Suicide Prevention/more issues


hello again rachel.
you may remember me talking about a string fence that some mail carriers would knock down in order to just walk on our grass like they owned it. my dad finally stopped using it, and i had been doing much better. but recently, i've noticed some of our plants in pots have been moved around. i figured it was the mail carrier making a clear way for his precious walking path. eventually, i put that to rest as well. my very latest problem has been two plants in pots on top of the curve near our drive way. as i remembered they were in the mid section of the area. they seemed to be moved to the far right. i tried to set them back to where they were. things were fine for a couple of days, until i noticed the plants were obviously moved a little. i know the plants weren't where i left them. again, i think the mail carrier is just clearing his pathway and being very disrespectful to our property. i told myself i was going to spy on our mail carriers to find out which one is moving the plants. i got cold feet and i even moved the plants a little out of his way. i haven't bother to look outside, since i would be very deeply upset if i actually saw the mail carrier in action. i'm trying to get this problem out of my mind. mentally i just feel weak and easily pushed around, like i can't even stand up for myself. i know you have some great pointers. thank you very much for your time friend.

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Accept no nonsense!  
Dear Greg,

If I were you I would not hestitate to set up a reliable suveilance camera outside your house, with a wide range of visibility so that it can catch the culprit in action. You may have to invest some time going through footage that is mundane, but if your suspicions are correct you are sure to catch the culprit in action, even if you fast forward the footage until you get to the exciting part.

This man has no business moving your plants, or touching any of your property without a valid reason or permission from you or your father.

By taking this pro-active action you will find you feel more confident and in control of what is happening in your environment.

Once you have found a camera and installed it, you should be able to relax and put your mind to other matters. It is important that you stay mentally active and distract yourself from worrying about that which you have no control over for the time being. As soon as you have proof on camera, you will be in a strong position to go to the police with your evidence and have this man arrested for his illegal activities.

You could either buy a camera new if you can afford it or second hand if not. You may find one on ebay or your local paper. It is also worthwhile asking your local police station if they could lend you a camera and help you to set it up for the purpose of catching the mailman in action. I'm sure they will be able to help you or at least point you in the right direction and give advice on this matter.

Best of luck. Let me know how it goes!


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All questions sent to me will receive a warm and caring response. I'll do my utmost to address a persons particular problem, but in most cases will also attempt to supply that individual with additional resources which might be of further benefit. There are many helpful online support groups where readers can benefit from the ongoing support of others who have suffered similar problems. These groups offer invaluable peer support from others who have 'been there'. As well as responding to your initial letter, I'll attempt to provide ongoing encouragement when this is needed. Advice will be focused on addressing the writers individual needs, and providing related information and resources. I would try to ensure that any person seeking advice has accurate and up-to-date information on the signs and symptoms of depression, and importantly, is made aware that help is available through many different avenues. Where I feel that it's relative and helpful I would mention my own life experiences with depression and coping with a loved one's suicide (however, only in context.) I would be on the lookout for warning signs that the person is in crisis and may require immediate intervention. As such I would arm myself with as much information as possible in order to refer them to the help they need. In cases where I believed the persons life to be in imminent danger I would contact authorities in their area, or if unknown, I would call the emergency services in my area in order for the person to be located through tracking.


I am by no means a trained professional. My knowledge comes mainly through life experience, having endured the devastating loss of my best friend through suicide, as well as my own subsequent battle with depression following his death. I found that my own experience of losing a loved one to suicide put me in a strong position to help others, due to my ability to empathize (as opposed to sympathizing). I became knowledgeable on the topic of grief, and the extensive repertoire of depressive illnesses, signs, symptoms, and treatment options available to people in crisis.

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