AboutRyan Expertise I can answer questions about long distance relationships, high school/college relationships, crushes, jealousy, heart break, love at a young age, sex at a young age and talking about marriage when you're in your teens. I can also help if your parents dissaprove of your bf/gf. I know all the lingo, I know Facebook, IMing, MySpace, etc., so hearing these words won't be new to me.
Experience I have been through numerous relationships, long distance relationships, and loving ones. I know how to handle every situation in the manner it should be.
Education/Credentials In college for engineering, have taken numerous psychology/sociology classes in college, as well as having a mother who is a psychiatrist.
Expert: Ryan Date: 5/29/2008 Subject: Boys Don't Ask Me Out
Question I'm 15 and when it comes the guys, I'm never first choice. I mean, I know there is nothing wrong with me, but it always seems like the pretty girls are noticed first. Even when it comes to friendships, the boys don't want to talk to me. My brother told me that I was too girly and that annoys a lot of guys. I don't want to change myself just for the sake of male friendships and getting dates. I just really can't stand the fact that amongst all of my gal friends, Im the "plain jane" and the others get asked out all the time. I know I'm not unattractive or anything but I'm definitely no the most beautiful girl in the world. Right now, I'm placing my trust in God to send me someone special. I know I'm young and I have plenty of time but, it is nice when someone of the opposite sex has some sort of interest in you. I've had guys who did like me, but at the end things go stale and the ignore me. I've never had boyfriend which not a big deal, although I wonder what it's like to have someone special. What should I do? Should I just wait?
Answer Cecella,
I've always gone by a quote when thinking of friends. It's "not the quantity, but the quality".
I know you want guys to notice you, and who knows why they aren't asking to be your friends. You're right in not wanting to change yourself. Being too girly isn't something that guys find unattractive either, at least to me it's not.
I'd say be yourself, and you will find someone who likes you for you. Having someone special in your life is a great feeling, and you'll know when you have it.
So, I'd just stay true to your beliefs and let the friends come to you. You may want to try getting out more if you already don't, maybe going to a few parties with friends, double dates, movies, etc. Keep your head up!
