express themselves in the moment, the NOW, you would have also gained the freedom you desire. BUT instead, you denied these parts of you their expression out of a sense of guilt, shame, devotion, or whatever other false beliefs you have and you set yourself up to experience what it feels like to make the CHOICE to deny yourself love, which is what you are now experiencing as a feeling as stress.
Like you said, there are many dynamics at work here and healing them is not simple task. Even though you are out of the relationship, you haven't dealt with the issues of why you were in the relationship in the first place. But at this moment, that is OK, because you also needed to give yourself some room to breathe, and other experiences to see if you are going to do the same or similar thing again.
"freedom to be me, to go out and have fun without compunction" are words that also have a hidden agenda. You need to be totally honest with yourself as to why you want to do a certain thing and then not over-ride your intuition and feelings, (AGAIN) if they don't happen to agree with what your "inner critic" tells your mind to do and to go out and just have fun because you deserve it.
Spreading yourself thin, being a Mom, going to school and working are all things that you really need to examine not on the surface, but deep down. To begin, what issues come up if you were not working? Bingo... already the lights are flashing.... Now you need to find the cause of why the lights started flashing and also examine what other choices you have that you don't think you have or that you wouldn't consider and then why not? And then keep going with the process as our life is largely controlled by our imprints, programs and beliefs. Find the cause of the belief and change it and you change your life.
You can over-ride your intuition, feelings and emotions in any number of ways, it doesn't really matter as one is as unloving as another. If you have a strong desire and a need to be free it must also include freedom to all parts of you or it is not coming from a place of love. By over-riding your intuition, feelings and emotions, you are basically doing to yourself what the man you just broke-up from was doing to you.
Well it's 1:08 a.m. and I've gone on long enough.. hope this is of help.
