AboutTyler Expertise I can answer most questions on all aspects of teenage dating, including sex, the way teens think, breaking up, cheating, first dates, date ideas, dealing with parents, etc... I do not condone teenage sex before the age of sixteen.
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Experience I'm a teenager myself, and I have been through most, if not all, of the trials and tribulations all teenagers face. I'm the go-to guy for advice in my school. I have the ability to see both the male and female side of the issues.
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Question Hi
THIS IS VERY URGENT
i'm 13 and i've never had a gf before. i wanna know how do you ask, where to go, should you bring friends or ANY related info.
PS: my parents says it's ok
thx
Jay
Answer Hi Jay, thanks for asking!
Having your first date can be really nerve-wracking, so I'll answer your question the best I can.
When you're asking someone on a date, I prefer asking someone in such a way that it leaves room for them to set the terms. For example, "Hey, do you want to go hit a movie tonight/Saturday night/a month from now?" If you straight-out say "Wanna date?", that might make her nervous and give her that backed-in-the-corner feeling, which you want to avoid. It's all about making her comfortable with you, not encouraging her to buy a can of Mace. Take it at a pace both you and her are comfortable with.
As for where you should go on a first date, I would say something where there is plenty of communication and interaction. I would suggest ice skating, rollerblading, a little coffee house with live music, etc. The most popular choice for a first date would be a movie, but I highly oppose that option--it offers very little social interaction between both boy and girl, and it's not a good way to get to know each other.
If you think it'll make her feel more comfortable, suggest that she bring some friends. In that situation, you can invite a "wingman" of your own to keep you company and to watch your back.
Or better yet, if you two have mutual friends that are dating, set up a "group date."
The fact that your parents say it's okay at your age is definitely a good thing. Be warned, however--if her parents are NOT okay with it, you can run into quite a few problems when it comes to dating.
