AboutLynne Luckett Expertise I can answer questions about surviving suicide, about losing a family member to suicide and how to heal the hole that is left behind by a loved one committing suicide.
Experience My father committed suicide when I was 8 years old. It took me 13 years to even start dealing with his death but once the healing started it was truly an educational experience. I know now that he is with me all the time and though his physical self is no longer here, his spirtual self lives on in me and my son. I'm now 49 and have talked to several people about losing a loved one to suicide and have received some positive feedback about my advice. I am a medical transcripitionist and have been in the medical field for 20+ years. I feel I survived my dad's death to have the understanding to be able to help others. I love to help others.
Expert: Lynne Luckett Date: 8/13/2008 Subject: angela and her siblings
Question lynne, 10 years ago my brother committed suicide, last month so did my sister, she left a husband and 4 children. i am so worried about the children, the youngest is eight, i want to tell them that suicide is not the thing to do but i don't know how to express it in words, i don't want them thinking that I'm passing judgment on their mum whom they adored and are missing so much. also i am worried that it might be a genetic imbalance, is that the way i will go or am i in control of what i choose, sometimes i just don't know. I'm sure my brother and sister never envisioned that would be the way they departed from the world. please help i would be extremely grateful.
Answer Hello friend!
I'm so sorry to hear about your brother and sister. What a difficult thing to go through. Your sister's children are so fortunate to have you to strengthen them during this time. You can reassure them that no matter how difficult life gets, suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. There are so many different ways to deal with what is troubling them than to sacrifice this precious gift that God has given them. When their mom brought them into this world it was with God's blessing. He left in their care His gift of life and a promise that He would always be with them. Tell them to not lose sight of Him. She now waits for the day when she will be reunited with them but not until it's time....God's time.
It is my personal belief, and if you've read some of my answers you know this, that even though we lose the physical self, the spiritual self never goes away. Their mom will find a way to let them know she is okay and her decision has nothing to do with anything they did or did not do. And, it's okay to be angry but they absolutely must talk about their feelings. It is never good to hold those things inside.
It might be wise to ask their physician about the genetics and if the answer doesn't give you peace, seek another opinion. Don't be afraid to get help from a counselor or a professional psychiatrist.
I hope that this has helped even a little. Please contact me again if I can help any more. And remember, God loves you all and so do I.
