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Experience I know all about being a teenager. i was one and right now at twenty four, I have three siblings who are going through the same thing.
Education/Credentials currently a post grad law student
Question I want to date! I'm a senior in high school. The boy I want to date is a junior. We not only go to the same school, but go to the same church. I'm currently making straight A's. I live with my dad. I"ve told my mom already and she is fine with it. It seems any time i want to do anything, including exercising with my girlfriend, 'cause i'm also overweight. By the way, my mom is very proud of me for trying to get healthy. This is free to me because i'm a senior so there is no extra charge to go to this gym. my dad always finds a chore for me to do or tells me i don't need to be out running around. I always come straight home after all my after school commitments are completed. I already do the dishes and laundry. Pick up after the dog. I fell like his wife more than i do his daughter. This one guy i was seeing for only a little while. My dad found his letter jacket in the back of my car and came unglued and told me to give it back to the boy. I didn't need to be dating. I was so embarrased!. That's why i don't know what to do about this boy. I want to invite him over for Thanksgiving but want to avoid the humilation of cancelling or making up an excuse to this boy if my dad should act this way again. My grandmother said it was ok to bring someone for dinner. My mom's mom. I asked my aunt, my dad's sister, and she was fine with it. I feel everyone is ok with this but my dad! How can i handle the rejection i know will follow when i tell him?
Answer hi sara,
i can' totally understand how you feel. i have a very protective dad as well as two brothers. one is older and in some ways he's a bit stricter than my dad because it was always his 'job' to take care of his siblings. the youngest is that much better because everyone in my family sees me as the fragile only girl that needs to be sheltered.
i think the first thing you need to do is accept that people act this way toward us because they love us so much. let me tell you something that my older brother explained to me when i got to high school and started getting guys asking me out. your dad and pretty much any older male figure knows what goes on in teenage boys minds and no matter how nice they are, those thoughts can't be completely turned off. so i think your dad is just worried that some guy will hurt you and he's trying to avoid that.
i think you need to show your dad that you're grown up, responsible and most of all, you don't want to disappoint him. so try talking to him in a reasonable, diplomatic manner. he may get upset at first or infuriating even, but the trick is not to lose your cool. if you do, you're basically throwing a tantrum and that's all the more reason for him to think you're not mature enough to be dating. explain that you want to take small steps. say that you just want to invite this guy so you can all get to know him and then after your dad has gotten a chance to meet him, then possibly dating him can be another negotiation, make sense?
don't hit your dad hard and fast because then he'll really blow his top. be reasonable with your requests and hopefully he'll be reasonable with his answers.
