AboutLynne Luckett Expertise I can answer questions about surviving suicide, about losing a family member to suicide and how to heal the hole that is left behind by a loved one committing suicide.
Experience My father committed suicide when I was 8 years old. It took me 13 years to even start dealing with his death but once the healing started it was truly an educational experience. I know now that he is with me all the time and though his physical self is no longer here, his spirtual self lives on in me and my son. I'm now 49 and have talked to several people about losing a loved one to suicide and have received some positive feedback about my advice. I am a medical transcripitionist and have been in the medical field for 20+ years. I feel I survived my dad's death to have the understanding to be able to help others. I love to help others.
Expert: Lynne Luckett Date: 12/9/2007 Subject: just neet to talk
Question I have thought about suicide and probably would have killed myself by now if I didn't know it would destroy my parents and my friends. My problem is that I don't get what there is to live for. Go to school, get a job, get married, have kids, then die. It's like a pointless cycle, all I would be doing is continuing the circle of life(I know its a bit cheesy.) Going through life is a painful process with countless obstacles and in the end we inevitably die. Some people say that emotions and feelings that we have are the basis of our will to live but if you think about it, all emotions are chemical signals sent to our brains. We are just a lump of physical matter affecting the universe in its entirety on a nanoscopic scale. Thats why I'm wondering, am I really doing a difference at all in the development of everything in general.
Also, Is life after death only a story that people have made up so they can cope with the fact that when you die, you just stop existing?
I know I probably wont commit suicide but I just get lost in my head sometimes and think "what do I have to lose?" and I usualy come to the conclusion that really I have nothing to lose.
Answer Phil!
You have everything to lose by dying and nothing to gain. And you're right, it would destroy your family and friends. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Yes, we live, go to school, get a job, get married, have kids then eventually die. But it's the moments in between each one of these that are the gems called life. It's the joy of graduating school, doing a job well, marrying your soulmate, watching your children be born and become wonderful adults and then, in God's time, to leave this life and go to be with loved ones gone before. Yes, I believe in heaven; I believe that there is a place for all of us in His Kingdom. That belief has brought me through many, many rough times (some very recently). Think of those whom you have touched in your life so far, I'm sure there are those you don't know about, and how different their lives would be without having had you there.
By living you, and those who you interact with daily, have everything to gain.
I hope this helps even a little. Sorry it took me so long to respond to you.
I'm praying for you and remember that God loves you and so do I.
