AboutLynne Luckett Expertise I can answer questions about surviving suicide, about losing a family member to suicide and how to heal the hole that is left behind by a loved one committing suicide.
Experience My father committed suicide when I was 8 years old. It took me 13 years to even start dealing with his death but once the healing started it was truly an educational experience. I know now that he is with me all the time and though his physical self is no longer here, his spirtual self lives on in me and my son. I'm now 49 and have talked to several people about losing a loved one to suicide and have received some positive feedback about my advice. I am a medical transcripitionist and have been in the medical field for 20+ years. I feel I survived my dad's death to have the understanding to be able to help others. I love to help others.
Expert: Lynne Luckett Date: 3/28/2007 Subject: thinking about it
Question i been thinking about just ending it i have no friends, no
relationship,im really overweight, im home schooled, i never socialize and i have real deep
depression ever since my grandfather died and my father dosent love me and i actually cut myself is there anyway i can turn my life around i dont want it to end like this
Answer Hi Shane!
The very first thing I want to say to you is a statement that has been used a lot but it is so true. I want you to really think about this: suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. I understand being depressed because you are overweight and never socialize. Is there somewhere that you can go to meet new people? How about church or some sort of youth club? Do you know a minister or a member of the clergy who could help you understand what you are feeling and why? I have no qualifications except I'm a mom and I have lost someone to suicide. I understand deeply the pain that others feel when they lose a loved one by their own hand. Please seek someone professional to talk to about this.
As for losing your grandfather....rest easy! Shane, it is my belief that your grandfather is watching over you right now. It's okay to talk to him and tell him how you feel. Ask him to watch over you and help you through this trying time. And someday Shane, when your time on this earth is done (hopefully a long time from now), you will see your grandfather again. But for now, I'm sure that he would want you to carry on the best that you can. Look at yourself in the mirror and say "Shane, God doesn't make junk! You're the best Shane that anyone could be!" If you say that enough to yourself, hopefully you will begin to believe it. I believe it already. There is no one else who can bring joy to the people in your life the way you do. No one else can do all the thoughtful things that you do and have it mean as much.
I very sincerely hope this helps in some way Shane. Please let me know if you need anything else or if I can do anything more. And if you can, let me hear back from you.
Remember, your grandfather and God are watching you and you are loved!
