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Expert: Matt Date: 5/14/2008 Subject: ...."take a break?"
Question ok so yesterday, my boyfriend comes up to me at lunch and says, so i think that we should just be friends for a while. fo course i asked why, and he said that he just wanted to be friends for a while. i dotn know what to do because im still in love with him, and i told him that! but i dont think that he gets it. and whenever we break up, eh always asks me out again! hwo do i tell him that i dont want to be "just friends for now"?
Answer Hello Jourdan. Okay, this is somewhat of a common-relationship problem. The way you said "and whenever we break up, he always asks you out again", leaves me to assume that this is a constant break-up & date scenario. It's quite common, and it's never any easier than before. While it makes you stronger and accustomed to it, it still takes it's toll of hurting.
There's not really a whole lot that can be done right here though. However; one thing that you SHOULD do is talk to him. Tell him you want to know the real reason that he "wants to just be friends for awhile". Remind him that this has already happend before ? times (( rounded to about how many times he's done it already )).
Let him know that you don't mind the idea of staying friends, but you're tired of going-out, just to be broken-up with him again repeatedly because it's hurting you the way he is playing with your feelings like this. Let him know if he wants to stay friends for awhile, that's fine, but you're not going to keep allowing him to play with you like this. Tell him to take some time, and think if he really wants to be with you. If he does; you'll give him another chance *if you wish to*. If he doesn't; then you two can still stay friends if you both want to, but assure him that you're tired of being a marionette for him.
I hope this helps, and I'm sorry if not. Please feel free to Ask Follow-Ups, or any comments. I wish you the best, and goodluck.
--Matty--
