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Question I guess this is kind of long so I put it into sections, but it should hopefully be a fun read even though its long.
WHO WE ARE: Hey, I like this girl at school. We're both in grade 11 (AGE 16). We have class together. We met this year in one of my classes. Just to paint a picture, she's blonde, blue eyes, and pretty cute. I'm brown, hazel eyes. She's really outgoing, talks a lot and loves to laugh at random things, really fun.I'm actually viewed as shy by the people who don't know me very well. But for a lot of people at school who know me well they know I talk a lot and I can make anyone laugh. I have never had a girlfriend before, but I have known A LOT of girls who liked me. I was just too dumb to act on some of the girls who liked me. She's had a few boyfriends I think, nothing serious though.
HOW WE MET: I actually kind of liked her looks-wise before we met. But when we met for some class group assignment, she would wave hi to me in the hallways everytime she saw me, and I sorta knod and smile back. Couple days after we met I added her on MSN (instant messenger) and said hey!. We talked for a long time and she was laughing a lot and learned a lot about eachother. It was one of thoses conversations where we're waiting for what the other persons gonna say next, so we both enjoyed it a lot.
WHAT'S GOIN ON : The next day at school of course we couldn't help but say hi in class, but after that we then to just smile and sit down like we don't know what to say. And to make it worse we sit so far away from each other. So now its been goin on since september (when gr 11 started and we met). After class when there are a few minutes left we do get to talk though. Twice she came over to me before class ended and we exchange a few words. It gets awkward after a few minutes of talking though. Like 2 days ago before class ended we talked for like a minute and laughed and then I just blank, don't know what to say and just pretend I'm looking for something in my backpack lol. But I know it not becasue we don't click, it's because we're just not comfortable around each other yet I think and I'm nervous, so I come off as boring, asking pointless questions sometimes. I know if we spent a full hour together that i'd be comfortable around her and I could get her to like me.
DOES SHE LIKE ME?: I think she does like me. OK so when I talk to her on MSN (we talk on it about 3 times a week). If I start the conversation by saying hey one day, then I will wait for her to start a conversation, ill just stay online. And when she does it reassures the fact the she likes me. She'll say hey. Plus, at school I THINK she stares at me in class, MAYBE, but I dont have my classes on so I only know shes turned in my direction. GET THIS: I made a fake email preteneding to be a guy who likes her. I always ask her questions with the fake email about any guy she likes. She says she doesn't like any. I ask her all kinds of questions on that fake email as her secret admirer. (I'm not a stalker don't worry) SO how do I tell if she likes me.
PROBLEM(S): Alright, so I need to be able to be comfortable around her and be able to carry out a long conversation even though we arent GREAT friends. I can talk better when a mutual friend is with us. It's a lot less akward. I guess you could say I'm nervous around her. I want to be able to talk to her! How do I get her to like me or at least test how attracted she is to me? Any conspicuous ways that I can get to spend time alone with her without asking her out. I want to build a stronger friendship first. I really don't think I'm gonna just ask her to hang out sometime right now, thats sorta out of the question. (I did tell her that I was gettting a car soon and she said "You'll take me somewhere for lunch right?" and I said "For sure". It was kind of a joking matter though cause she was like "You gotta drive me around places" jokingly. I'm the type of guy where you have to get to know me well to truly know me.
What are some conversation topics that would be easy to bring up in an akward situation. The one I always say that is getting old, is how did you do on the last test?. But this makes our conversations boring.
Another problem is that I am afraid of what people will think if we go out. (Not anything to do with race) But we would be an unexpected couple I guess.
Should I flirt with her, if so how do i flirt :S .
I think our conversations are getting boring and predictable (in real life not on msn) because its all I say the same thing all the time and her too (talk about tests? sometimes things we said on the computer)
Also, please you don't have to just answer my questions. Feel free to comment, or say anything and any points youve gathered from reaading this. Make it long if you can and Please give as detailed a response as possible. Thank you SO much for reading. Its really appreciated. Theres so much more I want to say but I think I have definately said more than enough. Thanks a lot if you read it all.
Answer ask her about her family, what movies she likes, what kinda food she likes, her favorite or least favorite whatever. ask her questions about herself to get to know her better.
dont worry about what others think. if you both like each other then go out. ask her out. go to a movie or out to lunch. i dont know if she likes you or not but the only way to find out is to ask her out. if she says no then at least you tried. if she says yes, then awesome for you.
think about how and when you want to ask her. play out the conversation in your head ahead of time. what will you say if she says yes or no? go for it and good luck. sorry i cant write more but please write back if you want to talk more or to let me know how it goes.
