AboutJohn Expertise Almost no one understands how you feel if you are depressed and have thoughts of committing suicide. Even many doctors do not understand. Long term depressions put one at risk for this needless act but there is help available. I can show you how to get that help and help you to understand that what you feel now is only temporary. Parents and doctors encourage people to "snap out of it". Thus demonstrating their failure to understand this feeling.
Experience BA in Psychology. Counselor at a local church. Assistant youth pastor. Teacher of religious ed for 7th thru 12th grades.
Education/Credentials BA in Psychology and counseling
Question i dont feel right in this world. i know i think differently than most people an
no one understands me... i dont have any real relationships with any one
including my family or "friends". i feel so alone all the time cause no one can
understand what im going through... that leads me 2 feels so helpless like i
wanna die... not the rash, time of the moment suicide but the always feels
that way type (if that makes sense). im constantly made fun of at school and i
cut to try 2 get rid of the hurt but no one gets it... how can i stop these
feelings? i want so bad 2 b like every1 else but im not. my parents dont
help... they've taken me 2 a councilor who doesnt get it either... i need
serious help
Answer Hi L, I will amke some comments in capital letters so you will easily see my answers. im not shouting, I wish you had given your age and if you are a boy or a girl.
i dont feel right in this world. i know i think differently than most people an NOW HOW CAN YOU KNOW THAT YOU THINK DIFFERENTLY FROM EVERYONE ELSE.?
no one understands me... i dont have any real relationships with any one
including my family or "friends". i feel so alone all the time cause no one can
understand what im going through...WHAT IS IT THAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH. IF YOU ARE A TEEN A LOT OF THIS MIGHT BE DUE TO THE TEENAGE YEARS WHERE WE HAVE RAPID MOOD SWINGS AND THATS DUE TO THE SHIFTING LEVELS OF HORMONES THAT WE ARE MAKING.
that leads me 2 feels so helpless like i
wanna die... not the rash, time of the moment suicide but the always feels
that way type (if that makes sense). im constantly made fun of at schoolWHY IS THAT? YOU MAY NEED TO DEVELOP A TOUGH EXTERIOR TO LET THESE COMMENTS BY OTHERS JUST SLIDE OFF OF YOU. and i
cut to try 2 get rid of the hurt but no one gets it... how can i stop these IT SOUNDS LIKE THE CUTTING IS BEING USED TO MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER. EITHER THAT OR TO PUNISH YOURSELF. OR TO TAKE YOUR MIND OFF THE PAIN YOU FEEL INSIDE.
feelings? i want so bad 2 b like every1 else but im not.ITS UNDERSTANDABLE THAT YOU WANT AND NEED TO FIT IN WITH EVERYONE ELSE. THE SCHOOLS SAY YOU SHOULD BE AN INDIVIDUAL BUT MOST KIDS WANT TO LOOK LIKE EVERYONE ELSE AND WEAR THE SAME KIND OF CLOTHES AND HOLD THE SAME VALUES THAT EVERYONE ELSE DOES.
my parents dont
help... they've taken me 2 a councilor who doesnt get it either...THESE PEOPLE ARE STILL LIVING IN A DIFFERENT AGE AND DO NOT QUITE UNDERSTAND WHAT TODAYS TEENS HAVE TO DEAL WITH. THE WORLD HAS CHANGED SINCE THE TIME THEY WERE YOUNGER AND ALL THEIR LEARNING JUST IS NOT RELEVANT TO THE PRESSURES THAT TODAYS TEENS FEEL.
i need
serious help L AND I WISH YOU HAD GIVEN YOUR NAME, IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU MAY BE IN A DEPRESSED STATE. IF SO YOU MAY HAVE THOUGHTS OF GIVING UP AND THOUGHTS OF HARMING YOURSELF . yOUR PARENTS MAY NOT EVEN KNOW YOU HAVE THESE FEELINGS. BUT ONE GOOD THING IS THAT YOU "HAVE" FEELINGS THAT YOU CAN IDENTIFY.
first of all L you have to realize that your parents like the coundelor are in a different world from yours. There is a lot that you have left out L. so its kind of hard to make a good response to what you wrote. I WILL TRY TO GIVE YOU A FEW IDEAS THOUGH. IF YOU ARE FEELING DEPRESSED AND ITS NOT JUST FEELING SAD. DEPRESSION IS A REAL ILLNESS. YOU WAKE UP SOONER THAN YOU NORMALLY DO AND CANNOT GET BACK TO SLEEP. YOU APPETITE IS OFF EITHER YOU CANNOT EAT OR YOU OVEREAT. ALL FOOD TENDS TO TASTE THE SAME (YES ITS ACTUALLY TRUE) IN PEOPLE WITH VERY BAD DEPRESSIONS. IF YOU ARE HAVING THESE KINDS OF SYMPTOMS THAN YOU NEED TO BE SEEN BY A PSYCHIATRIST. THEY ARE THE EXPERTS IN DEALING WITH DEPRESSION. NOT COUNSELORS. YOU MAY NEED TO BE PUT ON SOME ANTIDEPRESSANT MEDICATION.
