AboutRyan Expertise I can answer questions about long distance relationships, high school/college relationships, crushes, jealousy, heart break, love at a young age, sex at a young age and talking about marriage when you're in your teens. I can also help if your parents dissaprove of your bf/gf. I know all the lingo, I know Facebook, IMing, MySpace, etc., so hearing these words won't be new to me.
Experience I have been through numerous relationships, long distance relationships, and loving ones. I know how to handle every situation in the manner it should be.
Education/Credentials In college for engineering, have taken numerous psychology/sociology classes in college, as well as having a mother who is a psychiatrist.
Question My boyfriend lives in Pennsylvania and I live in SC and we have been together for almost three years. He is turning 18 in July and I just turned 15. We talk on the phone and use Instant Messaging all the time and he says he loves me and he goes on and on. I know that he comes from an abusive home. He also has a little girl and says he is coming down here in the fall, my mom said he can stay with us until he gets a job. I knew his brother for years and I know that he really is 18 but I just wonder if he is telling the truth. How do I know if what he says to me is true? I can't help but wonder is he will become abusive, too. Help.
Sincerely, Helplessly in Love
Answer Emma,
First off, congratulations on having a successful long distance relationship, and one so young.
You're getting worried about the abuse. If he hasn't been abusive so far, then you have no reason to jump to conclusions. Not everyone who has abuse in their history will repeat it.
If you're having the trust issue, then you need to talk to him. I'd do it on the phone if you can't in person, and talk calmly, tell him of your concerns. Don't jump to conclusions, or become hostile. Let it out, and then listen to what he says. Tell him that the abuse he has endured in the past worries you, and again, listen to what he tells you.
You need to get it out, and hear his side of the story, and his feelings. Worrying too much does nothing. You'll feel A LOT better when you have answers.
