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hello rachel,
this pretty much has to do with the situation over two of my dad's plants by our driveway. they were side by side and spread apart. they would go untouched when my dad was at work, but when he was at home, and his car was in the driveway, it would be parked near the plants. i guess that is what caused the mail man to move one of the plants out his way, instead of just walking around them.
i don't have proof, but i know the plants were further apart before the mail man came. i would keep telling my mom how upset i've been over this matter. i guess she got tired of hearing about it, and she finally moved the plants by our garage, where no one can touch them. i can't tell you how happy i was before this incident happened. everything was going great, and i would like to get there again. i should be over this matter instead of dwelling on it. it has been over two weeks and i'm still almost as upset about it as on the day it happened. i'm sure that jerk is still delivering mail to our house. i'm always wishing bad luck to him. i'd love to get some pointers from you on how to put this matter to rest. thanks for time as always.

Dear Greg,
I'm sorry it's taken so long to reply.. I've been away and was unable to log in from the place I was staying. I do hope since you wrote that things have improved somewhat and you're feeling better.

I'm no doctor, but I would hazard a guess that you may be suffering a form of OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder), and in this case the disorder affects your thoughts. I've found a very good link that explains in a nutshell what this is, and what you can do about it. There are other useful resources on line, and I'll source them for you then get back to you as soon as I can.  I would be interested to know what you think of the info on the link, and whether you agree that this might be a problem for you..? If so there are many effective methods of controlling your thoughts, and hopefully we can find something that will help you. Would you be open to seeing a counseller to help you work through this problem?

I'll speak to you again soon Greg. Again, I am sorry for the delay in getting back to you!


Rachel :-)

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All questions sent to me will receive a warm and caring response. I'll do my utmost to address a persons particular problem, but in most cases will also attempt to supply that individual with additional resources which might be of further benefit. There are many helpful online support groups where readers can benefit from the ongoing support of others who have suffered similar problems. These groups offer invaluable peer support from others who have 'been there'. As well as responding to your initial letter, I'll attempt to provide ongoing encouragement when this is needed. Advice will be focused on addressing the writers individual needs, and providing related information and resources. I would try to ensure that any person seeking advice has accurate and up-to-date information on the signs and symptoms of depression, and importantly, is made aware that help is available through many different avenues. Where I feel that it's relative and helpful I would mention my own life experiences with depression and coping with a loved one's suicide (however, only in context.) I would be on the lookout for warning signs that the person is in crisis and may require immediate intervention. As such I would arm myself with as much information as possible in order to refer them to the help they need. In cases where I believed the persons life to be in imminent danger I would contact authorities in their area, or if unknown, I would call the emergency services in my area in order for the person to be located through tracking.


I am by no means a trained professional. My knowledge comes mainly through life experience, having endured the devastating loss of my best friend through suicide, as well as my own subsequent battle with depression following his death. I found that my own experience of losing a loved one to suicide put me in a strong position to help others, due to my ability to empathize (as opposed to sympathizing). I became knowledgeable on the topic of grief, and the extensive repertoire of depressive illnesses, signs, symptoms, and treatment options available to people in crisis.

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