AboutLynne Luckett Expertise I can answer questions about surviving suicide, about losing a family member to suicide and how to heal the hole that is left behind by a loved one committing suicide.
Experience My father committed suicide when I was 8 years old. It took me 13 years to even start dealing with his death but once the healing started it was truly an educational experience. I know now that he is with me all the time and though his physical self is no longer here, his spirtual self lives on in me and my son. I'm now 49 and have talked to several people about losing a loved one to suicide and have received some positive feedback about my advice. I am a medical transcripitionist and have been in the medical field for 20+ years. I feel I survived my dad's death to have the understanding to be able to help others. I love to help others.
Expert: Lynne Luckett Date: 3/21/2005 Subject: my 11 year old girl and I lost a loved one to suicide 6 months ago
Question I am just trying to find some one who could help us work thru what we are experiencing, we do not know what we are feeling and if its just a part of the grieving process,after my fiancee had committed suicide,my daughter and I had no other choice but to move to Wyoming(from California)which has seemed to make things even more difficult, as for we moved from my hometown,where I had lived there for 30 years.
Answer Hi Kristy:
I will certainly do my best to help you work through what you are feeling and going through. Can you give me some specifics of those feelings and the things you are experiencing? I assume you left your hometown because of memories of your fiancee and I know that would be a tough choice to make.
Let me hear from you very soon and I'll do what I can to help you.
Until then, I can tell you that it is my personal belief that even though we lose the physical self to death, the spiritual self never leaves the loved one of the living world and somehow finds a way to let you know that he or she is okay and what you are feeling is okay. It could be in a subtle way: someone will say something unique only to him or her or you'll hear a laugh that sounds familiar or you will smell a fragrance that brings back memories of good times you shared. I believe that those subtle things are messages from the spiritual self letting you know that it's okay to feel at peace. Or, it could be in a much more dramatic way: a clear vision of the departed person or, as in my case, a white flash of light in a dark room and a sudden chill on a hot summer night followed by the most glorious feeling of peace! But, what I had to experience before that was very hard work; accepting the inevitable and realizing that the grieving process includes anger, sadness, anger again, tears and frustration.
So, let me hear from you and maybe we can work our way through to peace for you and your daughter.