NOW IF ITS NOT LIKE THIS AND YOU JUST FEEL YOU DO NOT FIT IN BUT DESPERATELY WANT TO AND WANT TO BE HAVING THE SAME FUN LIKE THE OTHER PEOPLE YOU SEE THEN HERES A FEW SUGGESTIONS. YOU CAN DO SOME HOMEWORK AND BY THIS I MEAN LOOK UP AND FIND OUT WHAT EVENTS ARE OCCURRING IN YOUR AREA. LIKE MOVIES, PLAYS, CONCERTS, SHOWS, SPORTS EVENTS, DEMOSTATIONS. THEN CALL UP SOME FRIENDS AND EMNTION THEM AND ASK THEM IF THEY WANT TO GO TO SEE THEM. THEN MAKE A TIME. HAVE ALL THE INFORMATION WRITTEN DOWN SO YOU DONT NEED TO FIND OUT. YOU ALSO NEED TO JOIN SOME SCHOOL CLUBS AND YOU MAY EVEN WANT TO TAKE A SUMMER SCHOOL CLASS OR TWO. JUST TO SOCIALIZE WITH OTHER TEENS. YOU ALSO NEED TO GET ACTIVE IN SOME SPORTS AND I SUGGEST TENNIS. IF YOUR PARENTS WANT TO HELP YOU THEN ASK THEM TO GET YOU SOME LESSONS IN TENNIS FROM A PRO. THEY CAN CALL AROUND OR CALL A HIGH SCHOOL COACH AND FIND OUT WHO IS A TENNIS PRO IN YOUR AREA. YOU NEED THIS TO KEEP FROM MAKING BAD HABITS TO BEGIN WITH. SOME HALF HOUR OR HOUR LESSONS SHOULD GET YOU STARTED. YES IT WILL COST A LITTLE BUT ITS WORTH IT. YOU CAN PLAY TENNIS ALL YOUR LIFE UNLIKE MOST OTHER SPORTS. YOU ALSO CAN INVITE SOMEONE YOU KNOW OR LIKE TO PLAY.
I ALSO SUGGEST YOU LOOK INTO FINDING A CHURCH TO GO TO WHERE YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE. YOU ALSO NEED TO JOIN A YOUTH GROUP OR YOUTH FELLOWSHIP. I SUGGEST FINDING A CHURCH THAT MEETS ON SUNDAY NIGHT AND DURING THE MIDWEEK ALSO WEDNESDAY OR THURSDAY AROUND 600PM OR 630PM. ITS OK TO GO SUNDAY MORNING BUT THIS IS A CROWED TIME AND EVERYONE JUST IS IN A HURRY TO GET AWAY AND INTO THEIR CARS. YOU DO NOT GET TO MEET PEOPLE AND TALK. AT THE EVENING SERVICES THEY ARE NOT WELL ATTENDED AND THATS THE ADVANTAGE YOU GET TO TALK TO PEOPLE AFTERWARD. STICK AROUND AND INTRODUCE YOURSELF TO WHOMEVER YOU MEET THERE. ASK THEM TO PRAY ABOUT SOMETHING THAT IS OF IMPORTANCE TO YOU. YOU WILL FIND A CARING BUNCH OF CHRISTIANS THERE. THE CHURCH NEED NOT BE IN ONE IN WHICH YOU WERE RAISED. ITS ALSO OF THE UTMOST IMPORTANCE THAT YOU GET GOD IN YOUR LIFE. YOU NEED TO DEVELOP A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD AND JESUS CHRIST. HERES WHY. DO NOT LOOK TO PEOPLE FOR ANSWERS OR FOR HELP. PEOPLE DO NOT HAVE ANSWERS. THEY MAY IF THEY HAVE GOD IN THEIR LIVES. BUT INSTEAD LOOK TO GOD FOR EVERYTHING. LEARN TO DEPEND UPOM HIM. GOD IS THE ONE WHO HAS ALL POWER AND AUTHORITY. LOOK TO HIM FOR WHAT YOU NEED. GOD WILL MAKE SURE ALL OF YOUR NEEDS ARE MET. HE DOES NOT NECESSARILY MEET YOUR "WANTS" BUT IF YOU WANT SOMETHING THEN DEPEND UPON GOD AND LEARN TO ACCEPT GODS TIMING WHICH IS NEVER TOO SOON AND NEVER TOO LATE. GOD KNOWS EXACTLY WHAT YOU NEED AND HE KNOWS EXACTLY THE TIME TO ANSWER YOUR PRAYERS. ITS UNFORTUNATE THAT MOST PEOPLE DO NOT UNDERSTAND THIS.
I WOULD LIKE YOU TO KEEP IN TOUCH AND LET ME KNOW HOW THINGS ARE GOING AND IF YOU WANT TO SHARE SOME MORE DETAILS. IF YOU NEED TO REACH ME SOONER YOU CAN EMAIL ME DIRECT AT SCUSSETBEACH@HOTMAIL.COM KEEP IN TOUCH
