About Matt Expertise I can answer many questions in this area. I can help with asking someone out, getting over a breakup, and much more. If you are questioning yourself as to whether or not what you're doing is right or not, please feel free to ask me. I know much about teenage dating, considering I still go through many of the issues myself. I love helping other people, and there is no question that I will not attempt to answer.
Experience I am a teen myself for the most part, therefore I have much experience in this area. I have been on dates, good and bad. I have broken up with, and been broken up with several times.
Publications I have posted several poems on the website known as www.poetry.com
Education/Credentials I am currently a Jr. in High School. At the end of school, I hope to go into the field of Psychology to learn more about people and issues they face.
Awards and Honors I have some educational awards, as well as other ones as well. I always look forward to earning more awards.
Question Alright, so theres this girl that I have known for a while. We have become really good friends, and ive helped her out a lot previously with her personal problems (example: parents, friends, ect...) by listening to her and occasionally giving advice when possible, and she really likes me as a friend, and i, in return, really love talking with her and helping her out in any way possible. Problem is, I've really fallen for her, and I cant get that feeling out of me. The problem there is she already has a boyfriend, and ive seen them together, and they really adore eachother. She's talked to me before about minor problems they have had, but she always mentions how much she loves him and how "Words cant describe what she feels for him." Its really killing me inside, and i dont know what to do. I really like talking with her and helping her out, but hearing her talk about her boyfriend and cathing them kiss in the morning occassionally really just rips me into pieces. Ive tried hard to forget her before, i even went an entire day without talking to her or saying hi, but at the end of that day, she found me, asked me why i hadnt talked to her, if there was something wrong, and i just couldnt commit myself to stop talking to her. Ive never been in such a situation before, and i really am lost. Im 16 by the way, and so is she. Please help me...
Answer Hi Antonio.
I really hate to tell you this; but there isn't really much you can do about this type of question. This girl that you really like already has a boyfriend, so it wouldn't be right to try to get them to break-up or anything. There are only limited choices you have right now.
The first choice is you just move on and stop talking to her, etc. However; apparantly this girl really likes you as a friend, and you like her too, so this choice is not recommended. I mean; how do you think that she would feel if you just randomly stopped talking with her as much, and slowly became distant from her. I doubt she would like it. Expecially since you're someone that she can really trust and talk to about her problems that she may be encountering.
Your second choice, the one I would recommend is that you do your best to face it. Trust me; I know how it is to really like someone, that is already taken, and see her & her boyfriend together all the time. See them spending time together, having fun, etc.. It hurts, alot. However; all you can really do is move on. Try to focus your mind on other things. Spend more time with some friends, and try to explore other options of girls. Surely you know of some way to get her off your mind, if even for a little while. Also; try to avoid talking to her as much if that's what hurts you the most. Don't completely ignore her, but there's no need to talk EVERY-DAY, if that's what is getting to you.
I hope this was able to help, and I'm sorry if not. Feel free to ask follow-up questions, or leave any comments. Thanks, -Matty-
