AboutLynne Luckett Expertise I can answer questions about surviving suicide, about losing a family member to suicide and how to heal the hole that is left behind by a loved one committing suicide.
Experience My father committed suicide when I was 8 years old. It took me 13 years to even start dealing with his death but once the healing started it was truly an educational experience. I know now that he is with me all the time and though his physical self is no longer here, his spirtual self lives on in me and my son. I'm now 49 and have talked to several people about losing a loved one to suicide and have received some positive feedback about my advice. I am a medical transcripitionist and have been in the medical field for 20+ years. I feel I survived my dad's death to have the understanding to be able to help others. I love to help others.
Expert: Lynne Luckett Date: 1/28/2008 Subject: im depressed
Question I'm about to graduate high school and like for the past couple of months i have felt depressed! I just lost my grandpa,grandma,aunt and cousin (not all @ the same time, with in months apart). and rite now my mom is putting so much presser on me to do good in school and if i do a lil bit bad she gets so mad. also i haven't talk to my dad sense November cause he got mad at me and wont answer my calls, hes like my bestfriend and i feel like if i dont have him there is no point to live...I'm scared and i don't know what to do and i already did therapy for cutting myself and i have nobody to talk to cause my dad wont talk to me! I'm lost and i don't know if there is a point to feel like this anymore...
Answer Oh my friend Erika,
You are about to embark on a long journey into adulthood. You have certainly had your fair share of loss lately. It is my belief that each loss we suffer brings us wisdom to deal with the next loss. It is natural to feel uncertain of the future at this time in your life. But you must come to terms with the fact that we all must leave this life but not in OUR time but rather in God's time! He has given you a very precious gift.....life. It is not to be thrown casually aside.
I didn't know my dad well enough to call him my best friend. He died when I was 8 but through the many years since his death I have been where you are right now, lost and hopeless. In fact, I had to deal with those very same feelings not so very long ago. But Erika, my rock and my foundation is my father who I know watches over me and though I can't hug him his spirit fills my soul. And he is sitting at the right hand of Our Father who has cradled me in His loving hands so many times when I didn't even ask. I am so thankful I found my way back to Him, but He never left me just like my dad never left me. And God's promise to me is a reunion with those who have passed on before when I have fulfilled His purpose for my being and my time on earth is done.
Erika, all of my rambling here has a point. Your grandparents, aunt and cousin are waiting for you in God's Kingdom but not until you have accomplished many, many wonderful things. Your mom loves you and wants what is best for you and your dad will come around. Look to The Father for help; ask Him to touch your dad's heart and remind him of his love for you. I'm confident things will work out for you and I'm excited for what your future will bring to you and to the world that is waiting for you.
Live your life my friend and welcome your new best friend into your life. Talk to God and ask Him to help you. don't be afraid to seek help from a professional. Know that life is good. Allow God's peace to enter your heart and know that He loves you and so do I.
